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It's not "necessary" but it is currently how God is experiencing reality - through differentiation, seperation. More dissolution of the ego and return to the singularity of consciousness will diminish such things. Both are valid ways for consciousness to express itself. There's what you might call "limitations" of both. But it is possible for one to increase the embodiment of Love to the point where differentiation is not nearly as important. It's a kind of spectrum you can slide back and forth..

Sounds like some trauma being stirred up.

Yeah.. I heard it's not that easy to do. Certain skills easier than others.

??? Though it's not making much sense what you say either... Why would you poison yourself? Are you a masochist???

It's very possible if you're open and can go deep into things. How long you can maintain it that's another question I guess and requires conscious effort.

Yeah that sums things up... One can still find love for just about anyone.. it can be great fuel for increasing your capacity to love if you accept the challenge. It's just a big ask of most now, so we shouldn't demand people to love anyone (including "narcissists"). That all has to come from within. Healing and some distance apart from so-called "narcissists" seems to help with that..

Y'all should move to Canada. Well it's not perfect but I appreciate many things here in comparison...

So you're just posting shit.

What does that have to do with anything?

LOL... it's either this or the dating section.

There're patterns with men and women, but there are always exceptions to those patterns. The more you project your ideas of how a man or a woman is supposed to be the more that becomes what you see. For someone to reach their full potential, we need more people who hold the space for any possibility to arise, than projecting our ideas of how things should turn out. That's the problem when I see you guys talk about men and women as only good for one thing and not other things. With every generalized statement you can make a counter statement (plenty of good fathers and bad mothers, and vice versa, just ask a psychologist). Being a woman does not at all by default mean you're a better parent - it's a skill that requires cultivating beyond a baseline like most things. I could easily make the counter argument that women are not good parents as psychologists will tell you that most problems of their patients are from their mothers and especially the mother-daughter and mother-in-law/daughter-in-law relationship. The harm I see in this kind of assumption is that it tends to create a society where men do not pay much attention to their children because they simply "trust" that the woman will do a good job. This can actually cause a lot of harm when there's simply no involvement at the extreme end of things. Of course I am biased too, and I do recognize the general patterns/tendencies between the genders. But thought I'd point out these things as they have become too obvious to ignore.

@AuroraDream @Loba You guys need some more nuance here geebuz. Of course ultimately it is up to you.

I mean it depends on your tolerance level really. You could try to nudge the conversation in that direction but ultimately if she has no interest you can't do much about it.. You could simply say "I am really interested in this topic, is that something you'd be curious about?" And if the answer is leaning towards no.. I think you would have to let it go, and maybe find your need for more intellectual/spiritual conversations elsewhere. So you have to determine how important this is to you. Can you give her the love she deserves without wanting to change her all the time?? The thing is for me if I can't connect on a spiritual level there is no reason for me to be with that person and I don't feel attraction. But everyone's tolerance is a bit different. Sometimes someone has an opening, and that opening means there's potential. But I wouldn't count on that either..

Nothing.

Doesn't sound very compatible.

Yes, my dad is also mostly a narcissist, so yeah. I basically had "no parents", they were not there for me on an emotional level. It's always about their problems. The best thing a narcissist can do is not to have kids, but they often do.

@Philipp All valid concerns. I guess I would just add that, you were drawn to it for a reason, and I suspect you were ready to receive the material (no matter your "biological" age or life situation). Because if you weren't ready for it in a spiritual sense, it would not resonate and you would stop consuming (in most cases) and go back to whatever life you were living. However, like you say, the survival stuff still had to be taken care of just by sheer necessity. And when you haven't gotten a good handle on it yet things can seem even harder to do (imagine a very spiritually developed person having to work at a McDonald's or something). There's not an easy answer to survival and something everyone has to deal with and hopefully find ways to thrive than simply survive. Hopefully, you are on your way to cultivating a life that is in alignment with your spirituality. This would be more optimal and harmonious. The reason you're feeling this negativity is perhaps that you haven't yet found a way to live in alignment on the outer with the inner. But this gap can be closed.

Now you guys are giving me ideas.

Good quality men are kind of rare actually. Maybe it doesn't seem that way but if you're a woman trying to date, it would become kind of clear quickly. And for those that "settle", lot of the times it's simply "desperation". Bad family and economic situations (ie, imagine you were both from a bad family situation and your family/society didn't support women training/working and no mental health support) can drive one to be with anyone "acceptable" that comes along. In this kind of case, it takes more integrity for the woman to simply be on her own or figure out a way to. And yeah I'm not saying it's always like that.. mostly what I know of domestic shelter cases.

Depends on what your priority is. Periods where I focused alot more on work stuff (at the expense of social life), started to make me feel depressed. These days I consider forming connections as much of a "life purpose" as anything else. So search your feelings and see what kind of balance works best for you.

Not much new to add here.. you're imagining the DMT entity - which is yourself. And well you should really be listening to your own judgment on taking psychedelics. You are your spirit guide also.

Sorry about that.. I get why one can be torn. I think you already have too much clarity to keep a fake sort of thing going for long. Maybe you could have a relationship where there's a bit more distance, but you still have them in your life.. that's something you can "build". On the flip side, seek out people who might be more in alignment with you and you can "build" your new "fam" so to speak .

LOL I was trying to say it's okay to be a bit picky... as in that might be why someone is choosing to be very secluded.

Well I guess resistance is like you don't really want something but you keep at it anyway; and exhaustion is like you want this thing but you're too worn out to keep going so you have to take a break first before resuming. Does the thing bring up a general positive feeling or a negative feeling? That should be a clue.