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In the name of radical honesty I'm going to have to come back on my earlier replies here. I think @Schizophoniayou might be onto something when you said autism is an energy imbalance. I recognize it when I talk to aspies, I used to be like that too. After flaming you in this thread I went out last weekend and did 1.5g of blow and there might be something to be said for the fact you're less autistic on the stuff. But it just seems like such terrible advice since most people aren't going to be able to handle casual use and spend time reflecting on their lives as much as I do. But to be honest, I have no fucking idea. So now I say: "I don't know".

@Sandy6 that's a great insight thank you

OP is more legit than Leo. Maybe you should start a YouTube channel, this actualized stuff ain't going nowhere.

You see this guys? He said weee instead of love you too. This guy's legit.

Amen fucker, love you

You guys look in the mirror you can reach Clown Consiousness, it's even higher.

Have you already tried? An hour seems really long.

That alien stuff is just a joke to test how stupid you are. Just live your life and stop worshipping teachers. Stop looking for the next " spiritual goodie". Leo said he was gonna work on his sense of humor and sprinkle in false stuff on purpose. Well he's an alien now. Jesus fucking Christ guys.

You gotta admit that second one is funny af.

@mr_engineeryou understand why people say this?

If she's on benefits you gotta overthrow the government just to date this bitch

So get a job in customer service it'll cure autism. The goal is to learn to socialize, read social cueues and respect your own and others boundaries while enjoying your time. It's like you wanna learn to bow hunt and somebody's like "why not use an AK-47?" or hey just burn the entire forest down. I do, because you don't control stimulants, stimulants control you. It should be obvious I'm speaking from experience, not closed mindedness. Your ego wants to use stimulants, of course, mine does too, that's not open minded that's self serving.

Now imagine someone with no natural social calibration on cocaine talking to you "because this cured his autism bro"

Yes it makes you talk to people, so what? That has nothing to do with becoming social as an aspie. I'm the last guy to judge people for their drug use but cocaine as self help advice is really dumb.

??? Are you serious bro? I've done cocaine and it just made me waaaay fucking worse cause now I didn't have the cognition to watch for social cueues. This advice is ridiculous. Yes you can improve your neuro plasticity a lot more than you think, I used to tick many more aspie boxes and some of it just went away with time and maturity. But cocaine? I've done maybe 40 times and whatever flow state I was in that week will be amplified. IT DOESN'T ACTUALLY HELP MAKE YOU SOCIAL.

I think just do approaches until it doesn't matter anymore

I'm autistic and ive been in this place so many times, overthinking social situations and beating myself up. I can guarantee you that the demons are 99% in your head and in reality she's forgotten about it entirely and it wasn't that weird. At the same time it's good that you're thinking this because it'll push you to grow yourself and learn from social situations. I often overthink what's ethical, I don't think it's a bad thing. Besides dude once you get good at this you'll be a fucking monster like the best of both worlds. Autism has serious advantages.

What's the harm in trying? I recently started doing martial arts which I should have started much younger, but I'm still very glad I did. All the things I wanted to do at one point I'm glad I did, changed my life nonetheless.

Yes

Bro exactly this ? For me it's so much nicer to function solo and not have a regular social circle. That way my interactions, even casual ones, stay very interesting and meaningful. Like every new social interaction is something to learn from, like I'm studying humans or something. Maybe I'm the alien Leo keeps talking about ?

Am I the only one who socializes and then reflects on the social situations for hours or days and call it philosophy? ? I'm obsessed with that shit.

I think girls see me as this extreme bad boy type at first because I'm super stoic, confident fighter type looking dude (started kickboxing last year and I love it). I also function very well on my own and all the shit I've been through just made me this way. I think this just gives me a strong energy. When I do approaches women are usually very happy to talk to me. But I think they expect me to escalate really quickly and I'm always afraid to. I know intuitively the moment I should touch her but I never do out of some fear of having misread her. I know this is stupid. Afterwards I usually feel bad or less of a man. I'm also tired of young girls because they expect me to carry the whole thing and I don't like the responsibility if I don't fully know what I'm doing. Maybe i should only date women my age? I'm 34. I go both to raves where I only meet young girls but also to yoga class where I meet more women my age who I kinda like better. Met a girl at yoga the other day and we really vibed well. But after half an hour this idiot started talking to me like I was gay or something so I had to stop seeing her. This is what I mean women want me to escalate within minutes or they lose attraction I think. It's kinda like I want women to approach me, which happens sometimes but these are not at all the women I'm interested in (either bat shit crazy or wildly inexperienced / unattractive). I bet I would do well at social game because I have such a wide range of Charisma and depth in my personality but I don't show it to strangers. I'm quite socially isolated but I like it. I get plenty of social validation just in public, that's not the problem. I've overcome social anxiety, I love public speaking. I'm just a little autistic or neurotic with girls I guess. I also reject a lot of girls and women, usually because I don't like them or they are in a relationship and want to cheat. Tldr; women want to sleep with me instantly and I have trust issues or something and I want to feel comfortable with them first, actually get to know them, which makes me gay.

I think I've found the solution; I'm going to cold approach women my age who I'm attracted to and clearly communicate sexual intent.

One more question: I'd love to have one or more girls / women on the regular who I can also hang out with once in a while and vibe with. Is this the wrong attitude that's not gonna get me laid? Should I just go for the physical? I'm picky, like I only wanna sleep with women who I respect / have some maturity / can trust. Might just be trauma or comfort zone.

Thank you. So I can escalate almost entirely with words and eye contact? I know how to flirt, I just shut down when it becomes obvious she's getting turned on. Maybe because PUAs say you need to get physical and I'm not comfortable with or something. Oh one more question: what's the final pull move after escalation? Is it just a "wanna go back to my place" or should you come up with some excuse, because I don't like that and that's why I get stuck here. Or do you just keep escalating until the sexual energy is so high that this just goes automatic?