Amit

@Preety_India What things you actually found awful about him. It is a known fact that there exists multiple personality types like in myers briggs, and some of them are more compatible with one another. So maybe you call it quit, but he might have been a better match to her.

@Leo Gura agreed, I have this tendency to go too fast, and competitive to be the best. Watching your videos have helped me to let go of this tendency but it comes again and again. Also I have a long list of things keep going in mind that I want to do but still not clear how it will manifest in the future. So my go to strategy has become to trying to go too fast. So that I can be miles ahead of others. But it takes me longer in the end.

India is a spiral dynamics level blue society, having blue-orange politicians. You will see more of it in the coming days. Whoever has the more money, can just buy the elections now a days.

Yeah, sorry previously I just read only your initial paragraphs and judged your father. But after reading it I think we should listen to older people, and pay attention because they have experienced more things (not necessarily) in their life and generally have derived wisdom which we can't even think about because of not going through the tough times like they did. But anyways you never know how your life might have turned with the native American guy, as it was possible (might be with low probability) for him to transform and make a successful life.

The brain of your father is programmed to feel superior, it gives sadistic pleasure to ego to think itself better. At the bigger level society's collective ego also support that, and feel good to think itself better than other races. It also keeps a pressure on other people in the group to converge on the same beliefs. In India, where the race is almost same across the regions, there are exclusions along the lines of religion and castes.

Yeah, I completely agree with @Preety_India. I myself was in a worse situation than you. I just felt so overwhelmed in front of girls, and always had only boys as my friends. But after doing shadow work and mindfulness, it's not a problem for me now. There are so many ingrained wrong beliefs specially about women still present in the society. And it takes time to get free of that and seeing from an open minded perspective again. There is immense lack of understanding between genders. Try to journal your belief system, you will be able to find that so many of them are just irrelevant in the new age. Thanks!

Cool visions! Very interesting stuff I came across in your notes. In which fields you are looking for career?

@Shanmugam thank you brother for your videos.. just awesome stuff!

I do not follow sadhguru blindly. And only watched some of his yoga and historical myths videos. But the water went over my head when I heard that food get poisened on the day of lunar eclipse. Now, I understand sadhguru better after going over this thread. He maybe doing good work but he still have a big ego and so he always tries to defend himself and is not on the path of complete truth.

You are nothing but your soul, but most of people have their consciousness (soul) covered by their egos. They while functioning as a separate ego can do corrupt things in the unconscious states, because they do not know that ultimately they are harming their consciousness (soul) and will end up in suffering as a result. This is what means by selling your soul.

The soul is not about debating. It's all about experiencing the consciousness and going deeper into it. It will be all clear to you if you practice spiritual methods with dedication. Without work, you can not understand the true meaning and depth of it.

Blue national anthem debate. Indian media

Hi friends, I am trying to improve my productivity, but I don't clearly see where workaholism starts. How do we define it. How do we end up in that state. So that we can have ways to avoid it.

I was doing a job where I had to take a lot of mental stress regularly and it was deteriorating my health. I finally crashed and quit. But is there a healthy way to feel relaxed at workplace and enjoy it.

I think, I got a problem of being too slow while taking decisions. I feel like I need to be determined what is exact and correct thing to do so I just dabble around. After some time I don't find the thing interesting anymore and just go to next thing. I can't manage my tasks, as I need to feel certain before doing anything and that makes everything too slow. I miss opportunities. Off course I learn things in the process but same time am I not lagging myself behind and being unproductive?? And my mind comes with the answer that you need not worry about anything else. I do things of wider scope but couldn't able to go deep and focus and master anything. What should be my correct mindset. Help me actualized people!!!

@frnsh everything is good when we are conscious about what actually happening. But there are times when we feel low and in those times we judge, we project.

@Key Elements yes, she is right. I think, we automatically and gradually move towards our passion. It's not something we find one day. It's a life long process. But then we need to also understand how it fits into bigger picture, and accordingly plan strategically to massive success. It's a blend of planning but then also being flexible. And in the process we should not get stuck. Yeah beautiful talk, thanks!!

@Key Elements The main problem I face is that I value freedom the most. So for that I becomes alone and then feel lack of resources. Yes, I will try to go step by step from now on. And will use this forum as my support group. @frnsh hey you just found root of the problems I mentioned, thanks for that. I found out the same while contemplating but couldn't share it with anybody. I was recently trying to make relationships with my family members more positive and in that process I sometime feel depression. I am overwhelmed by whatever is happening around me. It's too difficult to manage my life so I sometime just leave everything. And then this forum always provides me support and the push me upwards again. It feels so good when someone understands you.

Also I was doing nofap but due to high stress, I couldn't continue. How to deal with stress during nofap??

How to find, what's meaningful for me ?

@Leo Gura from childhood, I had tendency of pleasing people. After I became conscious of this, I want to just not hear from anyone else. I am from India, my parents do agriculture and basically just surviving for basic necessities. Our family is joint which consists of brothers of my father and grandfather, all living under one roof. But they used to fight regularly, when I was a child. My father was a weed addict and just didn't care about me. There was financial problems and in that environment I was raised in. Yet , I was mostly alone as I felt most safe and secure. Because my uncle and other elders beat me if I am doing some thing else other than what I was told to. So finally somehow I enjoyed academics though the school was very bad. I got into a very reputed college in india. I didn't even know what it was I am going to do, yet it was a dream college for everyone and I was very lucky to be in it, I was given civil engineering. I had no guidance, no mentors and on the top of that I didn't even know how to communicate with other people. Whatever the case, inside my heart I want to be the best I can, so I tried to fight. So I had taken my education in Hindi medium and most of the people came from good english medium schools, so I couldn't keep up with them as I just don't know what to do and how to do. So in college I dabbled around and got the company of stoners, daily weed smokers. It gave some peace to my depression. But my studies suffered and after graduation I didn't understand thinks clearly. Somehow I got my degree. The best thing I did in college was watching your videos Leo, and that's where I felt like I found what I was searching for my whole life till then. I off course didn't understand much of what he taught but still I got the big picture perspectives and began to understand reality. You helped me come out not only from my depression but my addictions such as weed, fap, porn. I was on my way to be a software developer because of you only. So finally I got a job after some months of practice, which after couple of months, I am leaving this job because of too much stress and workaholism expectations from my employer. You gave me inner strength and consciousness. Still I am so much in dark, which I can't even know . But you know leo, right?? Now, the situation is that I am making so many healthy relationship around me, be it professional or social life. People like me from their hearts. But I want to do more leo, I want to take path of the wisdom. I want to bring light to other people but still I am not able to do it, and get resistance, I want to do so much more, that I become inefficient in the process and get in depression some times. I hide things from others because I feel like they don't actually want to know it. I don't know what's meaningful to me. I feel like whatever you say is good enough reason to do it. I don't know what is the best thing for me to do. I do so many things and can't find myself making result in either. I want to apply discipline but I can't find out my focus. How to proceed to know what's meaningful and what's not.?

Do nothing in your free time.