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@Soulbass wow awesome, I easily spent a few hundred hours on kz_longjumps2. My best was 254 lj block and 267 dcj block. I preffered playing extreme/hard maps in kz.

Things only have the value you give to them. I personally was doing so much work on myself that I didn't really have much time for gaming recently, but I personally don't think that gaming is bad, I just try staying aware while playing video games, who says which skill is valueable? Why is a mastery in a video game worth less than any other mastery? Now it is a different thing when we are talking about addiction but 2 hours a day really isn't an addiction, when I was playing 5-10 hours a day like 5 years ago that was an addiction. But of course to each his own way, I don't want to talk you out of stopping them, I think it is a good idea to stop them atleast for a while and see what the alternatives in life are, if there is nothing else that brings you that joy, then I don't see a problem with it. Also I feel like the real problem are online games, where you actually compete against others, solo games are far less addicting. Of course the challenge is usually not there in most games but I also found some challenging things in solo games. Dark Souls itself is pretty challenging, The Evil Within akumu mode, resident evil 7 classic mode. Things like that, there are not many but enough for some occaisonal fun.

@Nadosa Yes, hope is always just fantasy. Start living in "reality". If you drop hope you are not in resistance to the negative outcome anymore, which will bring you the relief you are looking for. That doesen't mean that the positive can't happen anymore you can still go in that direction just without attachement to the outcome, which you will achieve by droping the hope.

@bslpiontds Very true, even if you fail after just a week, you still already made a big step forward and don't lose all of your progress. Every time you decide against the urges you weaken the neural pathways for fapping.

I am talking about hard ons where you are horny for 30 minutes. If what you are saying were true, then pretty much every single guy in existence would have continuous blue balls, even a male fetus gets erections. Seems like you have a serious health condition with this, I would really think about seeing a specialist.

@Nadosa Because hope makes you suffer. You are still hoping for a positive outcome and resist the negative one. The resistance makes it really hard. While it is fairly easy to no resist suffering, atleast when you are at a decent self-developement level.

@blazed I have yet to try it myself. But the book says that karezza is supposed to be even more fulfilling than regular sex with orgasms, because you connect on an energetic level and basically become one being, also the love that you will feel for your partner is incredible. That is false. I am doing nofap and had tons of really hard erections which I just withstood during that without getting any blueballs. It is common knowledge in the nofap community that you only get blueballs from edging. With karezza you are not supposed to get anywhere near the orgasm. The book explains perfectly why science overlooks the benefits of sex without orgasm, it is mainly because they take the positive effects of oxytocin which already occurs during sex without orgasm and perscribe those benefits to the orgasm itself, while it had nothing to do with it, in contrary. And yes obviously you release dopamine during sex without orgasm, you release dopamine during pretty much every single activity if you are not desensitized. What I am talking about is the cocaine like high from orgasm which causes withdrawls. Those withdrawls are very subtle by the way and manifest in many ways. What is natural is not automatically good. The sex drive was already there before our emotional part of the brain could develop to what it is today.

@pluto I may be still a virgin, but I wholeheartedly recommend the book "Cupids Poisoned Arrow" to you. It is basically introducing sex without orgasm "karezza" which you are talking about here and it even scientifically, especially neurologically, explains all of the negative effects of orgasm and the positive effects of sex without it. The problem is basically that the dopamine high from ejaculation is like a hard drug and you suffer a withdrawl of 2 weeks after it, which most people tend to medicate with even more orgasms, which only leads into a downward spiral. At the same time you become sexually satiated and drift away from your partner, crave for a new one, because your dopamine receptors now need more stimulation a novel partner or a new fetish would do the trick. This is why todays hypersexuality is really getting out of hand. Now sex without orgasm doesen't have this crazy dopamine high, but it releases oxytocin which is the pretty the bonding neurotransmitter, it is also released by simple bonding behaviours like looking each other in the eye or simply touching. It is also responsible for motherly love after the birth. It makes you very peaceful, you feel very much in balance especially when you are not in a withdrawl. Of course there is much more to it, this is just a simplified version. About the blue balls, maybe it is because you are getting too close to climax? Maybe you are moving too fast? Karezza is suppossed to be done almost without movement.

@SFRL I am probably even further on the scale than most others. The challenge for me has always been, that I was basically falling in love instantly and could never let go, my whole life was just about that one person at the same time my intuition made me know them so well after some time, while I couldn't even manage to really talk to any of them. So I was lovesick all of my life pretty much, with the added sensitivity it really was hell for me. Now that I think about it, this probably is the reason why I don't really enjoy to socialize because I sense when someone bullshits me and in the past I was really sensitive about that and would get triggered easy and just start ignoring those people. But luckily now everything changed, the most important thing that I just recently grasped is, that you have to fill your own cup. Only you can love yourself, nobody else can do that for you. I recommend the book "Shadows Before Dawn" from Teal Swan to anyone who struggles with similar problems, just learn to love yourself and your sensitivity will for the first time in your life become purely a gift instead of a curse.

@sgn Yeah, just started it recently, but it already helped me so much, it's amazing.

@Dsteller The most important thing is to start loving yourself. Ask yourself the question "What would someone who loves themselves do?" when you are faced with any decision or simply bored. Do this all the time until it becomes second nature. Nobody else can fill up your cup, you need to fill it yourself, when you do so you will see that all of those problems fall away on their own and you start being the best version of yourself, getting healthier and healthier aswell as happier.

@lmfao You are just fooling youself. Do you think your life will be less painful when you run away from the pain? It will be more painful, it will stay hell if you keep resisting it. Pain is only the compass to find your true self, it shows you that you are doing something wrong, that you are out of alignment. Pain is not bad, it is the best pointer you could have ever wished for. Feel the pain and I would recommed you to do the do nothing meditation on top of that, just let the monkey mind roam free do whatever it wants even morally bad stuff just stay aware while doing it and don't lose yourself into those thought stories. Feel the pain, talk to the pain, as if it would be another you inside of your body. Be loving, ask it why it hurts and just be a friend to it, encourage it to take the steps that are neccessary. Whatever is inside of you will always stay there when you keep resisting or ignoring it, it will stay in your subconscious taking control over your life. Unless of course you finally embrace that part of yourself as mentioned above. It may be a long process but your life will turn from hell to heaven instead of staying hell forever.

Everything is an illusion. Nothing is an illusion. Only balance is real. Balance is peace. Go the middle way to find peace.

@Leo-Tzu The thing is, after stopping masturbation many people report that they also lost other addictions automatically during that process. It is because you find your balance again and don't require artificial stimulants anymore to find pleasure, you get the pleasure already from doing everyday things. So with alot of masturbation your receptors are so overflowed that the only thing that can still give you pleasure would be highly rewarding things like video games are oftentimes, they are exactly build around that concept.

@Jayden Birch It is some really hard stuff, if you do it for 30 days at your first attempt hats off to you. At times it feels easy of course but don't get cocky over that fact, because it can change momentairly, you are in for some traps layed down for you by your own brain chemistry.

@Shin Well, guess what inspired me to this insight. I was in The Last Jedi yesterday. It is so beautiful, the play with the polarities of good and bad in that movie. I concluded that the real peace would come when there would be a being who is not a jedi nor sith but combines both, for there wouldn't have to be any force to balance it out. After the movie I was meditating and at some point I suddenly found the connections to so many different things that I recently encountered in life, from there on it became obvious how deep this actually goes.

@SOUL Exactly that is what I mean. That is why I say balance, because the light balances out the dark and the other way around, so essentially they are both part of the balance, which is the middle way essentially. The useful thing about it though is that the more balanced your actions are the less balancing is needed afterwards, which brings peace into your being, as would of course the balancing itself just that it would have more turbulences.

@blazed Believing is not neccessary, just being is requierd. I am obviously not all the way there yet, but I try my best to not believe, I try to just be. A question back, is it "I" that is breathing? Is it "I" that is eating, sleeping?

@blazed Great, that is exactly how I see it, with one major difference. For me being open minded is one thing, being convinced is another. I am not convinced of anything, for all I know everything could be an illusion. The only thing that I know is that I don't know anything. Even Sadhguru said something along the lines of throwing his believes into a trash can everyday.

I agree that it is distracting, but it is way more promising than most other distractions on this forum, the potential coming from it is very big. Also I don't see that many of such topics around here, in my opinion it is still in a good measure but that is up for debate I guess, which would be yet another even worse distraction, as is the resistance to this topic. @blazed I see how in your paradigm it might make sense, but I don't see physical travel as the only means for contact, higher dimensions have most likely different ways of communication. I am not even trying to seek out aliens, I just find that the bias against it is unreasonable. Your arguments are only limiting believes build on the current materialistic paradigm. There have been paradigm shifts all troughout history, prepare for a mindfuck. How do I know if I can trust a self proclaimed expert debunker on the net? For me this is not even about trust, it is about being open minded and not sticking to any believe like a magnet, more of being like water and just letting it pass me.

@Shanmugam Black and white thinking is what gets such debates so heated up, I encourage to rather go the middle way. Why do I either have to wait for them or completely ignore them? I can work on myself and still be open to everything. Why do you have to either believe in it or not, why can't you just share opinions about it, without people who want to censor you for questioning assumptions? Did you have an audience with them or why do you know so much about it? Why is your opinion always the truth? Maybe humans were well beyond the moon already, how would you know that, what makes you so sure? After all there is top secret stuff you never put an eye upon, wouldn't alteast that be requiered to make any such statement? One is fake or misinterpreted therefore all must be wrong. Investigating is about putting together all the clues that could be evidence, they don't always have to be correct, I doubt that the people putting this up state that all of them are 100% correct and even if they do you don't have to commit to the same mistake.

@blazed Why are you putting things into my mouth that I never stated? I am not looking for any conspiracy theories, the last time I stumpled upon one was over a year ago, but the last time I was actually really researching on it was even before I started self actualizing and meditating over 3 years ago. I don't watch any news, I just know what I stumble upon occaisionally. My life is already incredible, I am not looking for a better life, I am looking for my true self. Yes, Sadhguru is very wise. But I am not Sadhguru I didn't observe objects for hours as a child and didn't get enlightened that young, I doubt that you did, without the nonsense that others are telling me I wouldn't be 3 years into self actualizing and wouldn't have turned my life from hell to heaven. Actually aliens have very well something to do with spirituality, they are obviously conscious beings and there may be alot to learn from them, more than from Sadhguru no matter how great of a master he is.

@blazed What you say makes sense to a large extent. The problem is that you elevate yourself into a position where you are the one deciding what is true and what is fake. There are people who put a huge amount of effort into researching those things and get to other conclusions than you do, you are not omniscent, nobody is and that is why censoring such things is often very dangerous, as soon as nobody can ask questions anymore, everything will slowly turn into dictatorship by the party that controls the censoring. There have been conspiracy theories which turned out to be true. I did tons of research into such things many years ago and it really makes my rings bell when I see people like you talking about consoring things which go way beyond your little box that you live inside. Many conspiracies have a truth to them in some way or another, many are bogus, but you are not the omniscent being to decide.

@blazed I don't see a problem with what he is posting, he is posting information and everyone has the right to figure out his own opinion about it. Are you seriously proposing censoring information according to your own biased perspective? Just because something is not scientifically proven doesen't mean that it can't be correct, science is very much corrupted and even if it weren't it still isn't the absolute truth, from my perspective alteast, you can hold your own perspective on this of course, but at a certain point when you start censoring others it goes too far.