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Of course do it! Get yourself a 3-week vacation to Thailand. Pattaya or Phuket. You can find yourself a pretty girlfriend that you can have with you for the entire vacation. You'll have the complete girl-friend experience. It didn't fuck me up at all & I never regretted doing it. No STDs. Nothing. Just fond memories. You can then come home and try again. If it doesn't work out that year, go back to where your success is 100%. Try again next year. If I didn't have a gf, I'd be going to Thailand twice a year and probably wouldn't bother with a local gf unless she was an absolute knock-out.

It sounds like underneath you have possessive and needy behavior, but I think if there is a lot of physical contact between them then you have a problem. If she's flirting with him in front of you, then you need to tell her you don't appreciate it. It's disrespectful. That's why they call it a relationship: there is supposed to be a stronger connection between you & her. If she's ready to be swept off her feet by somebody else & making it obvious that she's looking for a replacement, you need to let her go.

First off, why do you listen to your Ex? Here's a few different strategies that I can think of: 1. The Ralph Smart method would be to avoid your Ex because she is not your friend & she is criticizing you. If you go along with what she says, then you have given your power away. You're the only one that can give your power to someone else. Smart would tell you to drop her and all people who do not serve you and stick with your friends & people that you trust. He just did a video on this yesterday. 2. The David Deida method would be to make note of her criticisms, but then spin them in your mind..basically consider them..and come up with your own conclusion on whether you should take heed of those criticisms and apply change or to ignore them. Basically, how you handle those criticisms is entirely up to you and she has no power over how you address them or not address them at all. If she was your gf, instead of your Ex, I'd have a different Deida method to give you to handle criticisms. 3. Doc Love would tell you to throw your Ex's number away and never speak with her again about anything. If you see her in public, you can always smile and wave and make very little small talk to be kind, but ultimately it's to keep away from them. Forever. "She's out." Doc likes to say. 4. Change the subject. She starts going on about you just say, "I'm getting a big head from all of this attention I'm getting all the time. It's all about me! Me! Me! All the time. Can we talk about something else?"

This happened to me recently. You need to quit hanging out with her. In my situation, I basically said, "Are you still with your boyfriend?" and she would say, "Yes" and I would say "Let me know if it does't work out." which she said, "Ok, SMD." and smiled. The thing is that even though she smiles and laughs at my jokes or whatever I say & always wants me around when she was working & touching me, well a few times her bf would actually show up at the venue & I watched her squeeze his ass. So all of that above flirting had zero value. At the same time, I didn't take any stock in it. I could feel that same attraction that you were feeling that "she was the right girl for me", but I didn't put my faith in it. Once I knew she had a bf, I didn't give much reaction to her come ons...which seemed to make her increase effort in flirting with me. I liked it, but nothing you can do with it. Even when she quit her job at the venue, at the end of the night, she said, "Take my number!" And so I gave it to her & dialed her so she would have mine. But I've never heard back. Her relationship could go one way or the other, but it's not up to me to reach out or bother with it. If it falls apart & she starts thinking about me, she'll reach out. It's the best way. Meanwhile, I don't have to put any effort in it & can go hunting for other women.

I had an update & thought I'd bring it up. It's the weirdest thing I've seen so far!!! I mean, Jesus! So I haven't heard anymore from DocLove radio about plagiarism, but I haven't been every weekend as usual to find out. However, what I have seen is that Corey Wayne has redirected his "Understanding Relationships" program to start talking about politics twice a week!! He's spending around an hour per YouTube talking about 2nd Amendment Gun rights & all the other crap that people already talk about on the Internet & all over the media...turning into a YouTube variation of Fox News. EDIT: AND HE'S NOT TALKING ABOUT RELATIONSHIP ADVICE! To make things even worse, he's CENSORING the damn Comments section!!! There's nothing in it but RAH-RAH, "I'm with you!!" dogmatic agreement!! I have no idea what the hell is going on with his YouTube. I posted a comment on it today about no voices of dissent in the Comments section & it was deleted not 10 minutes later. Why the hell would anyone care so much?? I mean, aren't opinions like a-holes & everybody has one? Does he really hope for someone to want to spend an hour listening to politics on a Channel that was called "Understanding Relationships"?? There's no explanation from Corey on why the tirades. No rhyme nor reason. And the total censorship on the comments system kills all belief in the freedom of speech for me, while at the same time he's spewing dogma about "right to bare arms"...hypocritical. Inconsistence & downright looney tunes. I guess Doc Love won the war as he is carrying on with the relationship business. I've never seen this type of thing happen before and needed somewhere to post. Hopefully I'm not the only one that has noticed! :-( Last but not least, I think Coach Corey is the only self-help expert that treats me like a dick. Go figure. Someone takes the time & effort to leave a comment, only to have it deleted by him or his assistant.

Well I listen to a lot of dating coaches & they all say it. I've also heard it from a few people who complain about Single Moms and how much welfare money they take up for instance...I've also watched all my guy friends get dumped. For my one gf, I appear to be undumpable. No matter what I do, she never wants to leave.

Listening to Doc Love again and he's still going at it with Corey Wayne's book! He didn't mention Corey's name this time but started critiquing a couple of relationships that were mentioned in that book..pretty much trashing Corey's technique (I read the book so I recognized it). Scorched earth policy going on here. Usually Doc Love will spend that first 5 minutes blasting various news columnists or celebrities, but he's really got his sights on Corey's work this time. Could be several radio shows in the future to listen in & enjoy this. Doc Love's radio program every Wednesday night. Corey hasn't mentioned it on any YouTube video of his yet, was wondering if he would comment about it but I guess not.

The things you need to work on are: 1. Humor - Leo has a great video on that from last year. I've found the exercises to lowering the filter extremely helpful. I've been doing them for months now. 2. Confidence - You have to build your confidence. There are training programs, books, Leo has stuff on it as well. Confidence building requires taking action & coincides with building self-esteem. For instance, your Inner Critic, let's call him Ralph. Ralph is telling you, "Hate to break it to you, but you're BORING!!!" and then you agree. First step is that you stop listening to what Ralph says. 3. Detachment - Freedom from outcome. No matter what happens in the social field, good or bad, it doesn't effect you. I think Leo's latest video on self-acceptance goes into this. Also meditation helps with it as well. Having a life purpose also helps because it grounds you...I think Leo said this as well. So these three things I've been working on myself and improving in each piece where I can. I've talked to many women in bars & restaurants, made some new friends, & added myself to two new social groups. That's how I track my progress. If something effects me "on set", I look at the above Social Trinity to find out which one can help me. For instance, last night after the bar closed, I was talking to these two women and one of them started talking about her friend's lover had a short dick but he was great with his tongue and so she loved him to death. This other girl then showed up on set and only caught half of the conversation where the woman had her tongue sticking out talking about licking wool. So I says to her, "Hey there! We were just talking about how great I am in the sack." One of the girl's rolled her eyes, but I still thought it was funny as hell. It didn't bother me that she didn't like what I said. That's the Social Trinity in action.

It's going great. It's broken up into modules, so I'm doing about one module per week. Just like working on your self-esteem, you can't rush the process as you're having to work on your subconscious. One difficult element about confidence training is that Aziz states that you're going to have to go out and take action to build it up, by failing through to success or scoring some lucky wins. Obviously, if you scored a lot of success early in life, it would build up your confidence fast. I haven't got to that part in the course yet.

Imagine this for a moment: You've joined the US Army to fight the Nazis. Your'e going off to D-Day. You're betrothed is a beautiful gal that everybody wants back at home & you write each other all the time. A few days or weeks before D-Day (I think), your gal stops returning your messages. Nothing. Next, someone brings you a newspaper showing how on her 18th birthday, your woman marries the 53-old Charlie Chaplin!! And here comes D-Day. With 288 days of fighting for your life from Normandy to Berlin and passing through the death camps. All while carrying betrayal and a broken heart. That's what happened to JD Salinger that I just watched on Netflix (called Salinger). The Chaplins had 4 or 5 kids together too. A very poignant moment in somebody's life all in a single turning point...with not much time to dwell on it for dealing with death every damn day. Isn't that amazing? What happened to him...really I mean no other person's life can compare to it. I've had heart break but not where it was in the newspapers for all to see! If you start reading The Six Pillars of Self-esteem and use one of these sentence stems: If I bring 5% more awareness to Caprice - (Caprice is the name I'm giving you Ex). Then just write down every morning and every night what you would do, some action or thought, at least 6-10 sentence stems as fast as you can. Such as this example plus a few stems I quickly wrote: If I bring 5% more awareness to Caprice I would see that she's not interested. She went and got pregnant by somebody else She never cared for me and I was living a delusion Maybe if I call her she'll take me back Maybe I can get past it Maybe I was too needy all the time I feel needy about her Then in the evenings you write: If I reflect on the 5% of awareness I brought to Caprice .... .... I found after just three weeks of writing those stems down about my own crush that all of my strong feelings died away. I no longer hated her or loved her greatly. Instead, she just sort of became a friend that I could hang out with if I wanted to or not. It simply no longer mattered one way or the other. I owe it all to the "awareness" stems from Branson's great Six Pillars book (first pillar being awareness). I haven't done it this week, but every time I meet a new woman and I feel there is a connection that I might be able to build up, I'll run it through the stems. Such as: If I bring 5% more awareness to Sally If I bring 5% more awareness to Quyen If I bring 5% more awareness to Rosita I'll just run through writing stems out about each love interest and gradually I'll be able to pick which ones like me and which ones don't, just by quickly writing and analyzing my feelings about each girl with the stems. It really helps. You do those stems for 3 weeks, you'll be over that neediness on your Ex. No more jerking off in the middle of the night thinking about your Ex in a fit of neediness. ;-)

Wow, really? Never heard of either? Well I first of Doclove back in 2012. I found a website called Askmen.com and he was a regular contributor to their online magazine or whatever it is. There is a ton of archives there and at the time I probably read every one of them twice: http://www.askmen.com/dating/doclove/archive1.html Then after discovering him, he stopped doing those weekly articles, quit basically, and started doing the weekly radio program at doclove.com. It's free every Wednesday at 7pm CST for an hour. Now I was planning buying The System, but then I found Coach Corey Wayne's YouTube channel. There are something like 1500 videos there!! And for many years he was doing a video per day. Only this year did he decide to cut back to 3 times a week and extended the length to around 30 minutes. Just search his name and you can see his videos there. Both of these guys are pretty hard-edged, but the things they do seem to work pretty well. It definitely raised my awareness to paying attention to the actions of the opposite sex. Looking in my past, I could see that I was totally blind of the positive female response I would receive from time to time.. You can check out their stuff on the above info for free & see for yourself.

As long as you aren't watching porn while you're doing it, I don't see why this matters. Like the above folks already said: if you aren't getting steady ass, then your hand is your outlet. Just don't watch porn. That's the best thing right there. I gave up porn a few months ago & feel way better afterwards.

First off, don't buy rings for anyone. Only if the woman is begging you to get married should you consider a ring, let her pick it out. Let me back up for a second: were you the one pushing for marriage when you bought the ring & gave it to her? If so then that's what was the wrong move. Men should never push for marriage. Relationships are the woman's expertise. Don't be formal about anything, let them handle it & they will sure as hell tell you want they want when it comes to marriage process. If she said the ring was a gift, does that mean you asked her for the ring back already & she didn't give it? Since it's a "gift", I think even if you took her to court to demand the ring back, you would lose. Chalk it up to a Lesson Learned. Otherwise, you could just keep running that same old scam in future relationships: Give out the ring, break up, take it back, give out the ring, break up, take it back. :-)

Have you read the book called The Disease To Please by Braiker? Also, Confidence training might help. I've currently purchased one of Dr. Aziz's confidence programs. Plus Leo just had a self-acceptance video that should help with this. In the heat of the moment when you feel needy, you have to face it, locate it in your body & just feel it fully, don't act on it. Did you read The Way of the Superior Man yet or The Power of Now? Many of these books are all interrelated to this type of issue.

Is this for women? The statistics are that women do the dumping. Guys never want to do that.