Hello there,
the problem of homeostasis has recently been a huge issue for me as well but I have somehow discovered what actually lies behind it (at least for myself but it may be helpful for you, too ...maybe :-)). For the last few weeks, I have been doing pretty well in my way towards personal responsibility in general and started doing things very differently, like for example:
dressing more feminine to be seen a woman instead of still being perceived as a girl.
not thinking that much but acting instead.
putting a lot of discipline in my schedule and really following it.
being ok with making my own life choices and not being 'normal' and not being understood -- basically gravitating towards more of the sage life that Leo has recently talked about in his video.
But then...a few days ago, I started having some doubts again. I would think about what bad would happen as sort of abcost for my feeling so well. Pretty much a neurotic tendency of mine. This caused me to reconsider my high set intentions and old self-image fragments would reestablish in my mind.
But some part of me clearly discovered that this was just my Ego wanting to survive by drawing me back to the familiar and 'secure'. It was as if it would lure me back into imprisonment and stagnation. What helped me most here was calm contemplation in combination with some inner images representing both the old homeostasis (as a small and pitiful arrangement of potential actions; like some old, non-electric machine from the 1800s or so) and my new set of homeostasis that I want to achieve (as some futuristic high-tech quantum computer device.) And my true Self would feed the evolution in between, like some decisive law of nature. That was the sort of power that helped my overcome my fears. Comparing the old vs the new and making clear that there is no way back.
I hope that's not too abstact and metaphoric but it really helped me ; though you might definitely find your own images :-D I think, this tendency for wanting the familiar is even mor influential than we might grasp yet. Super wothwhile, though.
Greetings