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@zasa joey He simply wants to contribute to society by sharing any insights he may have recognized about life. That is what any reasonably ethical person want to do... help others. If they find something that can make a difference in someones life, they feel a responsibility to share it. That is all, he is providing information. You reserve the right to accept or reject any knowledge as you see fit... Why condemn a news reporter for simply reporting?

@Avi I hate that translation.... I have the Greg Hays version it reads as follows: 36. “No thefts of free will reported.”[—Epictetus.] 37. “We need to master the art of acquiescence. We need to pay attention to our impulses, making sure they don’t go unmoderated, that they benefit others, that they’re worthy of us. We need to steer clear of desire in any form and not try to avoid what’s beyond our control.” Here is a website with that translation: http://seinfeld.co/library/meditations.pdf I think you will understand that passage now... so no explanation is necessary.

1. Well, you should always be measuring your progress and be aware of the gains on a constant basis... so you could discover a technique of this on its own. 2. Your progress, you can measure just about anything from how you communicate with women (by evaluating responses) to humor (by the way you make people laugh). Here is the clue: The first step was to state your intention, are the techniques that you are using in alignment with the intention? If not, then it is time to make adjustments. 3. A technique is a skill, any skill takes time, effort, refinement to develop it. Therefore we all have different abilities and ways we think and do things, thus yes of course they are different because there are different levels of mastery. 4. Yes, but remember that the wrong approach is to do nothing. Thus just about any technique will yield some results, since there will be an improvement in your abilities, it will enhance and improve your ability to discover and formulate new ones. The idea here is to find something that works, do it, get better and continue the cycle. 5. That all depends on step 1... how well are you on your vision that you have in your mind? If you are happy then keep it, if not don't. Institute the policy of changing what doesn't work. That is all, I hope that helps my friend.

Honestly? Put her into the friend-zone. Be a friend, do nice things, help her with her issues, talk about everything with her. Have your own life, do your own thing, text and talk to women and just stop thinking about attracting her. That's all. Love yourself enough to not give a fuck whether you get her or not...

A man of value is a strong, wise man that leads and guides them to improve themselves. The problem lies within you cuz you lack the skills to be a role model. Blame yourself for not being mature and smart enough to handle those issues when they come up.

There is a goal that I have in mind and that is to be more analytical by incorporating 3 techniques in my thought processes. They are: Seek out the big picture Familiarize myself with every relevant detail Maintain an open mind but question all observations that are not my own. In fact I want those to be my primary factors to consider when I think about anything. My question is how do I measure such a thing? It is easy to keep track of your progress with weight or financial goals... however when it it comes to analyzing thought processes it is more difficult to know were I stand. When I perform my daily review of my progress, I have a little trouble assessing my status and how to improve upon it. Thank You, Jax

I am an amateur musician so I can't comment on that one. As for a black belt, I spent 10 years just learning the techniques and proper form in detail and depth. When I received my first degree blackbelt, my instructor told me... "you are now a beginner". Before enlightenment, we are in a perpetual state of both disorientation and blindness. Enlightenment removes a great deal of such things and we can now begin to explore the world without such handicaps.

I figured you would say that. I compare enlightenment to getting a black belt in karate. In Okinawan karate, a black belt means that you have only truly began to start your journey. *Edit* Note that I said "what is left".

@Skenderberg To state it simply enlightenment is what is left after you have stripped false and limiting beliefs from your consciousness.

Thank you all, this is some amazing insights, my mind is blown and I think I blew a "think" fuse right now. I am defiantly going to revisit it. I am in the process of examining each of what you 3 have said and trying to piece it together in some model. Thank you all for giving me something to chew on! @Truth Would you please add a bit more details and include an example or two? Thank you very much.

Well then focus on just 2 or three abilities and develop them. I would recommend... confidence building, humor and conversation skills. Those 3 things help attract women. If you appearance isn't what you would like it to be, make sure you hit the gym or exercise often and/or make other modifications. Those three abilities help in many other areas so they open many opportunities for you.

One issue at a time. Is everything in your life just how you want it? Pick 1 or 2 things you want to change and do so. I suggest starting by learning out to make goals and following through. Meditation is good too as it's a mental exercise.

Remember, a Black-belt in Karate is a mastery of the basics. Work to master the basics and share the basics. People generally want practical solutions to improve their life. Work the common ground... An actualized life is a mastery of the basics so that they can move to something else. That is why Leo spends so much time explaining Matrix-related topics.

That is right. First, use terms that she can understand in the context that she can relate to. Secondly, talk is cheap. I don't talk to my wife about 99% of my discoveries because they are just theories until I can put them into practice. The few things that I do talk to her about are valuable because I have been using them and have been testing and refining it for awhile. It is one thing to suggest specific tools to improve one's current situation it is another to discuss ego, duality and whatever else...

I use meditation for only one purpose... to increase awareness. Therefore the techs I use are tailored to that goal. What I do is go out to a park, beach, pier or the woods an just sit with eyes closed with the sole intention of increasing my attention to the max push forward if I can, trying to be aware of the sensations of my body,breath, my environment, birds, leaves, grass...etc I measure my progress by how intelligently I act in my day to day living, then I modify my meditation to better suit my goal.

Buddha reportedly led a life of leisure in his youth and he changed the world... Remember that you and your progeny will inherent the world of tomorrow. I for one am an ant... I wish to work hard for the planet this life so I can have a better one the next one. Carry on Grasshopper!

"how the hell are we Americans supposed to make money AND be good at happiness?" By investing in understanding like Leo does. Then use that wisdom and funds to make a better world.

@Neo I consider meditation to be a mental exercise. It helps make the mind become stronger,but it isn't a necessity. However, you did mention that your mind gets chaotic. So appenrent you are not getting enough benifits from his videos. A chaotic mind isn't a healthy mind so that is an issue you may want to solve. You also mentioned you are too busy to meditate. I have to call you out on that. That is something stupid to say. That is like saying you are too busy too take 10-20 minutes to take care of yourself. You can and should make your life just how you want it,Leo's videos can do alot to help do so. To build a beautiful garden you should remove the weeds and trash and so that is what you must do

She is either seeing someone or is not that interested anymore. Let it go, my friend... it is not worth your unhappiness. You are just a kid, you have so much ahead of yourself.

@Clay Curl I can't choose any of the above. The problem with reacting to a "shot" is that they hit one of your buttons, you lose control and often you hit try to hit their button too. When you do that, they often don't take responsibility for what they did because you already "hit" them, if anything else it makes them feel like tagging you back. The problem with smothering with love is that it often doesn't make you feel any better, so you have resentment and the emotional charge lingers. Neither does it solve the problem. Ignoring is stupid unless you have total mastery of your emotions. What I would do is: 1. Realize that I have a soft spot and try to overcome my weakness. 2. Gently correct their behavior, then just leave it as it is until you feel that your emotional charge has settled. Then, dig into the situation to discover why they feel such a way. For example, recently my wife was going on and on about clothes and weave and earrings and other bs... anyway I joked that I wanted to just wear rags and man... that really set her off. For a few days after that she would randomly snap at me bringing back what I said. So I thought enough of this... So I inquired to find out the reason that bother her, she wasn't willing to talk about it but with some patience and coaxing about it she told me stories about her being homeless and living with bums when she was a child. Doing this I was able to help her button get "unstuck" and she was no longer mean to me. So you see digging deeper into their behavior can help quite a bit, even if it doesn't correct their behavior... it will give you more insight an so you can be more understanding and tolerate their rudeness because you have realized certain stimuli has inadvertently pushed their buttons whether you caused it or not.

If I was to use such a thing, I would only do it for a specific goal. Self denial for the sake of seeking wisdom is kind of like asceticism. Like buddha said, the middle way is the best. Muhammad Ali reportedly refrained from women while preparing for a bout, to aid willpower no doubt. For it being used as a tool for enlightenment/insight... I don't believe it at all. .

@Thesis You discovered 3 areas that you want to develop. Great, work on those. That will keep you busy for awhile... Learn time management, goal-setting and results-making (leo's vids has advice on these.) These skill will help you learn others more efficiently.

One thing at a time. ... Some stress management techniques should help. There are many meditation techniques for that, or use some guided ones if your mind is too wild to do it on your own. Ensure you have a decent diet, enough sleep, some time to "expand" your space such as going for long nature walks, a nice bike ride, running out on the beach, etc...

You don't need to make alot if money, but if you want quick results, it pays to invest in understanding such as seminars, lectures, courses, coaches, retreats and other services that require money.

Doing just what you are doing, asking for council... Sometimes patience is a virtue. Some things take months if not years to improve on. Think body builder... it would take years for you to get the body to get how you want it. One should institute the policy of "Changing what doesn't work". Also sometimes it helps to work in sequence. You will have difficulty implementing seduction techniques if you have trouble having a conversation with a woman. So you have to have a strong ability to talk to a woman before these techniques are going to be good for you. So set a daily goal to simply converse with 3 women (or more) for 5 minutes or less. When you feel naturally comfortable talking to a woman then you can try practicing one of our techniques until it is natural for you. Planning is a skill on its own, and it takes practice and dedication to develop it. Thus if your plan is rigid, you should revise your method of making plans. Nothing is sacred, if it doesn't work change it. Here is an example of a format I use: I. Goal To be confident around women II. Why- so they will date me III. Policy/guidelines- Change what doesn't work Hold myself accountable an perform tasks every day that will forward my goal. Maintain a journal to observe and track my success and failures Add more guidelines as needed IV. Plans- Feel confident around women Be able to talk freely with women Improve my appearance to be more attractive to women. V. Programs- 1. Feeling more confident around women. Institute confidence building exercises. Visualize being confident and carefree around women. Continually practice getting out of my comfort zone 2. Talk freely around women Practice simply talking to them. Improve my ability to make them laugh implement pua strategies in the midst of conversations 3. Improve Appearance Go to the Gym to look better. Implement a diet plan to improve my energy Procure attractive clothes and make adjustments on my body to increase appearance. Projects- (here you would institute specific steps to achieve all of the points listed above) I will just just do one target. 2. Practicing talking freely to women a. Talk to a min of 3 women every day, with the intention of just having a conversation, no seduction just conversation. b. Talk to women you are not interested in such as elderly ladies just to have a conversation. c. Talk to baristas, employees, etc. Making women Laugh a. practice being funny by following leo's advice on his video. b. Write funny stories, write jokes. c. practice making your make friends laugh as much as possible. Implementing Pua techniques ( here I will leave it to you, I don't know a damn about pua) VI. Demands These are a daily checklist and specific plan for that day, week. I am getting lazy but it is just more specific tasks of what I wrote above VII Stats These are records of your progress... graphs, ratings, etc Yeah, I got really lazy toward the end.... But I think you get the idea, just make adaptations. One of these days I may upload one of my personal plans. Hope that helps.