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@Peace and Love nice pics I love it too 2 years ago i walked 80 kilometers straight together with a friend and we prepared during the summer for it i could do that any summer this is something i would like to do more.

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@ElenaO I am a cook and i like cooking and but like any work the stuff around it can be a pain sometimes.

Story of my life hahahahaha......ha I find most jobs so boring and frustrating almost to the point of aggression! to keep it in check i try to find all kinds of small projects during workdays and try to socialize as much as possible. occasionally i had some fun and i am actually quite a hard worker. it is especially on days that are quiet it is tough but we still have to be there 12 hours sometimes the only way to keep your sanity in check is to be a rebel on those days so playing pranks for example and i actually take great pleasure to confront those serious minded managers you know the types who do everything for their boss who are scared of authority and take it out on the people in lower functions well i have a permanent contract they don't throw me out so sometimes i make it my mission to make them feel as uncomfortable as possible and inciting some discontent among my coworkers putting them against the establishment in the workplace. Then there is the administration which in our case is completely meaningless i checked what they do with it and they glance at it one time and that's it so always when i do it i take last years pages and fill in the whole month or so putting last years stuff in random order never had any problems If i had to do my jobs like a good boy all the time i couldn't live with myself i think.

Listen the whole 9 minutes just beautiful not much words needed.

Ok some insights and questions about big topics i like to share let me know what u think. i was inspired to write this after seeing Leo's video on lying. topics are: - The lack of any clear long term plan or vision from our leaders and politicians - The lack of big idea's on mainstream media ( good AND bad ) - My suspicions about the charity subculture - My own impression that a large part of humans prefer emotional stimulus over deep thinking and problem solving Charity Questions Charity is something that is seen by most automatically as something good but i would like to pose some questions for u good Samaritans - If u are going to the third world and help ''develop'' those poor people did u think about the definition of development? Do u think this is long term? do we mean by development becoming like us? and having the same level of luxury as we have? Well who makes a LOT of our products for cheap and digs up resources? third world country's of course and armies of slave laborers. Do we even have enough resources on this planet to make it a reality and if not are we not giving them false hope? Are we ''the west'' at this moment a good example? - Why do u really go? ( and this one is of course not targeted to all of them i am not that cynical ) To feel good, to make selfies with poor children on your side and put them on your facebook and tinder profile? of course u go to really help! But how much does this this play a role in your motives? - If the problems would suddenly go away, so say we found cure for cancer and we solve the structural problem of poverty in a reasonably short period would u secretly be disappointed because the institute of charity in general would be obsolete and your purpose u put all your energy in would be gone. Intellectual laziness These days we let footballstadions stand up in the fight against cancer ( literally ) , we practice charity at extravagant dinners, and our celebrities do shows on TV to gather money for all good causes and people cry tears of joy. I sometimes mistrust these elaborate social rituals mostly because i am not hearing plans i see no discussions about how to structurally solve problems, Where does the problem come from? Do we need these problems maybe in some way to keep the status quo? instead i see a huge crowd being riding high on their emotions, is this enough? What is really going on i sometimes wonder. Sincerity i have this short documentary made by Christopher Hitchens ( who i always very much love seeing debating ) about mother Theresa He argues that she was a friend of poverty and not the poor and brings some dubious stuff to light i also heard for example that she refused to install elavators in the buildings and that she carried the sick which is i can imagine less efficient and i think to myself ''what is going through her mind while she makes such decisions '' does hard work equal effectiveness automatically? do we want to be effective? is there some part of her that knows that at that moment she depends on that poor person for her spiritual well being as he is on her to be dragged upstairs? This is such an example of suspicious charity. I think we need to think clearly on what doing good means i think we need to ask the most important question ''DOES THIS WORK LONGTERM?'' Lack of imagination The lack of idea's and debates do not stop with charity of course it is just an example. I miss it most off all in politics and during elections where we should talk about the big idea's and if u are gonna talk about the short term plans which are of course not unimportant at least talk about how they connect to the big idea's if trump wants to build a wall he can make some compelling arguments for it But once it is done then what? On the other side of the spectrum we can welcome all immigrants instead but again once they are in then what? where are the PLANS? maybe there are gonna be some success stories but i can see a lot of them going unemployed,bored maybe even joining radical Islam and why not after all we need a purpose right? And this is what i mean what about these future technology's? 3D printing,electric cars,nano robots,fusion energy or the countless alternatives but even then what about just planting some crops look at this! Where is the pragmatic problem solving? ( or at least talking about it ) something i find inspiring tho is for example what Elon Musk is doinghttp://waitbutwhy.com/2015/05/elon-musk-the-worlds-raddest-man.html this is an interesting piece about his idea's he asked himself a simple question how ''why is sending out rockets so expensive'' the solution was to reuse them and that cuts the cost drastically that was a technical solution and required no celebrities or chanting crowds just imagination. these are some insights i had and maybe they are wrong or can be improved i am open to that possibility i would like to know your views on this.

Yes the slow building up is to bypass u getting overworked this happened to me as well multiple times, u have to optimize your reward system and that can take a while but u can do it i assure u. U might even begin to like it.

i do mostly 5 k sometimes 10 k my record is 15 k in 1h27 i used to procrastinate with exercise but found a balance now the trick is indeed to do it daily if possible and don't exhaust yourself every time initially that will come when the habit is set.

@Flare Thank you for the feedback. I initially wanted to go in on all the points u made i think it is best to let my own thoughts settle for now, writing down my thoughts is helpful to me and the feedback very much. gonna think about it!

@Kevster Maybe read The gulag archipelago by Alexander Solzhenitsyn for some perspective. Count your blessings! You have a girlfriend do something adventurous with her instead of watching tv. learn a new skill or to appreciate something new. sounds simple maybe but the simple things helped me. ( it took time tho ) good luck.

I work out 4 to 5 days a week now rotating between running,cycling,hitting the heavy bag and push ups/pull ups this seems to work well. Then in the evening or morning i walk a few kilometers. I did boxing for 5 years and running for about 8 now.

I have read your post carefully and i have to say i can very much relate with the overwhelming and extreme nerves you can have before doing something u find scary it is horrible. i had this huge trouble with confronting people until lets say 5 years ago. But some things happened that changed that and that were simply a lot of confrontations in a short amount of time because of the roughness of my new workplace . I grew soo much from that it is like night and day and my life improved very much in that area. U simply get much tougher and leads me to believe that the only way is too practice this is like anything else u want to be good in. U have say what u want to say in spite of the fear, so feel it and then blast right through it. This was the only thing that helped me at least and i can only say what did it for me no books,meditation or anything else only the most scary thing did it and that was ultimately confrontation. since then it has gotten so easy it is no problem at all anymore. I again can relate to this very much especially the having no control over your reactions i still have this problem in other situations that i am nervous even tho i can rationally declare that that is nonsense and i am still nervous. But now i know that i must do the hardest possible thing in that situation and that is too be brave even if i fail and that is not even a fail it is a win the only failure is to not being brave and do or say the thing u want to say. I hope this helps.

@Life Coach Your magical number 7 is as fascinating as it is evil but thank you for being so honest about it. but did you actually do that? if so did it work?

I just had to share this, it starts out about the SJW thing but gets really deep after that about self development conscience god etc its completely worth it to listen to the whole thing very interesting!

I am often not too happy with the jobs i worked but often kinda found a way to deal with it best i can. Working in the kitchen can be very tiring sometimes,long days, annoying boss, stress and sometimes just very boring but it gets slightly better now because i try to make to best of it. - i have many colleagues so u experiment on the different personalities working there like seeing the petty power struggles, working on social skills, little bit of flirting when having the opportunity etc. - when i need to get something i have to go upstairs i always run the stairs and when i come down there is a little thing to grab on too so i can practice pull ups. - practicing mindfulness when doing boring tasks like opening oysters for an hour actually a good exercise. - breaking time records for all kinds of stuff i do and keeping track of those. this could be an example i think to make the best of it.

@Vercingetorix I am very curious how is your progress? what is the difference in you before you did this? because u put in so much effort and i can have only respect for that very impressive But i am a little skeptical about spending this much time on it because it seems to be become an end in itself which of course no problem and just a personal interest. But is this just an exercise in self control to get the stuff u want? Or are you doing this as an end in itself? if it is the first would 20 minutes of meditation not be better? so u can spend the rest of your time on action for lack of a better word (because what you do is taking action as well i get that ) enlighten me please .

a bit of laziness and having no idea what to sell to people. also doubt off being good enough to sell something because i feel everything we need is already out there. i think i make a post about this in the future because i find this a very difficult topic.

Sing me a song, you're a singer do me a wrong, you're a bringer of evil The Devil is never a maker the less that you give, you're a taker So it's on and on and on, it's Heaven and Hell, oh well The lover of life's not a sinner The ending is just a beginner The closer you get to the meaning the sooner you'll know that you're dreaming So it's on and on and on, oh it's on and on and on It goes on and on and on, Heaven and Hell I can tell, fool, fool! Well if it seems to be real, it's illusion for every moment of truth, there's confusion in life Love can be seen as the answer, but nobody bleeds for the dancer and it's on and on, on and on and on.... They say that life's a carousel Spinning fast, you've got to ride it well The world is full of Kings and Queens who blind your eyes and steal your dreams It's Heaven and Hell, oh well And they'll tell you black is really white The moon is just the sun at night And when you walk in golden halls you get to keep the gold that falls It's Heaven and Hell, oh no! Fool, fool! You've got to bleed for the dancer! Fool, fool! Look for the answer! Fool, fool, fool!

Last i would like to add that as a solution is to either help victims stand up for themselves or help them directly no matter the cost in social standing. If we are in a certain way responsible for everything that happens in the world even if u fight a lonely battle that action would be significant i truly believe that. I clearly remember i was about 18 years old and very inexperienced, I got to work in this kitchen where someone was mercilessly bullied for a at least a whole year until he needed to go to therapy. they left me alone and i was kinda scared myself so i kept silent But if there is self actualizing to be done i believe that not standing idly by like most people do will be a major victory for yourself and others.

After working over 10 years in many kitchens i saw a lot of bullying and people being pushed around and in the management functions it is often even worse. I used to be pushed around in the early years because i guessed i was in the wrong, I am inexperienced, I do stupid things. Now i realize that is often not the case and there is just a lot of attempts at controlling involved i guess for its own sake. So u begin to develop a thick skin and being generally well spoken i began build up an effective defense. When i see someone actively try to control me for their own well being i often see that as the ultimate insult and i just want to completely crush them i want to see them break and sometimes that worked wonders. But i don't like this at all i am not like this, i want everyone to help each other grow, i never started it, this is what i think to myself, it is so damn primitive. My worldview can grow cynical at times because i see it everywhere and the idea of humanity being one can sometimes feel like woowoo hippie stuff. How would an enlightened person handle this then? do they want revenge? do they want to crush their attackers? because sometimes its just a necessity, It is better then being pushed around all the time.

@Key Elements Yes i agree But there is no running from it, it happens everywhere and i worked in over a dozen places now, maybe if u start a business or work from home but even then you have to be lucky And i feel well armed at the moment. That saying always scares me a little BTW Lots of people are mean, and most of them not openly bullying even, but gossiping, snitching on each other to win the favor of the management etc. I have seen some disgusting shit and that won't be limited to the hospitality industry. @tyy As for influencing your mindset of young people well in the worst case u would be traumatized for life i think. my mother is a teacher and i hear lots of stories. In a better case u fight it off successfully but u will not be as open as before. It make's you less spontaneous i think. Parents have to instill values in their children. U hear politician's say it but at the same time there is a trend that parents both work, put children on daycare, put them in front of the TV and those things are often not addressed so how can we be surprised I think there is a huge lack of personal value's in this culture otherwise i cannot explain why'' GROWNUP!'' people snitch on each other to win the favor off their boss. So rant over.

There is too much, i failed at trying to do everything at once u get burned out ( however that experience served its purpose too ) For now and the coming years mainly exercise and dating all the while keeping myself too some smaller goals - saving as much money as i can - playing an average of 1-2 hours of guitar a day that replaced my little video game addiction with a certain succes that's it for now i keep my interests for reading and history but this is it mostly otherwise it would be too much and i do not define further goals at the moment because it would be distracting i just work on this for the next few years although important is i think too take opportunities and be flexible.

Ah yes now i understand great posts! I think i applied that strategy a few times without realizing it and I think i got better at that lately. But being vindictive can sometimes sneak back in i got to keep an eye on that more. interesting stuff.