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LOL he has been making some motivational ones since the beginning. Maybe you missed them... Similar flavors just not put in those exact words. ? All the best!

Based on a bunch of assumptions is all I'm saying, that weren't true to what I was sharing. I didn't even meet these guys, and I don't even want fwb in the first place. All I'm trying to say is people change their mind all the time. And sometimes don't know themselves.

Lol way to turn this into a bunch of assumptions.

@Loving Radiance Problem with that line of thinking is that this is her "therapist" not some friend. A good healthy/productive therapy relationship is not to be treated lightly because you share a lot of information that you might not just share with anyone. A professional should simply know better in this case when she hears that voicemail. And her response being that dismissive is not okay for someone getting paid to do this work. It's a very obvious conflict of interest case. And a professional would try to refrain from that kind of thing. Like maybe even going as far as shooting OP's idea of suggesting to "help her friend" down in the first place, being able to forsee problems with that ahead of time, for the sake of creating a safe space for OP. This speaks to either lack of experience/training or ethics. It's all good in the end really... Helps people see the potential limitations of therapy.

I don't know about majority... Some seem very conflicted/confused to me. I sense alot of fear of getting hurt/rejected. There are literally guys who say they want fwb but then tell me they want "love" within the same week. And the "feminine" has a say in this too dammit.

Ahaha yeah saw that one. They're babies forever. ?

Found out about this when I was researching about aquarium pets..

Why not embrace some of that? Do you really want the complete opposite... Someone with no attachment to you whatsoever? There are things you can say to lead them to the kind of connection you want, but also appreciate what you have too.

He's a pretty solid resource. I think I just got my fill coz I get his stance and how he approaches current events. Similar with lot of other progressives.

@Devin that's what I meant. Sometimes many lifetimes later for example.

There's a kind of "seriousness" to humor you could say. Because good humor is an embodiment of love and high consciousness, it takes discipline (like to shift yourself to view things in a light-hearted way). It's a kind of leadership, to uplift the spirits around you.

@King Merk you're welcome!

Truth prevails no matter how "buried" they might be in this moment.

Also watch out for the therapist attempting to make you feel sick longer when you're just having a pretty normal proper reaction (like saying "working on trust issues" in this case when clearly she's the one violating that trust). This is a dynamic to keep you going as well even though you may no longer need as much therapy (knowing this takes some self awareness). It can be pretty sneaky. I find especially the "good ones" can sneak this in there when you have an issue with something they're doing. They have alot of power because of how vulnerable you are with them and can easily take advantage of their authority. The more considerate thing for her to do would've been to at least ask you if you would be okay with them talking. Don't be too surprised if one of your therapists by the end of it you come to the realization.."just who was I talking with there?". It doesn't matter even if they're licensed. A good actor can act good for an hour for $150-$200 an hour. It tends to be that the more conscious ones charge less. I generally advise people to use therapy as a peripheral not a primary. The primary healing is in your hands and once you take that authority and responsibility it'll be a lot easier to part ways. It can still be very hard but ultimately the therapy is not a sustainable long term solution. And... we don't know your therapist, I just share bit of my experience to soften the blow if it does happen to you. Trust your gut feelings on it. All the best with it.

Why wait 5 frikingggg years if you can pull the trigger today . Go for it, life's too short to not be where you want to be. What's holding you back? Sounds like you've got plenty of experience already from it. If there's nothing holding you back (ie you are not constrained by earning a certain amount of money or something for example, even that's debatable..), go for it. Don't stay out of a sense of obligation (I know how easy people can guilt you into staying). Watch out for people ped-"stalling" you into staying because of how much they "appreciate you". Contemplate, if your "avatar" only has one more year to live, how would you make this decision? Follow your heart, trust your inner guidance.

Oh yaaaa hell it is! I can be very masculine or feminine depending on the situation. It does not "cancel" each other out, it's simply what feels right in each moment, who/what I am with, what am I doing, etc. The masculine energy is more protective, decisive, and assertive; the feminine energy is more soft and yielding, going with the flow, being more "vulnerable". I think it's very attractive and makes someone more multidimensional (ie more depth).

They amplify what's already there. Sometimes it's a more acute awareness of what's actually the truth of things if your mind is more pure and mostly devoid of delusions, in that case it reveals more of reality to you. But sometimes it's the amplification of what you perceive as reality but not entirely accurate.. and amplifies a "bias" we have maybe due to our past/conditioning. This is more like an area that requires "healing". (Sorta similar to how some people imagine entities for example.) What this shows is you may have an unconscious perception of reality that is "colored" by this paranoia and the trip is showing you this. For reality to be revealed accurately to you one has to "clean out the room" first (clearing personal biases, conditioning, ideas about how reality works..etc). I guess maybe the thing to dig is where you sense this may have come from? Have you been bullied/followed before? Do you feel unsafe in your environment or felt unsafe in the past?

@Eph75 I suggest following your heart, and seems like you could afford to in this case. There was a time when I was transitioning out of employment into self-employment, and I took a 2 month government job. Even though it was this good job on paper, I was pretty miserable and it was a longggg 2 months haha, coz I was just so done with it and wanted to start my own thing.

Sounds a bit unethical to me, should respect your boundaries for it, and you said it isn't the first time so that's huge red flags to me. Doesn't matter whether it's "proper" or not if you don't feel it is (and it is totally reasonable to not have this "conflict of interest" kind of set up), and how you feel matters a lot in that situation/relationship, you're paying them. Like yeah I wouldn't want my therapist to also be seeing say one of my parents lol. I would honestly try to wrap things up and move on.. lot of therapists are mainly driven by money and getting more clients.

@Blackhawk Desire can be this endless pit sometimes.. When you never had a gf or gone on a date, you wish you could just go on a date and hold someone's hand.. or have sex for the first time. But then you're not satisfied for having experienced all that once, twice.., now you want it to always be there. Why not simply love what arises as deeply as you can? And have the courage to let it go if it does decide to "leave you"... to love the fact that what this "other" wants is best for him/her/itself just like how you want to honor your life and your wishes and desires the same? It's ultimately the same coin, whether someone be with you or "leave" you, it's all for love.

Yes humor is often one of the most effective.

That's a very intense schedule! I'd almost treat it as like some kind of intensive training in that case.. but a year is still quite long. I'd take a slightly longer break somewhere in the middle at least to recharge, maybe go somewhere away from your family for that too, like a little retreat. Yeah eating well is super important and having a solid sleep schedule. Can always assess how you're doing as you go and adjust too.

Sense of agency (lack of). Disconnection from truth and love. Getting lost with "group think" (related to above).

Of course, and the resistance (and acceptance) such efforts receive... on and on.