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@Preety_India Actually being selfish can be the healthiest thing for everyone. If you are not harming physically or intentionally other people its ok. How are you going to help others without helping yourself first? Thats true selfish behaviour. I think the problem relies in attachment in relationships instead of simply relating to others. If everyone is centered and not identified with others, it won't affect if you leave. Thats the crude truth and we must learn to accept and love others like that. Thats accepting others people freedom. Otherwise we are being selfish by wanting them to be trapped to our expectations. Even the fact of being expectant of someone explaining why they left, if they dont want to explain it, thats their choice. It would be selfish to force them to explain why they dont want to. One of my ex-gfs which we knew each other from childhood, to school to being my neighboor, after graduating school she blocked me and did not want to talk to me. Even years after I have come to say hi by meeting her randomly on the street and she was not very happy to see me. I asked her if every thing was ok and she said yes but i knew not, but thats okay. I accept it even it hurted and moved on. Shes free to do as she likes.

Yes, thats exactly what I mean by inspiration. You can be inspired to fuck her a couple of times if thats what you truly want. Just be self honest. Maybe your motivation is just to practice. Just watch you dont want to fuck her because thats all you can get. But more to the idea watch how you feel. If you feel needy because you tell yourself you truly want something, theres a lie hidden. Find the true reason. Then proceed. I personally just want to fck high quality girls who I can relate deeply, stimulate me and just be my self. Find your values. And remember great sex involves mind and emotional stimulation. Not attachment, but connection. Win-win. We are the ones even by default already being complete, tend to unconsciously choose desperation and force, thus leading to feel lack. Its when you accept however you feel in this moment and are vulnerable to accept the possibility of other people rejecting, critizicing and making Fun of you. But, being authentic is something to practice. You may feel authentic for a while and fall back into the needy trap to impress and fit in because of unconcious momentum. There has to be a transition from this momentum based on lack to constant authenticity moment to moment. It will be painful to release and accept those lies and negative emotions, but thats the price. And then after this, is when you can make true authentic change just for the sake of it. Neediness is a very tricky thing just as most things from a dual perspective. You might stop feeling needy for a while and fall back into it unknowingly and think you must change something rooted in your subconcious thus making you feel more needy to stop the neediness, when all you had to do was accept that and see the truth of it. Although, when you stop being needy this does not mean there are not more deep rooted beliefs in your unconcious that might pop in another situation. You will get the hand of it through observation of your mind. Its just a matter of accepting the painful truth of our lies and emotions and staying vulnerable/authentic to yourself not others expectations. Why? Because your unconscious mechanism is always trying to help you survive, so out of your awareness its always trying to pull you into lies and fitting in the norm. Your survival is against all trascendental/actualizing work, but ironically its what will make you survive better.

This book is focused towards dating but it can be applied in all of your life areas. Its focused toward neediness. If you are always seeking aproval or worried about others opinions, this book explains neediness very well on a mental level so you can then transitition it into a more spiritual and contemplative manner. Neediness is caused by false beliefs in lack and these beliefs are guided by lack motivations that are often unconcious and continually conditioned towards you by society. I have become very non needy in the past and fallen into neediness again because of society invisible influences. If you are not enlightened yet, you will have to watch your inner frames (values, ethics and motivations) constantly. People will want to make you fit, dont fall for it, is not worth it. I have lived both sides and still prefer to be a prisioner who is inwardly free than a modern slave conditioned by society bullshit. Being vulnerable and accepting your neediness is the first step towards non neediness because if you try to improve non neediness this action implies you need something, thus making you feel needy. But, by simply being and not trying, you can also start to improve/actualize/change yourself by a true desire of inspiration and not lack. Its a paradox you will have to understand. Another ironical thing is that when you accept yourself, people tend to accept you. Also, you dont need to go crazy dating lots of women and get experience necesarily to stop being needy with them. First of all, realize they are a person just like you and their beauty is just their main asset. Land them from those clouds. They shit and pee worst than you. Before and after a date, you want to see if you like her, not the other way around. There are alot of needy manipulative women aswell. From my experience, primal biological sex is not that worthwile. I have played the alpha role and is not worth it, not if you want something deeper. Not if you are awake. Alphas are big kids. Thats all. Its just animalistic empty expression. Sex from a place of deep connection, values and personality match is alot more fulfilling. Its just that the idea of being alpha macho and Fucking loT of girls has alot of social proof and is overrated. Which is an attractive idea to influence and condition your unconcious mind. Planned sex is ok. But good sex is spontaneaous. If both of you are getting along dont hurry anything, it will happen. Unlearn and let go the advice of hurry up or you will loose her, thats needy! Its coming from a fearful motivation of lack. Both of you should get transported and seduced to a total imaginary place out of this world, with no rush or expectation, making love. Leo has spoken about this long time ago in his dating videos and I got him but i also didnt got him fully. Now I do. Im not saying being alpha is bad, its ok. Theres more to it. Authenticity/Honesty. Be feminine and masculine at the same time. (and when I say be feminine is not necesarily to be gay lol. You can be feminine in a seductive way). Is fulfilling and it makes sex alot more deeply fullfiling. You probably have only felt pleasure in your dick and havent activated your sexual energy through your whole body. I think thats what a super saiyan may feel like. If you feel you need to carefully think what to say before going to a girl, you are being needy. The fearful motivation of rejection is there and this implies to your subconcious that you need to impress her because you are not enough as you are at that moment, you are not accepting yourself and being authentic and vulnerable to the possibility of rejection. You just dont want to see it and accept it. You must, and if rejection happens it will be ok for both. Get real and move on. I have gone fullcircle contemplating all aspects of social dynamics, dating, persuasion and the mind. Here is my conclusion. I started practicing alphaness through control (neediness) it doesnt need to be high or constantly shown but still needy. Yes, there are things under your control like your habits, appareance, money, strength etc. And still you can do this things from a place of seeking validation so watch your subconcious motivations. After that, all type of trying to control is complete neediness. The vast 97% of puas are needy. This gives result but only for a short term and survival based place. Manipulation is a low level survival strategy. You will get sex but not the one you are dreaming of. I have learned from the most devilish puas from persuasion to hypnosis to chakras, body language, deception, etc. And how women operate completely. This info is useful to have as a bigger spectrum and to defend yourself. Other than that is needy. High quality fullfilling game may look something like this: 80% Authenticity combined with higher value coming from a place of inspiration. 10% understanding women. And the rest on being socially aware in the present moment. (Presence is crucial). Theres alot more to talk about neediness, but this a good place to start.

Just distract your self for a while and relax. There is no hurry, you are God afterall. And, if you already have lived deep enlightenment experiences, they are not going anywhere lol. Its not like you will just forget what happened. Your soul has it recorded. You just have to recall your spiritual side by pure intention anytime you want and get back on track. Enjoy the illusion while it lasts. After enlightenment you will be too op.

@svnzrs Im in the same position as you. Unfortunately we are born conditioned in a very undeveloped system. I realized the easiest way to make money was to simply work with money directly, not people. Trading is the fastest way to financial freedom. I thought only a few could achieve this, but actually many people are becoming traders now than ever. I believed I could achieve this when I saw a friend of mine buying his new apartment and Mercedes at my age, 22. Many people that have financial freedom through trading are selfish and don't like speaking about it. Specially the top 1% Investors, who have made their way on selling the idea of trading as a very difficult thing to do as if only the chosen ones can do. Complete bullshit. I only dedicate 1 hour few days a week. Probably in 2 years I may achieve financial freedom if I Keep it up. Forget about millions. Just get free. The best thing is, the better you get the less time you have to invest. You stay with one strategy hunting the same stocks or currencies you like over and over since they apply to your technique. Even better, you can make your watchlist of stocks come on automatic and trade them automatically when they hit the point you want. All from your phone while you are contemplating reality in the beach with a piña colada. You don't need much money to start! Depending the bróker you choose, Binary options and forex can start with 10 bucks! And the most important thing is just to train on demo until you master a technique. No point on winning and loosing all over without consistency. And even better, all the information you need is online and almost everything you need is free. Youtube is the main source. You can also join some academy and a community or forum. And even get free signals to copy and make easy money. What else you want! This is how you play the imaginary money game. No need to grind like an animal. Just think and grow rich. Don't get outplayed by the kings of this chess game. If money is a thought, then thats how it should be played. In your mind. Now, see if you like it by yourself and enjoy your way out of this nasty system. The truth is coming all out at once.

Thats the light coming at the end of the tunnel. The most courageous are not those conquering the World, but those conquering themselves. Push yourself within. (If you are going through hell, keep going). Thats your ego personality trying to survive. It will be okay and worth it. I did not had my deepest awakenings until I challenged myself to death by pushing within.

@Joker_Theory That which you have been so desperate for.

Only those awake enough may come to understand this video.

@FredFred You are not ready to comprehend or accept the truths of existence.

@Thewritersunion Maybe a replica

@John Iverson Why theres always a guy that that has to ruin it... I was playing around, plus enjoying the teaching similarity. I dont care if its real or not.

Thats the resume of the whole actualized.org channel. Thats probably leo from the future. ??

The only thing limiting you from realizing God consistently in the awaken state, is not realizing him before in your current state, asleep.

https://satoripua.com/index.php/2020/04/21/heart-vs-ego/ A love metaphor from a pua. Who would have thought the only thing missing in my spiritual journey was coming to know the devil face to face. I thank all the puas for this.

First of all, I saw a ufo a week ago. I dont know if it were aliens, but it was a strange orbe in the Sky, lightining off and on, moving and after some minutes instantly dissapearing. My parents were astonished. Even thou you may think conspiracy theories doesnt help, they are slowly awakening to something bigger through this events and information. Note: this is not my first ufo sighting. Second one. I have a strong intuition to percieve psychic or paranormal events and I have felt they watching me or trying to contact. (I have felt entities touching my body while sleeping even after opening my eyes. But this is a topic for another day). I will try to focus on elevating more my Consciousness and see if I can telepathically access them or astral project. Some enlightened friends of mine, have confirmed to me that aliens and interdimensional beings are watching/helping and waiting the precise moment to contact us directly. The next 10 years are going to be better than any sci-fi movie you have ever watched. To know they are real must not be a surprise if you can open your mind and look at the Sky for 5 minutes lol. I have found alot of videos recently about ufos, but ill show the most relevants at this moment cuz I will have to look for them again... Many of them are in different languages or in deep web. This is a police officer from Colombia who caught a ufo: Here is ozuna, a top elite puppet singer for the Spanish public. I know what im showing you here, is not mere coincidence. Not going to board this topic here, but theres a big business already admitted by many of them going on in order to program the masses on this side. They need the World to stay in the lowest vibration possible (survival matrix) for them to implant their World vision. Sex, money and violence. This song lyrics has nothing to do with the video, just pure symbols for our subconcious. The message is clear. I particularly had a dream with planet nibiru crashing earth on january before all these stuff started showing mainstream. Hope im wrong with this, but it was one of the most outstanding dreams I had.

So many books about this... How to win friends... 48 law of power... Etc. These books are good but if you want to get good fast with people I recommend you watch RSD courses. Study the master pickup artist devil Arash Dibazar (Seductive Instict). Read about Human nature and sexuality. How the female and the male are totally different. Watch series on body language like the mentalist and lie to me. Finally cold approach like a mad men. If you cant do it know, do to the pandemic, virtually approaching can also help. Your brain will react very similar, while progressing to a facetime call. To get really good with people you have to become God and the Devil. Live both worlds and then stay in the center. This is how you gain deep understanding about truth and illusion.

Autobiography of a spiritual incorrect mystic. Osho

Hey man, I wonder if you ocassionally still game there in vegas. Could you share your routines, habits, frames, style and mentors? I know you are not a player, but while we are one the road to enlightenment we still need some sex. Explain your game to us in a simple way, step by step.

@Pell@Roy To get laid by being yourself is easier said than done. You still need techniques, planning and social awareness to make the right move at the right time.

@Pell Nice one. Will read it.

@Leo Gura Actually you are right and thanks for your advice. But, I dont crave sex as much. I dont feel needy towards sex. I can probably sometimes, but its not the root of my neediness. I have a massive ego and I feel neediness towards trying to show her im the best as cheesy as it sounds. I feel needy towards trying to make all the tricks and escalate from one stage to the other. Cuz if not, why are we dating? My mind gets calculative and hyper aware as to not fail the opportunity to prove my game. But again, this only happens after I have being thinking about pickup, learning about it, setting my mind to do cold approach and then setting a date. My anxiety is towards not failing. I have never been needy with my family and it had happen in very few occassions that I have been needy. Even with my closest friends of years ago. But this doesnt always happens, is suddenly ocasional. I figured out I cause my own neediness. Its self created by expectation towards perfectionism. I will watch your videos on this 2 topics. Cuz the thing also is if Im not aware of certain things to get her attracted, like touching her and flirting, the relationship will set into a friendly frame or boring one. But doing the touch has to be done in a perfect natural manner to create tension. Meanwhile, if im not thinking about anything, just being, I getter better results in general. But still, there are a few things that are to be planned like finally getting her to your bed and not messing it up. That last move makes me get anxious as for what will be her reaction. Making me needy and switching the whole frame from abundant to scarce. Its a tricky thing. Thats why I call it a "weird neediness". For example, lets say the girl shows signs she likes me and the dating is doing good. My mind goes like, you gotta turn her on now and quick. You dont have time to go on 3 dates to get laid. Be the best now! And there starts my neediness. I dont want to wait. Its like results now! Even if I consciously know it takes time. Is not the sex. Its like, you have invested too much energy on learning this stuff. Get the result now! If I get on more than 3 dates without sex or at least a blowjob, she might friendzone me. So I have the pressure on to prove and sexualize as quickly as possible as to not waste my precious time failing. Any suggestion toward this specific aspect?

@Leo Gura My major problem is a weird neediness. For example, if a set up a date with a girl from instagram/tinder or even one that I knew in person from which I did not felt anxious, after going in the date I get anxious. I dont know why my mind starts calculating about doing stuff and then it gets even trickier when I think that I should not think this or even anything but thats also trying and needing to not think, do or accept. Is fckng tricky and weird. On the other hand, when I meet girls in person I dont feel needy. For example, yesterday I randomly met a girl I know very little. We started vibing. After a while we started flirting, touching and I ended up kissing her and having her hug by my side. I dont understand this. I instinctly attratcted her and even flirted without a thought or rationalizing and it worked wonders. But, if I consciously set a date or get my mind set up into pickup i get needy. The thing is, if I go into a date with a girl, I obviously need to be in the mood and do some playful stuff to vibe and attract her. If not, it will get boring, which also happened the other day with another girl. How do you set a date, dont get anxious in the date as to not making it bored, and then get laid. Or even less, to get out of the needy state while in the date. Or did you just went on a date if you where prepared into the mood? Consciously settings dates while being unconcious is fckng tricky. This is when you start seeing all the glitches in the matrix.

Try to find out why she still with her boyfriend. Must girls prefer being with someone they are not even much attratcted rather than being alone. Thats enough to find out if you can keep going. If you have lasted too long to even kiss her after building chemistry, forget about it.