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That is right. First, use terms that she can understand in the context that she can relate to. Secondly, talk is cheap. I don't talk to my wife about 99% of my discoveries because they are just theories until I can put them into practice. The few things that I do talk to her about are valuable because I have been using them and have been testing and refining it for awhile. It is one thing to suggest specific tools to improve one's current situation it is another to discuss ego, duality and whatever else...

I use meditation for only one purpose... to increase awareness. Therefore the techs I use are tailored to that goal. What I do is go out to a park, beach, pier or the woods an just sit with eyes closed with the sole intention of increasing my attention to the max push forward if I can, trying to be aware of the sensations of my body,breath, my environment, birds, leaves, grass...etc I measure my progress by how intelligently I act in my day to day living, then I modify my meditation to better suit my goal.

Buddha reportedly led a life of leisure in his youth and he changed the world... Remember that you and your progeny will inherent the world of tomorrow. I for one am an ant... I wish to work hard for the planet this life so I can have a better one the next one. Carry on Grasshopper!

"how the hell are we Americans supposed to make money AND be good at happiness?" By investing in understanding like Leo does. Then use that wisdom and funds to make a better world.

@Neo I consider meditation to be a mental exercise. It helps make the mind become stronger,but it isn't a necessity. However, you did mention that your mind gets chaotic. So appenrent you are not getting enough benifits from his videos. A chaotic mind isn't a healthy mind so that is an issue you may want to solve. You also mentioned you are too busy to meditate. I have to call you out on that. That is something stupid to say. That is like saying you are too busy too take 10-20 minutes to take care of yourself. You can and should make your life just how you want it,Leo's videos can do alot to help do so. To build a beautiful garden you should remove the weeds and trash and so that is what you must do

She is either seeing someone or is not that interested anymore. Let it go, my friend... it is not worth your unhappiness. You are just a kid, you have so much ahead of yourself.

@Clay Curl I can't choose any of the above. The problem with reacting to a "shot" is that they hit one of your buttons, you lose control and often you hit try to hit their button too. When you do that, they often don't take responsibility for what they did because you already "hit" them, if anything else it makes them feel like tagging you back. The problem with smothering with love is that it often doesn't make you feel any better, so you have resentment and the emotional charge lingers. Neither does it solve the problem. Ignoring is stupid unless you have total mastery of your emotions. What I would do is: 1. Realize that I have a soft spot and try to overcome my weakness. 2. Gently correct their behavior, then just leave it as it is until you feel that your emotional charge has settled. Then, dig into the situation to discover why they feel such a way. For example, recently my wife was going on and on about clothes and weave and earrings and other bs... anyway I joked that I wanted to just wear rags and man... that really set her off. For a few days after that she would randomly snap at me bringing back what I said. So I thought enough of this... So I inquired to find out the reason that bother her, she wasn't willing to talk about it but with some patience and coaxing about it she told me stories about her being homeless and living with bums when she was a child. Doing this I was able to help her button get "unstuck" and she was no longer mean to me. So you see digging deeper into their behavior can help quite a bit, even if it doesn't correct their behavior... it will give you more insight an so you can be more understanding and tolerate their rudeness because you have realized certain stimuli has inadvertently pushed their buttons whether you caused it or not.

If I was to use such a thing, I would only do it for a specific goal. Self denial for the sake of seeking wisdom is kind of like asceticism. Like buddha said, the middle way is the best. Muhammad Ali reportedly refrained from women while preparing for a bout, to aid willpower no doubt. For it being used as a tool for enlightenment/insight... I don't believe it at all. .

@Thesis You discovered 3 areas that you want to develop. Great, work on those. That will keep you busy for awhile... Learn time management, goal-setting and results-making (leo's vids has advice on these.) These skill will help you learn others more efficiently.

One thing at a time. ... Some stress management techniques should help. There are many meditation techniques for that, or use some guided ones if your mind is too wild to do it on your own. Ensure you have a decent diet, enough sleep, some time to "expand" your space such as going for long nature walks, a nice bike ride, running out on the beach, etc...

You don't need to make alot if money, but if you want quick results, it pays to invest in understanding such as seminars, lectures, courses, coaches, retreats and other services that require money.

Doing just what you are doing, asking for council... Sometimes patience is a virtue. Some things take months if not years to improve on. Think body builder... it would take years for you to get the body to get how you want it. One should institute the policy of "Changing what doesn't work". Also sometimes it helps to work in sequence. You will have difficulty implementing seduction techniques if you have trouble having a conversation with a woman. So you have to have a strong ability to talk to a woman before these techniques are going to be good for you. So set a daily goal to simply converse with 3 women (or more) for 5 minutes or less. When you feel naturally comfortable talking to a woman then you can try practicing one of our techniques until it is natural for you. Planning is a skill on its own, and it takes practice and dedication to develop it. Thus if your plan is rigid, you should revise your method of making plans. Nothing is sacred, if it doesn't work change it. Here is an example of a format I use: I. Goal To be confident around women II. Why- so they will date me III. Policy/guidelines- Change what doesn't work Hold myself accountable an perform tasks every day that will forward my goal. Maintain a journal to observe and track my success and failures Add more guidelines as needed IV. Plans- Feel confident around women Be able to talk freely with women Improve my appearance to be more attractive to women. V. Programs- 1. Feeling more confident around women. Institute confidence building exercises. Visualize being confident and carefree around women. Continually practice getting out of my comfort zone 2. Talk freely around women Practice simply talking to them. Improve my ability to make them laugh implement pua strategies in the midst of conversations 3. Improve Appearance Go to the Gym to look better. Implement a diet plan to improve my energy Procure attractive clothes and make adjustments on my body to increase appearance. Projects- (here you would institute specific steps to achieve all of the points listed above) I will just just do one target. 2. Practicing talking freely to women a. Talk to a min of 3 women every day, with the intention of just having a conversation, no seduction just conversation. b. Talk to women you are not interested in such as elderly ladies just to have a conversation. c. Talk to baristas, employees, etc. Making women Laugh a. practice being funny by following leo's advice on his video. b. Write funny stories, write jokes. c. practice making your make friends laugh as much as possible. Implementing Pua techniques ( here I will leave it to you, I don't know a damn about pua) VI. Demands These are a daily checklist and specific plan for that day, week. I am getting lazy but it is just more specific tasks of what I wrote above VII Stats These are records of your progress... graphs, ratings, etc Yeah, I got really lazy toward the end.... But I think you get the idea, just make adaptations. One of these days I may upload one of my personal plans. Hope that helps.

It is simple enough. Men are more visual, women are more emotional. So looks may make women curious but personality makes them interested. It unlocks doors, not opens them.

@7oo13ad I think what leo is saying is that these models that we create can not be solid and inflexible. It must flow and be formless, and one must be willing to change them should the circumstances change. Just like Bruce Lee says, be like water... Human psychology makes us rigid and unwilling to change especially if they found something that works good. If we are to improve, we must change that basic attitude of human nature.

To create.

I don't think an enlightened being has anything to worry about, society has a tough enough time "seeing" psychopaths. A psychopath doesnt have a problem calling out an enlightened one though!

I like the Sun Tzu approach. That is how I lived my live. I tried to live that book even as a teenager. Accordingly, I played to my strengths an positioned myself in the most favorable position. You see, I have been in martial arts since age 5. So I spent my later teens teaching and personal training. In this way I was able to meet women, discuss common ground and thereby was it was easy for me to initiate conversation. From there it was easy to date and get laid. To me the trick is to make yourself desirable and interesting instead of pursuing women, the way of doing so is reflecting the desirable traits a woman wants in a man (be a fisherman rather than a hunter). I used my strengths in nightclubs and bars as well. I went with a female friend or two just to have fun, then we would hang out, joke around dance together. Many other women, seeing that I was having fun would definitely notice me and then I would ask several of the women to dance. Afterward, it was quite easy to get a few numbers from the girls that I liked. Then I would eventually set up a coffee or mall date and get to know her a little bit. Afterward, we would hang out a watch a movie at someone's house and talk, joke around and eventually make out... and then we go from there. I was pretty successful at dating, but I didn't use tricks or seduction. I just went to have fun and go with the flow. Of course I wanted to get laid, but that wasn't the main goal of me talking to women. I just wanted to have a good time just hanging out. If I got sex great, if not at least I made a friend of her... She often had connections to other women that I was able to get intimate with. Just don't get hung on one woman if she isn't interested, your goal is to just learn about women and how to converse with them. So if she doesn't wanna give it up, just keep talking to other women... It didn't take much effort or time on my part, other than just socializing. It was pretty fun and fulling because I was just making friends. Look, don't even bother with the pickup game is my advice. Just work on improving your charisma. With charisma, you can easily attract a woman without having to work like a jackass.

My goodness, There are so many! Just about every genre has it... but some of the big ones is R&B and Country here are a few examples: Actually, it should be ok as long as you don't get emotionally trapped.

@Edkens I imagine it would be a good idea to draw a little bit on what leo was saying in his last video. He was talking about how he had the endgame of his life planned out. So It would be wise to make a list of the things that you would like to have and do. When you are single, you have the freedom to do those things. So the simple answer is to do the things that would be difficult to do when you are committed to someone. So take the time to do those things for awhile and see how a relationship would fit into your life-plan... Make a checklist of "targets" that you would like to achieve. For example, establish career, get home, travel... whatever you want. When you check those off the list, then you can direct your attention to a relationship...

Caped-Baldy here reporting for duty!

@Emerald Wilkins I could make a case that looks don't make much of a lasting impression. Therefore it doesn't have lasting value... something visual is so transient it has to constantly be created. It is a temporary impression. Why? Because it pertains to a fantasy and fantasies usually can't maintain for long because the are not real. Personality and skills and virtue makes so much more a lasting impression. * edit: people are extremely self-centered, and what they remember and value the most is generally how you are making them feel. How do you want to really be remembered?

@Emerald Wilkins Makes total sense and is quite natural. Afterall, if you lose your identity... who are you? If the answer is not clear, you become who you was. Humans have a need to have an identity. Therefore, you must create a new identity. There is a conflict with who you are with who you would like to be.... I never had much trouble losing an identity because I was a hermit and had no need for attention of others, when I got married and had a child... I worked more on that one and my new identity overshadowed my old one.

I never had this problems. I suppose it is because how I viewed Truth. I defined truths as a reflection of the viewer. Just like light, we are looking at a reflection and it comes in many varieties of colors and intensity. Just like a rainbow, it can be seen but never reached or held. Since I reached the conclusion that the view is determined by the viewer, I can also extrapolate that the lack of view is determined by the degree of "fog" and mental orientation that the viewer sees. As for the word "Bonjour" I view it simply as a society attempting to reflect the values of a civilization which literally means "kind and courteous". In as ideal Civilized society, any situation would be done with the most kindness and love as possible, even dealing with criminals. This leads me to a question... Do you consider idealism as a practical or metaphysical truth?

I am so happy about Leo's video this week. I enjoy learnling about strategy. The Art of War was the very first book that I read on self development. I wanted to know who has read this book, I believe it is the ultimate guide to strategy. I would like to start this topic by sharing the 5 principles of a good strategist that Sun Tzu talks about. 1. Moral influence- Having the support of those in your circle, they will follow you through death and life... that is how much they believe in you and your cause. 2. Heaven- The environmental factors that are out of your control but have to work around, night and day, season, social atmosphere, moods. 3. Ground- The environment, the conditions of the path you have chosen. The ease and difficulty of the direction you want to take. The risks involved and the challenges that you will face. 4. Leadership- These are the personal traits that are best to develop. ST says they are wisdom, sincerity, humanity, courage and discipline. 5. Method- This is the management of your resources and the way you manage the factors that come into your life. This is a terrific topic and there is so much to say on all these things, but I gleefully await all your responses.

Well, Today I would like to talk about the first tip ST talks about when he talks about building momentum(chapter 5). "Managing many is the same as managing few; it is a question of division"; When you are engaging in strategy, you have to not only balance so many factors, you have to go toward your goals. An essential component of strategy is learning how to divide things properly. This is so important because you can use this principle with everything, time management, organization, personal finance, health and exercise, achieving goals... everything. So I repeat for emphasis: The key to strategizing correctly is divide your plan into easily achievable tasks that you can complete on a daily basis.