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I have seen how having too much knowledge in my head and not being distanced to it is already causing problems in my life. Including some mental unstablity. Not to even mention the karma problems I have got into cuz of it. Has something similar occured to someone here? Any tips to handle this properly?

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@AdamR95 Finding a satisfying partner will definitively be challenging. Just the search of it... Man, I can sincerely say, you are really not missing much. Maybe if you get laid a couple of more times you will let go of such conditionings. Women are great and not so great at the same time, lol. Its more of social conditionings and beliefs towards them that you have to check for your self or overcome/letgo. I used to be the same, until I realized the reason I wanted women so bad was not even because I wanted them, but because society forced/tricked me into believing I need them to be complete. Drop those expectations and you wont be frustrated. You need more clarity and perception of yourself inside dating and women. Too many beliefs and generalizations will fck you up. Some stuff that has helped me when approaching: Always warm up first. Talk with hot girls in stores. Ask them anything about the stuff she is selling. Communicate more with your body language, tonality, speed, eyes, etc. Subconscious body language (subcommunications) rather than words alone. When you get good feedback from this, you build confidence and momentum to now approach other girls. When approaching a girl, always go for indirect Opener. Ask for a direction, then quickly read her body language to see how she reacts to you. If she likes your approach and is attratcted, you can change topic with one you have prepared and escalate towards instant date. The reason for always going indirect first, is so you can protect your self esteem. If you go blindly talking to girls that are not interested, you will believe you are the problem and fck up. I prefer not using social media and tinder for girls. Its mostly a waste of time and self esteem dropper. (95% of girls in dating sites are loosers. Only maybe a 5% will be there for the same reasons as you. To be specific of what they want. And its hard to find them or even match chemistry). If you dissapear the media from your perception, alot of beliefs will drop too. Your mind is constantly creating beliefs based on what it sees, including the media. And it can really make you feel like shit. Try to live as natural as possible. If you really feel horny or needy. Start creating an independent sexual belief system. Meaning be your own source of sexual pleasure. There is alot of stuff you can do to satisfy your cravings by yourself believe me. Sexual toys will trump normal jerking all the way. From dressing up, using mirrors, fleshlights, virtual reality, Machines, vibrators, self massage, visualization, get a doll, fuck pillows with a condom, etc. Its too much. Be creative and see what you like. But you should not over do this. Tease yourself until your no fap cant hold anymore. I can tell from experience, that my solo sex time is almost as good if not same as fucking with someone. Remember that the fact that she is simply a women, doesnt mean her sex will be good or even satisfy you. Second option, build a friendship with a high quality scort you can trust. She must be pretty hot, so you can drop your illusions with women being on a pedestal. Such repetition will create a belief system that will calm such sexual needy beliefs. Then after those, you will feel so non needy, you can talk to any girl without caring a shit. Literally. Like, today I downloaded tinder just to see whats up in it. I will delete it tonight. A hot girl texted me "Hi, what are you looking for in tinder" and I just said, " To do the 69" . Note, in the past if I did this I would mess it up, but girls have superpowers to smell your frame/intention/confidence. This time she responded postively cuz she felt I truly didnt gave a shit. But thats all because first I have built confidence and second I have a backup belief system/strategy for overcoming sexual neediness and keeping the right perception of them. Now I dont know if what you mean confidence is really the confidence girls are attratcted to. Such confidence is animalistic. Spirituality breaks that type of core confidence which is the building foundation of your personality structure. That is the confidence that is sexy (animal/primal) , that they like. It takes time to build up, you need to stop spirituality for it to build and freeze new knowledge/beliefs/habits. You need strong bondage and self entaglement until you get used to that new Structure. Which manifests as the possiblity of multitasking and high mobility. For me it happened by accident and need. Not by reading books and doing any practice. It means surviving and fighting and getting good at it. Coming back to the topic, girls always seem more attractive only when you cant get them. The mind is always playing with you. Once you get her and fuck her, you will see is not worth much time.

@Arzola Thanks for bringing me clarity. Yes, im emotionally stressed by too much information in my life and confusingly accuse knowledge as the cause. I couldn't make the distinctions right cause im somewhat blind now. Working on regaining my perception and entering the truth soon. Had been learning loads of useful stuff on the relative plain lately.

@Nos7algiK Yes, agree. @Goldzilla@Goldzilla How to tap into akasha?

@Leo Gura Any valuable things to consider that maybe we are over looking? That might improve our experience? Asking since you seem to be a little pickier than most.

I have gone by 5 sessions and still no real permanent noticeable results. Am starting to think this is just a holy scam and waste of time. How long did it took you to see anything substantial? The guy says am leveling up, but i dont really see anything going on. Also, something that took me off guard was when he said(in a dominant manner), enligthenment will either occur by pure random accident or someone gives it to you by blessing.

It can be useful and useless at the same time. It all depends how you approach it and what is your situation. To the very least, being totally relaxed, clear sigthed, present, detached, in peace and positive is very useful in the world. Take it slow. Thats what I do. Dont go fully in and pressure yourself. When I quitted I realized I need spirituality again, then came back to it in a more mature and balanced way, based on previous experiences. You need to contemplate your life situations first. Including the people in it.

I just discovered that the reason I mostly suffer unconsciously is because I dont want to let go of my confidence. Because if I do, alot of things will fall off in my life. Like it kinda happened in the past when I was not confident because I was very inwardly in the spiritual path. Does anyone have any idea how to deal with this existential problem of confidence and being in the world? Its like one or the other. Either I suffer but handle my survival and enviornments. Or I dont suffer but loose ability in the world. Unless I reach complete self-realization in the process.

@BipolarGrowth Yeah, but being courageous alone brings problems. I have learned the hard way to stop being a hot crack head, including enligthenment. Maybe am not supposed to get enligthenment at this stage of my life because of my life situations. It has created many relative problems in the past. Everytime I deconstruct my self, alot of chaos starts around me. And I have the balls, Cuz I have done it before, but didnt understood why so many things where occuring the way they were. It was simply too much to handle at the same time. Enligthenment is a luxury that requires exclusivity. This has thought me to be very strategical, smart and intellectual with everything. Not just courageous. Its not enough for true success. Just look at Jesus... What I mean by upgrading my consciousness, is that people cant relate the same way with me. And that brings some problems to a chain of things that I depend of which they are in charge. Or for example, if I dig very deep, like in the past, I may realize I dont want to finish college or even quit my job. Or not even want to socialize and talk. Stop being productive, etc. This just a few examples. And these things can be managed even after dissolving, but it requires alot of time and space to do this work and Inner change correctly without causing external disturbance to others. This is the problem in Mid path. You are in shaky ground, neither truth nor confidence. Its very risky territory. Neither in the deep ocean or the coast. Trapped in between. It has happened before. Also, I think another factor is that many of you live in advanced countries. For which people can still be open to relating with you by being "different". Its a little bit more normal the idea. Even to have a soft energetic aura, in the eyes of others is fine, specially if you are a man. Over here, if you dont have a strong dense masculine aura, you are already a pussy, subject to bullying, exploitation, etc. Culture has alot to do. I think im just gonna be doing some inner engineering and karma modifications. Energy work, yoga, etc. To at least be in a better position. But i cant destroy all of my confidence right now. Maybe some part of it. I still need some ground. After I get in the right state and heal, I can continue my journey to financial freedom and then finally, finish the spiritual path. Its a more realistic and probable outcome than just throwing the dices with survival at risk. Do you do shadow work? If yes, any tips? This actually true. But what I see is that this perspective is too advanced to be adecuated to people trapped in survival with risk. The reason im in survival is because my situations have demanded it in order to truly survive as a body mind organism. Even I, who have experienced truth.

What are the principles that leo lives by to stay grounded in truth even if one is not to get enligthened? At least some truth can transform ones life's perception by mantaining some constant clarity.

The thing is that I know its not sustainable in the long run, but its really effective in this moment. The confidence im talking about is self-belief/core certainty. My enviornments require lots of confidence to thrive in them. Work, family and even my law degree that will be done this december. In the past I felt very confused even inside true clarity because I did not knew how to ground my mind. It was always changing and going blanc. It was pretty hard to remember and be functional to the level im now... In your case specially, is there a feeling of certainty? Any feeling of confidence? What practices do you do to stay grounded? The problem is not loosing the confidence. Its the risk of doing it now. But i need to balance it out, Im loosing almost all my perception. I feel like a blind diamond right now. Are you in this state of no confidence right now? What is your experience in relation to it right now? I have done that in the past, not needing confidence is not really the problem. I dont need to feel trapped to feel secure. Its really about other side things, like having a grounded mind in relation to my life situations. If I drop my confidence at this moment, lot of things will change that I may not know how to manage. The risk is not so much in loosing the confidence, but exactly at which moment. Because lots of karmas can desenvolve out of this. For example, I can not influence, socialize with high skill or even manipulate if I loose the confidence, which then a chain of things will start to fall in my life. Creating a chaos inside of another chaos. People unconscious minds can read my being in nano seconds to know how they can interact with me. If they feel I have no shield, a weak one, see my vulnerabilities, by instinct they will try to take some advantage out of me. It has happened alot in the past. It is really tiring trying to go your own way while others dont understand you. Their expectations dont match with my behaviours and it can really get annoying or even into trouble. Another thing is, I can set boundaries. Being a temporary mind is really effective in comparison to being in Mid spiritual path. The True confidence you speak of, only truly comes in avance stages of the path where you have stabilized in non duality, no coming back. If not you will be shaky and weak in the eyes of others. Also, girls and people are seduced by my confidence. Its like magnet. I dont even need to try to impress, look too good, show money, etc. Its like people can instantly feel my presence and energy and everything changes. I can feel girls wanting to get fck by me just by their stare at me. You know how hard it is to make money without confidence or sell an idea... I mean this are some of the positive sides of it inside the survival paradigm. Ofc you dont need this in higher consciousness, but the thing is that the more I upgrade my consciousness the trickier it gets to handle my cultural enviornments, people, chores, etc. Its very risky. Its like playing with fire and gasoline. I have to be almost like a bomb technician when doing spirituality. If not I might waste my life. It would be nice if Leo could make a vid on how to do proper safe spirituality, not only tell its dangers. Im referring to confidence as to thr strength of my ego Shell. The level of density and compression it creates. Its full of itself. Im conscious there are various things creating my suffering for which I need to set aside more time. I got trapped in this survival paradigm. Like I always have to be going forward in a hurry. My mind always finds a way to make me feel guilty and tricked back into distraction. So Yeah, motive is one its causes. Inside of it, also emotional baggage I have gathered in the world by survival, fights and setting boundaries. But also, the size and strength of my ego kinda creates an un natural feeling. Out of aligment. Where would you recommend to begin with? My mind has taken a life of its own and its hard to control right now, give me a direction where to shoot. I dont have the same amount of time and energy I used to in the past to be all day in spiritual mode, where I used to find all my tricks, insights and techniques.

@Preety_India Stop doing spiritual work. Stop consuming spiritual material. Stop coming here. Then, get lazy and leave everything to last minute. Do this temporary to create a sense of emergency. Consume alot of data and think alot in whatever you want. Non spiritual. Get into a challenging enviornment. Somewhere that may threaten your identity. Then after some of your identity has been threaten, you will get mad and your survival instinct will rise. It will make you fall more into the illusion of survival without you even realizing it. Then you will want to stand up for your self survival, cuz if not you will be exploited. Then, if you rise, you will be prideful and will want to make yourself a priority in life. You will care alot less about people and their opinions. You will be one pointed reach goal minded. This will create layers of energy within that create an armored ego. From this ignorance, confidence is born. People may start to look up to you. Your esteem will then start to rise higher. And this is how ego identity is created in plain words. It takes time. But it will occur faster than the blink of an eye.

Sadhguru is refering to the need of a sense purpose. You can create a purpose without having that need of Drive. Non doership is what he means. Because everything is already complete there is really no need. Its a tricky thing as always...

@Synchronicity But have you experienced real shifts with this stuff? Im not paying anymore RASA. I simply wanted to confirm and its ok. He said he will give some more for free now, but still I think its a waste of time. I dont know how ppl say they got enligthened by this thing through the Internet.

@Bluff Interesting thread. Yet I didnt found the part related to scientific proof of spiritual genetics.@Anahata Yeah. Yet the relative is crucial too in the path. Too many obstacles. Starting with conditioning, culture and enviornments. If you dont study these ones in your personal life situation, you can get into lot of trouble.

I recently watched in one of Ralston's videos, where he literally said out of no where to a guy, "There is nothing preventing you from reaching your true nature. Like there is no special spiritual gene or anything". But at the same time I hear @Leo Gura speaking on spiritual genes and it kinda makes sense. But where did leo came with this from? Have scientists shown research where they prove there is a unique gene regarding one's level of consciousness?

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@Lucas-fgm Im not saying I cannot get laid with an average high quality girl as you said: Good looking, feminine and good connection. Thats fine in any way. Like getting some experience or just wanting some company. Cuz when I got into pickup I did that. And my last gf was like that but deep down I was not satisfied with that at all. Personally, I get satisfation with hot rare (not weird) girls. Meaning, not having an average interior (psychology). I need a sexy and interesting mind to satisfy my own aswell. Dont confuse incels with being selective and having standards. Incels are loosers who dont do shit to improve. They basically hate women and want them at the same time. Aside from that, you are still biased. Theres nothing wrong with looking for a hot girl that likes anime. There are plenty of them, just as hot girl gamers. Or cosplayers. Also, Its all a matter of preference and perspective. If you still think being alone is for incels, etc. You are highly biased and conditioned. That view is only coming from you. For example, in my case I view being single/free as one of the highest quality values a person can have. And thats how I experienced it aswell. What you call a strong personality is not necesarily a high quality one. It can be useful for survival but not necesarily for thriving and actualization into higher quality. Your personality is a composition of views, depending on the definition of those views and how strong you hold them, you get a dense personality. And thats what people call being a strong masculine man, lol. But thats not enough for success and quality. You need intelligence and knowledge.

@Lucas-fgm Yeah, thats why I said some stuff. Im very picky with everything in life. I prefer being alone if I dont meet some of those to motivate me. Dating and sex alone wont motivate me much for long if not combined with rare qualities. Personally, I need alot of mental stimulation. But still, those are some general things that can make up for any girl.

Some stuff I look for - Positive Mindset -Likes Spirituality and Philosophy to some degree -Down to earth and present. -Easy to talk with -Optimistic/Kind/Loving Personality -Honest -A little mysterious -Good listener. Is not a crazy parrot. -Likes improvement and change -High intelligence and Imagination -Has some inner wisdom -Business/Investor oriented -Has a life goal/plan/purpose -Non religious/Non Idealogical -Open Minded -Non-needy -Non alcoholic or drugs -Low manipulation and lies -Has class and manners -Is independent to the point that she can be fine alone by herself. Doesnt need to be entangled in the noise of social drama and media. -Some decent level of intellect (specially of psychology) -Has her own unique style that makes her stand out -Wears different good/attractive fragrances -Good music taste. I know girls that dont like music. Sad shit, lol. -Nature oriented -Non Dramatic or at least very low. -Does not hold grudges/moves on from the past -Cooks Good -Gives good body massage -Has some dancing skill (Preferably salsa in my case) -Knows how to provoke sexually and leave stuff to the imagination -Has a Seductive Aura -Has a balanced sexuality (not too feminine that it gets toxic) -Open to sexual adventures like ocassionally wearing a remote pantie to get teased at in public places. -Delicate fit slim body type. Shiny healthy hair, clean straight teeths and soft healthy skin. Note: Its pretty much impossible to meet all these things in a women. This a just a list inside a range I play to find some stuff which I find satisfying. This go for men and women, in the sense that finding an ideal person depends alot on where you live, culture, class and enviornments. There are many things in general that make up for a high quality person. But mostly will be things similar to you. Basically, someone like you and at your level. The more you develop yourself, the more you will look for onto others to meet you there. It makes no sense to develop yourself and get with a person that will drag you down.

@Jon_Bundesen You need some type of conditioning. Meaning some external force that makes you take action invitably. Either a job can help you build some momentum and stop laziness by having some work action habits. It will be tough at the start but you will condition yourself to get used to it. Then its pretty easy to take action. Find an enviornment that makes you struggle. What you are not used to is struggle. Spirituality is everything opposite to struggle in a way. No stress, no worry, little external action, no fighting, no thinking, etc. You see where it goes? Its good in a sense if you are truly going to fully awaken, but it can destroy your life at the same time. Its dangerous in one sense. If you get what I mean. So Yeah, getting used to taking action, struggle, alot of thinking, dealing with stress, effort and fighting for your boundaries is another path in itself. Its like the reverse of spiritual work. But if you have done spiritual work previously, not all will be gone. The shifts will remain on a soul level.

You need to Calm down completely to see the situation correctly with full clarity and understand what is really happening. Then listen to your intuition and you will know what to do from that space.

https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.insider.com/why-meditation-can-be-bad-2018-3%3famp This is specially for the new ones that might get easily lost in this path. I experienced mostly everything in the post, except for #5. Persay, these aspects are not negative in themselves. Its just that they might seem as if they are in comparison to a different perspective. Specially the egoic one from society. Many of these, simply mean progress, healing and evolution. Its part of the process. When going through them, they wont seem as such, because the truth of the matter will be revealed, which is very different to the truth you think about truth. There is always light at the end of the tunnel, and is not always dark. The spiritual path is like a rollercoaster, not a straight line. You will always end up winning by doing spiritual work. Except for blowing yourself up with bad kundalini practice or too many psychedelics. So, I just wanted to let you know a couple of things that if you are not aware or unwilling to deal with due to personal duties, lifestyle, responsabilites or goals. You might want to stop or do easier meditation, not hardcore. Remember, in meditation you are eliminating your present life/world/mind/illusions, which includes the positive and negative in exchange for that which is beyond both. The destruction of your mind, doesnt necesarily mean everything in your life will go. You have to be aware and distinguish everything in your personal experience by yourself. And dont make beliefs out of this that are not true and unnecesary. Verify everything by yourself. These are just warning pointers. Even if they are bound to occur, dont look for them since they are a consequence, not a cause.

What should be the frame/tonality behind this illogical phrase? Playful in a sense it seems like you are joking? Or sarcastic in a way she doesnt really know if you are serious or not?