avk123

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  1. Seek professional help, I have entered the same practice of trying to fix things on my own and things have tumbled down further, dont lose more years in your life - go seek a professional therapist now.
  2. Good day everyone, I would like to know if there is someone here who is capable or aware of the method of investigating the thoughts that make our life unpleasant. Mindfulness helps because it displays the thought that is giving you an unpleasant emotion, If you can disbelieve that thought you automatically feel better. Is anyone here aware of the concept and has practiced this approach in their life ?
  3. I found my answer, Im going to post it here incase someone may find it usefull in the future. http://psychologytools.com/cbt-thought-record.html Good luck
  4. Good day fam. The title question is clear ... what do you think ?
  5. Be Vulnerable with your kids, dont hide your emotions and trust yourself, you were a kid too once , what would you want your mom to have do in this situation ? Read books for Brene Brown it will help you: Daring greatly, Men, Women, and Worthiness: The Experience of Shame. Good luck to you sister.
  6. OP Why are you overthinking this in the first place ?
  7. Good day community, I would like to discuss this issue, I have recently contemplated about my first hand direct experience with meditation, and it turns out its just another form of BS. Similar to prayers and supplications, meditation doesn't add any value to the table. Now i'm not giving it any value judgement, but turns out that we require some form of BS in order for us to survive and prosper. What I realized is that I personally used to value judge religious people as "sheep" or "blue pills" but turns out there is really no red pill or blue pill. Whether your "new age" or religious or athiest, again every person has their own direct experience but this is what im contemplating on lately.
  8. Good day fam, We are all aware of the badboy notion and how we advertised it is in dating. I am writing this forum to say how the bad boy dilemma has been a huge shame point in my life. i know it is what works however I don't seem to be able to understand the reason, presently I'm trying to cultivate peace and success into my life, problem is a lot of what requires a successful dating scheme is being a "badboy" which in opposite of "vulnerability" -!; being open and honest.
  9. Good day community, I live in a very isolated country and workplace, to a certain extent i'm cut off due to living in a very conservative society, additionally I'm not being able to find the right fit in terms of a suitor. Would anyone perhaps have a good lead on a reliable and professional dating international company? If you have any prior experience, please add an average statement to describe your experience. Thanks,
  10. "You are not what happened to you you are what you choose to become" When you become the coolest motherfucker you have ever known - everything else will come into alignment. Good luck brother Here this may help
  11. Go to Meetup.com and find any meetings of your interest - if you can't find any make one and invite and get to know people. The more you expose yourself the more chances you have - be vulnerable
  12. "You are not what happened to you you are what you choose to become" When you become the coolest motherfucker you have ever known - everything else will come into alignment. Good luck brother
  13. I'm working on creating more room for potentials by getting exposed more often in social settings. Have you tried that ?
  14. Depends on every individuals own experience, personally I don't mind getting rejections my only problem is creating opportunity for me to meet potentials. Others may have potentials but they lack the capacity to handle rejections, again everyone is different in their own experience.
  15. Your just not the right fit, there is no right or wrong , triangles fit with triangles and circles fit with circles, whether you improve yourself or not that is up to you to decide - focus on emotional healing first. Good luck.
  16. When you ask a person these questions and they respond back to you in a heartfall way to you, thats the first step into connection. Read "Daring greatly" by Brene Brown. Good luck,
  17. Would you have the world think your pretty and you think of yourself as ugly ? or would you have the world think your ugly and you think yourself as pretty ?
  18. I understand, personally speaking, inside and outside are one of the same for myself, I cant deny what im feeling inside on oppose on what im doing on the outside. Its called being seen and vulnerable.
  19. @Progress Personally speaking my true face changes from time to time, luckily till this point in my life I didnt have to wear a mask not yet anyway.
  20. Seek a psychological therapist or a counselor for guidance. Good Luck.
  21. Its not always black and white, its grey so it will take a bit of experience like everything in life. Best to start by considering both your emotions and your mental analysis, check your emotions status as well as see if the criticism your receiving is constructive from the second party. Best of luck.
  22. Good day folks, I have had this thought for the past few weeks, and I realized the following question, do you think meditation makes you better than other people ? does it give you a sense of superiority in whatever field because you meditate everyday ?
  23. Three advices: 1- Visit a doctor and ask them regarding your wrist pain. 2- Pay a professional insturctor for a professional workout that fits your goals 3- Pay a nutritionist for a professional eating program. Hope this helps your case.