Amit

@Preety_India no preety, world doesn't not revolve according to your choices sadly, you have take things in account according to circumstances. If you have to choose between a hot dumb vs ugly understanding boy, I hope you will go for the later, given you are on this forum. @Keyhole haha, you are my kinda girl.

Just for your information, I am single but transcended the need for a girlfriend already. But sometimes back after I broke up with my ex in the desire to at least have a more understanding and long-term partner, being on the speedier growth curve, it was difficult to deal with her big ego. I started trying dating apps, and OMG, what have I found, A SCAM, Big industry is flourishing on distracting people for their lower self-need of sex, only online dating apps account for around 7bn dollar market share. Other being the social media platforms Snapchat etc., all, cuddling apps, where females have shops and you can buy nudes, sexting, live video, and whatnot. I came to know it's a big part of the Internet running alongside the porn industry. I feel terrible after realizing how much destruction of minds have been done already, and it's most of the traffic of the internet. I have seen people posting about using dating apps in this forum, so just thought would warn you about it. Never fall for this gutter trash industry, It's a huge scam, will leave you empty inside. would love to hear differing perspectives too...

@Preety_India How to be happy with only myself, when I have so many good friends to be happy with?

@mandyjw Please don't consider man a machine used to get an orgasm, he has other responsibilities too. have some empathy...

@Danioover9000 it's better to choose the path based on your own circumstances not abstractly. There are countless paths only if you know your goal.

So maybe I had big expectations or its the state I am coming out of, but I feel depressed when I see that I have had this state of bliss in my meditation but now I can't be authentic in front of people, as they think something weird with me. I had only couple of female friends in my life till now, and at times, I feel intensely desperate for someone. I try to express myself authentically, and it goes to the deep end, which they don't get and think I am trying to impress them or something. It has become a catch 22 problem with me, I want to continue doing self actualization for my own good, but it makes me intense in my ways of expressing myself in my personal relationship. Though my relationship to my family and friends are becoming healthier, I am becoming more creative but it's very sad at times when I feel desperate for a girl who could have understood me, that's something which I have used to express myself through. In these kinds of moment, it's very relaxing for me to post on the forum. Somehow it releases the tension, I don't know how much of this resonate with you, but please let me know if you felt similar to this.

@h inandout I think that's the advice I was searching for. That's why being a simple and frank person do not works most of the time when dealing with another. Another is a fascinating part of me, having been lost into my own world, I don't seem to have a clue what another thinks and value. Natural desires obstruct me to get the truth of the matter. Superficial values are all pervasive for an unconscious mind. @Nahm not, if you are conscious of it's impermanence, that the veil doesn't exist, it becomes a mirror.

Agreed, attention is precious, though habits take time to change. when someone validates you all the time, and after a pause, when you go for the same sweet validation, but you are not being validated because you have destroyed some of their cultural conditioning viewpoints and it hurts them, they are not going to face that situation again, so they try to keep you out from your life. As someone might rephrase it like I broke the trust, but that trust would be inauthentic for me, as I know it's not based on the grounds of truth. Now, I realize Why the wisest are most misunderstood, why people avoid self-actualization, and rather keep running on treadmills of life. leo's lessons are becoming clearer, you create for yourself and as you are God, you create for god, everything else is just suffering covered in illusory attraction, for which the worldly mind keeps desiring and falls for. it's a trap that God has set up for itself in her own ignorance.

Yeah, I was in this situation till couple months ago. Started in my college, we used to get stoned and drunk and that's how it all started, even when I was watching Leo's content regularly, I was not benefitting much because of my commitment and addiction to this toxic relationship brought. So my college had good opportunities for me but I was afraid and couldn't take on it, this was a whole gang of addicts and we used to get stoned and offcourse do things but everything was suboptimal, even we didn't talk deeply about things because the friendship was grounded on addiction, not on similar interests. More we did it, more we got sucked into it. And I was just slowly getting conscious, nad now I am finally sober and in good health with few minor neurotic habits. But it was very tough to get out of, as it was like a sea for me being fish. But I persistently kept trying, meditation did help after quitting it. But I had to leave all my friends because they are still in the same shit. To recover I use to read books from Leo's book list and try to follow on things, try to go through the hard way. I would advice you to just cut from these friends, it will not go anywhere. Rather try connecting people having similar interests.

So about those friends, I gave them so much love and care, but also they got to know my dark side, and I didn't want anything back for helping them in their own lives, but after some time when I am trying to talk to them, they just don't say anything, I think I made them confuse or they are afraid of me in some way. I wrote a poem for them, I didn't believe my creativity after finishing it, it was just like a very good hindi song lyrics but I have got no one to share it with. The problem is when I get to talk to one, I just don't like her because I find her way more ignorant than I ever imagined. Then I just treat her like a sex slave, and then it stops working. I feel so alone, though I am very happy, I feel bliss all the time, but when I go down to talk to her, the desire and suffering cycle start repeating, though it's slowly vanishing, but when this moment comes it's very painful. It hurts to not have anyone, to understand you.

Nice paintings, clock one is an abstract art of picasso. Who is de la Luna?

Can someone help me with which section in book list have books related to addiction? . I am now a days trying to quit a lot of addiction in order to focus on certain important work.

Chief Minister of the indian state up, Yogi AdityaNath manipulates to justify caste system, A hindu supremacist.

I was watching leo's 65 core principles video, and in it the 9th principle is to have genuine intent for Truth. Further he adds that if you are not willing to accept the costs that come with the ultimate truth, you get sucked into lesser things like sex, comfort, luxury and money etc in life. And all these are best pursued with falsehood. But for a person still on the lower strands of Maslow's hierarchy, needing money, sex and safety as the responsibility for stability in his family. Does it still accounts to falsehood, as someone has a genuine intent for Truth but still pursing those lesser things. How should one wrap his/her mind around this contradiction, is it a paradox?

@Nahm thanks for the advice, In my case this fear originates from feelings/sensation and then in that state thoughts of it arises, and then finally it clouds the perception.

@Nahm I have only bunch of people in my life, and find meaning in working for their well being. It's fine for me to not listen to best of my friends, and i am able to distance myself from them. But my family which have highest expectations and also see materialistic wealth and married being a success and desire for me to fulfill those desires. I just can't help myself confronting them on this, also as now I am trying to go deep into my life work, investing in it both money and time. Also I feel lonely at times, as my friends/family are not able to get where I am coming from. So basically I am putting all of myself and taking risks for these people. There arise fears of failure, fear of hurting others, basically a lot of cognitive load. Also had people pleasing tendencies, and a bit of childhood trauma, which I think is resolved now. Currently I am along with my learning, also working on a business and it gets very tense.

@Nahm Ah, when I asked the question, some fears are being surfaced related to survival needs, so my thoughts were influenced by that. But in a different state, I get the point that Truth is more about direct experience, and is not expressible in an absolute sense. The point of my asking the question was also about deepening the understanding by looking things from different perspectives, to resolve my own conflicts. Also, don't feelings and thoughts create each other? Definitely not all the thoughts are mine but some of them I realised to be a good map of the reality, also some of them even I created based on my deeper assumptions. Is feeling the source? I have read somewhere that feelings, thoughts and behaviours make a cognitive triad, that all influence one another. I would love to know your view on that. Thanks!!

Evolution is slowly, so it might take decades for our society to evolve living in harmony and transforming with optimal rate of growth. Instead, revolution gives the same results within a shorter time frame. Isn't it better to fight for a cause to create a sudden change, which might have took so much longer with the natural evolution process. Which should be preferred in which context. Can you guys help me clarify things here?

why that is not violence?

interesting!

and for me, good/bad ceased to exist, the day I learned spiral dynamics No, I am nowhere near that level, it's not that easy

actually skimmed this part, apologies

@Preety_India, no, I have not skimmed that but you need violence some times, and getting arrested can be for good reasons, like fighting for what is right. Anyways, he seems to me a stage red-blue person, and there was huge potential to speedy evolution there as surrounding society is at orange.

@Preety_India What things you actually found awful about him. It is a known fact that there exists multiple personality types like in myers briggs, and some of them are more compatible with one another. So maybe you call it quit, but he might have been a better match to her.