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@Jon_Bundesen You need some type of conditioning. Meaning some external force that makes you take action invitably. Either a job can help you build some momentum and stop laziness by having some work action habits. It will be tough at the start but you will condition yourself to get used to it. Then its pretty easy to take action. Find an enviornment that makes you struggle. What you are not used to is struggle. Spirituality is everything opposite to struggle in a way. No stress, no worry, little external action, no fighting, no thinking, etc. You see where it goes? Its good in a sense if you are truly going to fully awaken, but it can destroy your life at the same time. Its dangerous in one sense. If you get what I mean. So Yeah, getting used to taking action, struggle, alot of thinking, dealing with stress, effort and fighting for your boundaries is another path in itself. Its like the reverse of spiritual work. But if you have done spiritual work previously, not all will be gone. The shifts will remain on a soul level.

You need to Calm down completely to see the situation correctly with full clarity and understand what is really happening. Then listen to your intuition and you will know what to do from that space.

https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.insider.com/why-meditation-can-be-bad-2018-3%3famp This is specially for the new ones that might get easily lost in this path. I experienced mostly everything in the post, except for #5. Persay, these aspects are not negative in themselves. Its just that they might seem as if they are in comparison to a different perspective. Specially the egoic one from society. Many of these, simply mean progress, healing and evolution. Its part of the process. When going through them, they wont seem as such, because the truth of the matter will be revealed, which is very different to the truth you think about truth. There is always light at the end of the tunnel, and is not always dark. The spiritual path is like a rollercoaster, not a straight line. You will always end up winning by doing spiritual work. Except for blowing yourself up with bad kundalini practice or too many psychedelics. So, I just wanted to let you know a couple of things that if you are not aware or unwilling to deal with due to personal duties, lifestyle, responsabilites or goals. You might want to stop or do easier meditation, not hardcore. Remember, in meditation you are eliminating your present life/world/mind/illusions, which includes the positive and negative in exchange for that which is beyond both. The destruction of your mind, doesnt necesarily mean everything in your life will go. You have to be aware and distinguish everything in your personal experience by yourself. And dont make beliefs out of this that are not true and unnecesary. Verify everything by yourself. These are just warning pointers. Even if they are bound to occur, dont look for them since they are a consequence, not a cause.

What should be the frame/tonality behind this illogical phrase? Playful in a sense it seems like you are joking? Or sarcastic in a way she doesnt really know if you are serious or not?

@vladorion What is your experience with this? And how do you know this? Would appreaciate a more detailed explanation

https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.bbc.com/news/world-latin-america-57750358.amp Haiti is the manifestation of a no man's land. Truly wish that country and culture can somehow evolve. The karma and negative beliefs they carry as a culture are something to feel sorry for.

Dogma is to be indoctrinated without knowing so. When you adopt beliefs unconsciously and unwillingly, they become part of your identity, so you dont question them because that may mean death in some way.

@Mips But does she also loves you so much that she will never leave you too? If she does and is truly a wise person, she wont leave you after transformation as she will be even more attratcted to the wiser intelligent you. Maybe she changes her mind and wants to join you in that path. She should resonate with the authentic truth in you. If not, you are still playing games of denial while also not wanting to deny the truth. If you have really matured in that aspect, you will know what to do.

You are in a tricky spot. I remember this happened to me with one of my early gfs. That shit was a whole mess and it started just like that. I didnt knew anything about dating. I was just a kind guy who damaged goods saw like honey. This is where she exploited the attention seeking after priming me into having no sex. Also, try to make sure that girl has a good relationship with her father. If not, she prob has daddy issues and will be into attention seeking exploitation,etc. Maybe she is virgin, lack sexual experience, has a hidden secret. Just like the girl I had. This girl was so manipulative with her lies and promises that she made me give up 3 other girls I was dating at the same time. We lasted 1 year for her finally giving into sex, lmao. Oh man, what a waste of my life. Luckily I can laugh at such idiocy. In comparison with the other girls I was dating, actually she was the problem for the sex. She made sex too serious and made me believe it was a big deal. Then we both kinda made sex out a big deal. But i didnt knew what was happening at the time. With the other girls, I made out and a little more out of each other (bjs, kissing and touching breasts, hand jobs, fingering) in the first date and got laid on second date. I would say to retract from the sex, dont even mention it and make her want it. Make her think what happened to the horny guy. Make her wonder. Play some mind games. Use an attractive new perfume and style. Be somewhat mysterious and detached. Take her to a romantic restaurant. But dont show direct Interest. Treat her like a good girl. Be cool and sexy. Talk and seduce with your eye contact. Sit next to her and tease her, make her get happy with some alcohol. Then see if she gives you some sexual Interest with her body language, eyes specially. But dont act interested, just know she is in. You have to slowly move from the frame you are both in now to the one you want. Playful sex. Prime her into wanting you to fuck her. And after a couple of more dates, and seducing her, you make out only. Make her want more. And then finally just kiss her, then neck, whisper naughty things while touching her boobs and fingering. At that moment when she start to get her panties wet she will want to be fucked by anything. She will want you inside of her. By that time she should want to ride your dick and put it in by herself. If she does, shes good to go. You can forget about any sex problems till now. If not, she never intended sex with you even if she is feeling like wanting to get fucked at that moment. If all that doesnt work and she is the one making it serious, then leave her. She might have self esteem problems and just want attention. That gf I had wanted to look good around her friends and social media. Dont go down that rabbit hole. Distinguish between you making the mistake or is it her or even both. The thing is that am not really in your position to read the situation correctly. There could be alot of factors going on that you may be unaware, including social conditioning and her lies which close your awareness to the truth. Dating can get pretty tricky. For example, only making out with her and she being in the boyfriend frame retracting sex from you can make the situation just worse. Whatever is resisted, will persist. By that happening, the sex will just be made out into a more and more of a big deal. Going into a self fulfilling karmic cycle. Which makes it pretty hard to get out. Meaning, you either go no contact with her to rebuild attraction or just cut her off since the situation is already pretty much fcked up by previous mistakes.

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@Endangered-EGO Thats exactly why I will only give it a few more tries and have my personal conclusion. If it truly makes a Shift or not in the coming months, I will let you know. If so many people really are becoming enligthened through this, then there must be something. It would be nasty to know so many people will be lying out of this. Specially the teacher for money. Which is highly probable.

Guys, I have noticed that when im greedy, my energy changes and girls (people overall) loose attraction. The same goes when I get impulsive. I noticed that compulsiveness kills sexual attraction. Have you noticed this in your experience? What do you think about ? Has it happened to you and how did you dealt with it? @Leo Gura

@Javfly33No one here understood what you said. Thats the consequence of being under conditioning. When you do, learn and read alot about pickup, you actually build a belief system towards woman in all aspects. One of them is that urge of feeling like you need to approach, etc. Like, you should want to approach, not really feel you need to. Some puas condition themselves on purpose to practice pickup on automatic. Its like building your own paradigm on purpose to get the skill, then dropping or changing it. Thou, it can get tricky if you dont know how to change your psychology. Watchout with what you buy into. To stop feeling like you need to, when you didnt feel as in the past. You have to unprogram that conditioning.

@spaghetti11 Very nice. Congrats for your entrance to heaven! In my case. I will see if RASA can really take me to loc 1000 since Im still a little skeptic on it and have not experienced any drastic Shift. Let us know if you get to discover or experience anything new and valuable after this loc 1000. Such as psychic abilities, etc.

@spaghetti11 Nice. I actually just got my second session 3 days ago and I can say I did felt a Shift. I still cant believe this works or how lol, but i have to admit, my consciousness was raised after the session. The session was in the night and out of nowhere I woke up alot more present, peaceful, still, joyful and aware. The after effect of the session has remained till right now, writing this. The high has lowered a bit, meaning I have gone somewhat unconscious and reactive again, but alot less and can feel a tingling in my head right now, without doing any other type of spiritual practice. In my first session it was hard to distinguish any Shift, but this last one really confirmed. Im still a little skeptic since its just the second session. I will have my next one in 2 weeks. Lets see how this goes. My LOC started at 580. I probably shifted to 585 or something in between. Aside from the above. How did the transition from duality to non duality happened for you through RASA? Like you just randomly during the day saw no distinction of everything? And how are you sure you are at 1000 aside from the description in the book. How do you know there isnt more left to go?

Psychedelics, knowledge and thinking will ultimately get you nowhere. These are good to begin with in order to introduce yourself to the path and get some preparation/orientation. Also, if you are too busy in other life areas, these can keep up a minimal growth for future true growth when meditation and recognition (concentration) are put to use. These are the only true way. Dont expect real growth and enligthenment with the above. You might end even more lost. Leo would be realized by now if that were the case. Lot of ppl would.

@Julian gabriel Kundalini awakening at 18 while walking down the street. I felt like a super saiyan, lol. Whole body full of an unknown energy.

Open relationships dont really exist. I mean its possible but not good either. What does exist is a free relating with another person without having tags (gf/bf) and expectations of the other person. Its like a friendship that builds up with love and sexual chemistry at the same time. Then turns into a friendship/lovers/sexual relationship. That cannot be manipulated or forced. It has to arise by surprise, naturally. It either arises or it doesnt. Relationships as bf/gf, wife/husband are agreements. This creates all sorts of problems, neediness, insecurities, etc. Because you expect something from the other like an object. Both possess each other. Its a sublte business relationship. How can you fear loosing someone that is not yours? Its not possible without expectations. Thats how it should be naturally. Everyone inside their own frame/space relating to others space. Not a mixing and bundling of bubbles.

@Actualizer777 A man should do this and that. A man should not cry. Should not wear pink. Should have multiple women... Do you see this is all social conditioning? Who is it that says a man should do all that? Who defines a man as by what he does? What is a man and who says is that? You will run in circles by all the psychological warfare of ideas in society being shooted 24/7. Get yourself right to your own truth and values. The stereotype of a real man is just an appearance. Its a social manifestation. It will take some time for you to get free of its many conditionings, since people may not approve you and try to make you feel bad for their own feeling bad.

You are creating unncessary problems. Leo speaks in a general way and it also depends how you interpret it according to the context of your situation. Also, he doesnt know whats best for you and anyone particularly. If there was no real problem, the problem now was originated in your mind by you. Its illusory. You will regret dropping a good healthy relationship for all the garbage out there. Also, Its not easy to find and build another good relationship. What you want is happiness? And you say you are happy in it. But now your ideas of happiness are ruining your happiness. From my experience, I would continue on my journey as everything aligned with it stays accordingly. Meaning, you will waste unnecesary energy and time to come back at the same starting point or even better, just staying alone. Dont manipulate unless you are about to die or get killed. Manipulation in relationships brings misery to you and her by creating and mixing bad karmas. The relationship will fall by itself at its time accordingly if its meant to. But, relationships are limiting aswell. You want expansion and growth. You have agreements in it that limit both of you. This is the reason I dont like relationships with tags. In this case, the ideal scenario would be if your gf would only be a Lover friend. No expectations, agreements or limits. Are you secretly unhappy while believing your happy? Investigate calmly the reasons of your wanting to change. Forget about gurus advice.

@kras Shadowork, emotional freedom, meditation, presence, self-Inquiry, letting go, surrender, acceptance, forgiveness. You need to go within your psyche. The best way to start is to practice total relaxation. Body and mind. Accept all tensions. All negative thoughts. Let them run. After sometime of doing this and getting some relief. Then you can work on feeling emotions, all types of them. Make feeling and expressing emotions (not supressing) a habit. Then you can add presence and mindfulness to burn the negativity of your persona. After you get a good amount of interna healing. You can proceed with meditation. Meditation is the fastest way to healing. Its the kickstarter. Because it takes you there, meditation happens by itself. Theres no real effort needed. Lastly, you can do self Inquiry in peace and Stillness to investigate accurately all deep rooted false beliefs, habits, emotions (triggers). Dating (getting a gf or wife if not awake) and not getting hurt is little probable. Because you may do it unconscious and the other person may as well throw negativity unconsciously/impulsively. The exception is if both are very advanced, positive and even conscious to decent degrees, but even then... I prefer friend-lovers, no tags, no expectations. If you have no expectation of her being yours, you cant loose her. If you dont expect sex from her, you wont feel as lacking or loosing it either. But if both are simply friends without expectations, ocassionally sex may arise. And a new friends-lovers, sexual relationship begins. In a higher loving quality. Ofcourse, you need to make sure to let it be that way, friends-lovers frame. Tags will kill freedom. (Some may try to persuade you into trapping you inside a relationship, this is where you either let her go and she comes back acepting it that way, or she leaves).This type of relationship you cant manipulate. It has to arise as a surprise. You wont find all girls like this. Its almost a gift. You may intend it but if you desire it you lack it. This is tricky to explain because it requires a letting go for it to come. Its an energy dynamic. Neediness is a compulsive clinging through desire. Its a grabbing. Attraction is a magnetic letting go.

Dont do dating until you heal yourself. Most relationships have problems like this, because people dont work on healing themselves. And it looks normal, but its not healthy either. If you want high quality relationships, do deep healing. Ofcourse, at that moment of healing, you wont even crave relationships, they might come and appear but you wont be needy about them. Its counterintuitive. Another thing I learned, even when I did lot of healing in the past, is that you need to be with those matching your vibration. I remember mixing spirituality with pickup when I began and dated damaged girls who passed me their trauma, even after doing healing. I didnt knew how to read energies well and the consequences of manipulation.

Most girls are attratcted to the stereotype man that society sells. We are all conditioned in some way by this subconscious stereotypes. Thats why she liked the masculine man. It approves her subconscious ideal. Also, thats the first image you sold her, she thinks thats the real you, but its not, cuz is manipulation. No one is macho in its core. People are just faking it so much that it becomes normal. They are numb. See, a relationship is about relating to something. Your relationship with her, is she relating to that image she liked. If you drop that mask, she will loose attraction. So dont expect to make her like your authentic self. I lived all these scenarios with my last gf as well. I dont care if girls or men dont like me aswell for being authentic. It will cost your attraction to many, but you will gain personal satisfaction, joy, peace and self love. It takes courage to do this, cuz a part of you want the lower needs to be satisfied. You decide. Time will teach you. In the future, just be you and attract an authentic girl aswell. Their are many, it just takes the same vibration to see it. Even if you attract a hot girl with manipulation, notice the relationship doesnt have the same level of quality of that of an authentic one. The closer you are to your truth, the more you attract a girl as same, an the same quality of both will be in the relationship. This might be a little harder to manifest or find, but its way better or staying alone. Everyone is selling themselves short for quick love and sex, which create alot of side problems.

The only knowledge you truly need in dating is that whatever you are at that moment, is what you will attract. From there, you work on your life alone and go up in your journey. The people you will attract will be at your journey level. Experience and everything else will build by itself. If you truly want something, focusing on women will cause inbalance in all other areas. One good women at a time is enough, but you alone should be already enough. Forget about getting laid with a bunch of bad btches. Its a big time waster that ultimately brings no joy. Be aligned to bring that which is best for you at the time. Manipulation, specially in dating, brings low quality experiences.

There are many type of confidences. But, to build core confidence is equal to having a strong ego personality. It means you have to be ignorant and blind of perception. You need to be very deluded into your own beliefs. That way you build a stable strong ground in your consciousness, but it means being ignorant. Easiest way to get high levels of rock confidence? Stop doing consciousness work and self Inquiry. Get yourself into challenging situations, like being around gansgters enviornments, going to war, being in conflict, etc. Do I recommend this? No. But its how unshakable confidence is built. Im just telling you how I got mine. The benefits are that is useful for social situations and some other occasions. But is extremely limiting. You have to be deeply unconscious and it can get you into trouble. If you are in the spiritual path, you should go fully within until liberation. Other wise you will get into more trouble. Self development work can help a lil bit to build confidence, but it wont build rock solid warrior like confidence/certainty (ignorance of reality) . That confidence is built by surviving difficult situations, which build strong self-belief.