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The stable awakening comes gradually for most people, the old mind patterns still continue to exist for some time before they loose their strength gradually when you are no longer taking them as reality.

@Tim Stretton Wow insightful words, i feel they resonated deep within me. Thank you.

Yes and no. It wont fuck up your game in sense of girls not being attracted to you. It will fuck up your game in sense that you don't want meaningless sex anymore. You will notice how empty it is. You'll be actually intrested about the persons instead of getting something from them.

You need to understand the psychology behind the bullies. The problematic behaviour is not caused by the subject of bullying. It's the unsolved psychological problems inside the bully's mind. They don't think they are enough in one way or another, and they have a need to put others down to raise themselves up. Bullies usually don't have a life purpose or much meaning to their lives. People with life purpose don't waste their time on bullying others, instead they encourage others. Be one of those people. Be compassionate to the bullies, they don't know what they are doing. I get bullied sometimes by some of my university fellow students, all of them have the same trait of not achieving much. They see people who achieve more than them as a threat and act on it with bullying behaviours. It's just like kids, i remember when i was a kid and my brother was getting praised for being so good at something i had to pull off some negative behaviour to turn the attention towards me. Be compassionate to those "kids", all they want is some attention because they have a feeling of lack in their hearts.

Hi! I was struggling with the same issue of being overwhelmed by external stuff lately. I'm studying at university and i'm running 3 businesess. What helped me is to be aware of your thoughts. This sounds so fucking cliche everyone says this but really, do it. Everytime you get stressed take a look at your thoughts. They are causing your feeling of being overwhelmed, not the actual things. It's your attitude towards the things. The second thing is action. Do what you need to do, don't do things that you don't need to do.

Hi! I had an realization last night when i was trying to get some sleep. My mind was feeding me constant stream of negative thoughts and then i just wondered how ridiculous they are and what's the point of them. Then it hit me. They are here to remind me of my true nature. They force me to stay aware, because getting lost in them is so painful. If my mind would only give me positive thoughts there would be no reason to awaken. It's not like this is something i didn't know before but now it just felt like it was deeper understanding beyond my rational thinking. I don't even know why i'm posting this here, i just felt like doing it. Being aware of your thoughts is a blissfull state.

Wow, this sounds so similiar to what i'm going through. You are not alone. It's really hard to connect with people when you start seeing their nasty agendas behind their behaviour. On the good side i've noticed that i randomly meet conscious people in strange places and end up having heart warming non-needy conversations. Trust me there's alot of nice people on this planet aswell. What i've done is that i don't spend time with toxic people anymore, more than i have to. When i go to school or meet business associates that are toxic i try to see the good in them. Even if what you are going through seems negative right now, it's not. You are going through a rapid growth process and it takes it's tolls. It's ups and downs.

Just do what feels the right thing to do. Listen to your intuition and make your choice when you are conscious, not when you are lost in your story. From the suffering part, the first breakups are the hardest. It gets easier after that. What makes you suffer the most is the inability to be happy by yourself. But even if you are happy by yourself you will be sad after the breakup and i encourage you to feel that sadness if you end up breaking up with her. Avoiding the feelings makes you suffer more. Just try not to get lost in to the sad story your mind tells you. I think you already understand that detachment from your thoughts wont make you numb to feelings, you just can avoid the unnecessary suffering created by your mind. Good luck.

Don't take drugs, it's as simple as that. Just because Leo uses them with success doesn't mean they are the thing for you. They are not required for spiritual practices, it's just one of the many paths to finding your true self.

Ram Dass once said that a person who acknowledges his sexuality is closer to god than a person that tries to forcefully shut down his/her sexual needs. I think it was well said, for example looking at some extreme cases where priests have molested kids. Keep this in mind when doing nofap. It requires alot of awareness, especially the hardmode. The normal mode also easily converts to sex addiction. It's not any better than being addicted to porn. Except for the fact that you get stage orange ego boost from having sex with multiple women. But all that is illusion, and leads to misery after all. Doing nofap correctly not only requires abstaining from sexual material and touching yourself but also being aware of your sexual thoughts. It's in no way easy, so be compassionate on yourself if you relapse. Anyhow! I recommend trying nofap. It actually leads to healthy relationship with opposite sex, aswell as your own sexuality. Getting laid is easier too when on nofap. Just take in consideration what i wrote above. I've been on nofap for a year in a row now.

@Logoi do you have a link to that meditation?

@ardacigin Valid points. What do you think about reminding yourself to be present at everyday life? I try to bring awareness to my daily activities as often as i can.

You can't think yourself out from this. Having fears about the sensations of fear is creating a cycle of fear. You answer to your fear with fear. The spritual awakening makes you more aware of your feelings. That is why you feel those somatic symptoms so strongly. And having those physical symptoms just means your body is functioning correctly. Your mind tells your body that it's in danger and it causes fight or flight response which then causes all kinds of physical sensations. You are fine, the fear is illusion. Take your focus from your thought to the feeling. Hold it there. If you loose your focus to your thought stream, bring it back to the physical sensation. You can allso try observing your thoughts. Face them. They are unreal. Nothing to be afraid of. Be compassionate to your fearful mind. If the fear arises again you know that you are lost in your thoughts. The fear is here to help you awaken. It's your spiritual teacher.

This is a really good video about the subject. I've been going through extreme fears during this path. I hope you well, it will pass.

The enlightened cat.

Ok thank you. You have great discipline!

I can relate to that as i experience it occasionally but cant yet keep it at all times. How often and much do you meditate? My meditation habit has always been on/off. But i bring myself to the "now" during the normal daily activities several times a day.

Did you notice one turning point from anxiety to calmness or was it more of a gradual change over the time to your current state?

Thank you for sharing this, he has some really helpful insights.

Really? 3000$? It's not rocket science to talk with females.

Appreciation is healthy. Good for you.

Hi! I've made this fascinating notice now that i've been on this path for 4 years. I can hold myself pretty well in the present moment, and when i'm in that state my thoughts don't really matter and i'm just enjoying the moment. However i very rarely go like angry etc, but i've noticed that if i do, and decide to express that feeling. I can feel that anger or w/e negative feeling so much stronger than before, it's like it goes through amplifier or something. It's so crazy, it's impossible to not be aware of it. I was just wondering if this is something other people have noticed on this journey because it was just so fascinating to watch myself go full blast unconscious hahahahaha. But the feelings are so intense, i didn't feel it like that before i started this journey. But please share your experiences!

Hi! Have you guys noticed when you get more rooted to your being that you start to get more vulnerable and emotional. I sometimes even find myself crying for the sake of going from lost in my mind state-> to appreciating what is. It's not like sad ego victim crying, it's more like something beautiful. And it feels so good that it also makes me laugh.

Good to hear guys, i kinda knew the answer deep inside but i feel it's good to get some feedback from others at times to know you are not deluding yourself. I'm reading Matt Kahn's book "what ever arises, love that". I actualy bought it 4 years ago but when i first started reading it i couldn't understand it. Eckhart Tolle's teachings were much more clear for me back then. But now that i started reading Matt's book again, giving it a second chance it resonates deep within. Great book, i recommend it. Tolle's books are great aswell.

Think of it this way, if someone approaches you desperatly wanting something from you, how would you react? Even if you don't seem needy outwards if your motivation to dating girls is getting something from them you send them energies of neediness that they pick up and the reaction is as you've witnessed. It's the same thing other way around, if i get approached by a needy girl it's a total turn off for me. Girls often however don't act like that, the neediness of girls comes when they already know you and have had sex with you and then they are needy to take things further to get you commited to relationship etc. It's way easier to get rid off neediness than transcending your sexual energy, i would start with that. Start nofap->your sexuality starts to normalize from pornbased sexuality->focus on getting your confidence great->you attract girls with just who you are.