Gladius

@Toby Thanks for your comment, but I'm 32, I had hundreds of dates and never had a normal relationship. I need to work on this.

Hi everyone, I just learned the concept "fear of intimacy" which I have been suffering my whole life. That's the reason why I never ever had a healthy relationship. I literally walk away after a great date with a beautiful girl. I only related to emotionally unavailable girls or the ones I didn't really like so I couldn't be hurt. I'm gonna try changing this pattern now. Does anyone have advice or experience on this? Thanks!

Something similar happens to me. I bought a whiteboard, hang it on my room and wrote there all the qualities I want to have, and every mantra I need to wire into my brain. I look at it first thing in the morning and last thing in the evening, and repeat it out loud. It's been just a few weeks but so far it feels good.

I agree. I used to be a funny guy, with a parodic twitter account and everything. I'm not sure if it's age, self-actualization or unfulfilled life expectations, but I lost most of that spark.. I'm trying to get it back though. (if someone has seen it, please send me a pm)

@Emerald Wilkins Understood. Since we got so far... May I ask how can we undo these blockages and barriers, if not pursuing spirituality and meditation?

@Emerald Wilkins Interesting. Then, according to you what's the best way to fix this lack of self-love?

@John Fox Graduality is key. Last year I had an existential crisis and I tried to do all at once: Quitting my job, moving abroad, study again, train my mind, improving my social skills... I don't regret the decisions I took, but I definetely lost balance for a few months, and that burned me out. So as these guys say, just take it easy and enjoy the process.

@HelgaBee That sounds good! Hey, maybe we are each other's half @Neo You don't watch movies, do you?

Hello! I've been into PD for a few years. I've seen almost all Leo videos (except enlightenment) and even did the life purpose course. My health, confidence, and sense of purpose make me feel I'm on the right track. Nevertheless, this is a lonely hard process and still can't quit my strong negative thinking completely. For this reason I thought of getting a tattoo with a powerful positive message that finally stays in my head once for all. Do you think it can be helpful? Thanks!

Hi Peter, I also come from a toxic family and have (very) sad stories to tell. When I realized this I left home as soon as I could and took distance. That helped a lot, but after more years I learned I had to forgive them (even if they didn't apologize). Then I became more aware, assertive, communicative and, to sum up, "actualized", and they somehow also grew and we have now an OK relationship. This process took several years (I'm 32 now) but I learned a lot, gained some skills that are unique and very useful in my creative career, and I can look back proud of myself. All tips given here by these guys are really good. Just keep growing and meditating and you'll be fine. All the best!

@Arman Maybe I haven't been very clear here. When I said "it's not hapenning", that doesn't mean I'm sitting in my couch all day long waiting for Margot Robbie to knock on my door. I'm putting effort, going out, and trying to improve myself in every area of my life. But I understand what you meant.

Name: Gladius Age: 32 Gender: Male Location: Madrid, Spain Occupation: Writer / Engineer Marital Status: Single Kids: No Hobbies: meditation, personal development, writing, sports, nature, movies Three years ago I realized I had absolutely no purpose and I was just being passive and letting life happen to me. I broke up with a girlfriend I had by then (someone I even didn't like) and got into pick up videos. I slowly learned the problem was much bigger than dating. I was not passionate at all, I lost all drive and enthusiasm. My health problems became more serious than ever (urticaria, breathing problems) and even had suicidal thoughts. I had to stop ignoring all these and realize I had deep issues that were demanding some attention: As a child my parents were emotionally neglected, my sibling had a serious eating disorder, I was bullied at high school... Believe it or not, the most frustrating part was that gorgeous women were drawn to me because I am phisically attractive, but when they get closer and saw I had no confidence they would run away. Thanks to Leo and some others I am starting to manage my emotions and being aware. Personal challenges I've overcome: Speaking up my needs Finding and pursuing my passion Taking care of my mental and phisical health Being aware of toxic relationships Forgiving my parents Being more present Decrease negative thinking What I'm working on now: Working on healing completely Working on making a living from my passion Working on being 100% authentic Working on having a good relationship with family and friends Working on my dating life Working on my confidence Working on mastering my emotions

Hello guys! I don't think this topic has been treated in any of Leo's videos. The thing is I'm overly obsessed with a girl for more than one year. We were office colleagues and I noticed she expressed some mild interest in me. I didn't feel really confident by then. I tried to get to know her going out in a non-romantic way, but it never escalated to anything else. Then she moved to another country but added me on the f***ing facebook, so I had excited again and didn't get over it. Since then we have just been texting, she replies and occasionally she starts the conversation, but I can't see a lot of effort from her side. I don't think I'm being creepy yet though. I'm doing my daily 20 minute meditation but still think about her every single day, no matter if I'm dating other people or doing anything else. Any recommendations? Thanks!

@Sevi Thanks for your recommendations. I actually knew my whole life but I only needed to hear the words "you can drop the victim role". That's been mindblowing and everytime I catch myself in negative thinking I only have to remind those. It's been huge. I don't support violence at all, but sometimes, just sometimes with some people, you gotta fight back to set the boundaries you forgot to set before. After shouting, my father had also a realization, he apologized (his way), and as I said that has improved a lot the atmosphere with my family. No doubt it was the right thing to do.

Hello guys! I've been self-actualizing for almost a couple years now. I feel like I'm growing a lot but this process is being also painful. Last year I became so aware I had to drop my job and follow my purpose in a not balanced way. A few weeks ago I shouted for the first time my father, because he was insulting me as he often did. I did it like 20 years late, but still glad I did it. My mother congratulated me and the relationship with them has actually improved. So I had an epiphany with latest video (thanks Leo). I have been playing the victim role my whole life. I can't understand how I didn't see this before. My mind is always telling me how people is taking advantage of me, embarrassing me, fooling me... Such awareness now is driving me crazy. I can see the trick but I can't avoid it. The problem is I was psychologically abused since I was a child, so I'm one of those that will have to work extrahard to become my real self, since I can't really recall my blank slate. I'm wondering if I will be ever able to bounce back to a "happiness" I never had. Any recommendations on that? Thanks for reading!

@Flare Many thanks for your inspiring message

@Emerald Wilkins thank you very much, it was really helpful. The problem is that now I'm obsessed with you (just kidding!). Actually a few months ago, when I definetely lost her I finally took action to change my life. The obsession was still there though, but I'm beginning to understand now the real causes of it.

Thanks everyone, I tried last weeks to adopt these solutions and I can say my health is finally improving. To sum up, I'd say it is crucial to raise awareness towards food, emotions and thoughts. It is easy said but took a lot of effort to put into practice and break the cycle. Absolutely worth it!

Hi everyone, Big fan of Leo here. I'd like to share my health problems I've been dragging for too long, maybe someone has an idea how to treat them... Since I was around 13 I have some skin issues, and I'm 32 now. It started as tiny random red spots around fingers, back of hands, and sometimes. any part of the body. Years after, I also had urticaria problems. I do believe it's all based on emotional issues (I had some in my childhood and teenage years), but I can't fix it. Secondly, I also have some breathing problems. Seems my sinus get easily inflammated, so that makes me most of the time lethargic, tired, and really low energy. Through doctors (many of them) and conventional medicine I came up with a "good" solution for both problems: Taking an antihistamine (once a week). Nevertheless, this is one of my main challenges in life and I'm pretty sure if I could heal this from the source I wouldn't need any chemicals and I'd feel better. If anyone has any ideas about this, I'd appreciate so much. Thanks for reading!

Thanks Annie! I really like your approach. I do have traumas from the past and I'm aware of them. I tried hipnosis, meditation, therapy... I feel I've improved but it's difficult to change "from the core" who I am. I guess the only thing left to do is to keep trying. Thanks for your recommendations and all the best!

Many thanks for replying sadlabounty. I didn't try fasting and I certainly will, since it's one of the things left to do. Just for the record, I lead a pretty healthy lifestyle, exercising, eating mostly fresh food, sleeping 8 hours... For this reason I never thought of the problem being in my diet, but I'll give it a chance. Thanks!