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@Pallero thank you I'm going to buy the book!

Can someone share with me books resources on shadow work or nlp they have found?

The law of attraction states that you attract what you think. The problem is most people have problems they want to get rid of. For example if someone was using the law of attraction to have more money they come into it with the mindset 'I don't have enough money' Now trying to get rid of a problem is holding onto it. Anything we try to get rid of we are holding in mind and thereby sustaining that problem. By wanting more money they are attracting the experience of wanting more money. Another example is someone who perhaps buys a book on the law of attraction, says something like "this isn't going to work" they than get no results from it. Of course it didn't work, they were focusing on how it wouldn't work so would attract into their lives the experience of it not working. Their mind goes out of its way to look for how things aren't working in this situation. For the law of attraction to work you need to think positively about what you want and let go of literally everything in opposition to it. For it to best work you need to not care whether or not you actually get what you want, that way you can attract it because you have no thoughts of lack or not having. Even thinking 'is it working yet' when thinking of whether the law of attraction is getting you what you want is a feeling of lack. This is why excercises like radical self love or acceptance can be so powerful, if you love the problems you have to death you can no longer have the experience of wanting to fix it, and they will disappear. http://www.actualized.org/articles/the-power-of-self-acceptance

@Annetta I know this wasn't directed at me but thanks for posting this song I love it I've been playing it all day since I heard it! I just added the full album this is from (evil friends) to my Spotify

I'm in high school at the moment so meet most girls through a social circle. The problem I'm having is not knowing when to pursue them romantically. I have no problem asking them out, after doing some emotional work on the fears of this. The problem I have however is judging when to do it, I've made he mistake before of doing this too early after meeting a girl and making things uncomfortable because of it. The advice I'd love if anyone has it is when I should start pursuing a girl romantically. Do I wait for the girl to start showing signs she's interested, or do I have to know her more first. Or do I just ask her out whenever I feel like I want to, whether or not shes showing interest?

@krazzer ohh I just read a book on this! The big leap by gay Hendricks talks about this you have periods where everything feels amazing but a part of you brings you down. Highly recommend you read this seeing as it's a book written on the exact problem you asked about in this forum.

@electroBeam why do you need to do work? If you're happy now you only do work because you think work will lead to happiness in the future, but it doesn't it just takes away the happiness you have. When echkart told first became enlightened he kept having thoughts of needing to do work. But if he did this he never would have continued with spiritually and written the power of now. He did more by spending several months in bliss sitting at a park bench which led him to write his book and help thiusands than he would have just working in same teaching job with minimal impact if he gave into his thoughts saying you should work. Also notice how when you feel good you bring yourself down by feeling guilty 'I shouldn't feel this way' or 'I'm worried something will happen'. Next time this happens why not replace t with a mantra like 'I'm becoming more and more ok with happiness every day'.

Yes! I've recently been reading a book called the big leap by gay hendricks. Which talks about how when we're feeling got we try bring ourselves back down because we're uncomfortable feeling good. Helps me be more aware and now my happiness is getting more and more extended in its periods daily. Definitely recommend it.

The more I consider a life purpose of acting the more I am scared. My greatest passion as acting but after reading biographies of actors it seems like hell, I read one of Bryan Cranston who spent around a decade working minimum wage jobs with extreme physical labour under constant uncertainty of whether he would achieve his dream. Imagine doing that for ten years and than having it be wasted? What can I do to make this easier?

Just sit in the lotus position. That's it. No more sleepiness.

If so what has produced the most happiness?

@JCShannon88 No more mr nice guy Robert glover. Literally a book just about this problem ridiculous if you don't read it after it's been suggested to you. also try the way of the superior man the six pillars of self esteem.

@barry I reccomend doing shadow work to overcome this. You are using affirmations to overcome feelings of loneliness or neediness. I had the same struggles and have made huge progress. You can choose to try the work by Byron Katie or the Sedona method by hale dwoskin. You may also like doing affirmations on top of this if you enjoy them

@Dodoster thanks excited to try it!

@Dodoster can you post this video?

I'm assuming the only times you can live this way is on the drug? What about after death? Wouldn't you return to this state when the mind and body die?

When considering the notion that the universe is infinite it can scare the fuck out of me, if the universe is absolute infinity than doesn't that mean it can contain infinitely more suffering than we have now? Does that mean there are situations where you experience infinitely more pain than it is possible for a human to feel currently?

This isn't necessarily completely true! I did personal development from when I was 15 stumbled across Leo's videos and was able to overcome significantly the social anxieties I had and gain confidence and humour. But yes the not fully developed part is true, most of my goals are to do with approval and impressing girls at this stage so as I age I guess real motivations ect come in later as I experience more of life

Happy birthday! I love you all very much

For visualisation don't worry about seeing things. FOr example of you were to think of an apple right now you can in your mind picture the stalk the redness of the apple what it looks like without actually necessarily seeing a picture. It doesn't matter whether you see anything what matters is that you are as emotional as if the thing you're visualising was really happening to you. So for visualisation focus on the feelings, go into it with this mindset. For half an hour you get to enjoy your life purpose you get to pretend it's all set up in the future, without having to worrry about anything, enjoy the feelings of freedom having a job you love feel the appreciation as though its happening now. Visualisation is never a chore if it is you're doing it wrong. A good rule of thumb is that your visualisation should be so enjoyable that even if it didn't come true it would still be worth doing because it feels so good in the moment to visualise what you want, if you feel like this you're on the right track.

I have some questions from the heros joirney video. 1: How do I go on this heros journey is it just the enlightenment work that you said, self enquiry etc? 2: What is the holy grail? For inspiriation can someone describe the fulfilment etc that it's possible to attain from this journey?

It's a free ebook they post online. http://www.truthcontest.com/ A lot of the info ties in with spirituality but it's a lot more depressing. The basis is that either you become enlightened or you will be reincarnated as the lowest form of life possible and have to live millions of years of evolution to reach life as a human again. Could be worth reading. But as always there's no point unless it can be proved to yourself.

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@Sharpadox resistance is just an emotion use the Sedona method I found is the best way as it works directly on releasing emotions. There's one where you holistic realease on Resitance. I was as bad as you and after doing the cd I can enter flow whenever I want (although I had resistance to listening to the cd that would get rid of my resistance at first though so may have to force yourself to listen) It's cd 6 in this set. http://www.sedona.com/programs/practical-freedom.asp I can email you the cd file for the resistance for free if you want send me a private message.