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I am not taking the highest recommended dosages for those. Maybe you can cut it to where it's not affecting you negatively like that.

^This.

The odds are in your favor. We're wired to be social. Start noticing that everyone wants to feel desired and loved in some shape or form. When you feel the abundance abound you'll stop chasing and naturally attract who you're meant to be around.

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LoL.

Find ways to give yourself income that's not from a typical job. Find ways to live your life the way you see fit that represents "your true self" within the limitations. More and more you will find the power is within you to do so. Dare to be different from the crowd, despite the temporary costs, gossips, demonization. If living your truths is worth everything to you you will find a way.

No need to feel guilty just enjoy it when you do, sounds like you're a very moderate drinker to me .

What I've discovered is that it's not just about those things. You are prob vibrating on a different plane than most, and thus ideally you want to find someone also vibrating on that plane. This may be one of the reasons it seems harder for you than it may be for others - and the many rejections and heartbreaks. It is not just a matter of external factors. The thing is even if you did get a sweet or hot girl lets say, if you don't vibrate on a similar plane it won't feel very good for long. But that's just my experience. Maybe you'd be good with just a relief for once.

Let me know if you find anything that 'tones sexual energy down' that's not a pharmaceutical kthanks.

Not a bad thing she literally told you it's a dealbreaker so it won't work/saves you time. Not much point in trying to skirt around the issue or hide your preferences (and hers) until later.

Sexuality is a spectrum/web of complexities. I don't view it as black and white usually and it also can evolve throughout your life. Just stay open to the possibilities and don't shame yourself for having certain feelings that may be deemed 'outliers', and stay open to exploring your curiosities.

I believe those are highly treatable/healable conditions if done right and root cause is being addressed, not to diminish what the person is going through. It can be a complex process but generally speaking nurturing environment and ongoing therapy for starters.

That was beautiful thank you for sharing .

Seems not or not very much based on his posts.

There aren't many young people in Tier 2s in both genders (though I guess more skewed towards men just based on this forum demographics). This might change as we get older.

Not sure where you're from but in North America, most places have a distress line number you can call and you can ask them to give a call to your friend. As well you should give that number to him when saying you're not the right person to help him (it would help if you could at least tell him you're concerned about him). He probably just needs to talk it out with someone who's trained to do this and that's what those numbers are for if he has nobody else/close friend to go to.

@Joel3102 Also masochism/borderline suicidal tendencies that are unaddressed. Not what you're describing but that's also a reason some people drink more than they prob should..

@Rigel Basically yea. No arguments there.

@A_v_E Oh that's neat, yeah I imagine it'll happen soon/happening. And maybe one day they could translate songs too I listen to a lot of Jrock.

LoL, funny one time I was attempting to translate one of Leo's spiral dynamics videos on youtube to Chinese (subtitle), it was going to take forever, doable but needs some manpower.

LoL yes I love craft beer for one mostly to see what people came up with, but might get over that one soon. Sometimes I just get the nonalcoholic ones but the selection is more limited there.

Yeah I did that for about a month. Plus they came much quicker than the detox ones so timing worked out there!

Sounds like you're already pretty frustrated and I don't think that's going to work or be good for you. I don't see why you should have a different standard for your intimate relationship vs friendship. Maybe fear of loneliness is keeping you from breaking things/looking for a better fit. There's only so much one can compromise before it becomes detrimental to your overall long term happiness/satisfaction with life.

Could always just avoid going to bars/restaurants to start off. Maybe go to a cafe instead.

It's more like a mindset that good sex comes out of: Completely owns his sexuality and is not at all intimidated by mine/adores it.