BjarkeT

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  1. @Captain Flint exactly what i am thinking?
  2. Just because he is late doesn't have to mean he is dead he is human too stuff could come up and it have happen before that the video got delayed a day if we don't hear anything at all from him after a month or so then it make sense to start worrying
  3. I think some of the things that plays key role is self discipline(not just a little but as much as you possibly can), pratice and of course remove all distractions if it something that you have to learn i highly recommend reading deep work by cal newport
  4. Maybe instead of waiting for opportunitys to come to him maybe he would have a better chance if he created the opportunitys him self btw about being passionate the reason why I recommended the book is because most people get passion wrong and therefore doesn't feel very happy at what they do so it could be worth reading for example some people believe that you have a pre existing passion and you just should go out and do that then you will feel happy but it turns out the research according to the book shows that this isn't the best way to feel passionate about what you do one of the things the researched showed that how people ended up being passionate had a much more complicated beginning than that and it was first once they became extremely good (for example at the level of top performers in the field)that they felt passionate about what they did. Being really good wasn't the only thing that made them feel really good about what they did there where of course other things that also where important but being really good was one of the important things to feel passionate about what you did I really hope everything turns out well
  5. So your life isn't wasted and you get what you want out of it
  6. The best thing would probably be to get him professional help from someone who really know what they are doing and maybe also read self help books that might be relevant to the situation otherwise the best thing i can come up with might be to send him a link to these books so good they can't ignore you and deep work by cal newport the books explain how you can become really passionate about your career and how you can become really good at what you do i hope everything turns out well kind regards
  7. @WaterfallMachine thanks for the suggestions it looks very interesting so far the goal isn't to overthink but just for a better understanding and more clarity
  8. Hi i have been thinking about that it maybe could be a good idea to consciously sit down for a specific time (for example 20 minutes per day) and really think things through not necessarily overthinking but just for better clarity or/and understanding of something for example sometimes throughout the day something comes up for example if there was something you wasn't capable of doing and therefore might think you never might be able to do it and if you don't really think things through you might stick with the conclusion that you really can't do it for a long period of time which could maybe have some bad consequences but if you really think it through what happen it could turnout that you would find a reason that it wasn't true at all that you couldn't do it but maybe because of something else going on at the time it could really be anything that you could think through for better clarity and understanding from experience i have found that if you aren't careful a lot of thoughts through time and throughout the day could come and go without been thinking through which sometimes can give you unnecessary limits/consequences Any thoughts on this? kind regards
  9. @Gabriel Antonio isn't it because we aviod pain that causes neuroticism and will power action and effort is what you use to heal(for lack of better word) it? I rember in a video called how to deal with strong negative emotions leo said something similar
  10. sometimes it can be easy to aviod problems and just do them later but sometimes it can actually make things worse if you wait to long what if you instead face everything 24/7? i think it would be interesting to know if leo have some information on facing everything 24/7 kind regards
  11. https://www.udemy.com/courses/search/?ref=home&src=ukw&q=Blog
  12. I think a video on how to make true improvement in personal development would be cool but also because it could give a more clear idea of how you should improve if you want to make true progress for example if you are an neurotic person an not aware of it an begin to start making improvement from there could your improvements just be adding an extra layer on your problems or not truly fix the real cause of the problem? And so the time you spend trying to fix your problems doesn't really give you any benefits and are most likely wasted. I know leo have a video called the art of solving problems permanently which is really cool but it would be awesome if he could make an other video thats maybe goes deeper in to the topic or exspand on the topic for example it looks like being radical honesty (a pretty good book) also talk a little similar about to this hope it makes sense kind regards
  13. He talks about the topic in less than 5/10 minutes in one of the most useful concepts I have found so far
  14. This video might be help full http://www.phillipwells.com/2015/03/scott-peck-on-love.html I highly recommend reading the full book (the road less traveled) by scott m peck
  15. I personal think the key is self discipline even when you aren't motivated just keep going because you know it's important
  16. @LaucherJunge i am not denying that but what i mean is for example you could still be fully aware off something that's difficult to do for example something you know you want to say to an other person or if it's hard to meet new people face to face or for example if there is a difficult math problem you need to learn and then chose not to do it or just do it later when you feel more ready to do it or for example if you are fully aware that you have a fear of height and then chose not to take the airplane you know you should have chosen what i mean by faceing everything is what if you instead of waiting until you feel ready to do it or just to do it later you face it now even if it might be a difficult situation as there could be some disadvantage to chose to do it later(for example it might actually make it even more difficult to face the situation) but if this is what you mean then it's just an other way of saying it which i agree with ?
  17. Hi i am thinking that a lot of problems can come from lack of facing difficult situations and sometimes things can get worse if one is waiting to face it later but what if you face every single thing that is happening to you 24/7? A bit similar to how leo explain to deal with strong negative emotions here Any thoughts on this? kind regards
  18. @LaucherJunge i am not really sure if it's the same thing as you could still be present and chose not face a specific situation
  19. @LaucherJunge i mean pretty much every single(no matter how small or how big) thing both situations outside and inside (but of course it's important to take full responsibility also)
  20. That one might have learning disabilities from what I know about learning what seems to be important is how you do it and there seems to be some good research on how to learn effectively and it really does deepened on how you learn that is essential for what results you get as for example if you just repeatedly practice something over and over again you might not get the best results the research shows that to really improve you need to be doing deliberate practice which is to practice on the edge of your comfort zone and get feedback on where to improve(there is probably more on deliberate practice than that) and for example one of the reason some might have difficult to focus might be because of something called attention residue which is something you get everytime you switch your concentration to something else and it can damage your ability to think intensely which can be important to understand ideas (the key to avoid attention residue is to embrace boredom) i think unfortunately not enough people research on learning on how to learn and therefore doesn't know how you should learn what you want to learn which is why they might have difficulty to learn what they want to learn
  21. I don't really think it adds an extra layer of dimension but that it just exist in the 3rd dimensions like other things does Here is something that might be interesting
  22. http://calnewport.com/blog/2009/02/04/have-we-lost-our-tolerance-for-a-little-boredom/ http://calnewport.com/blog/2014/09/13/deep-habits-jumpstart-your-concentration-with-a-depth-ritual/ http://calnewport.com/blog/2014/04/08/work-accomplished-time-spent-x-intensity/ http://www.businessinsider.com/theodore-roosevelt-productivity-trick-2016-1?r=US&IR=T&IR=T http://calnewport.com/blog/2014/03/23/deep-habits-should-you-track-hours-or-milestones/ http://calnewport.com/blog/2016/09/06/a-productivity-lesson-from-a-classic-arcade-game/ http://calnewport.com/blog/2009/06/08/drastically-reduce-stress-with-a-work-shutdown-ritual/ focusing with great intensity should be a great way to read faster and understand more in less time i highly recommend reading deep work by cal newport for more information
  23. Fully feel the emotion without resistance and really dig deep (maybe even deeper than you first might think) into the source of a problem and to fine a permanent solution (always look inside for the solution not outside) an other thing that really help to get results is to set a lot of time to only doing what you want to improve and nothing else http://mindfulbydesign.com/not-all-effort-is-created-equal/ These are the two videos where he talks about it if i rember right here is also an other good one if the goals is to be more confident An other thing you could do to get more confidence is to write like you would with a journal but with the goal to be more conscious where you lack confidence through out the day so for example everytime you lack confidence write it down but try to write it in as much detail as possible this i think will help to be more aware of where you want to improve your confidence
  24. I highly recommend watching this
  25. the only thing i really know about time travel is that its only possible to travel to the future but not the past if you travel at the speed of light in space for some years and come back to earth, earth should have gone through more time than you have