LowPlanetary

I'm not entirely sure what you mean here, but i think your saying in order to transcend social conditioning i just need to develop self love, which makes sense thank you for the advice.

Thank you for the comment. I do regular daily meditation, 20 minutes a day, maybe i need to do more. But i guess the issue is based around me just not having confidence, i'll work on it.

Very true, thank you also for the advice.

I think that a sensible creator that would want to spread his message would understand the dynamics of his competition and will be actively persevering to the top but at the same time not be egotistically attached to the competition. If he fails that mean he can't spread his message, not that he has failed his mission as a creator, you see the difference? Beating the competition isn't the end goal, it's a tool that can be used if desired to reach the end goal. And that end goal i think varies person to person, therefore making it not necessary for everyone but an important factor to consider for some.

I'm not exactly sure what you mean by "all that is in order and flow with it". What am i exactly flowing with? I guess you mean my intuition, but i just want to make sure. Thank you for the advice as well, i will definitely try to start distancing myself from social media, news and people, very good advice.

Thank you all so much for the advice, i really appreciate it. I guess it all comes down to strategizing and making lots of mistakes in order to learn from them. Thank you so much.

The problem is that i can't bring myself to trust myself. How can i be confident in my own beliefs and have faith in myself? Also how do i know if the other person is not listening to their higher self? Aren't mentors a useful asset when making decisions? Or should i just focus on developing my intuition? I've watched the video on intuition but i think i'm going to have to watch it again since i'm not completely sure how to actually hear the "voice"/feeling of intuition.

I feel so frustrated with how inconsistent and spontaneous my motivation is. I do feel motivated sometimes, but a lot of the time i feel motivated at a point in time where i can't use that energy. And when i get the time to do the thing that i want to do i feel tired, lazy and generally apathetic. Sometimes the energy is there when it needs to be, but basically the time it comes is pretty unpredictable. I think what i've noticed is that the reason why it is random is because i keep on going to low consciousness to high consciousness very spontaneously. So when i have motivation, my higher consciousness is kicking in which desires goals that delay gratification like good health, pursuing mastery in "passions" and helping others, whereas when i'm feeling lazy and apathetic i have low consciousness goals like sex, junk food, and comfort. Therefore, i've tried to discipline myself and just do the higher consciousness activities anyway, but firstly, the results from that are never high quality, i need to be motivated to produce something high quality, the things that i "love" are more like chores when i just do it anyway therefore i feel lots of emotional pain when that happens. Nowadays i'm feeling more and more apathetic because motivation and passion seems like such a flimsy and unreliable idea to cling to, I've just lost so much of the reason for why i do anything.

So if attachment = suffering. Does detachment = bliss? Which means satisfaction with the present moment? Also how do i detach myself from everything? Is that just the process of enlightenment? Is that meditation? Not too sure.

I don't think that's what he's saying. I believe he's saying that IF you have conquered loneliness then you will be able to not feel pain in that situation. But if you haven't then you will feel pain. You in that situation didn't conquer loneliness as evidently it did effect you. He is offering hope that actually the pain experienced from loneliness can be fixed through consciousness work. Research and practice spiritual enlightenment and you will realize what your problems are specifically and how you can fix them. Since suffering from my understanding isn't inherently as potent as well all make it out to be and with the proper practice i think it's possible to transcend beyond suffering. Hope i helped.

Thank you for all your replies, this has been extremely helpful. If any of you have time i've got one more question. I'm specifically struggling with letting go of the concept of approval and validation of my ego. Which has created multiple of stresses, anxieties in my life that don't need to exist. I guess there are a few approaches i could go to remedy this. First is to learn to not resist these emotions and just live with them as there is nothing inherently wrong with them. Which requires me to detach from comfort. How do i do that? Or i could learn self love to thus make the ego self-sufficient in validation. So i don't have to require other people's validation in order to feel validated as i can provide the approval/love necessary by myself. I'm not too sure how to do that though. Or i could just become enlightened and realize there is no self to be approved and just live life. And that is a work in progress.

Ah ok, now i think i understand. So when i play a game too seriously, i lose things and feel bad, and when i gain things i feel good but want more. When i play a game for fun and i lose things i laugh and when i gain things i laugh and feel good. I think i see now. Sorry if i'm asking too many questions but i feel this is an important topic i need to understand but, what happens when the game isn't fun and you feel like you're forced to stay inside the game. When a game isn't fun you stop playing it and play another game that will be enjoyable. In life there is only one game to play which is life. So how does this work?

Ah i see so for someone to have 0 attachments they also can't be attached to the idea of happiness and suffering. They have to be comfortable abstaining from happiness and from suffering, therefore meaning that they don't actually gain happiness thus meaning they don't go into a blissful state, more like a peace of mind. Not excited by things, they just let it be. So really what i should be aiming for is a peace of mind, not happiness. Since happiness is both out of my control and consistent happiness is not possible. They key is to just be satisfied without any of it. I know this is a classic question but what is there after that? You become detached from things and then doesn't that mean you just float in space? There is literally no reason to do anything from that standpoint. There is nothing to gain and nothing to protect, so why act? The promise of gain and the potential of loss the core of all motivation, right?

I've been watching Leo's videos and the solutions to it all seems to always connect back to meditation. Is this true? Will meditation fix ALL my neurosis? And help me unwire the self help paradoxes (of being neurotic of fixing neurosis/ trying to change whilst being satisfied). If that is indeed the case how do i get myself to actually meditate. Since leo says to meditate for 20 minutes a day and i can barely do 5 minutes at a time without feeling stressed and angry from doing the meditation. However, i have been doing 5 minutes a day every day consistently and have recently started to do two 5 minute sessions a day. So i''m not too sure about whether i'm on the right track. Also another question. I'm very quickly running out of ways to feel happy. I used to indulge in entertainment (movies, tv, video games, e.t.c.) and food a lot. But now i'm not "addicted" to it anymore and have no real desire to do them anymore. However, i can't find many alternatives except from working on my passions, which is fun and enjoyable, but i can barely engage in that for most of the hours of my day because i have to go to school which produces tons of negative emotions and hopelessness which is right now one of my main problems which i hope to fix with meditation. However, as the school workload increases i find less and less time i can spend on my passions, especially since my passion is visual art (painting drawing) and making music, but it is hard to do that when i have RSI in my dominant hand and have to take constant breaks. So basically i feel the amount of ways to enjoy my life is deteriorating and having passions just won't be enough and i'll have to resort to learning how to be happy in the moment without needing anything. Yes that is my goal to one day do that but in my current state i feel it's impossible to wait 1- 3 decades for myself to even get close to that.

Yeah i understand the whole idea of building the discipline through meditation, which eventually allows you to be able to not resist pain, including doing other things, but my problem is getting myself to do those things that will help me not feel so much pain in the long run. But, stuff like meditation and mindfulness make you experience mental pain in the moment, and the only way to not feel that pain is to feel it. Since the ability to not be so effected or prone to pain isn't a way of thinking about things that you can influence just by the flick of a switch, it's through some more hard work. And i guess i'm just not patient enough to slowly build up my resistance, since let's say i start off by doing 5 minute meditation sessions, when i eventually keep ramping it up to 20 minutes that's when my motivation and willingness to do it starts to waver. And that happens in so many areas of my life it feels like i'll never get out of this rut of being so mentally weak and sensitive to the point where it's paralyzing. Except i think i used to be more mentally strong a few months ago, but i injured my dominant arm and i can't do what i seem to rely the most which is make art, now i'm just not motivated to do anything and motivating myself to feel pain just seems impossible. So i guess it's just really a problem with motivation.

In order to be happy you need to grow your consciousness and other facets of your life. In order to grow those facets of your life you need to work hard. The whole point of working hard is to feel pain. IF i'm gonna be working all the time, while not being able to distract myself with lower consciousness instant gratification, how am i gonna be able to deal with it? I don't know if it's the same for everyone, I've just noticed that throughout my life i'm incapable of dealing with pain, and a lot of the time when i do i feel some sort of pain i start having thoughts like i'd rather die than feel pain. Therefore i take shortcuts to get what i need to get done by getting myself to enjoy it, but isn't that just running away? So the only way i can think of fixing this problem is by practicing feeling pain, but ironically it's too painful to practice feeling pain. But i guess this is just me being lazy, but i have no idea how to deal with it.