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Do what Gary Vaynerchuk does, calls himself Gary Vee. You can be (First name) D.

Yes, I had a toxic family and my parents and sister would all make fun of my ambitions and goals. It held me down and wasted years of my life. I did the things that I thought would make them happy and respect me, instead of living life for myself. Guess where that leads? You end up unhappy and they will still find something to make fun of you for. Normally you get these feelings because someone has made fun of you for expressing yourself in the past. Usually it's a pattern that has happened many, many times like me. If this is your situation too -- realize that not everybody is like this. It's not normal for people in your life to constantly make fun of you like this. You can find friends and a loving partner that are actually supportive of your goals. Even if they seem impractical or unlikely to succeed. Someone who cares about you can give gentle feedback without laughing at you or making you feel like an idiot. If you aren't at a point in life where you can just cut out those toxic people, you can still choose to not take their opinion seriously. Have faith in yourself and what you really want. You can make people happy for a time, but you'll always find yourself trying to come back to your true goals and passions. Watch out for toxic masculinity and society telling you that you aren't allowed to feel or have emotions too. Be careful not to fall into the habits of friends and family and start being negative toward others either... it's easy to put other people down to make yourself feel superior, especially if it's all you've ever known...

You're 13 and still figuring out who you are and what you want. Don't feel pressured to lock in a life purpose yet. One of the biggest mistakes that I think the current education system makes is trying to start pushing kids into a university program as soon as they enter high school. At this point you should just be exploring and experimenting with what all of your options are. Make a list of everything that you think *might* be worth pursuing and then start trying them one at a time. Try to think all the way to your deathbed in 60+ years. What do you need to accomplish so that when you die, you'll feel like you lived a life of purpose? What does a great life look like to you? Start there and work backwards. Then think of the opposite activities that you could get stuck on that you'll regret and would feel like resulted in a wasted life, and make sure to avoid those. Even if you spend the next 7 years (that's 2,500+ days) trying a bunch of different stuff to figure out your life purpose, it'll be time well spent and you'll still be way ahead of most people at age 20. Young people don't need to commit to one path super early on. Unless you find something that legitimately feels like your life's calling. Otherwise you can waste years going down the wrong path and end up changing your mind later on. It's one point in your life where dabbling instead of going after mastery is a good thing. You can afford to follow whatever passion comes up. Spend a month starting a Youtube channel and see if you really love editing. Try making a program or game and see if programming feels right. To contrast this -- do some short-term thinking too so you don't miss out on life. A non-trivial percentage of the population is going to get an unlucky roll of the dice and die before they're 18. That might be you. If you're going to get cancer or die in a car crash before your 18th birthday, what kind of stuff do you want to experience first? Don't forget to fall in love, have sex, play great video games, eat great food, and do dumb teenage shit in the next few years too. You don't have to go full monk mode at age 13. If you take life too seriously you might regret that too.

"Can't afford" and "not making it a priority" are different things. Unless you're destitute and barely scraping by on the brink of homelessness, you have ways of saving up $250 pretty quick. Don't eat lunch for a month. Boom, $250 saved. It's not comfortable, but that's the kind of sacrifices that need to be made to live a life purpose. Eat nothing but ramen for a month. That's life as a student. Elon Musk slept in his office, stayed up all night coding on the same computer that ran Paypal's website during the day, to make it work. You can't achieve anything great by taking the easy route. Get a part-time job on campus, save money for a month for the course, and then quit. Doing a business internship isn't life purpose, it's the status quo. It won't give you any more clarity or vision on what your life purpose is. I've got to ignore your comment and tell you to get the life purpose course anyway. It's that important. Especially when you seem so directionless. It will save you years of struggling to figure it out on your own. I can't think of many things that are more worth spending $250 on. When the amount of money is so important to you, that just ensures you'll treat the course seriously and not skip any exercises once you get it.

Depends what you want to program. If you want to create programs, Python is probably best. My experience... I'm also an accounting that wanted to get into programming. I got a book on Python and watched a few starter tutorials but never got anywhere with it. I couldn't think of any programs that I actually wanted to create that would automate my day or make it more efficient. I had no practical use for Python. It was all pretty academic and boring to me. Then a couple of years later I wanted to make video games, and the engine I wanted to use required C#. So now I'm learning C# and I have something practical to apply it to, a reason to learn new things and be motivated. I've got way further with it and actually have a decent understanding of programming now. If you're in it for the long term, I'm not sure if it necessarily matters what language you choose. The biggest hurdle to get over with programming is the general logic and syntax of it. You need to get into that robotic if-then thinking. The basics like integers, floats, strings, booleans, arrays, functions, classes, etc will transfer between different languages pretty much 1:1. As for finding jobs... I feel like I've heard a lot that education doesn't matter as much as showing what you can do. Have a portfolio of different programs and stuff you've made and you can probably get in the door for an interview. Then they'll test your knowledge and see if you know what you need to.

If you haven't played video games in years, why would you suddenly want to be a professional gamer on Youtube? What has prevented you from playing games in the past few years if it's something that used to bring you lots of happiness? Do you actually enjoy playing games, or is it the idea of being famous on Youtube or getting rich by playing video games that you're after? You can get burned out even on playing video games all day. Ask any serious Twitch streamer. It's fun and games until you have to do it 8 hours a day, then feeling forced to play video games isn't fun any more. Then you have to do all the stuff that goes along with it, like editing your videos, managing all of your social media, and reading hundreds of toxic comments any time you do anything someone remotely disagrees with. I don't think video games are a value. They're a tool. You can use them for good, but most people don't know how to wield it and it ends up doing more damage than good, just wasting a lot of time and being unproductive usually.

Love of learning can be a trap if you aren't careful. Some people end up being "career students" and get a dozen degrees but never give anything back. Or you can watch 6 hours of Youtube a day and absorb information like a sponge, but never put it to practical use. Love of Learning is one of my signature strengths too. For me, the logical way to turn abstract knowledge into a life purpose is by teaching what you learn. Especially if contribution or something similar is one of your top values. My life purpose is "Summarizing information in an easy-to-digest format and empowering people to pursue their dreams." My ideal medium is writing, especially blogs and articles. For you it might just be making vlogs on Youtube about all the cool new stuff that you're learning. Or creating your own online courses. Maybe you summarize entire books into 5 minute videos for people. Don't just hoard your knowledge, let it shine. Ideally pick one of the topics you've listed that most interests you and go really deep into it, as opposed to trying to cover everything. To achieve this you will need to learn a bunch of new skills along the way. Like how to make a website, or edit a Youtube video, or marketing. But it shouldn't be too hard for someone who loves learning

Honestly I cringed a bit when I saw it, all of Leo's detractors are gonna have a field day with this. There are whole Youtube channels that focus on "debunking" him or calling him out, plus you know this is going up on the RationalWiki page for him lol. More ammo for them. I don't get why someone with a history in pickup would need to resort to using their own website as a dating classified ad. There are so many dating apps. Of course you aren't going to find someone who can be your equal and not put you on a pedestal. Watching Actualized.org videos is one thing, people who regularly come to check the blog or forum are on another level. Hope he is ready to weed through a bunch of people trying to catfish him and make him look ridiculous / leak logs. But his website, his life

If you wake up in the morning and someone else tells you what you have to do, and when you have to do it. Especially if you're stuck in the job to support your family or make ends meet. If quitting your job isn't an option because you'd be bankrupt and homeless in a month if you quit, then you're a slave. Your employer has basically unlimited power to make you do whatever, and you need the job so bad that you can't disagree. In your first example the engineer has to do what his employer says. In your second example, a company owner can decline clients they don't want to work with. He's only a slave to his clients if operating from a place of scarcity instead of abundance, and doesn't think he can find other clients.

I feel like it's time to admit to myself that I've got pretty crippling and life-altering anxiety. I'm constantly worrying about things and considering the worst case scenario for everything. Anxiety impacts most things that I do in a day and how I do them. Possibly also got some mild depression... although it's more like I go through phases where I have no energy and motivation for months, and other times I have lots of it. But it doesn't feel manic/depressive enough to be bipolar. Anyway my partner has been pushing me for a while to either see my family doctor for medication or get someone to talk to. Problem is that my anxiety is so bad that it's like an endless feedback loop. Maybe I should talk to someone about my anxiety to fix it, but I'm already almost too anxious to leave the house or drive, or talk to someone about my feelings. RE: medication - I don't want all the potential side-effects, or changing my brain in a way that makes me feel not like "myself" any more, or just feeling dull/numb all the time. RE: therapy - I've heard too many people say that they had to go through multiple counsellors or therapists to find the right fit. I don't want to potentially go through 5 therapists and years of my time repeating my problems over and over until I find one who can understand me and help. I feel like if I just had the right questions to ask myself, I could introspect and work through it on my own. I've tried working through a self-help CBT website, I think it was from the NHS. But it got too boring and too much theoretical vs practical so I gave up. Also tried moodgym (similar free program out of Australia) with minimal insights and results. Does anyone have any kind of self-help resources for anxiety? Maybe some kind of introspection exercises, meditation, or whatever? On most topics I seem to do best with online courses. So some kind of structured video lessons with workbooks or something would be ideal I think. I get a solid amount of sleep. Good diet / exercise seems to help my mood temporarily but then it gets worse again. I don't drink, smoke, or do drugs. I have a good and fairly easy life, no major childhood traumas or issues. I was hoping that I could just put it off and seek enlightenment and that would fix all my anxiety/depression issues. But at this point it doesn't seem very practical and like I'm putting myself through more unnecessary suffering in the short-term. And the anxiety is bad enough that it might actually be a roadblock to enlightenment.

This is probably a highly biased group to ask based on the posts above. But if you could go back in time, would you have never started taking SSRIs and suffered with the alternative instead? Have you guys found any alternatives to SSRIs that help you cope? Maybe some kind of introspection work or meditation instead?

That's a good start but I think that's still a bit too complicated. Your life purpose needs to be something that you can explain to your grandma in 1 or 2 sentences. Try to cut out the jargon and make it easier to understand. Find another way to say "the relationships and dynamics and systems" and "counter-intuitive behaviors." You might know what you mean, but other people will have trouble understanding. It's also very broad and vague. That's likely why you're having trouble figuring out how to market it. The systems you're describing, that's literally all of life. Each of those topics is hundreds of books. You can't make a one-size-fits-all solution to explain or manage all of those things. Just explaining politics or relationships is a full life purpose on its own. You'll drive yourself insane trying to interconnect them all.

I agree with aurum that mastery of social skills is really broad. Why do you limit mastery of social skills to relationships? There are so many other ways that social skills can interact with our lives. To me sales and marketing are social skills, for example. I would get a piece of paper and write down your tshirt business, and social skills / relationships as 2 options. Then write down everything else you are interested in. Even hobbies you did for fun as a kid that you stopped doing. Then see how each one might overlap with each other... social skills in particular.

Most investment pros can't outperform the market. You're better off putting your money into an index than any particular fund in most cases. If people who invest for a living, have degrees in finance and economics from prestigious institutions, and work for big companies like JP Morgan can't do it, what makes you think that you can? Ask to see all of your dad's trades for the last 6 months or a year. Not just his big wins, ALL OF THEM including all the trades where he lost money, and net it out. See how much he's actually making in the long-term. Maybe he does have some working system. But don't take even your own dad's word for it without really looking at the math. Especially if you're going to put all your savings into it. You'd probably be better off learning how to play online poker instead. It involves learning less math and statistics, less variables and faster to learn, and both stocks and poker have an element of randomness/luck/gambling to them as well as some skill component that may allow you to slightly tilt the odds in your favor. In the long run you're at risk of busting out from both of them.

The big thing that you have to worry about is getting expelled entirely. If you get a mark on your personal record that's basically just a warning? No future employer is going to ask if you received any disciplinary action for cheating. No employer has ever asked to physically see my degree, they just take what's on your resume at face value. Probably won't even be an issue for getting an internship. Unless they want to see your full transcript and there is a big note about it on there. Even then if your grades are good enough, they might let it slide. If they ask you can just say you made one stupid mistake when you were younger, etc etc. Why would you choose to go into such a hard program in the first place then? Is it just pressure and expectation from your parents to be a doctor or a lawyer? (I know that's super common in some cultures, and people with immigrant parents.) Maybe it's a blessing in disguise. But if there's a risk of getting kicked out of your program over it, then you need to figure out what you really do want to do pretty quickly.

Of course there will be exceptions that only got where they are because of who they knew or by pure luck. That doesn't help you any though. All it will do is make you resentful of those who got there the easy way. You have to walk your own path on the assumption that it won't be easy and you won't get any help. It's also hard to know which case applies to certain people. You might assume some people like Paris Hilton are just rich lucky idiots. Of course she comes from a rich family but I've heard she's actually super smart and has great work ethic as well. People didn't just drop a fragrance, clothing, and cosmetic line in her lap, open 50 stores in 40 different countries, and open a resort in her name. Same with Logan Paul. I don't like the guy but I have to admit that he's a business genius. When from the outside it just looks like an idiot running around making vlogs. "Luck is what happens when preparation meets opportunity" - Seneca

Greens maybe. Fruit no. At least for humans who lived in most of Europe and North America. Fruit is only ripe and available within a small window of a few months each year. What we know as fruit today is not what fruit has historically been. It's all been selectively bred and genetically modified. Apples used to be small and sour, more like crabapples. Wild grapes are so sour that they're almost unpalatable to the average person. Wild bananas are completely packed full of seeds. All full of way more fiber and way less sugar than the fruit we eat today. A nice treat for our ancestors a few times per year, but not a staple.

A while ago I got into the habit of checking the blog every day. Now I check the forum pretty much every day. Usually just once a day, and not necessarily every category. I do recognize a few friendly faces that I see regularly and value the input of.

How will you define "emotional reaction?" How do you measure how intense an emotional reaction is? What is the cutoff going to be where you decide to record it or not? If you're honest with yourself... I think you're going to spend most of your day writing stuff down. Your day is just a constant wave of one emotion changing to the next.

I'm a big Bitcoin fan but I still think 100k by the end of next year is unrealistic. 3 - 4 years maybe. Every bull run is lengthening -- it's taking more time to go up by a smaller % than last time.

Tucker Carlson is intolerable even to most of the right. Even in 4 years I don't think Ben Shapiro is a possibility based just on the fact that he's Jewish. Maybe one of the other "intellectual darkweb" guys is a possibility. Personally I'm looking forward to Dwayne "The Rock" Johnson vs Kanye West in 2024 or something similarly ridiculous.

Dude you're such a naysayer that you're burying your own potential. If you're unhappy and failing in life you have no one to blame but yourself. Just because you don't think someone is willing to pay for something, that doesn't make it true. Do a Google search: https://ca.indeed.com/Social-Media-Manager-jobs Average wedding photographer cost -- $2,400 for one day https://www.theknot.com/content/average-cost-wedding-photographer#:~:text=Based on an internal study,the most popular wedding vendors. Yeah, literally everything that will be coded is already done /s You can't, I don't know, think outside the box and make an Excel sheet to sell people to help them figure out when to plant each crop in their garden. Or learn Unity and C# and start making your own video game. Yup, every good idea for a video game has been taken and there will never be a unique one again. $50,000 per summer/winter - https://www.muziford.com/blog/2019/october/18/how-much-money-can-you-make-plowing-snow.htm Again..... you act like there's no such thing as landscaping companies that are already doing this full-time. What the fuck is this scarcity mindset? Nobody out there wants their grass cut or snow shoveled? Can you hear yourself? Do you want me to go down the rest of the list? "I can't start doing any of those jobs today while putting zero effort in" -- You sound fucking ridiculous man. Enjoy staying broke. Now we get to the real root of the issue. You're lazy and think you're too good for an honest day's work. You expect instant results with zero effort.

It sounds like you already know what your options are: - Quit your job with no plan - Wait a little bit, quit your job with a plan - Wait a little longer, quit your job with a life purpose Unless your feelings go from "burnt out" to "unbearable", what's the harm in staying a little longer? Take it one day, one week, one month at a time. Tell yourself that you'll look for new jobs for 3 months before quitting. Although if you go 3 months without landing another job, that's a pretty good indication that quitting with no plan could be disastrous. Have you completed the life purpose course? If not, I would stay at your job, save up the money for it, and do that before quitting. Realize that even having a life purpose is no guarantee that you won't get burnt out sometimes. The LP course literally has a section called "Accept drudgery."

Very low risk. Life is too good to rock the boat, and Biden being in charge instead of Trump won't actually change the day-to-day that much for most people. There are too many distractions. People are too comfortable and placated. I have lots of right-wing friends and none of them are raging mad or suggesting to take action in any way. They are just feeling defeated more than anything. Actual white supremacists like Richard Spencer welcome a Biden win in hopes of accelerationism, he posted a picture of his ballot for Biden on Twitter. You might get one or two individual lunatics who go shoot some place up. That was a risk no matter which side won. But you aren't going to get militias out in force unless Trump somehow manages to find actual, indisputable proof of election fraud.

I listed 20+ of them above. There are literally hundreds of businesses you can bootstrap with $0 - $100 to start with. Lots of services where all you need to get started is your time, labor, or knowledge. No inventory, no equipment, no need to rent an office or storefront. No employees to hire. Go browse all the jobs people are offering on Fiverr for some inspiration.