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If he hasn't actually called you out then you're definitely projecting. I just had Adam from PsychedSubstance call me out, specifically my alias in his video with my question that he answered. lol. Rather than rejecting Project Sage outright, why not let it happen & see where it leads? I haven't seen Leo trying to build a cult, unless you already consider Actualized.org a cult. Osho had a dark side according to the wikipedia & there were some fanatics around him that seemed to think killing people, to preserve the ideology, was ok to do. That's probably more inline with some government policies. I see it more as an Osho "equalization"...rather than having one figurehead, we have many that become one. That could transform the world. If it's just one, like Osho had, well once he died, it didn't lead anywhere. Still, we have his books.

Man, has anyone seen or heard about this yet? This has to be one of the bizarrest things I've ever heard of. Someone recently posted about it on a YouTube video I was watching & I was like wtf ?? So I googled it. She was asking for help against these people. Excerpt below. http://www.nytimes.com/2016/06/11/health/gang-stalking-targeted-individuals.html?_r=0

I did both confidence and humor affirmations for about two months and had already started noticing an improvement. Jokes seemed to be popping into my head in social situations without much effort. Confidence improvement has been difficult to determine so far. If something feels very high stress or is going to be a real pain then my confidence is shaken on whether I'll be able to do it effectively or that it'll blow up in my face.

I recently saw his on FB and thought it was new so I listened to a lecture from Ken where he's basically selling this large program called Superhuman OS. As I already have a lot of self-help material, including 2 of Wilber's books that I haven't read yet, I wasn't really sure what to make of it. I did some Google search about the program and found that it had been released a couple of years ago & some people were calling it a money grab. I'm not even sure the website selling the package is legitimate as there were a couple of other URLs that were like superhumanos.net and superhumanos.org and some others. Has anyone tried it? Is it useful at all? Right now I feel it looks like a lot of redundant material that might actually be good if you were just getting started & hadn't bought a bunch of books & a few programs already. Maybe reading Ken's two books that I have might help answer that question. I just don't want burn $700 & say "Oh. I've covered this already!!" Here's the URL to the program: https://superhumanos.net/sale/

Thanks Leo. I'll take that into consideration. I already have a gigantic book list & a pile of books to read as it is. I'll have to figure out whether I have the time to invest in it or not.

So how come therapy didn't work? I watched the video you provided. It seems he's trying to say you can decrease your chances of this happening if you have and use guided meditation. I'm sorry you're in this state. I didn't know there was such a thing. Did you try consulting a meditation guide to reverse it? Seems to point that as a solution in the video.

Read the book or watch the movie called Into the Wild by Jon Krakauer. It's a biography about a smart kid who after college just went off the grid & lived in the woods. I haven' t finished the book yet, but when he needed a bit of cash to get something, he'd just go into some local town & try to get a job at a restaurant or whatever. When he clocked out of his job, he'd head back out into the woods, I suppose with his camping gear. As far as I can tell, he wasn't paying any taxes or using electricity. There are still large areas of wilderness in the States where nobody lives. I can't think of any stronger example of living off the grid than what McCandless did. Although after seeing that YouTube video of a guy interviewing himself after a bear kicked his ass...

The presentation felt a bit robotic. You look tensed up when you're talking or something. I can't quite put my finger on it. Were you reading from a teleprompter or something off screen? The voice is too monotone. I'd look into some vocal training. I hear that even learning how to sing from an instructor can help with vocal training.

Go see it. See if you can do some volunteer work at the hospital or hospice care. There's nothing that will make you think more about your own death than seeing others dealing with theirs. After that, it'll be very easy to think about it every day. Funerals are good for this too. Lot's of funerals. And friends or relatives that are very sick. Even getting very sick yourself will let you see it. As you get older you're going to experience so much of it you're going to wish you hadn't. But it'll help you for now.

Of course it's good. I got it for myself at the start of the New Year. Let me give you my review: 1) Does it work? Have anyone find their definitive aim in life after doing the course? Like one sentence life purpose e.g" "I want to be a cardiologist who specializes only on the left side of the heart" A: The course starts out with an aim for people who aren't certain what they want to be. For me, I've been leaning towards being a writer, but wasn't sure if that's what I really wanted to do. Cardiologist would likely study the whole heart. I would know as my cardiologist is also my general practitioner for the past 10 years. In your specialization, I think the course would get you to talk about these specifics and then using the tools it provides be able to pick them apart. 2) How long does it take to complete the course? A: It can take a very long time. There are, I think 25+ hours of videos, which Leo could add to, but I don't think he has. There's another book list and there are exercises. Some of which can take time & require a lot of thought on your part to answer. 3) I already know that I want to pursue a career in music, but not so sure in the particular specialization : eg: conducting, performing piano, classical, jazz, rock music, film scoring, theatre, etc.. In that case, should I still do it? Yes. Are you into life-long education? I'm a self-help junkie & never had such a course before. All it can do is help you. It's not going to help you with your trade-skill, but it's more meta. Also, there are concepts he discusses in the Life Purpose course that still haven't been mentioned in the free channel. I kept wondering if/when it was going to happen. However, the current Actualized.org focus seems to be going in a different direction, so it probably won't, unless it turns around. 4) Is age important? Im past my 30s No. All walks of life are welcome. 5) Any things u didn't like of it? I think it could be longer & still hope Leo will add some more to it. That being said, I haven't finished it yet. I think I did about half of it & then got caught up a shit-ton of work. Although I'm coming back to it now. I'll be doing a review & then picking up where I left off. Also, I'm hitting the book list. Just ordered two more books on that list today. I want my head wrapped around the life purpose context. If you take it you're paying for a course. You're there to learn and the experience is what you get out of it by using the material. I consider it money well spent & I didn't think it was very expensive either. He could've charged a lot more.

Do you have any family like parents, brothers, or sisters? You should consider moving in with some relatives until you can get your life sorted out. Even if it means you have to relocate and get a new job, but try to find a new job in that location before you move. Next, I would consider Leo's Life Purpose Course. The entire course is designed to help you find out what you want to be when you grow up. I wouldn't be ashamed at being 30 and feeling these problems. I didn't realize it was an issue until I got into my early 40s. I don't feel bad about it however. Everyone arrives at these points at different times in their lives. The course is $249. If you can't afford that, consider Leo's booklist for $20 & focus on the stuff he has there which I believe is life purpose-related, also success-related, & business related. Lastly, you have nothing to be ashamed of. Congratulations, for figuring it out early.

If all you have around you is people that are "shallow" then why don't you try to dig deeper? If someone says they want to increase their likes on FB (assuming you are talking to them face to face and not online), then why don't you ask them, "Why do you want more likes on FB? What does that give you?" And start trying to steer the conversation away from shallow discussion. I once took this type of thinking at a bar with a person I met at a bar and ended up getting him to tell me about a near-death experience he had in a car crash only a year before. Get people to talk about themselves and they'll never stop talking.

When you go out on the weekends solo, it shouldn't be forced. Just go out on the weekend without setting any expectations. If you set expectations that you're trying to tap sugar walls, date with the hopes of a relationship, you might not meet anyone interesting when you go out that night or it blows up in your face. When I go out, I expect nothing in return & if something happens it's a nice surprise. If nothing happens, then it doesn't bother me. It used to but that was when I was setting expectations!

I looked around on the web and I could find nowhere to post this but in a YouTube comment section and it just isn't enough, so I thought I'd come here to post due to its relevance in the self-help community. It's just something interesting I noticed & have never seen before. Basically on March 30th, I was listening to the free Doc Love radio show. Usually, he'll start out in the first 5-10 minutes to give some really bad examples of celebrity relationships or crap articles from other dating coaches. For instance, he gave an example of Phil Collins taking back his wife who took $40 million from him in a divorce over 10 years ago. But on this Wednesday night, he basically reached out to confront another dating coach, Coach Corey Wayne! I've read parts of Doc Love's The System and Corey Wayne's book I've read twice. I've been listening to both of these guys for a few years now. Doc Love actually thumbed through Corey's book and reading off some passages that mirrored The System, such as interest levels. Also, Corey mentioned Doc Love in the book and he's even said he didn't agree with all of Doc Love's principles. It was implied, not so subtly that plagiarism was involved. Lastly a couple of callers had called in & bad-mouthed Corey Wayne before getting on with their story. Up until now, I'd never seen anything like this for people in the self-help community. It made me wonder about the potential for a lawsuit. For instance, I'd heard the inventors of NLP were in court suing each over who invented it. At any rate, I don't know if you can hear the rant on Doc Love's radio show without subscribing to his Radio Archives. I've been thinking about subscribing myself as the speed with which Doc Love can give an answer to somebody's problem is uncanny. It's second nature. He knows right where to explain things. I'm not really a fan of his dating dictionary however. $100 for his book is very steep, as opposed to Corey Wayne's book which is free or you can pay $10 for the digital or $15 for hard copy. Just wanted to see if anyone had heard it or had any comments on this. Best, SMD

I'm just now reading this but thanks for the reply and sorry for the delay! That's hilarious. Yeah I don't know if Coach manages the comments section or not. He says his assistant does..hahah, but who knows. It's probably him. He banned me from the comments section some time ago. I was posting comments away & nothing was happening. Found out after going in anonymously that he had my posts muted. Pretty damn annoying. Overall, Doc Love is pretty brutal. He's so ruthless sometimes. I once called in to tell him about this one date that went "sideways" and he stopped it right at the start: that it had been too long before she reached back out to me & that she was out already. He didn't want to hear the rest. But unlike CCW, Doc is banning me. He took my call and answered it as best he could through his System filter. I've never had much success with any of it but it did lead me to self-help and Leo's work. I mean, I basically saw Leo's channel advertised at the end of a CCW video..and I was like "What is this..." hahaha..

Well women have egos, too. It seems like a one-sided question because you're asking an ego-based female whether she likes men with big egos. I suppose it matters if the woman is interested in say: big house, big cars, lot's of kids, & bragging rights in her social circle about what her man is and/or what she does. Leo's mentioned it before: oxytocin. If you can have sex, it might be enough to create a bond with the woman and then the ego no longer matters. That bond in a relationship is almost unbreakable. Only the man in the relationship has the capability of screwing it up or severing it once it has taken hold. That has been my experience any way. If women I was dating were flighty or rejected me, it was because we hadn't had sex yet. They have to give in that first time & for some of us, well it's not easy to accomplish even that.

Of course do it! Get yourself a 3-week vacation to Thailand. Pattaya or Phuket. You can find yourself a pretty girlfriend that you can have with you for the entire vacation. You'll have the complete girl-friend experience. It didn't fuck me up at all & I never regretted doing it. No STDs. Nothing. Just fond memories. You can then come home and try again. If it doesn't work out that year, go back to where your success is 100%. Try again next year. If I didn't have a gf, I'd be going to Thailand twice a year and probably wouldn't bother with a local gf unless she was an absolute knock-out.

It sounds like underneath you have possessive and needy behavior, but I think if there is a lot of physical contact between them then you have a problem. If she's flirting with him in front of you, then you need to tell her you don't appreciate it. It's disrespectful. That's why they call it a relationship: there is supposed to be a stronger connection between you & her. If she's ready to be swept off her feet by somebody else & making it obvious that she's looking for a replacement, you need to let her go.

First off, why do you listen to your Ex? Here's a few different strategies that I can think of: 1. The Ralph Smart method would be to avoid your Ex because she is not your friend & she is criticizing you. If you go along with what she says, then you have given your power away. You're the only one that can give your power to someone else. Smart would tell you to drop her and all people who do not serve you and stick with your friends & people that you trust. He just did a video on this yesterday. 2. The David Deida method would be to make note of her criticisms, but then spin them in your mind..basically consider them..and come up with your own conclusion on whether you should take heed of those criticisms and apply change or to ignore them. Basically, how you handle those criticisms is entirely up to you and she has no power over how you address them or not address them at all. If she was your gf, instead of your Ex, I'd have a different Deida method to give you to handle criticisms. 3. Doc Love would tell you to throw your Ex's number away and never speak with her again about anything. If you see her in public, you can always smile and wave and make very little small talk to be kind, but ultimately it's to keep away from them. Forever. "She's out." Doc likes to say. 4. Change the subject. She starts going on about you just say, "I'm getting a big head from all of this attention I'm getting all the time. It's all about me! Me! Me! All the time. Can we talk about something else?"

This happened to me recently. You need to quit hanging out with her. In my situation, I basically said, "Are you still with your boyfriend?" and she would say, "Yes" and I would say "Let me know if it does't work out." which she said, "Ok, SMD." and smiled. The thing is that even though she smiles and laughs at my jokes or whatever I say & always wants me around when she was working & touching me, well a few times her bf would actually show up at the venue & I watched her squeeze his ass. So all of that above flirting had zero value. At the same time, I didn't take any stock in it. I could feel that same attraction that you were feeling that "she was the right girl for me", but I didn't put my faith in it. Once I knew she had a bf, I didn't give much reaction to her come ons...which seemed to make her increase effort in flirting with me. I liked it, but nothing you can do with it. Even when she quit her job at the venue, at the end of the night, she said, "Take my number!" And so I gave it to her & dialed her so she would have mine. But I've never heard back. Her relationship could go one way or the other, but it's not up to me to reach out or bother with it. If it falls apart & she starts thinking about me, she'll reach out. It's the best way. Meanwhile, I don't have to put any effort in it & can go hunting for other women.

I had an update & thought I'd bring it up. It's the weirdest thing I've seen so far!!! I mean, Jesus! So I haven't heard anymore from DocLove radio about plagiarism, but I haven't been every weekend as usual to find out. However, what I have seen is that Corey Wayne has redirected his "Understanding Relationships" program to start talking about politics twice a week!! He's spending around an hour per YouTube talking about 2nd Amendment Gun rights & all the other crap that people already talk about on the Internet & all over the media...turning into a YouTube variation of Fox News. EDIT: AND HE'S NOT TALKING ABOUT RELATIONSHIP ADVICE! To make things even worse, he's CENSORING the damn Comments section!!! There's nothing in it but RAH-RAH, "I'm with you!!" dogmatic agreement!! I have no idea what the hell is going on with his YouTube. I posted a comment on it today about no voices of dissent in the Comments section & it was deleted not 10 minutes later. Why the hell would anyone care so much?? I mean, aren't opinions like a-holes & everybody has one? Does he really hope for someone to want to spend an hour listening to politics on a Channel that was called "Understanding Relationships"?? There's no explanation from Corey on why the tirades. No rhyme nor reason. And the total censorship on the comments system kills all belief in the freedom of speech for me, while at the same time he's spewing dogma about "right to bare arms"...hypocritical. Inconsistence & downright looney tunes. I guess Doc Love won the war as he is carrying on with the relationship business. I've never seen this type of thing happen before and needed somewhere to post. Hopefully I'm not the only one that has noticed! :-( Last but not least, I think Coach Corey is the only self-help expert that treats me like a dick. Go figure. Someone takes the time & effort to leave a comment, only to have it deleted by him or his assistant.

Well I listen to a lot of dating coaches & they all say it. I've also heard it from a few people who complain about Single Moms and how much welfare money they take up for instance...I've also watched all my guy friends get dumped. For my one gf, I appear to be undumpable. No matter what I do, she never wants to leave.

Listening to Doc Love again and he's still going at it with Corey Wayne's book! He didn't mention Corey's name this time but started critiquing a couple of relationships that were mentioned in that book..pretty much trashing Corey's technique (I read the book so I recognized it). Scorched earth policy going on here. Usually Doc Love will spend that first 5 minutes blasting various news columnists or celebrities, but he's really got his sights on Corey's work this time. Could be several radio shows in the future to listen in & enjoy this. Doc Love's radio program every Wednesday night. Corey hasn't mentioned it on any YouTube video of his yet, was wondering if he would comment about it but I guess not.

The things you need to work on are: 1. Humor - Leo has a great video on that from last year. I've found the exercises to lowering the filter extremely helpful. I've been doing them for months now. 2. Confidence - You have to build your confidence. There are training programs, books, Leo has stuff on it as well. Confidence building requires taking action & coincides with building self-esteem. For instance, your Inner Critic, let's call him Ralph. Ralph is telling you, "Hate to break it to you, but you're BORING!!!" and then you agree. First step is that you stop listening to what Ralph says. 3. Detachment - Freedom from outcome. No matter what happens in the social field, good or bad, it doesn't effect you. I think Leo's latest video on self-acceptance goes into this. Also meditation helps with it as well. Having a life purpose also helps because it grounds you...I think Leo said this as well. So these three things I've been working on myself and improving in each piece where I can. I've talked to many women in bars & restaurants, made some new friends, & added myself to two new social groups. That's how I track my progress. If something effects me "on set", I look at the above Social Trinity to find out which one can help me. For instance, last night after the bar closed, I was talking to these two women and one of them started talking about her friend's lover had a short dick but he was great with his tongue and so she loved him to death. This other girl then showed up on set and only caught half of the conversation where the woman had her tongue sticking out talking about licking wool. So I says to her, "Hey there! We were just talking about how great I am in the sack." One of the girl's rolled her eyes, but I still thought it was funny as hell. It didn't bother me that she didn't like what I said. That's the Social Trinity in action.

It's going great. It's broken up into modules, so I'm doing about one module per week. Just like working on your self-esteem, you can't rush the process as you're having to work on your subconscious. One difficult element about confidence training is that Aziz states that you're going to have to go out and take action to build it up, by failing through to success or scoring some lucky wins. Obviously, if you scored a lot of success early in life, it would build up your confidence fast. I haven't got to that part in the course yet.