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A good psychological test will have mechanisms built into it to test for incongruence or lying... they'll ask you the same thing multiple different ways and see if you're consistent or not. But it doesn't sound like you were talking to a psychologist or anything formal, it was just a self-reporting form where you check boxes. Personally I wouldn't worry too much about it. Your employer is inevitably going to trick you or guilt you or f*** you over in some way, so I don't think you really have an obligation to be totally honest and open with them under our current capitalist system. They can fire you with no notice and hold all the power. The only thing is that if you aren't a social person and it's a role that involves a lot of talking to people, you might end up hating it or it will really be emotionally draining for you, so it might be better to be honest and not get into a job that isn't suited for you. I'm guessing this specific form didn't say anything about "You must answer these questions truthfully". There's no way for them to know anyway. You can honestly believe you're social, especially if you think of a group of small friends that you know. They didn't specify the situation. Personally I probably would've been honest, but I'm not under any illusion with the fact that society massively favors extroverts either.

You have your whole life (probably) to do the high consciousness spiritual stuff. Get all the sex, partying, etc out of your system now while you're young. Otherwise it'll always be there in the background as a regret, an itch you never scratched that's always calling to you. Set yourself a time limit to do all this hedonistic stuff, X number of years or by X age. Then you can get serious about more "meaningful" things. Don't go halfway and try to do both, or you'll probably just end up unsatisfied in both areas or it will take twice as long. Unless your spiritual belief system includes the need to reach a certain level to escape the reincarnation cycle, or to be free of sin at your time of death which could come at any time. Those are the only situations I can think of where there's a harm in delaying.

Start with what you already know. What kind of computer games do you play and enjoy the most? What is it about them that appeals to you? You might get a hint at your life purpose there without necessarily having to look further. Do you like games focused around money management, trading, economy? Then maybe you'd like business. Do you like open-world games where you can explore? Then adventure is probably a strong value for you Do you like creative games like Minecraft where you can build and create things? Then an artistic calling might be suited for you Puzzle/strategy, sport, simulation, fighting, shooter... they all fill a need and give a good hint at what it is that your soul really craves in life.

Coursera, EdX, etc are probably your best route if you want something accredited from an actual institution so you get a degree to put on your resume at the end. Some of those sites offer most of their courses for free, I forget which ones. Udemy is best for learning smaller, very specific topics. I wouldn't use them for large complex subjects like marketing or business. Skillshare is only really good for creative stuff like photography, design, etc. as that's the majority of the platform's focus. LinkedIn Learning might be good for business topics (I haven't used it before but I've researched it a little.) Ask yourself: Why do you want to take business classes? What's your end goal? Break business down into smaller parts. What about business specifically do you want to learn? In my opinion, if you want to learn about Human Resources, there's no point doing introductory Accounting, Marketing, Economics, etc courses like a university would make you take. How are you going to use the knowledge when you're done? Do you need something to put on your resume or are just the raw skills enough? How much time and money are you willing to invest? Are you okay with self-study or do you need a more structured program with lectures and weekly graded assignments? I'd pick one subject and study it as much as you can for a time, instead of studying business as a whole. You can start off with free Youtube videos

You need personal development to get to a certain point in life where you have the basics handled. Past that, be careful not to fall into the trap of perfectionism. Your intuition is right that you can spend a lifetime trying to optimize everything. It's very easy to make big gains in the beginning, but you quickly hit a point of diminishing returns. Set a point where things are "good enough" and try to be at peace and content once you reach it, then you can move on to improving some other area of life

I'm not gonna bother digging up studies and research to prove it, but I disagree with the general sentiments here that younger generations are becoming less racist. I've seen studies saying that Gen Z is actually the first generation to be more conservative, having less sex, more racist, more traditional than the generation before them in a long time. The problem is a reporting issue. Schools are totally locked down with anti-racism, pro-LGBT and everything else nowadays. Kids are terrified to say anything about a minority group or protected class because they'll get cancelled. It's social suicide, as well as potentially ruining scholarships, jobs, etc. But trust me that these kids are saying plenty of racist stuff in private. Even liberals can say some pretty racist stuff in private. When you make something taboo, of course kids are going to rebel against the mainstream position and do what's edgy and different. If you think "Republicans" are as right-wing or racist as it gets, that's your first problem. You guys are stage green leftists just hypothesizing about what the right is actually like. Republicans are maybe 1/3 of the way to the "far right". Actual racist / right-wing people laugh at how pathetic and similar to Democrats the Republicans are today. They consider Republicans traitors because they don't nearly go far enough. Just because racist stuff has been deplatformed off Youtube and Twitter and you can't see it doesn't mean it isn't growing elsewhere. Racist podcasts, private Discord groups, even in-person meetups are booming especially in terms of younger membership. They say that people get more conservative as they get older. If that's true and seeing what Gen Z kids are saying in private nowadays, I think you're in for some pretty wild political times in 10 or 20 years. Where did you come to your assumption that racism is so bad anyway, and have you ever challenged it? Are you afraid you might actually get converted over? If you're really open-minded, I'd challenge you to really listen to a racist speak sometime and see if they don't make some valid points. Not some idiot redneck either, but an actual educated race realist. (Personally I did the opposite and gave socialists, communists, and breadtubers a fair chance, watched over 100 hours of video from them and read several leftist books to challenge my own positions. It actually did shift me to become more of a centrist, although I still like to listen to people on the right speak as well)

Congrats on your progress so far. You will inevitably have a setback. Don't beat yourself up and let yourself get in a downward spiral when it happens. Just start back over from 0 and don't let it become a habit again. It's not all or nothing, it's going to be a journey. If you can gradually decrease down from multiple times a day to once a day, then every other day, then once a week, to whatever your goal is... that's already a big accomplishment. Going cold turkey doesn't work for most people and sets yourself up for failure when the willpower runs out.

This is true, but I also think people have a right to be mad. It's not how the vaccine was originally marketed to us. We were promised that if enough people took the vaccine everything would go back to normal. I still think getting vaccinated is the best course of action, as it's very effective at preventing hospitalization even with variants. But I get why people are frustrated. Especially on top of stuff like being told cloth masks are now useless after 2 years. I was sick after Christmas and it converted me from initially being very against the booster, to in a position where I'll probably get it now. Even though I tested negative for covid (probably the flu), it sucked getting sick for a week straight and made me realize that I want to do as much as I can to avoid that when I do inevitably catch covid. If you haven't been sick for 2 years you probably forget how much it sucks, like me. And you definitely don't want to be hospitalized.

You can be friends with people on a shallow level. It's fine to meet up with friends from school just to have dinner or play video games once a month. Just try to grow your social circles and meet new people to fill up most of your time. The saying that you're the sum of the 5 people you spend the most time with is pretty true.

Dirty. A guy at a company I work for went to open a new factory in India. He said within a couple weeks a spotless brand new factory looked like it hadn't been cleaned in a decade, both inside and out. Just look at how polluted the sacred Ganges river has become... people pooping in it, trash and dead bodies floating in it, people burning their dead on the banks, all kinds of filth. When I think of India the first thing that comes to mind is really bad traffic, and people constantly honking their horns nonstop 24/7, nowhere else in the world seems to use their horns like India. I really don't understand it, it doesn't make the traffic go any faster, are people just that impatient? Indian people seem very risk-averse, big rule followers. In my experience in the UK and North America Indian people seem disproportionately smelly, like most don't wear deodorant. In multiple places I worked, we had to have managers explain to Indian employees that their body odor was an issue and distracting other workers. We have to tell Indian employees to actually sit on the toilet seat, not squat over it and make a huge mess over the whole stall. Basic Western hygiene and other concepts they're just totally out of touch with. On the positive, India seems like a bastion for spirituality. Hinduism, yoga, meditation, advaita vedanta, all kinds of great practices. However sadly the golden age of India seems to have been 1,000+ years ago and I feel like most people in India have lost touch with their roots since being colonized by the British. Not politically correct but OP wanted some honest opinions so there you go. I tried to make it as objective as possible, this is as PC as I could make it and be honest about my feelings and experiences. What's the point of the thread if we are just showering him with all the positive things about India and Indian people.

Hard work x Productivity = Results You can optimize either but it's far easier to be more productive than to try and work harder IMO. You cap out on hard work much faster. You can always get more efficient. 1000% yes. For at least one day (ideally a week), keep a spreadsheet where you track what you're doing in 1/2 hour increments. All 24 hours... record sleep, eating, travel, scrolling on your phone, everything. It should only take about 10 minutes out of your day if you take a minute or two to update it every couple hours. Like tracking your calories for a diet it's important you don't BS yourself. Be accurate and complete, and don't just do it when you're having a super-productive and full day. It's better to work in long uninterrupted chunks of time, at least 2 hours. You can take breaks in between, but I prefer to do all of my work in one solid stint with maybe just a meal break in the middle. Every time you get out of flow state it'll take at least 15 - 20 minutes to pick back up. I would generally break it into 2 camps depending if you're a morning person or a night owl. If you're most productive in the morning you'll want to wake up as early as possible, like 5 or 6 am. Start doing the most important tasks right away. Ignore email, phone calls, and all other tasks. In my experience, morning people are front-loaded in terms of energy and focus and it steeply declines as the day goes on. By noon my productivity is half what it is when I first wake up. DON'T SWITCH TASKS. Like taking breaks, stuff like checking your email even for a second will kick you out of flow state and ruin productivity. I'm not a night owl but I think Tim Ferriss is and has a video about it. Basically you wanna sleep till noon, then start working after dinner and do most of your work late in the night. Either strategy helps minimize interruptions because they're both quiet times of the day when people aren't trying to contact you. For 99% of people, worrying about not getting enough pleasure or motivation is a non-issue. Most people spend like 6 hours a day watching Netflix or scrolling through social media and probably don't even realize the sheer number of hours they are wasting each day. Unless you're working like 10 hours a day (actual working, not bullshit where you stop to text people or check your email every 10 minutes) you don't need to even start thinking about balance. Discipline with work is just like weight lifting. You just gradually add more on over time and build your tolerance. If you're writing a novel and right now you write 500 words a day, up it to 1,000 then 1,500 then 2,000. There's no reason you can't write 5,000+ words a day. It's not normal to feel pleasure from boring or mundane drudgery tasks unless you're a masochist. You don't need to get pleasure from the process, you get pleasure from the results. When in doubt, you're probably being too soft and not working hard enough All lives matter

Sorry, not sure where else to post this. This seems like the closest thing to a "Suggestions" category. Can we get a night theme or dark theme for the forum? Most other websites I use support this. Then I come to the forums and get blasted by a pure white screen lol. Especially now that it's winter, any time it's after 5 PM my screen feels super bright and hurts my eyes to look at. I did a bit of research and it seems like it's just a case of adding a theme to the forum plugin: https://invisioncommunity.com/files/file/9759-night-mode/ https://invisioncommunity.com/files/file/9700-bravo-6-dark-theme-for-46/ I think this would be a great quality-of-life improvement for many users, so thanks for considering.

I think most "Conservative trad women" on Youtube are faking it for clout or overcompensating for a wild past. Seen too many of them get completely exposed on recent years.

Gl. Avoid getting bored and finding you have nothing to do, or you'll probably resort to fapping. Avoid softcore stuff like Instagram entirely as well, or it'll start to tempt you and lead you back.

If you insist in not having sex, you're going to have to go for dating sites like Christian Mingle or something to have a chance. According to 2011 to 2015 CDC data, women between ages 25 and 44 had a median of 4.2 sexual partners. The lower you go, the worse it gets. For just millennials the average is 8 partners. Basically no one you approach is going to be saving themselves for marriage. I even know women who said stuff like that and then cave in after being with a guy for a couple months. Most women won't have the willpower to stick around and wait, even if they have intentions of respecting your wishes, unless they're cheating on you. In real-life meetings you'll have to go to a church basically. Orthodox or Catholic, the more strict the denomination the better. Most protestant denominations won't cut it. There will only be so many women in each congregation that meet your requirements, so you'll need to exhaust each church of candidates before moving on to a new one. Better yet consider becoming a regular at a mosque or converting to Orthodox Judiasm. Move to Utah and date Mormons. In secular women, you're not going to find women saving themselves unless they're asexual or have past sexual trauma basically. There's almost no non-religious incentive to do it. Then you have problems once you get married and you want to start having sex. You're basically committing yourself to a sexless life if you go this route, even once you're married. Maybe she'll let you hit it once a year on your anniversary. Maybe you're okay with that. But maybe once you have sex it'll open the floodgates and you'll realize you can't go back to life without it. If you do get a nice religious girl who will wait till marriage, something will almost certainly be mentally messed up with her. Like full of repression and shame that you will never be able to overcome. Submissive to an annoying level. Or at least she will always love and put god as #1 before you.

Something like 20% of the workforce is out sick in my area already. So yeah, everyone getting sick is pretty inevitable. They tell us cloth masks are useless now. It already feels to me like society is starting to falling apart. My garbage day was yesterday and they didnt come until the afternoon today. More garbage than usual because of Christmas, but still. Never an issue previous years. I heard people that had their hot water heater or furnace break and had to wait weeks to get parts or someone to come fix it. Everyone is sick, no one is working. At this rate even grocery stores will be closed due to lack of staff soon. My sister is a nurse and pretty much everybody she works with is either sick themselves, or someone in their household is sick ie. they will be getting sick shortly. Lots of nurses are so burnt out they're just quitting. Even a couple weeks ago, my baby was sick and the only way to get a doctor to see him was to go to the ER. My household got sick but tested negative so I guess it was the flu though? Plus people complaining that even $15/hr minimum wage wouldn't be enough with inflation and rent/house prices. In the UK they now allow 28 days sick leave without a doctors note. Shelves were more empty than usual when I went grocery shopping yesterday, especially meat. Idk I'm pretty stocked up and ready to not leave my house for a couple months if things get really bad. All we can do is try our best to not get sick. And if you get sick, hope it's not bad enough that you need medical attention.

Most Christian monks see themselves as just tools or servants of God, probably monks/nuns in other religions are the same. They give up ego, identity, personal desires, but most still aren't enlightened or aware of nonduality. If you can completely give up separation then by definition you'd be in a non-dual state. But easier said than done, you can't just do it intellectually.

Since it's basically a Kindle on your car, it'd be cool if you could program different writing and stuff on it. Have a company logo on your car during business hours and then remove it on the weekends. Or just have motivational quotes on your car that change every day.

You might not have teeth issues but you probably have gum issues. Does your dentist do a periodontal pocket depth test by poking into your gums around all your teeth each visit? Before I flossed, most of my pockets were 5/5 depth (the worst possible.) Since I started flossing and occasionally rinsing with saltwater, they are mostly 1s and 3s now. Also getting a dental cleaning is much less painful. Before I would see them vacuuming buckets of blood out of my mouth when I had cleanings, I had to take Advil before my appointment and I'd still be gripping the armrests because it was so sensitive. Worst part is I basically had to realize it and start doing it myself. Even with the bad readings, my hygenist and dentist never pushed the issue. They asked how much I brush and floss but never really gave recommendations or told me how harmful it was to not floss. Your dentist probably says nothing because nowadays we can't offend or guilt people. They probably assume most people don't care enough to change their behavior. But ask them honestly and they'll probably tell you that your gums are wrecked. I'm a mouth breather and snorer which makes your gums even worse. If you don't floss and you're a mouth breather and you have allergies, your gums will be like raw hamburger. Gum disease can cause other serious problems like heart disease. It's like having raw sores in your mouth that lets bacteria and other nasty stuff directly into your bloodstream. Once your gums recede to a certain point it's hard to get them back... the more sensitive parts of your teeth will be more exposed, more likely to get cavities and infections under the gumline, if it gets really bad your teeth will start to get loose and fall out when you're older because there's no gums left to hold them in place, even if you don't have cavities.

Exploiting humans is nothing new. We've been using slavery since pre-biblical times. Whether governments or kings, the general population has always been exploited through taxation. If anything we've become far less brutal about it over time. But maybe that's what makes it nefarious, it's hidden and not obvious now. Instead of being a serf that lives and works on your Lord's land, you have your own home. You think you have the choice of where you work and what job you do, you think you're free, but you still can't escape the exploitation. You have to work to survive. And to work, you have to give 20% off the top to people that are working against your best interest.

The military is already purging soldiers with far-right or anti-vax views. You've got generals talking about the dangers of "white rage" and transgender four-star admirals. There won't be enough supporters in high-ranking military positions to stage a Trump-backing coup by 2024. Biden started removing Trump supporters from the National Guard when they were called into DC on January 6th, and the purge hasn't stopped since then. FBI has already been openly hostile to Trump for years, not sure about the CIA.

Once you offend then all bets are off, you're going to jail. But maybe if we were more open and understanding as a society, we could prevent more people from getting to that stage. Be open about it so that pedophiles can get the help they need or inform those around them. Regardless of what mental disorder or compulsion someone has, I'd rather they have the ability to get professional help to either cope with or mitigate their urges, as well as get community support. Not just be shunned from society and have to try to deal with it on their own. Imagine if we demonized schizophrenics and instead of helping them, we just said they need to be locked up once things get so bad that they're wandering the streets talking to themselves. Those who could keep it under control just lived in secret suffering, until things got so bad that they couldn't hide it any more. We should probably also admit on a societal level that the majority of guys are ephebophiles, that is, we find 16 - 18 year olds attractive. Just an acknowledgement of how we're biologically wired, not any kind of approval or normalization. Then we can take more steps like not allowing male coaches to be left alone with teenage girls. If it turns out my friend is secretly a pedo, I'd rather know so I can just not allow them to babysit my kid, but not necessarily judge them for it either. Just like I could be friends with an alcoholic, I simply wouldn't hire them to work in my beer distillery, knowing the temptation would probably be too great for them. People need to differentiate between non-offending people with pedophilic thoughts/fantasies and predators to have a meaningful conversation first, I've seen too many people conflating the two and saying just having the thoughts means you should be put to death. I do think it's an innate thing like being gay or transgender, with a biological component which is more likely to get triggered/activated by trauma or environmental stimuli. It doesn't seem very moral or ethical to me to universally punish people for compulsions they didn't choose, especially if they don't act on them.

Frankly I don't believe it unless they can show me the Glassdoor pages showing the salaries for managers and employees. Why would someone take on more work and responsibility for the same amount of pay? There must be some other detail they're leaving out. Maybe if the employees are skilled engineers or something and the managers are just business people without specialization. Or if it's a co-op where everyone is a shareholder. With everything else equal, in a large faceless company where you're just a cog in a machine, I don't see it working. The thing about freelancers is that normally you pay for a result, not their time. You pay the same amount if it takes them 10 hours or 100 hours. People underestimate how much time salaried employees waste in a day. And also the added risk of a freelancer not knowing where there next project will come from, they aren't getting healthcare or other employee benefits, etc.

Dismissive/Avoidant I feel like the questions were too heavily weighted about parents. I don't know how much they contributed to me being avoidant. My childhood with them was pretty fine besides that I probably could've used more love and encouragement. I think stuff at school much more shaped my personality and avoidance. I feel secure in my partner, but even still, there are some deep dark thoughts that I don't feel comfortable even sharing with my closest person. My black "other close relationships" dot is off the chart because I don't really have any close friends of my own that aren't mutual friends through my wife, I don't have anyone besides my partner or people online that I would feel comfortable opening up with. I don't really know how to interpret this or what to do about it to correct it tbh, especially the black dot.

Is Marcel real or have you made 800+ replies to yourself on a second account?