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@The0Self Here's the product. Unless I'm missing something, they're claiming 250mg per piece. Are they misleading their customers? https://www.organicshroomcanada.ca/product/wonder-psilocybin-chocolate-bar-milk-chocolate/

@Tim R Also, this guy says there's 10mg per gram

@Elevated 250mg per piece. The bar contains 12 pieces for a total of 3000mg. So that's roughly 3 grams of mushrooms for the whole bar?

@Tim R So 1000mg =1 gram mushrooms? I know that's roughly speaking, because batches vary in potency.

Just got mine in the mail. It says each piece contains 250mg psilocybin. It also says that a moderate dose is roughly 4 pieces, which amounts to 1000mg! Based on what I've read, that's a MASSIVE dose! The bar, in its entirety, is supposedly equivalent to 3 grams of mushrooms. I've done 3.5 gram trips probably a dozen times, but I was young and ignorant back then and only did it for recreation. Now I'm revisiting psychedelics five years later and I'm doing them for personal development work. I want to take a powerful enough dose to induce a deeply altered state of consciousness, but I don't want to overdo it. Can anybody here shed light on dosing protocol? Would one piece suffice? Most of the dosing guidelines I've found speak in terms of grams, rather than mg. Also, has anyone tried this product before?

I get the sense that confusing the map for the territory means to dogmatically adhere to models and belief systems, when in reality, you may need to think and act outside those models and beliefs to properly navigate towards a successful outcome. For instance, if I have a map, and it tells me to walk through a canyon to get to town on the other side, but the entrance to the canyon has collapsed, I can't use the map. I now have to devise an alternative way to get to town. Maybe I'm completely off-base, though.

I want to develop the type of strength women are drawn to. How do I develop it in myself?

It's pretty simple, actually. You look over their profile. You ask them a question in reference to their profile 2, 3, maybe 4 back-and-forths. Then you set up a video/phone call to see if there's chemistry. Corey Wayne, a dating coach, says these phone/video calls should be 10-15 minutes long, and if you two click, you say something along the lines of, "We should grab coffee/tea/drinks, what's your schedule look like?" The idea is that you want something casual that can evolve into dinner if things go well. Take her for drinks/appetizers/tea, and have 2-3 other places nearby, one of them being a spot for dinner. Also, remember to make a definite date, meaning you establish the day, time, and place. And you plan the logistics. She doesn't want to have to do that. She just wants to show up, look pretty, and have a great time. You want to take her to 2-3 different spots in any given date, because that supposedly has the psychological effect of being on 2-3 different dates, and women are most likely to sleep with a guy after the second or third date. This raises the odds of getting laid on date 1. Read How to Be a 3% Man. It will help you with online dating, and with your dating game in general. For what it's worth, I tend the make the video call a video date - typically lasts an hour, and then I'll reach out a few days later if I enjoyed the conversation. This isn't what Corey advises, but I still have a pretty high success rate. That said, I haven't tried the 10-15 minute approach. Go get em!

Specifically when studying theory. If I'm reading a book on relationships, is there a difference between thinking critically about what I'm reading vs. contemplating what I'm reading? If so, what are the differences?

Bump. Would appreciate Leo's perspective.

@Leo Gura Can a man be kind and still show strength? The type of strength women are naturally drawn to?

@somegirl What are the rules?

@Leo Gura It only took you a few months to completely turn things around in your love life? Please share more.

I've been studying Corey Wayne's How to Be a 3% Man to get better with women. I've dabbled in dating/attraction/relationships since my early 20s, and now, at 26, I'm doing a deep dive to finally get the part of my life down. I have grown a lot in this area of my life, going from clueless virgin who couldn't get a date to going on dates consistently most weeks. Feels good. Thing is, I always end up getting rejected. I'd say 95% of the women I date end up leaving within 1-8 weeks. It never lasts. I know I'm doing shit to gradually lower attraction. It's painful as hell when it happens with the ones I like. I want to know if I can contemplate a question such as, Why do I always get rejected? I know that contemplation is typically reserved for "What is" questions, such as, "What is truth?" I'm wondering if I can use the mechanics of contemplation to explore my problems with women. If so, how do I do this? If I understand correctly, I sit with a journal, write the question at the top of the page, admit to myself I don't know the answer, then ponder the question and only use direct experience and concrete examples to arrive at answers. I also do this without being attached to finding the "correct" answer. Is there anything else I'm missing?

@Hardkill No, I have not. While I don't like ranking women's attractiveness using numbers, for the purposes of this conversation, most of them have been in the 6-7 range, with two or three 8s.

@Bando This is excellent advice. Any recommended sources?

I read that women will never give you a straight answer because they're emotional creatures and will therefore sugarcoat and BS because they want to spare your feelings. That said, I took that teaching at face-value. I'm going to field-test it by conducting some market research right now! Will report results.

I was 18-20 at the time. I have done a TON of work on myself since then. I no longer consider myself an insecure person. That's not to say I don't have insecurities though. Going to do this now. Will report results.

No. Typically the women I date reach out almost always. The last girl I was hooking up with only made initial contact once - after our first date. Each time after that I was reaching out once a week until she became distant, backed off, gave excuses, etc. The typical "I'm not interested anymore" behaviors. I have no problem going for the kiss, asking women back to my place, and hooking up. Sex isn't the issue for me. Maintaining and increasing attraction is. Yep. I don't think so. I mean, I try to make the dates fun and special. I open doors for women and I take their coat when they come over. We cook dinner and stuff. But I'm not taking them to fancy restaurants, dropping huge $$$ on them, talking about love and relationships, showering with compliments, etc. Sometimes I violate the 70-80% rule, because I want to chime in and contribute to the conversation. I'd say, on average, it's a 40-60 split in her favor. I figure that 70-80% is a guideline and that the conversation should flow authentically, and if I have something to say, I want to say it. Well, I'll start touching women when they start touching me. That said, I don't touch them much until we're in the bedroom. I'll go for the kiss, hold hands on and off, make out intermittently, cuddle on the couch if we're at my place, etc. But I'm not putting my hands on her much outside the bedroom. Of course, once we're in the bedroom, that's a whole other story. With eye contact, I have no problem making eye contact with women, but I'm not into this whole "keep looking her in the eye until she looks away first" thing. After a while we're just staring each other down and it gives me an uncomfortable vibe. Body language? In my chair, I'm usually leaned back and open. Sometimes I move around because of nerves and because I tend to by on the hyperactive side. When I'm standing in front of her, my arms are typically hanging by my sides, center exposed, square with her. Sometimes I put my hands in my pockets. Easy when I can take her or leave her. When I like her it hurts. Maybe I can become 100% indifferent even to the ones I like, but there's also a part of me that tells me I'm a human being and of course I'm going to be more emotional over the girls I really dig. I consider myself characteristically happy and optimistic. Stoked on life, and where I'm headed. Got this down. Thing is, they stop reaching out after a while, and then they're gone. There's an issue with my game. Probably multiple issues, and I'm not seeing them. Very frustrating. On track with my purpose, super clean, whole-foods, vegetarian diet, exercise 4 days per week, meditate daily, drink only water filtered through a Berkey, express gratitude daily, affirmations and visualizing, getting 7-8 hours of sleep, lots of passions, well-traveled, pretty cultured, read lots, investing and building my wealth, independent, well-groomed, etc. Still can't keep a woman interested lol (not that I'm doing those things for women. I do them for me).

@Hardkill Lost my virginity at 18. Have slept with between 30-50 women. I feel comfortable around women when I'm dating them, and I have no problem seducing them. It's keeping them attracted that's the issue for me. Again, within 1-8 weeks I've lost them. I've had one girlfriend. We dated for 2 years: 18-20. It was highly dysfunctional and co-dependent. We were both painfully insecure. I've come a long way since then, let me tell you!

Topic. Can't I just determine if something is true by going out and putting it into practice? The feedback I get from reality will tell me if it has legs.

What does this mean? What's an SD? This will be a challenge. Why should I contemplate something if it doesn't have a chance to help me move towards what I want? Definitely have these lol That answers my second question. Quite counter-intuitive, but a lot of the avenues to success are! The challenge would then be becoming attached to not becoming attached, because I'm attached to getting deep insights. So unconsciously processing something? Could you say this another way? So when the mind is quieted, it makes space for insight from a higher intelligence? But don't I need to contemplate to arrive at insights, and if so, aren't I thinking, and therefore taking up "space"? How do I contemplate without the intellect? As far as I understand, the intellect is the tool for contemplation. I've never had a non-dual experience. Is this even feasible for me, given my current level of development? Infinite intelligence? I don't even know what that is! Please say more about the meta-adventure So questions I have a hard time moving up the scale with? What does this mean? Agreed! Your vibration attracts people and other things into your life. The higher your vibration, the more beautiful life becomes! What does this mean? What do you mean by reciting? What do you mean by polarity for communication? This last part is deep. Probably the nugget that resonates with me the most. Thank you for taking the time to share this!

@Leo Gura What I think you're saying, and correct me if I'm wrong, is that falling off the cliff, fundamentally, simply is. "Bad" is a projection of my mind in an attempt to maintain the survival of the ego and physical organism. I'm not blind to the fact that contemplation is an avenue for arriving at objective Truth. Going back and forth with you guys is leading me to conclude that contemplation plays a role in stage orange pursuits (currently where I am, for the most part), but becomes a more regular and prevalent aspect of life as I move up the spiral.

@Nahm Contemplation, to me, is taking a teaching and asking questions about it, such as, is this true? What makes it true? What evidence have I seen for and/or against this assertion? If it is true, what implications does it have for ____? If it's true, how do I need to change my approach to doing _____? But oftentimes, this just seems like overthinking to me. Also, if I have a faulty perception of contemplation, please correct me.

@Origins You seem angry. Perhaps you should contemplate the implications of becoming reactive over a rather neutral and constructive criticism of your writing style. What does that say about your degree of emotional maturity? Hey! I think I'm staring to see the merit of this whole contemplation thing!