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@Anaaaaaaaaaaaaaa You are being too passive with you meditation. I view meditation as a very active exercise. I always start each meditation with an intention such as expanding my awareness as much as possiple. Try keeping your eyes open and being aware of everything every sound, movement, breath... it is conscious awareness. Remember that meditation is an exercise, and to benifit from it, you must increase its intensity... imagine doing 100 pushup for 3 years... you will not improve. The same goes for mental exercises

@Steelheart First realize that personality is much more important than looks. A magnetic charisma will draw many more women than size. Women love a man that is playful and funny, which is why I imagine so many comedians are so short. Also, consider bodybuilding or weightlifting as a sport, do you realize that short people have a huge advantage in that area? Seriously, Google "short bodybuilders" As far as real growth, I believe that that the key is having the right reason for doing something. It should be something that you like doing and makes you happy. Like if you want to be funny, the reason should be that it makes you feel good and you enjoy making other people feel good too.

Science has also created increasingly effective means to not only destroy ourselves but our life support system as well. Humanity as a whole is not so intelligent... Happiness, fulfillment, peace, security, stability and harmony are still very elusive dreams.. No faction has not fully solve those problems, so to me yes science is only a perspective in regard to many issues. However, the value of skepticism is highly undervalued in spiritual pursuits and one of the most important and necessary qualities to have on this journey. That is one thing I wish more people would have.

@LC If enlightenment is not your passion, you should pursue your passion! If you are already a very passionate person due to you having found your passion, then your passion shall lead you to enlightenment much easier.

Thank you for your reply it looks as if we found a root cause. I can understand that it feels like it is rare to find someone that you can connect closely with, share deep and personal details with each other and feel understood and accepted. It is especially hard if you are emotionally guarded...you become too emotionally attached.. It seems exceeding clear that she doesn't want what you want... at this time. This shouldn't stop you from at least talking to other girls you don't have to date them. Connecting with other people on deeper levels will allow you to be more emotionally independent. Remember how Leo said that the key to Acing life was to do the most emotionally difficult thing? Now is the time to practice that.

@FindingPeace Yes, I have had the very same problem that you have had. It also continues to this day. However, I do have quite a bit of hope for the future. Sure there are many limitations and restrictions. Same with a board game such as chess. However, one can work within those rules to create something amazing and marvelous. You have to shift your mindset to work within your boundaries. You have to get creative, you have to get inspired and adapt and improvise... In the meantime, continually do things that continually stimulate your mind. Right now, what I am doing is writing like a maniac.. it doesn't even matter to me if the shit I am writing makes sense, I am writing and writing... recollecting past memories, writing thoughts and fantasies down, Creating images in my mind and writing about them..etc. These things cause me to raise my emotional state and become much more positive and optimistic, I am able to solve problems better and am in an excellent mood. I put my thoughts down and it releases the charge that has been inhibiting me and affords me a greater perspective in life. In essence, it is your own lack of imagination that inhibits your growth due succumbing to wallowing in your failures.

Indeed, that is why the trait of courage is invaluable. When things get chaotic, people tend to attach themselves onto something solid and hold on for dear life. It is a terrible trap to get into so they must train themselves to constantly break patterns and limits. Simple concept, but hard to keep at it...

neither... I like this technique: https://www.megagenius.com/free-briefings/making-universe-work-you/

Generally when a girl wants to be with you, they will be hooked. Sorry bud, she doesn't seem to be that into you. Of course you already know this or you wouldn't have named the title of this thread as you did. So the question is... Why are you pursuing the wrong person?

Leo covered this subject pretty well in his two videos on the subject.... The reason I follow Leo is practical application and his no B.S. approach. Have you checked them out yet?

Nothing is more powerful and influential than the Truth. When you take yourself out of the Truth, you gain the ability to harness the truth. When you speak the truth you get to peoples minds and conscience much more effectively than yelling or threatening. In addition the more truth you see the more you can use you higher knowledge to manipulate the situation to your advantage... *Edit* Besides, there is a difference between identity or personality and EGO, the latter is the sum of our desires and experiences... our judgements, opinions, biases, fears etc. Basically the aspects of yourself that causes you to react to things.

Folks want to create you in their own image... it's BLASPHEMY! BLASPHEMY I TELL YOU! It used to bother me, kind of makes me laugh now They are hell-bent on helping you by "raising" you. And E-G-O is it's name-o

Good Morning, Sarah... I wrote an essay, but said to hell with it and deleted it lol! I would like to let you know that you will make mistakes, might as well face it now... It's gonna happen, ain't nothing you can do about that one. I would like to remind you that unhappiness leads to many unintended consequences... Children are more resilient and adaptable than you realize, all you gotta do is ensure you provide the qualities that help them prosper(love, structure, education, security, etc...). Many of us were raised relatively "normally" yet we still struggle to fit into society, does that make us freaks? We sense there is something wrong in pop-society and so we create our own position in life... that is a gift!

You got hundreds of "mental walls", you gotta break through those barriers to free yourself.... All too often you find your life purpose by doing things that you really don't wanna do. For example, for years I wanted to be a writer... but I don't like to write very much, I don't have to much creativity, I don't have much imagination...I couldn't write a story to save my life... but recently I have been sitting there and break through my "writer's block" by doing writing exercises after exercises and it has opened my mind and writing skills tremendously. I am at a point right now, where I still don't like writing that much but when I am writing I get these tastes of heaven and become so full of passion and energy. I am here to tell you that you have "Life's Blocks", Sooo you have to blast right through them. If you are tough and persistent enough to do this you too can feel moments of of bliss that will gradually intensify and increase.

A rule to live by: "Decisions by consensus are usually more wrong than right"... public opinion is foolish... One could make the same case of model's appearance and the obsession about being shaved... they seem to have pedophilic undertones to a demisexual like me. Leo reminds us to recognize the chimp behavior and not buy into it. You know that this world is run by chimps and you ask them to be something than the lowbrow animals that they are.... Forgive me but that is silly... It goes against nature... one has to evolve to be a new creature.

The road to enlightenment is not paved with gold but with so much trash and garbage that it would make brigand of junk dealers break down and cry. This trip ain't for sissies! Fortunately we have a small support group here.

I bought the Marriam -Webster's Vocabulary builder book. It is an excellent way to learn the root words so that you will be able to recognize and know thousands of words in a relatively short time.

I like the analogy that a relationship is "one flesh" or "one body"... A body works together for a similar common purpose they are in essence extensions of each other. It seems that things are more independent or distant than that. Therefore, you are not working together for a common purpose... Of course it gets boring you are getting together for the purpose of pleasure and companionship... It is a relationship of comfort and convenience and it seems like a dead end from where I am sitting. What are your common goals? Where are you going together? A relationship is a partnership... what are you working together for?

@TruthSeeker The reason I wish to be enlightened is so that I can see activity as a game and I can play it freely without getting trapped within. I don't imagine chimps can accomplish this for they are trapped by impulse. However, life is really a game and one should play it as they see fit.

@Sigma I certainly understand your position, I am the same myself. However, the power to influence and seduce lies in social skills. Therefore a wise person can play the role of a charmer when they need to. Perhaps it is not totally necessary depending on what you intend to do with your life. It is an invaluable tool though... Only recently I have gotten into developing strong conversation skills when someone almost stole my wife away. I was able to immerse myself in the social arena to develop the necessary skills to strengthen my marriage considerably... So I would recommend if you have any meaningful relationships to make some progress in this subject.

Looks may give you a woman but wisdom will keep her. Your appearance is about the easiest thing to change about yourself(within your physical limitations). Becoming a man of quality and value is bit more tricky.

@FairyTale I would like you to first realize that one of the things that men desire most is a woman that is totally faithful and loyal. For whatever reason, he does not fully see those attributes in you and trust you completely. It goes beyond a first night encounter, there is something in the way you talk/interact with him that makes feel insecure and doubt that you will stick around and/or not cheat on him... Unfortunately, those are his issues to deal with and until he has emotional security... his walls will remain up. An unfaithful woman is one of man's greatest fears. All you can do is improve yourself, become more of a trustworthy and faithful person.. If it doesn't work out it is on him and he couldn't face his demons. In the least it will change you and allow you to be better in the future. Don't hope for instant results, be patient and hopefully it will work out.

Oh my yes, I do enjoy my very much. I have a wife and child that I live for each day. I enjoy each moment. Even now I am listening to that nice song posted above and drinking a warm cup of coffee with some cookies that I baked. My heart is in alignment with the beating of the song. I am most greatfull of being able to create moments of pure bliss almost at will.

@Zippie I will let Maslow answer for you: "What a man can be, he must be. This need we may call self-actualization...It refers to the desire for self-fulfillment, namely, to the tendency for him to become actualized in what he is potentially. This tendency might be phrased as the desire to become more and more what one is, to become everything that one is capable of becoming." If you pay attention to Leo's videos... You will see that his enlightenment work composes only a fraction of the material he covers in his videos. I would recommend that you take time to understand the meaning of actualization and what it means for you. It is actually a psychology term and is not necessarily spiritual in its self... You don't have to be enlightened to be self-actualized. It just so happens that there are no absolutes only levels and so the self actualized person can have the opportunity to climb up to higher levels, just to see what else exists there... I believe that even the enlightened person keeps trekking into the great unknown. I personally don't even think the Buddha reached the top yet.

@FindingPeace Have you considered the possibility that it is you yourself that is suffering from low consciousness? People are like diamonds... multi-faceted... Thus a truly actualized person are polished on all sides and thus shine brightly. If you have trouble relating to others, it is because certain facets are highly refined and others have dulled. A refined being should be able to relate fabulously well with just about anyone. Your posts proves you need improvement on this area especially on the subject of communication. I know this because I have always been a recluse and the more I learn about life and people... I remain a bit of a recluse but I can transform into a social butterfly almost instantaneously. I try to enter any encounter with a person as a wonderful opportunity to discover a hidden gem about people or life in general. For example, you can take these "useless" conversation and learn about or practice charisma. Leo's latest video was about the traits of success and charisma and social skills is a fantastic way to manipulate (influence) people. In short, you are taking yourself and life much too seriously. After all, you and your work, is nothing!