Ok folks,
Im very intrigued by the topics in this forum that I just signed up and wanted to put my own opinion on the matter,
The topic of "Not needing love" is pretty radical.
We as human being are wired for love, however depends what do you mean by love ?
Are you refering to dating ? attraction ? sexual intimacy ? family love ?
The word love is very broad, I hope that within the next generation human language will be able to define it.
Now in terms of dating (im assuming this is where it lies) you cannot stop your need for love .. you can believe in the need to stop needing love .. but emotionally you are wired to fullfill that gap of physical and emotional intimacy
We have to accept this then, with Love comes disappointment and hurt, im sorry folks there is no way out of it, because even if you become an emotionless robot or stoic and you do get your access to love, guess what you wont enjoy it as much as being open to your emotions.
Personally speaking, I used to do alot of pickup where it was all by the numbers for me, then when I started opening up the door of emtions I started getting more involved in every try I wanted to attract the person I wanted, yes rejection now felt ten times more painful and recovering took even more time, but guess what... you actualize get involved with that person on a deeper emotional level, giving you access to a much more profound experience.
There is a mainstream idea in the dating world, where its all about being indepedant and being tough and all that, guess what... you want to find love you need to put your heart on the line and drop your armor... yes you may fail ... yes you will get hurt ten times fold... but the return is so much greater.
Be aware though to keep in touch with your emotions and mental awareness in order to know where your boundaries at, being open with no boundaries your asking for disaster , the question that usually rises is ... how do I know where to set the boundaries... guess whats the answer ?
You cant... its a thing of total uncertinty and takes a huge leap of faith ... just as with everything in life... best you can describe it as dealing with uncertainty
When you rise you will laugh and celebrate ... and when you fall you will cry and weep .. but make sure there are people who will help you through both because thats what humanity is all about.
