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What does it mean to you?

That's a really good find!!

It really depends on the employer... some lean more towards theoretical and conceptual questions and others a mix of that and code question.. I mean yeah 30 min doesn't seem like enough for a lot of coding questions, but you never know...

This may sound shocking, but I would argue that sex workers might have (potentially) higher self-esteem than some random girl, especially if they know what they're doing and running it like a business. And if they don't normally give it out for free, why would it be different with a random guy who aren't even going to pay for it? Something to think about as you're operating on the assumption that "sex workers are easier". I apply this same idea with psychologists, lot of them literally refuse to talk to even friends about their mental health problems, and ask them to book paid sessions with them.

@Raze @something_else The problem with talking about any issue by only looking at/picking apart "extremists" and the most unreasonable, un-nuanced, and biased "activists" is that it derails the whole discussion as if there is nothing worth examining, reflecting on, or discussing, and also often this gets extended to a whole entire group of people, implying they all are extremely biased and without nuance. The left often picks on the most extreme examples of the right, and the right often picks the most extreme examples of the left as arguments for their position being the better one. The point isn't to pick on the extremists but to try to be as objective as one can when an issue is raised. Tall order I know.

LOL maybe we need to start learning how to make them at this rate.

@UnbornTao No, I am saying people use psychedelic substances for different reasons and generally have not been for the purpose of awakening/understanding the nature of reality. They generally don't even know that's a possibility for them.

Self-love is important too, so taking care of your own basic survival (and even thriving/self-actualizing) gives you more room to be more loving to others. Like he said you want whatever love you give to be from a genuine place, so if it's not what you're capable of in that situation then it's not good to try to force that.

I'm assuming you're talking about a 'romantic relationship' kind of situation here. I think that's where 'compatibility' comes in. The more you're in alignment with those things (eg, interests) the more everyone involved could fulfill their desires/self-expression, self-exploration, and self-actualization.

Well this was well-timed to your question...

Something like filling your Maslow's hierarchy of needs and then you are well-positioned to radiate love/truth/goodness.

This has been my observation as well. I've spoken to quite a few people now who have done a lot of psychedelics and are still dealing with personal matters/mental health stuff, "seeing spirits" and telling more stories to themselves from the trips. So yes it's generally not going to happen if one is not ready for it. And I agree that it cannot be forced upon someone who's not ready.

@Hardkill I recommend Anand Giridharadas' and Marianne Williamson's takes on this. Marianne talks often about the movements you mentioned and how it relates to the current state of things.

Use the analyzing as a tool only and only when you need it to help you. You don't need much of it to produce a result. What are you trying to create/attract/get to? And what's the path of least resistance? See that over complicating things is just a delay tactic between you and the thing.

@Ramu Yeah sorry to hear that! It's a lot of money for most folks here. Btw have you tried mushrooms? They were much easier to get in my area.

I think pick-up is best used to develop skills around attraction, same could be said for women I do think there are skills/awareness involved in developing attraction on both sides. There are more conscious ways of doing short-term dating and there are less loving/conscious ways of doing it, and it's a pretty wide spectrum. There's a very clear difference between someone who learns pick-up skills because they like to be with women/develop intimacy with women vs. someone who's looking for a quick fix/ego-boost without really wanting to know the other person or really see them even as a person. There's no joy to be around someone who clearly both dislikes women and wants/expects sex from them at the same time. It's something I can easily pick up these days and have no interest in being around. The best situation is rare where you find your "soulmate"(s), and I think pick-up/short-term dating is more to fill the gaps when you don't have that in your life yet.

@Ramu Yeah same I am re-ordering stuff from a different place coz the previous one didn't seem to work out (the website is no longer even around), and I got the recommendation from a member here too. Can be a challenge for sure.

This is what happens when you treat people like commodities and one-dimensionally.

It's more nuanced, it's very easy for "confidence" to turn into narcissism or being emotionally shut off, and that's not very attractive or great for connecting... a balance of the ability to be vulnerable and having a good amount of self-assurance is so much more appealing in my book.

Well said. One of the main things I am realizing is that you can only really expect to give unconditional love, and not expect in return, but that it may get "reflected back" in some unexpected ways. It's easier said than done , but that's the "purification process" if you want to be an agent of light in this world as we are now.

Maybe it's "hopeless" if you believe that it's hopeless .

@Emrie I guess it depends. Sometimes we can "go along" with people externally so it doesn't cause more problems for us (practically speaking), sometimes when it's opportune, it's worthwhile to stand up for ourselves. Internally it's good to always know where you stand with things, but intelligently navigate other people as you go on. Many such challenges will keep appearing and each time we have to assess whether it's "worth the fight". I would say most times it's good to flex that muscle especially if you haven't been doing it. You might be amazed at how things quickly turn around.

@Adodd I upped my water intake this time and seems to have helped with the headache so far!

I've been experiencing light headaches post mushroom trips, it's fairly mild but persistent for days afterwards nonetheless. I am wondering if anyone has any remedies for this (aside from doing fewer trips). Much appreciated!

@bambi What specific symptoms besides head pressure? Is it things like fatigue and a general feeling of being unwell? There could be a few reasons for it depending. I have struggles like that and am still investigating it with a naturopath and it's been 2 years like this maybe I can share some clues so you can investigate for yourself too. For its own sake really, to know the truth Not if that's not what you want.