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Sometimes masturbation feels quite painful. When i watch or read erotic content, i feel an urgency to do someting (maybe ejaculate?). But recently i am trying to build a habit of non ejaculation while watching erotic sexual contents and reading bunch of them. What i have noticed that after sometime, i start to feel uneasy, uncomfortableness and extremely aroused. Then i want those feelings to stop. Is pleasure synonymous to pain? It feels like so...

@Aquarius oww so sweet of you to share this Well i have read this. Not sure if i was experiencing the similar pain or not. My pain was like the urge to orgasm (maybe) through ejaculation.

@Aquarius okay i understood. Didn't mean to judge you or your system... Actually i am from asia and things here quite conservative. I just asked out of curiosity

@Aquarius do you guys gets to read sexually explicit contents in your high school? That's interesting! Thank you for the advice

@Annonymous i am not american. If i was, i would have voted for Berney Sanders. Seems like he is the most conscious of all those who are running.

@Spinoza I think no one can answer for you. It is your life. You got to choose. Because no one knows what you want out of your life. If you don't want to have kids, it's fine. If you do wanna have it, it's also fine. But don't take any decision unconsciously. What i mean by unconscious is that having kids because your culture expects it, your parents expects it, your gf/wife expects it etc. Don't let anyone else dictate your life's term. Moreover, if you have kid unconsciouly or accidentally (in case of accidentally spilling your sperm inside of a vagina :p), i do not think that would be great for your child. Because bringing a child in this world is a big responsibility. Many fails to carry out their responsibiliy, as a result we see many adults with mental/habitual issues. So if you choose to be a father, do it consciously and be a great, loving father to your child Otherwise, do not.

@Shiva thank you for your advice

@Shiva i wish to create an audience only through building a review website and blog. I do not have any plan to create an youtube channel. Is it necessary to create presence in every social media outlets like facebook, twitter, youtube?

@Leo Gura allright. Thanks for your advice

Leo has talked a lot about letting go in the past, even he has got a video on this topic. But what actually letting go means? If i think about letting go, i think that it means to let everything to go. Not only anger, depression, frustration, past wounds etc which we consider as negative feelings/incidents, but also positive feelings/incidents like happiness,joy, intimacy etc. My question is, if i am able to let go EVERYTHING, what actually remains? I find letting go too hard. I find myself carrying past wounds, traumas, addiction to smoke and my other habits. so how to let go? Is it something like you just say "let go" and everything within a moment just vanishes? Or is letting go a process of deliberate practice?

@Leo Gura Well sometimes i just can not stop over - intellectualizing Its like my mind constantly running by its own.

@silene it is not an easy task to do, to just let it be. Mind feels very threatened by the idea of loosing something which it is attached to.

@ivankiss i hear you

@ivankiss yes! That is both the irony and beauty of it

@Theherosjourney thank you

In recent times, i see many people and their actions are called as needy and desperat. When it comes to dating, attraction and relationship, this is specially the case. Why this is so common for people to become needy and desperate? What causes them to feel and behave like that? What is the way to stop feeling desperate and needy?

@universe what is sedona method? @Vxvxen thank you for your advice

Hi there. I live in a third world country and mostly i consider myself a stage green person (although this is my own judgement). My country is deep stage blue, although as i live in a city, many stage blue-orange person can be found too. Problem is i don't resonate with them. With many person i resonate partially, with many i do not resonate at all. In fact, many people in my life like that are my family members, parents and friends. As a result, in recent times i feel like isolated, alianated and frustated. I try to avoaid them as much as i can, in many cases i cut them out from my life. But i feel lonely. I feel like people are getting out more and more and coming (whom i wish i can resonate) less and less in my life. And another thing is, most of the time i find myself resisting blue & orange ideas in my mind and sometimes i get vocal about it and get involved in arguements. These sort of thing do not please me, but sometimes i just find myself untolerable to just listen to what they are saying (my mind says to me that they are talking rubbish) What to do in this situation?How can i find some people who are at least on my level (stage green)? And how to handle the situation?

This happens when basically thugs are running a university. Devils have taken place here and showing their colours while posing as angels.

@Key Elements well, it"s a reality that i have told you. These are some true realities of my life. At present, situation is a tiny bit better, but not worth mentionable. I am working on starting business here, both online and offline. If that does not work, i have alternative plan of moving abroad, to a better place. Thank you for your advice

How old are you? Well i can feel what you're going through. Today i also posted about my mom and her issues... Thing is, every person walks their own path... Even if that path do not feel good to you, you can do very little about it. You can support your mom emotionally, but do not expect her to change overnight. If you want her to adopt healthy lifestyle or take support, be empathaic as much as you can and tell your opinion compassionately. If you tried that already and didn't work, then stop pushing her and be on your own and let her be on her own. And one important thing, if you rely on others to make you happy, then you must prepare for dissatisfaction, depression and unhappiness. You will be the one who makes yourself happy. If others make you happy, it will just be the icing on the cake. The most important thing is, take care of yourself. Do not let the negative energy caused by negative emotion drown you. If you are old enough, you can move. You can go to your parents in weekends and give them your support while at the same time walking on your own path. If you do not want to move, try meditation. It will make you calm and help you accept the situation. All the best

I don't know whether this post belongs to this sub-forum or not but i am gonna post it here anyway. My mother remains sick most of the time. This is what i have seen from my early childhood. She is 56 years old and so far have gone through 4 surgeries. She's been admitted to hospital more than 10-15 times since i was a little kid. For last 1-1.5 years, things are getting worse. She's very sick due to several problem and has been admitted to hospital for 5-6 times and even went to abroad for treatment. In this period, i used to live near my university,away from home and used to come home in weekends. For last three months, i have been living in home with my parents as my graduation is completed. Problem is that not a day goes by when i hear she is not sick. Even after waking up to before going to bed, this has been the case. Everyday she complains that she is not feeling well and she has this problem and that problem and so on. It affects me mentally and emotionally. I feel drained and gloomy. It is not a healthy thing and the family environment like this is definately not healthy. I am not saying that this is somehow her fault. I do love her. But at the same these constant gloomy situation keeps me depressed,anxious and worried all the time. What to do about it? Any suggestion is welcomed

how to get sex authentically? Seems like pickup guys get sex easily by manipulating. But their approach is shallow and their relationships too.

@Nickyy i have seen him ago. Pickup guy. I always doubted pickup and it's way. It felt very manipulating and artificial.

@Nickyy great insight, thank you