DavidK

Secure (Surprisingly?)

Mix you're coffee with decaffeinated! Just a bit at first then slowly increase the ratio of decaffeinated.?

"Awareness is curative".

Lazyness: chronic lack of freedom that comes with lack of discipline.

I'm always quite firmly INTJ-A :v

I've been learning Norwegian for about a year now. Justin doing it to scramble my brain (and because who doesn't think been bilingual wouldn't be cool haha).

I live close to Manchester, went to uni there ?

Do you have a life purpose figured out?

I have a book which talks about stuff very similar to this called: The Tao of Sexology by Dr Stephen Chang. It has an exercise in it called "the deer exercise" which involves tensing the pc muscle for prolonged periods. Just mentioning this incase it's helpful to anyone interested in this stuff.

I see the EU as green (green/orange). Not quite sure where you see the political or economic success, it was faced major issues in these specific areas, in my veiw caused by a lack of integral (yellow) thinking.

If you came UK I'd travel anyplace you visit.

It could still be stage green even if you do it just to feel better about yourself. Loads of stage green people do that haha.

@-Rowan your daily routine is pretty much identical to mine ?.

Suffering is like a feedback signal calling the individual to explore why they are suffering. Suffering is not required though and many people get into PD motivated just by the idea they can improve there "stats" like a character in a video game.

I found being a student and doing personal development work a very easy and natural combination! I found drawing up a time table very helpful and would study in two hour slots followed by a "break" of personal development. Meditate, Study, exercise, study, lunch, study, reading, yoga, dinner. It was very difficult but I had no social life so had nothing better to do hahah I also noticed that each activity would build up momentum of motivation: been so productive motivated me to be more productive.

Just finishing off my research based Masters in aerospace engineering if that counts haha. I had played with the idea of doing PhD but gone off the idea. Don't want to waste any more time on useless "education".

Turned 26 last week ?

INTJ, no further comment haha

@SoonHei this issue of 'what happens why I sleep' has had me puzzled for ages! And I found your frame by frame explanation amazing! This really helps, thanks!

@fabriciom thanks, basically I've just moved back after a year of living away, and things are very dramatic back here because me and my brother are now no longer afraid to say exactly how we feel haha. I have now planned to move to my gf's patents then get our own place. Luckily I've been saving up for this very event, and she's 250 miles away which is a long way in England ??

Hopefully I put this in the right place haha So I finally decided I might as well see what people have to say about this issue which is now becoming more prominent. With regards to toxic parents, I regularly think about cutting my mum out of my life. The upbringing provided by my mum has been far from perfect and I have an adverse childhood experience test score of 8/10. As a whole I feel she was never there for me as a child and felt her unstable emotions were the most important thing in the house. She has all the major signs of having borderline personality disorder with a long history of heavy drinking. She got married to my stepdad (who eventually died of alcoholism) when I was 12 and he was emotionally abusive and occasionally physically abusive. Every attempt I made to tell her how unhappy I was with how things were at home were met with my mums attitude of "I'm the victim in all this, think how hard this is for me being in the middle of you two fighting like this". At one point my stepdad set up a separate fridge for himself and my mum which I was not allowed to use, and the shared fridge had close to nothing in, so I got by selling cogitates at college (UK) to buy my lunch. One time my stepdad stored some left over take away himself and my mum had had in the fridge and as me and my brother took some (there been very little else to eat) he became physical and grabbed my brother and in fear for my brother I started punching my stepdad then called the police. We have still received zero acknowledgement or apology for any of our upbringing and to this day she parades herself as an excellent mother who's "done nothing but sacrificed" for us. These are more the highlights and don't really want to get into more detail. But more recently is clearly making an effort (in purely material ways) such as taking me out for meals, picking me up from the train station occasionally, and has always gone to hospital with me for a heart condition I was born with. And so the question essentially is; Should I cut her out my life and if so what role does forgiveness play? P.s. I kinda know what I'm going to do was more just interested what other people thought. I also get that forgiveness does not mean I need to have my mum in my life but can in fact do both.

@non_nothing I like that answer, thanks.

@Martin123 honestly means a great deal to hear this, thank you!

@Shadowraix exactly, pretty much where I am with it.