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@Leo Gura sorry for opening an old thread but hope you see I have been thinking and applying what you say. You said "Don't have a child out of external or material obligation. Only if you really want one." How do I know if I really want one or not ? In many areas of my life I find It very hard to realise what I really want ? From you other content, our mind and intuition say different things and we should follow the later. But I find it very hard to distinguish between both of these. When I have two options I seem to always have emotional feelings to both options making it very hard to know which one is the mind and which one is the real call. How does one know what one really want ?

Thanks @Martin123 , @Leo Gura , @mandyjw - Your input has greatly helped me.

These are really two questions but posting as one since they are some what related. I am big fan of the channel and have done the life purpose course for context. 1. Regret: By the time I have discovered @Leo Gura I already was in my mid 30s and I am really stuck in life. I am doing my best to come out of wage slavey and might have better life than others but will never real reach to great heights practically speaking. I am still not clear on my life purpose after 4 years but woking towards it everyday (I already said Its a great course elsewhere, helped many ways but its taking time). I have constant anger / regret that I didnt have access to such material when I was 15 which could really made my life go some other way. I keep thinking its unfair and waste of my youth due to lack of guidance. I would greatly appreciate input on how to come of this regret and accept the rest of my life. (#1) 2. One child or two for Actualizers ? I had a child in the mean time whom I love a lot, but drastically reduces the amount of effort I can put into self development. I cant meditate on most days as I need to attend the child despite having an amazing partner. In hindsight I should have thought long before having one and he is 3 now. Its high time I decide on child -2 and cannot decide if another baby gives company to the first one liberating me to further work on my life purpose. We dont have any family or friends whatsoever In the country we live as we are first generation migrants. The gap would already be 4 years so we need to decide soon and I am worried about my child not having company at the same time over committing to fatherhood. Any parents input on 1 or 2 children is better for someone pursuing life purpose late in their life (#2) would be great. I know @Leo Gura's answers are generally are of much higher consciousness level but I would be interested in his take on a practical question.

Leo said its all predetermined in one of the videos. Something on the lines that our history, parents, circumstances, experiences etc will determine what actions we take or what opportunities / consequences come our away. Also there is no free will. I work really hard. These days I wonder why bother ? Why try ? If its all predetermined whatever is destined will happen ? Also why pray ? It's all predetermined so it does not matter.

Grateful for Leo and all others who tried to explain. Thanks. I think the penny dropped with this "Knowing and Being are ONE." But its a hard concept to fully realise!

Hello seraphim thanks for your reply. But this sounds like your own belief and what Leo said is nothing like this. I am hoping someone who is familiar with his content can help clarify this specific question. Hi @Leo Gura any inputs ? @Seraphim just to clarify I really appreciate you answering but doesn't answer my question.

In one of the videos, Leo said god/ consciousness is something that is exploring itself. The only way for god to be is to live through all possible combinations. In a video speaking about Karma he says the universe is pre-determined. Because of the actions and interactions from the past the future could be actually determined and we have no control of it. These seem opposing to each other, to me. The god / conscious may not even have a time factor. It is intelligent and knows all possible outcomes. Then why explore itself ?

Watch Leo's youtube video on Confusion. That will surely help you and he has examples like this.

@SFRL I really like your post. How many kids do you have? Do you feel they are a hindrance at all to your professional and personal growth? As posted in another thread I have one and have mounting pressure to have another one and I feel like this is going to hurt my chances to grow in life. On the other hand we have no family and worried about our child being along when he grows up.

Thankyou @Cepzeu I really hope to improve and also remember to post to you in 6 months or less. Cheers mate.

That's a great question and wish someone to clarify further. My 2 cents: Despite experience being the king, some level of 'belief' is needed to survive in the daily world. So, I accept the sun rises in the east, we are not in a simulation, there are 7 billion people, global warming is true, the earth is round etc but leave with a hint of skepticism for everything. Unless my chosen field of mastery is directly related to these areas, I accept them and move along for my time is finite to know everything. Accepting the world is mysterious and I cannot know everything is a realization I recently had and it surprisingly makes me happier and confident. I do not discuss with everyday people that everything is a belief (as opposed to a fact) either. @Cepzeu is this curiosity or is this affecting your personal development?

@Cepzeu Thanks for your detailed reply. You are obviously in Aus too ! I did get my blood work done and I was cleared by the Docs. I even said I dont want to be just OK, but really good. What I should have (or should do now) is to get a copy of the test and see if they are barely ticking the boxes or really excellent. Here again, I wish there is a service who can help understand these results. I am doing my best with sleep, workout, and nutrition already. I am considering 5-HTP too but there are negative reviews and articles . Each anxiety supplement can be specifically used to increase a) Serotonin, b)Dopamine, c)GABA and d) ATP directly or act as precursors for their production. These are the components causing anxiety or depression. For example, 5-HTP increases serotonin, L-Phenylalanine for Dopamine and L-Threonate is for GABA. There are other supplements like Creatine, Lions Mane, Alpha GPC, Ashwaganda for focus or as a combination. The internet is very divided on all of these and the docs only suggest SSRI. I also want to sort memory, focus etc and be my best. I guess I will try and error, but considering this is the mental health I don't mind getting an experts guidance. But looks like there is no such thing

If you saw Leo's 2 videos one for supplements and one for nootropics the list is endless. I take my hat off for him to research so many supplements and using them well. I would like to start somewhere to help with my anxiety and also help with my overall health and mind-performance. That list seems too long and will be hard to understand what works and what doesn't. I am hoping to find a consultant who can understand my needs and suggest a plan. It would be great to find someone locally (Australia) so they know the local brands but anywhere is fine I guess. I do not think the local doctors or dietitians are good because as in words of Leo "they just make sure you will live but can't make you a high performer". TL:DR : Are there trustworthy professionals who can help me create a custom nootropics/ supplement plan ? What are they called, how do I find them ?

@SFRL I also think most people are Assertive than Turbulent. Therefore they can't relate to us. There is so far no story of anyone who was very turbulent who got systematically getting better. (Maybe all of them couldn't cope up and died. Just kidding

@SFRL Exactly ! The other irony is that until you sort out the "T" its hard to have a meditation and workout habits cultivated. Even when I was on a 1 hour practice streak for a year, I found my Neuroticism was hard to cope with. I suspect Neuroticism is the biggest obstacle to self-actualization and general success in life. I tried sitting with the Emotions as suggested by Leo in one of his videos but that's not as easy for a high T. The next step left is to try medication but again as suggested by Leo its better to try natural / nootropics first. However, the combinations, side-effects, trial-and-error create such confusion, its hard to have a certain list. I am really hoping to find one real-life success story and how-to on this topic.