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It's a feeling, it's as real as it gets for you. Justifications sound like something to appeal to/not upset the collective - which isn't what you want deep down anyway. Deep down you want to live your truths.

@patricknotstar True I generally don't take it well .

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@StarStruck You really don't need to justify not wanting to dance with certain people rofl. No guilt, just have fun! Enjoy the life you have.

Sorry to hear about your frustrations. It truly is the 'untrapping' once you're on the other side. Don't give up! But yes maybe take a break from it. Sometimes things don't go in a 'linear' fashion and come to you unexpectedly.

It's like an intense version of the 'bubbling up' of emotions that were trapped/suppressed. And it's so intense that it seemingly throws the person out of control.

Honestly you should really only compare with yourself/your own progress, otherwise it can be overwhelming and you become discouraged to stay on the path. There's often a 'dip' when working at something and it can be easy to give up during this phase even though you're still actually progressing, just not as obvious. Once you come out of the 'dip' you will see progress. The key is to motivate yourself not to give up on something you cared about. Maybe find more people who can encourage you, sometimes it can be hard to do it all by yourself.

I thought the definition of friendzone is you're not more than 'friends'... not some friends with benefits situation lol.

@StarStruck Maybe it's a great opportunity to collapse the duality between 'old' and ' young' . Not that you have to dance with them.

@integral you're on a streak today. ?

Art is essential, but is difficult to exist without all the other survival stuff being taken care of, just like spirituality - which often merges with art. As an aside: one can infuse spirituality and art into anything, including engineering. Also your profile pic is Steve Jobs, his success came because of an appreciation for artistry.

@integral I honestly have trouble telling if you're trolling or being real... I think the former... ? cracked me up.

Good for you!! I feel the same way. Honestly a turn off when a guy needs the woman to be shaved..??‍♀️ why not appreciate the feminine beauty that nature endowed us with?!?!?? (Do agree that shaving hair makes one feel childlike rather than sexy/womanly)

@John Paul plot twist OP falls in love with the FWB girl.

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@something_else imo it doesn't necessarily matter if it's a man or woman, what matters is if the person got some feelings involved and the other party simply didn't in the first place but proceeds anyway as if they also had some mutual feelings. So it's more like being deceived if anything. But I can't speak for @Preety_India as people have unique preferences.

@Thought Art He's not banned, I guess he's just not participating right now.

Yeah it has the feeling of being treated like a free prostitute I think. Which is worse than a prostitute coz at least they get paid lol. But I've heard that's a lot of women's experience on apps like Tinder these days. But nothing 'wrong' if it was something mutual I guess and it was made clear and you're not pretending it's going somewhere else romantically.

LoL can't really help you as if I didn't vibe with somebody I wouldn't want to sleep with them either or find that appealing. There's nothing 'morally wrong' if the person doesn't think there is. But there has to be an attraction at least I feel.

Honesty about where you are and that it's not a one way street (that they are also allowed to explore others if they wanted) and reminding them consistently that you're not in a place to "commit" to one particular person etc. I know it can be awkward as hell sometimes but that's what it takes imo is to have these "awkward" conversations. All of this sort of transparency is required in ethical non-monogamy.

Makes sense to me. Lately, I am finding that too the connection with being-ness makes me very grounded. From this place, I can love anybody, and I feel love deeply, without having to form some kind of 'physical relationship' at times but if it happens I also embrace it, else I just enjoy whatever interaction I get. So it's kind of like a detached and whole-some place. I'm not 100% there all the time (maybe it's easier for some people without an overactive bio drive lol), but definitely can relate to what you're saying.

@Danioover9000 Well in that case 'fake it till you make it' might work for you. You can put out some stuff and cater to what people are loving, and that becomes your passion, is to make stuff a group of people love. I guess unless you also feel a strong opposite pull to not do this or somehow not your character that could be a struggle. See how you really feel about it! It's at least gotta be something you can consistently do.

Imo it's a 'distraction' from working on yourself. Same with girls, make-up and stuff are a kind of distraction, though yes I can appreciate it from time to time, it's not something I would depend on if that makes sense. It's like relying on your looks as a woman which yes may be more valued than men's appearance in today's society/how most attraction works, but working on yourself in other aspects whether you're a guy or girl does matter. I guess it all depends on your priorities though, if you're okay with attracting someone who is mostly interested in the physical aspects etc that's fine, but if you're trying to attract someone with more substance height really don't matter (as much as you think it does).

@TruthSoldier Are you referring to Tier 3?? Saw this the other day may be what you're looking for.

@Sempiternity ahaha, I am pretty sex-positive but yeah maybe not like that. But you do you! I'm just a passerby.