Sleepwalker
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I was really wondering why you barely have any videos on this topic, because I just cannot ephasize enough how fucking important this is. ESPECIALLY for people who are really into self-development and self-help junkees, because those people tend to always want to change themselves or something in their lives. While doing that, their path of mastery transforms into a path of self-hate and need to change. Leo, I want you to make something clear to me and the other viewers. HOW CAN ANYBODY POSSIBLY LOVE THEMSELVES IF THEY'RE CONSTANTLY WORKING TOWARDS CHANGING THEMSELVES? I do self-development and of course, you have to love yourself, but on the other hand, you have to work on yourself too. I have self-love and self-development on my values list. But I find it very difficult to align with both. I can embody only one at a time. Therefore, is self-development an expression of self-hate?? I know that this is a limiting belief, but if you think really deeply of this.. it makes huge sense. Because, everybody who does self-development does it because he/she is dissatisfied with themselves and wants to change. I hope that you consider this as worth your time.. and that you can see the importance of discussing this topic. This is much needed!
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Hahah anyways I got what you meant Glad that I could help.
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When I read the title I thought that YOU want to coach, not to be coached.. Yeah this is silly, you want to get coaching for free.
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The best time is the part of the day when you feel most focused and refreshed. For everyone it will be different. You don't have to get up that early Actually, when I first started off I used to meditate at 6 or 6.30am. I felt terribly sleepy and tired, couldn't concentrate at all. So pls don't make this mistake. I found that, for me personally, the best time is maybe 8 o'clock, after I finish my coffee Try to find out what works best for you.
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A lack of social awareness? Maybe. At the same point, it could be a lack of self awareness. I'll try to explain You said that some people don't perceive you the same way you perceive yourself. It could be the case that you're aware of what you're feeling at that moment, but not aware of your facial expressions, the tone of your voice, body language and in general, the message you communicate while talking. To be honest I was struggling with the same problem and I found that those things I just mentioned were the ones I had to work on. Furthermore, you're probably not behaving in front of older people the same way you behave in front of your friends I assume that you're more polite and that you sometimes filter out some jokes you don't find appropriate for them. This is normal and it's not surprising that they perceive you as a nice, caring guy/girl. Regarding people your age who perceive you as cold and distant, try to work on eye contact and kindness, make them feel comfortable and relaxed around you, ask them questions, I mean, everybody likes to talk about themselves. Be a good listener, show some interest in their life and feelings. Btw, if people find you hard to understand, serious, then you should consider explaining your attitude, beliefs and mindsets, why you think and feel that way towards certain situations etc. You can increase your EQ by observing your thoughts and feelings and consiously changing your behaviour when thinking or feeling those. This will take some time, though. Put your attention on them especially while having some difficult interactions, like arguing or debating someone. I hope that this was helpful. Good luck!
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I can't believe that i found even two people here which are from a country which probably nobody abroad has ever heard of .. :''''D Tuzla, Bosnia and Herzegovina!
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I really almost never had any resistance doing my daily meditation (I'm meditating more than a year now), but to be honest I had a few "cheat days". Here's why. What with the days when you really can't meditate, when something is preventing you. For example, there are only a few hours in my day when I get to be really alone to meditate. That's early in the morning, when my parents go to work and my brother is sleeping :''''''D After that short window of peace I have to go to school, and when I come back home, I have a full house again. -.- I don't have anywhere to go at home. what I mean with that is, I don't have any quiet room where I could meditate even when everyone's home, because I live in a very small flat where I can hear when somebody moves, talks, or even whispers, no matter where the person is in the flat. Now, the problem is very obvious here, because this daily schedule gets messed up very easily, for example when my brother gets up earlier and interrupts me. It ain't just that, there are plenty more things that sometimes prevent me from meditating, most of the times because I don't get to be alone that day or because of the noise. I usually have at least one or two "cheat days" a month, and those are the days when I really don't know what to do, when it's not possible for me to ensure the peace and alone time necessary for meditating. Now, I want to ask you.. Is this a problem? I mean, is the effect of my meditation decreased in some way if I have those cheat days? Am I doing this for nothing, does the meditation have no effect if it's not done daily? I'd appreciate some insight
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Sleepwalker replied to Sleepwalker's topic in Spirituality, Consciousness, Awakening, Mysticism, Meditation, God
I didn't know that I can meditate with noise Thank you! @jjer94 Cool analogy. Thanks, this was very helpful I'll try practicing mindfulness. -
Sleepwalker replied to Sleepwalker's topic in Spirituality, Consciousness, Awakening, Mysticism, Meditation, God
Yes, I'm serious about my meditation I do it for all of the reasons you just mentioned. Mostly for stress reduction. I'm doing it for more than a year now (30 min every day) and I assume that I'm mentally and emotionally more stable than I was a year ago, but to be honest, I find that shift to be so incremental that I'm sometimes not even sure that anything changed at all. Maybe it's because of the cheat days However, I'm aware that the results from meditation require some time to come, therefore I don't want to be outcome dependent here. But I admit that I'm not sure about what I can expect after a year of meditation. Maybe I should have gained an obvious result in that time, I don't know but for everyone it's different.. From now on, I will meditate every day like my life depends on it. In the bathroom if there's no other way :''''D and I'll buy some earplugs against noise. -
Does anybody follow fullyrawkristina on youtube? and has tried the fullyraw mango avocado noodle salad? This video has so many positive rewieves and comments, so I tried it. Maybe I'm exaggerating this, but it tasted really disugusting I can't get used to the fruity/veggie taste, I find the flavours not to be complementary at all. and the zucchini noodles, they're the absolutely worst in this dish. I can't imagine considering raw zucchini to be delicious (or raw kale, cauliflower and broccoli) I was close to throw up after I forced myself to eat this. I tried really many of her dishes, but half of them I find to be almost inedible. Am I doing smth wrong? Or do I just have to get used to the taste?
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First, hello to everyone.. I'm just so glad that this forum is finally been made I really needed this right now. I'm 18, female and pear shaped. I've been unhappy with my body type for a long time and I've been working to make it more proportional. In fact, in the last few weeks I was so obsessed with this idea that I have to slim down my legs that I did only cardio, but only for the lower body (running, jumping, combinations of various squats, lunges etc). Yesterday I checked the results, and the extent of my thighs INCREASED up to 2 centimeters :'''D My legs are a little more toned, though. They are less fatty, more muscular but very bulky and not feminine at all. This is very frustrating, because I emphasized my pear shape even more. I've got a very bony and skinny upper body, but huge hips and legs.. It looks very misshapen and unattractive. If anybody can share some high-quality advice on how to exercise properly and how to set your diet according to this body type, please respond to this. Just tell me what to do. But don't bullshit me, promise me that it will work, if I apply it of course Just tell me and I will do it. Thanks in advance!
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@thortho @Markus Thanks both of you, that was incredibly helpful! I really appreciate the great advice. just needed this.
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Yes both needs time, but providing that you're not a workaholic (I hope you're not), it shouldn't take your whole day You can always spend time with your family on weekends, go to some nice place with your kids and spend some time in nature. You don't necessarily have to dedicate half of your time to family. at least in my opinion, you don't have to worry too much about that, but you should be there for your kids when they need you and that's much more significant for being a good parent. You will feel when they start to crave your attention, they will come to you. What's really important is that you don't dismiss them in such moments with excuses such as, you don't have time to listen to them, you're too tired and exhausted because of work etc etc. Just be there for them, listen to their stories and share yours or an advice, try to cheer them up when they're down, pay attention to how they feel, ask them how their day was. Really, such little things are actually HUGE and they make a good parent. I wish that my parents were like this when I was a child.
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As I can see, you've already got quite good advice on this topic, but I'd like to add something that may help you even more. Firstly, I disagree with the attitude that you should avoid thinking of her and distract your thoughts whenever she comes into your mind. Instead of running away from the negative emotions and thoughts, why don't face them straight ahead? Of course, easier said than done, but what I really mean by "facing emotions" is accepting that you feel shitty about this situation and NOT resisting it by distracting yourself with other girls, gym, friends, etc. And pls don't understand me wrong, I agree with the previous advice up to a point, you should be socializing and meeting new girls. But please, before you move your focus onto smth of those things, first make sure that you've gone through that pain of rejection, that you really felt it and lived it The problem here is that you don't want to feel the way you feel about this, you think that you shouldn't still have feelings for her, do you? And this is exactly why she's still "coming back" in your mind to bite you in the ass because you don't want to go through this pain. you have to realize that it is ok to feel that way and that you can allow yourself to be vulnerable. we have all been through this and can relate to this. And after you've gone through the negative emotion and intentionally felt it with all your being, you're mind naturally becomes ok with the situation and moves onto smth new without you having to exhaust your energy and your nerves to control it. I know that this advice may sound suspicious to most of you who are reading this, because almost nobody usually talks about it. But please don't dismiss me. I promise you that this is the key. I highly recommend watching Leo's "How to deal with strong negative emotions" video for more information on this. I feel so much more stabile since I'm using this technique and it solved so much emotional problems for me.. Leo, if you are reading this, God bless you and your work You've helped so much folks out there.
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Ok I think that it's absolutely normal to crave sugar sometimes, that it can be a sign that my body is not getting the enough amount of the healthy nutrients that I should be eating. Therefore, my brain tricks me that I'm hungry and searches for those nutrients, but finds only empty calories in the sweets I eat, and the cycle repeats. There are hundreds of other explanations, it could really be anything. I think that it's too rashly to assume that I've got a parasite. Turns out that half of the American population is infected by parasites. Thanks for your advice anyways, I will keep it in mind.
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A parasit. This is a joke. Right?
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I'm not a professionalist but in my opinion, you should really do both. maybe focus just a bit more on your legs. do some cardio that includes your upper body and strength workouts for your lower body. If you want to grow the muscles in your legs, you have to lift heavy. Squats and similar exercises should be great for you, and do them with some weights if you can
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Thanks for responding :)) Of course this is definitely the most healthy attitude towards self-development to have and I agree with you, but this isn't always that easy to embody. I try to think like this too, but sometimes I have a really hard time while making some decisions. What about the really lazy days where you don't feel like going to the gym, when another 15 minutes represent torture to you? What about the days when you crave that peace of chocolate so much, but you have to resist it because you know that, in the long run, it is not good for you? And what if you have never been in the gym in your lifeand if you weren't happy with the shape you're in? Could you love yourself 100% even then? How? If you ask yourself, what would a person who loved themselves do, what would be the answer? I find that, for me personally, the answer would often be not to put too much preassure on myself, and to allow myself to be imperfect and lazy at times.
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I'll keep this in mind. Thank you
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I will absolutely try this. Thank you, much needed
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So, you recommend doing a full body workout? It surely is more healthy than focusing only on one part of the body, but I'm still skeptical about the result that I could get My core absolutely doesn't need any cardio, I'm afraid that it may look like a skeleton in the end. But I've been thinking of shifting my focus to my upper body, instead of the lower. maybe lifting weights and doing only strength workouts for my upper body could help make me grow the muscles in that area and look more proportional. Thanks for the response, I'll keep it on my mind
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How many ways are there to become a life coach? For instance, do I have to finish a specific college for that, do I even have to finish college, or just finish a course, get a certificate etc., where do I have to go, where to start?