Psychonaut

Meditation Sport like swimming going vegetarian and loosing weight doing nothing Nofapperino

You misunderstood my post. I never said leave her alone. I meant buy some stuff to spice your sex game up. It might be toys, it can also be lingerie or even sexy outfits. After a while it might get boring so it's better to do something about it. Imo it's totally fine for a woman to have toys. I don't judge and if my woman had toys and had fun with them I wouldn't be jealous. I would be happy for her.

Thoughts about "cheating on your wife": What would happen in a perfect world? What would happen if everyone could let thoughts that don't serve them not affect them. What would happen if a girl has the thought that she has been betrayed but doesn't feel bad about it. She doesn't feel sad, doesn't get angry at you. She even takes you back without even judging you and you could just continue your relationship like nothing happened. That would be amazing and that would be a girl I would like to have as a wife. But what happens if you have sex with lots of different women all the time and you return to your wife and every time it is like nothing has happened. You know there is a thing called polygamy. Not something we really know much about in a western world. But in african countries it does exist. Take the president of South Africa, a country that seems like one of the most "civilized" african countries. The president Jacob Zuma has 6 wifes and 21 children. Polygamy is legally recognized in South Africa. I'm not saying I advocate polygamy, but there is nothing inheritently evil about it. I just want to show you that there are places were having sex with multiple wifes at the same time is okay and not condemned. According to a survey in this article 83% of woman don't agree with polygamy. Point being the majoriy of the woman would prefer monogamy. Why is that? Why can't there be multiple wifes for all these woman that disagree? Because they think they will get negative emotions. They are resisting the idea that their husband could be attracted to other women. They are resisting that they are not perfect and never can be. They are not the most beautiful, they are not the most intelligent or the funniest. You could take any character trait, you will find a "flaw" something that you think could be improved upon. Noone is perfect, noone can ever be perfect. It is impossible. To be perfect you need infinite time. The world is changing all the time. Once you think you have done everything you could do to become perfect, you have read every book, have talked to every wise person, have visited every major landmark on planet earth the world has changed a lot. In that time double the amount of new books have been created. You are up for a race against time and have set yourself up for failure. Your wife has flaws. The friends of your wife know that, your daughter knows it, her parents know it and the most important part is that you know it. It's okay, you never expected her to be perfect. There is only one thing you can do. You let it go, you love her. That will make you forget about all these things. So you obviously love your wife. You always have and you always will. That is the point of marrying someone. So why don't you want to have sex with another woman? You could, it's very simple. You just take of your ring and forget about it. There are lots of things that are very simple in life, but yet you would never do them. It is very simple to kill someone, having sex with a girl is usually also pretty simple and hurting another person is also very simple. But you don't want to do any of those things. You do not want to hurt your wife, your daughter or your friends. You don't want to see your wife cry, shout at you or even start hating you. So where is your suffering coming from? Why did you even write this post? You are obviously suffering. Do you even know how suffering works? I don't know... But somewhere I read this: "suffering = pain * resistance". Does this make any sense to you at all? Is there something you have noticed? What role does resistance play in suffering? You see that "suffering = pain * resistance". The more you resist the more you suffer. Why does a child cry when it falls and there is a small scratch on its leg? You can see that it is suffering a lot more than you. If you fall and there is a scratch, a bit of blood, maybe even a lot of blood. You might not even flinch, you will most likely not cry and probably suffer a lot less than a child. What happens if there is no resistance? "Suffering = pain * 0" -> "suffering = 0". You do not suffer anymore. So how do you remove resistance? The key to resistance is to learn to let go. When someone hurts you, insults you or spits in your face. What does the bible tell you? You are supposed to forgive that person. You are supposed to let go. You can observe the event that someone spit in your face totally neutral. You can try to think about why that person did that to you. You can find an answer, you could fail to find an answer. If you find an answer let it go. The same goes for if you don't find an answer. You let it go. You don't spend the rest of the day thinking about why the person hurt you. You could do that. But I would only advise you to do that if your thoughts and emotions are completely separate. But this is hardly the case for anyone and after some time you might get dragged down by your thoughts and feel bad. Why do humans even want to marry a other person? Why don't they want to marry a piece of wood or a spinning top? There is one fundamental difference between a thing that is alive and a thing that is just a thing. The dead thing doesn't change. It can only be changed by things that are alive. You can break a stone in two halfes. The stone won't automatically repair itself. If you lay it one the ground it won't move either. It can only be moved by other living beings. What happens if you break a twig of a tree? Lots of things will happen. The tree will try to close the hole where the twig originally was. It might even start to grow a new twig. So why did you marry your wife and not a tree or a stone? Because you can probably have more fun with your wife than with anyone else. She always changes, she can put on different clothes, start a new hobby. There is always the possibility of something new and exciting or unexpected to come out of your wife. So why are you longing for a different woman? You should be asking yourself that question and I don't know the answer. You have to think about it yourself. Once you have found the answer, let it go. Try to fix it if you can. If you want someone more beautiful buy her new clothes. If you want her to be more interesting try to somehow get her interested in something. If you want her to be sexier buy some lingerie you like, buy some outfits. You can try cosplaying, different positions. I don't know. There are lots of things you can do. There might be a possibilty that you will still be attracted to another woman. Sometimes you can do absolutely nothing about it. I have to admit that I am attracted to certain women that I will never be allowed to have sex with. I was trying to blame myself, made myself feel terrible about it. I resisted a lot and suffered a lot. I had to let it go, accept the fact that I am attracted and move on with my life.You have to let it go. I'm not telling you to have sex with another woman. Certainly not. You don't let go of your resistance to have sex with another woman. You let go of the thought of having sex with her which will remove the resistance. By letting go I don't mean you have to totally remove the thought from your brain. That would cause even more resistance and therefore suffering. You let go of the attachment between the thought in your brain and you. Afterall it is just a though flowing past. You have to realize that you can have a desire for another woman and not act on it. You don't have to feel bad. You don't have to think about all the things that could happen if you have sex with her. All the pain you could cause. What could potentially help you is this. Imagine there are two ways of a thought coming into your brain. One is that the thought just gets randomly generated in your brain. Somehow human brains just generate random thoughts and noone knows why. The other way is that another person put the thought into your brain. Either by talking to you, writing text or just by their body language. If someone else tells you you should have sex with this woman, what would you do? You could just say no and forget about the thought. Afterall it was not your thought. You can let it go very easily. So what holds you back of letting go of your own thoughts? I don't know. You can treat them like thoughts of another person and just watch them past by. I think that is an important ability and the main reason I meditate. I know this is long. It was not meant to be like this. It's just my thoughts. Random blabberings.

Really? Would there be something or nothing? Do you know? Could your concept of reality just be a mere illusion and there is in fact nothing. Absolutely nothing? I don't know? I don't think we humans were made to understand the concept of nothing. I don't really know that we were made to understand the concept of reality either. I don't know, as some fancy guy a few thoussand years back once said. There probably was even a guy who said the same thing even before that other guy said that. Just nobody wrote it down.

You are confused. Just go sleep. When you wake up shower cold and puff thoughts are gone. Yeah a really cold shower can do that. Or if you don't want to go to sleep just go and shower nevertheless. You have a wife and kids. A have neither nor, not even a girlfriend, not even a fantasy of a girlfriend. So you take the wife undress her, throw some dildos and vibrators and shit at her and hope for the best. Its just a thought, you can either let it go or not. I can't do that for you. But I can tell you what I would do in your situation. I said it 2 sentences ago.

It's important to have the feeling and learning to let go of it. So next time you can just be like yeah this is a feeling. A there is some thoughts. The thoughts are walking by like people on the street. There some people on the street I don't want to really get to know so I just let them pass. But it's your thoughts you can do whatever you want with it. You can take the thought put it into a bottle watch it float away. You can put your thought into a box smash it with a hammer, let a huge truck roll over it, pour some gasoline over it, light a match. Watch it burn away, add some fireworks and explosions and effects and you have a blockbuster movie. It's just throughts. Remember the thoughts walking accross the street and not really want to get to know them. Yeah. Something happened. Quite a lot. We could have just let the thought pass like 10 sentences ago. Just let it be. Watch it go away. Look at your wife, she's still there and beautiful. Your kids are still there having fun with a 1$ spinning top. Or if it's a girl I don't really know. Crayons. Probably drawing something. Yeah it's beautiful "insert name of your daughter here".

You have a particle collider?

Nothing new to me. What we know for sure is that when we look down there is something. Some call it body, that's just a fancy word. This body takes up some space. You put some food into it and its happy and grows bigger. After a while it has enough and you are dead. That is for certain. You can not smoke, eat healthy, exercise and stuff in the hope to make it survive a bit longer, but when you are dead and look back you never know if all that stuff to make you live a bit longer actually made you live longer. People wrote books and made up all these things they call religions and science to explain everything. But I don't really believe in that shit. I mean when you have huge particle collider in Zuerich and are crashing atoms into one another just to find some new particle and trying to tell me that you found something new. I'll be like cool. How do I know you didn't make all of this shit up? I hope you had fun with your particle collider. Because there is nothing. I'm here. I don't know why. I don't know why I am tipping this meaningless text. I don't know why anyone would read this. I don't know why anyone would search for an answer yet I'm here. I think that's just what the human mind is supposed to do at some stage in your life. I just don't know if everyone finds the same answer as I did. Yeah there is nothing. We don't know why there is something where there should be nothing. Just let it be.

Gardening is something that I will get into. If I could just go out in the garden water my plants every day after meditation, then after a few months pick my own veggies and make some great food. That would be really really cool. And then I can say for sure this is healthy, organic and blabla. Some of my friends will probably be like "you could have just gone to the store", but then I'll be like this is way more fun than going to the store.

Rooibos. I just drink Rooibos. In my town I can get a special "insert town name here" Rooibos. It's da bomb. It smells good and it tastes just as it smells. I find with most tee it just smells good, but doesn't taste as good as it smells. I don't really like green teas. I have some. In fact I could make some right now. But I'd rather just drink some roobois. Teas are cool. Way more cool than coke and stuff you can get in the regular supermarket. So many different tastes and it never gets old. Even my mum likes to still drink it.

Yeah. I like the style. Just give me something to eat, some music and I'm good to go. So cool. All this talk and talk. In the end of the day. You are still there right now in this moment. Reading my gobbled up nonsense. You know. Just be happy, go with the flow, dont fight it, just be. Enjoy what you have to the fullest. Just throw the money you have at things that you like and hope for the best. In the end of the day you have some more toys, some more friends which come and go. The difference between me and most of the people is that I'm still happy no matter what. I knew that all this knowledge and new toys isn't going to make me any happier. It's cool nevertheless. I mean who doesn't want a 85$ spinning top with a ruby ball tip. Yeah I ordered one. Gonna be cool to spin it everywhere. I'm running out of ideas here. Well as soon as you remove the chase, all the talk about nothing and focus on just being the actual fun begins. Just like a kid. They could've just left me playing there 20 years ago with my spinning top. I didnt really ask for all this knowledge and shit that everyone tried to stuff up my throat. Just to realize 20 years later that spinning tops are still cool. Just that they cost like almost 100$ now and I was happy with a 1$ top 20 years ago.

Does it taste any good? This is like so you dont have to eat food right? It's just some funny shake thingie? You know when I went into the shop a few hours ago. I wanted berries, like some fresh berries, raspberries and blue berries. I went to 2 shops. I really wanted berries. But well then I ended up with this thing. A juice. It was berries. Raspberries and blue berries and like 10 other berries. It had like all these fancy letters on it and so forth. But the juice was meh. They just threw berries in a mixer and called it a juice. They could've just given me the berries instead and I would've made a better juice. So I don't know. Food is something to enjoy not to throw in some funky shake so we don't have to eat. I guess I have a very very different view on viewing food lol.

I wouldn't bother thinking about good and evil. I think that concept is something very christian and not believing in it makes me feel very free.

I sit on a chair.

What are some good books on nutrition? I would like to learn a bit about it as I know very little.

I'm on day 12 now. Boy the dreams I have are so dirty and feel so real. Better than any porn I have ever watched. Prime masturbation material. BUT I can't masturbate. So I guess I just have to enjoy the show. It ain't getting any easier, does it.

Very relaxing. His other mixes are also very good. This has been my study mix for years. I know it by heart.

For me the "No Bullshit guide to meditation" was the most important. It was also the first one I watched. It made it look easy to meditate, which ultimately made me try meditation.

I try to build it actively by doing things like leaving a chocolate bar on my table and only allowing me to eat one piece a day. I used to be able to eat two bars of chocolate in no time. Sometimes one bar was already finished before I had walked back from the store. Meditation and lots of the activities people do on here build discipline. Checking every 5 minutes if there is a new interesting topic does not. Noted.

I really like it. It's like 5 double espressos. You are awake and it saves a lot of water.

@The Alchemist Go to Aldi if you think you can't afford fruit and vegetables. It isn't organic, but you can get a bag full of fruit and vegetables very cheap. That is the only thing I go to Aldi for.

I have been doing this for years now. For material things "if it doesn't have a function and just takes up space" it won't be bought and if I have things I dont need I throw them out or sell them. I don't buy anything ever that I can also have in a digital form. I don't have books, CD's or DVD's. I have removed almost all activities that don't serve me. I have to still find some other activities to have a bit more variety. But I mostly just eat, sleep, shower and do stuff I really want to do. Like programming and modelling parts to 3d print. It makes you really appreciate what you have instead of just trying to accumulate more and more stuff. Fe. I printed a spinning top a few days ago, I'm playing with it like it was the greatest thing ever. It's a bit distracting if you spin it all the time and have to spin it every 30 seconds. But I think most people would get bored after a few spins. Maybe I'm still a child inside a far too old body and maybe I'm still a child, that shouldn't have gotten an iPhone for his birthday. Who knows.

There are already 3 threads on psychedelics.

You can't make a video about raising a child if you don't have a child.

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