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Don't assume there is a way to work with all types of people. Some personalities are just incompatible with society by their nature. Being antisocial is literally going against the norms. The worst thing you can do is think that you're able to control and fix them, all the while they're assessing your weaknesses to later use against you. Don't try to deal with psychopaths. Just avoid them or get rid of them if they're already in your life.

It's not a social construct, she still has XX chromosomes I literally knew before I started the video she had PCOS. She has a medical disorder causing her to grow facial hair, it has nothing to do with gender. Pointing to fringe cases of women capable of growing thick facial hair doesn't make gender a social construct

Just similar in general. Doesn't necessarily have to be development. People will tend to match up with people from families of similar economic status, race, intelligence etc. Women tend to want someone at least similar or higher, but not always. Men are usually willing to accept somewhat lower. I seem to attract vegetarians but I'm not vegetarian -shrug- I've got a few theories as someone who attracts similar kinds of women, but I don't know which if any might apply to you. I don't even know what the answer is for myself. - You might be attracting women with self-esteem issues and trauma for some reason. It might be your personality, or something really intangible and difficult to identify, but for whatever reason they're just drawn to you. I think women who have experienced trauma will tend to be attracted to a certain kind of person. Since a lot of people here seem to be on a MrGirl kick lately I'd recommend checking out his video "I Predicted My Co-Worker Would Be Raped" for something on a similar note. - The opposite, you might be attracted to women who have experienced trauma for some reason you can't explain, or don't even realize until you get to know them and realize they have trauma. It's subconcious. - You might just be attracting low-quality women, and low-quality women may tend to be ones that have self-esteem issues or trauma. - Maybe MOST women (or people in general, you could generalize everything I've said here to men too) just have self-esteem issues or trauma, and to not have either is unusual/rare. - A couple other things I forgot in the process of writing this lol. I guess I would try attracting higher-quality women first, whatever that means. It might also just be that most people are shitty and take more than they give in relationships, and it'll take a while to find a quality person in general. If you start dating again, definitely from the very start be clear about what YOU need and want from the relationship. What do they need to do to help you on your path? What are your must-haves or dealbreakers in a relationship? What does putting the same amount of energy into a relationship practically look like day-to-day. A quick TLDR from the book "The Five Love Languages"... people express love in different ways, and crave love from others in specific ways: - words of affirmation(compliments) - quality time - giving gifts - acts of service - physical touch Is it possible your partners were trying to put energy into the relationship in the past, but just not in the way that is meaningful to you? I think it's important to also identify and communicate your own love language to your partner.

@Medhansh Imagine if somehow you lived in a town where everyone was plumbers. Your entire family is plumbers, your grandfather and great grandfather were plumbers. The equivalent of your question in this example would be "what's the alternative to being a plumber? how do I get out of the plumber system?" If all you've known for your entire life is plumbing, the idea of other jobs doesn't even occur to you. There are other towns out there where people have all the normal jobs though. The majority of people in this town never even know that anything other than plumbing is a possibility. They are so closed-minded it's not even an option. The few that are aware of other jobs still rationalize to themselves why plumbing is the only way to go. Plumbing is the only honest profession. It's the only safe and secure job. People will always need plumbers. I couldn't possibly trust myself to be a dentist. Being a dentist is a fad. I'd have to learn something new or move to be a dentist. My partner might not like me being a dentist. I should just be a plumber. I could blow people's minds and tell them that there's an endless number of jobs besides plumbers. Many of them pay better than plumbing, they're less work, they're more fulfilling, you don't have to pay dues to the plumber's union. I could literally spend all day writing down a list of possible jobs and never exhaust all of them. Most people would still reject it and stick with plumbing rather than consider another option, because those alternatives are so weird and uncertain. In the same way being a plumber is one of endless jobs, having a job at all is just one of endless ways to make money and live your life. There are so many alternatives I can't possibly list them all for you. I don't know if there's any point in me listing a bunch of them, because it'd be the equivalent of saying you could be a plumber or an astronaut without knowing anything about you. Realize that the education system has put blinders on you and made you so tunnel-visioned that all you can see is wage-slave jobs as an option.

It's a magnet that makes you want to keep continuing forward in life, to keep getting up in the morning, to not hate your life. It feels like something you're designed or called to do. It's the most effortless or frictionless thing you could do, if you had to pick one thing to do for 8 hours a day every day. It's something that feels meaningful to do. For most people it involves contributing or giving back in some way, even if it's something you're getting paid for. You'd probably do it anyway even if you weren't. It's probably something you're already doing in some capacity.

You don't have to take a completionist approach. Not every video or book is going to be relevant to you, especially not where you're at now. If you're not interested in business and marketing, there's no point reading those books. Many topics like paranormal or cult psychology are interesting but won't have a meaningful impact on your life. You have to be self-aware enough to realize where you're at in life now, and take in the information most relevant to you right now. Otherwise you're just a sponge mostly absorbing stuff that will make you smarter but will be ultimately useless for improving your life. Even if you read good information at the wrong point in your life it won't do much. I started watching Actualized.org in 2013 so it was easy to keep up with 1 video a week and stay up-to-date. If you're starting now with a backlog of 500+ videos I probably wouldn't recommend trying to 100% it. If you start watching 1 video a week, I think your life will be 10-20% better in a year. But it might be something intangible like being more aware or having a better understanding of the world.

Give me a hobby and I can tell you how to monetize it. Money will not be the problem. The world is full of abundance and you can make $100k/year from literally anything if you put in the work. There are people whose full-time job is playing with Lego. There are MULTIPLE different ways to monetize playing with Lego. You're way too in your own head and already defeating yourself in future hypothetical situations that haven't even happened yet. Motivation is the main bottleneck. Think about whether the money issue is just a convenient excuse to avoid putting in hard work. Nothing in life is guaranteed. And few things produce immediate results. The best you can do is make educated gambles where the odds are in your favor and hope they work out. And you'll have to learn to be comfortable living with the self-doubt as you do something for months without making any money.

Yes talking about your plans can ruin your motivation. There is a real brain chemistry reason why. If you go on social media and post about all your goals, it tricks your brain into releasing basically the same amount of dopamine or whatever as if you'd actually completed the goal. So now you have no reason to actually do it. You can reverse the decrease in motivation you've experienced by asking the person (or anyone) to hold you accountable. They can message you and ask you to share what progress you've made so far in the past week, every week.

You're not dropping out of high school to pursue your life purpose, you're dropping out of school to find your life purpose. Those are very different. One is like jumping off a cliff with a parachute. The other is like jumping off a cliff and then trying to assemble your parachute on the way down. You have the more free time right now than you likely will at any point in your life in the future. Take advantage of it and coast in school without having to have a job or pay rent for as long as you can. You've got like 6 hours every night on weeknights and your entire weekends to build skills and figure out your life purpose. Not having a high school diploma will seriously screw you up later in life. Even most basic jobs like being a garbage collector or bus driver will require that you're a high school graduate. If your life purpose doesn't end up being something you can turn into a business to earn a living then you're gonna be really unhappy.

Copying others is a good way to learn when you're starting. When I was starting to learn how to draw, tracing cartoons on my window was the fastest way I learned to improve. If it's your life purpose, at some point you have to stop copying though. I think your YuGiOh example is a great one. Lots of great original content could be seen as the fusion of multiple existing ideas. Spend some time focusing on creating art fusions. Take one of your favorite character's appearance, mix it with the personality of another favorite character, give it the backstory of another character, put them in different time periods or scenarios they've never been before. Take a western comic character and try to fuse it with the storyline of a manga, or vice versa. Eventually you'll find one fusion that really sticks out and calls to you. Keep tweaking it a little bit more until it's totally original, then that's probably a life purpose-worthy story to tell.

Oh yeah, definitely don't drop out of high school. I assumed you were in college. Basically just find a couple of close friends and make the best of it. Dark humor like you share with your friend is a good way to cope. Theoretically you can change jobs as much as you want. But if your resume has a lot of frequent job changes, companies will really question it. Or they might just discard your resume as you look like someone who has trouble holding down a job. Companies expect loyalty from you, but don't really offer any loyalty back to employees nowadays, it kinda sucks. Maybe it's a little better recently with job shortages during the pandemic and employees have a little more leverage.

Haha. The problem is they're both perfect examples of Stage Green. The fact you see their flaws and consider them sus just means that you're Stage Yellow. You can be stage green without understanding nuance. Most stage green people still have mostly black-and-white thinking. You're either racist or your not. You're either transphobic or you're not. You're either killing the environment or you're not. Nah bro, it's not that simple. It's never that simple. Almost everything is always simultaneously good and evil. That's why they both had to split from Destiny, and why they both ended up having larger audiences. Destiny is solid stage yellow and most Twitch viewers are green. Most people can't understand Destiny's nuance and it just makes them irrationally angry.

I see prayer as a form of magic. You can speak and will things into existence with mere words and intentions. The Bible says "In the beginning was the Word, and the Word was with God, and the Word was God." Prayer is like hacking into the matrix of the universe and God. You're injecting code into the program of the universe with your intention. Most of the time, if you add a random line of code to a program with no knowledge of how it works, it'll do nothing. Sometimes it'll cause an error or unintended result. And sometimes it will do what you wanted it to do. I think you can learn how to program the universe via prayer. Or via sigil magick, or a number of other ways. I don't care how it works, I don't care if God or angels are making an intercession on my behalf or if I'm bending the laws of the universe. All I know is that it works. I use things that work and discard those that don't. I only use prayer or magic when I'm pretty desperate or feel like there's no other way, and I feel like it works more than 50% of the time.

You have to get out. Otherwise you're consigning yourself to a miserable life. My parents coerced me into going to school for a career path that wasn't authentic. Even working summer internships I could feel it draining the life out of me. After a couple years working in an office full-time I felt like I'd probably kill myself if I had to work another 40 years like that. I remember at that internship, there was a generic questionnaire I had to fill out. One of the questions was "Do you feel like you have a good work-life balance" and I said no. They weren't very happy about that and basically the HR guy came and talked to me and tried to convince me that I have evenings and weekends and whatever and it was a pretty good company to work for. Guess what happened to that guy? One morning on the way to work a few months later, he got in a head-on collision on the highway with a Wonder Bread truck and died instantly. Where's his work-life balance now? He'll never get that retirement that he wasted his whole life working a job he hated to get. Everybody was kinda sad for a day or two and moved on, he was just replaced, he was just a cog. Even his wife forgot him and was fucking other dudes a couple months later. Maybe working a miserable job for 40 years is a noble goal if you have to do it for your kids and you feel like there's no other way. Otherwise you need to find another way to make a better life for yourself. I had to find a way to make it work, to make money on my own, to make a life more suited to how I wanted to live. Now I've been doing that since 2017. School is a bit different since it has a finite end date. If you're around halfway or more through your program, I'd stick it out. It's always better to have a degree to fall back on, or at least show people you're university material. If you're 1 or 2 semesters in and hate it then I'd cut your losses. If you don't have a choice but to work a job you hate right now to survive... you can coast and do the bare minimum to not get fired. Lots of places you can have 1 headphone in and be listening to podcasts or self-improvement material while you work. That way at least you're multitasking and growing. I think it's fear, low self esteem, feeling like they don't deserve anything better. Not realizing there's another option. I remember this woman at one place I worked. I could tell she was way smarter than me, and she seemed pretty miserable. Not outwardly, but in a depressed people-pleasing way. Her life was basically living for that 30 minutes during her lunch break when she could read her novel. Maybe going to a few concerts per year. I don't know how people do it. Don't accept that it's normal You deserve more

Channel it into something more constructive. You can take that "I'll show them" feeling of hatred and resentment and turn it into something with positive value to society. If someone pisses you off, tells you that you can't do something, or insults you... prove them wrong and that you're better than them, instead of just beating them. Play a first-person shooter and kill people in video games. Go punch a punching bag until your knuckles are raw. Inflict pain on yourself with a cold shower, do 200 pushups, make yourself run until your legs are aching (or something else non-destructive, not cutting etc.) Basically anything besides having to actually hurt another person. Make yourself so tired you can't feel aggression any more. If you can't find some other way to channel that aggression, control it, and let it out in measured amounts... then at some point you're probably going to fly off the handle and assault someone and end up in a bad situation. If you think the military is going to be 100% ass-whooping you're in for disappointment. It's 98% sitting and doing nothing, 2% intense life-threatening action. You'll spend most of your time doing things like painting a tank. Then when you're done and you have nothing else to do, your sergeant will tell you to paint it again. If you're really aggressive and antisocial you'll probably end up getting so bored that you end up fighting people on your own side and get court marshalled. Even if you end up in max-security prison you can't just go around fighting and shanking people to relieve those feelings. Eventually you'll end up in solitary confinement with nobody to fight but yourself.

You have to do something that nobody else has done before. The world doesn't need another XYZ-man, it's just a commodity. First thing that comes to my mind is Spawn by Todd MacFarlane. But now the world is over-saturated with anti-heroes like Deadpool so you can't do that either. The point is not trying to copy anything that has already been done. You need a massively unique angle. If you feel like you'd be equally fine doing Western or Anime style comics, then it feels like you haven't sufficiently nailed down your true calling yet. Don't settle. Don't worry about politics or oversaturation. Make the art that's true to your heart, that's uniquely you. Learn how to make a website and then put up 10, 50, 100 comics for free without them getting any views. Even if it means having a shitty part-time or full-time job and then you have to come home and draw for 4 hours a night until you pass out, and repeat for a couple years. Keep grinding and sharing them on social media and Reddit and eventually a dedicated base of fans will realize your genius. If your life purpose is to be a comic book artist, then I don't think your destiny is just drawing cels of someone else's animations. At that point you're basically just working in a factory. You need to succeed or fail alone.

What do you think about being a boxer or MMA fighter instead? Okay, if you want to get paid well to legally kill people for corrupt interests, then here's what you want to do... You do a short stint, like 4 years or whatever the minimum is, in the most elite military branch you can in your country. In the US Marines or Navy Seals. SAS in UK, etc Then when you get out you want to join a private defense company or mercenary force like Blackwater. You get the same frontline action as a military grunt, but you get paid over $200k+ instead of $30k/year You can also do cool stuff like go on cargo ships to dangerous areas around Africa and shoot at pirates as they try to attack the ship.

It's probably fine, you can blur their faces out if you want. I'm not sure if you're talking about dating directly on Facebook, or taking Facebook pictures over to Tinder. I wouldn't post pics with your parents or anyone who looks like they could be your parents, it'll signal you probably still live with them and aren't independent. Posting pics of people with the opposite sex will also probably elicit a negative reaction unless it's obviously a sibling or something. And if you post a pic with only Asian women from your travels, people will think you have a fetish. Just imagine looking at each picture as if it was someone else's, and try to imagine the story behind it, before putting it up.

This has been asked a few times here before, you should do a search and check out those answers too. I'm not sure if I've answered one before so here's my take I guess.... Is it bravery or valor to fight against enemies when you have next-generation weapons? Where's the honor in bombing a bunch of guerilla fighters with infrared drones? It's not like medieval combat where you went hand-to-hand. Modern countries have a very imbalanced hand compared to insurgents in Iraq, Afghanistan, etc. Think about whose interests you're really fighting for. Are you really serving your country, or are you serving international bankers, oil companies, etc that have been bought off by politicans? Also realize that when you sign up to the military you become government property. Literally. You basically cease to be a person until your contract is up. You might not be able to just change your mind and walk away if you hate it. In many cases, abandoning your post is treason and you'll go to jail for it, or face penalities for trying to get discharged early. The military also has its own police and prison system and you have less rights than a regular citizen.

Like any skill, it depends if you're doing deliberate practice or just do it for fun. Pick 1 genre that you want to write your first book in, and only read books in that genre for a while. Become a master of that genre. What makes a good or bad book in that genre? What things do they all seem to have in common, what are the tropes and plot similarities between all of them? Don't read a fantasy book one day, a romance novel the next, sci-fi after that, mystery after that. You need to become an expert in just one. Look at the Hero's Journey by Joseph Campbell and try to map it onto every fiction book you read. Take notes while you're reading. The truth is, fans of each genre have very specific expectations of what they're looking for. If you deviate too much, your book isn't likely to be that well-received. Everything from plot to cover art. If you're just reading for escapism then the benefits will be much less, except maybe your vocabulary will grow a bit. Don't worry about grammar or spelling. If English isn't your first language, then the fact you used "wandered" instead of "wondered" in your post is already a bad sign. The good news is you don't need good grammar to be an author, that's what editors are for. Accept your weaknesses and don't bother improving them, focus on your strengths first. Focus on being a great storyteller above all else.

Why do you want to get straight A's in college? Is it worth all the extra effort for a transcript nobody will ever see? In high school if you want to get into a good college it makes sense. Employers don't look at grades or even care if you were honors roll or not. At least not in US/Canada/UK. For the most part, a degree is a degree. It's a pass/fail system and the rest is how nice you can make your resume look, or who you know.

Paradoxically, I bet the % of people who don't enjoy living in first world countries is higher. If you live in a poor country you don't have the luxury of wondering if you're unhappy or not. You're just surviving. You work hard all day, then you go to sleep, repeat.

Elon Musk is paying $11 billion + in taxes for last year. That's more than the GDP of many countries. How is that nominal? It's the equivalent of someone with a net worth of $500k (a modest house in most cities, a 5-year-old car, and some savings) paying like $22,000 a year in taxes.

You have to meet people where they exist in time. Of course a 92 year old dude is going to have outdated views. Take the useful bits and leave the outdated bits behind. In 50 years some of the things that modern science believes today will probably be stuff that people are getting cancelled for. Dr. Corrie Moreau is highly duplicitous in my eyes, to be posting pics with the guy on December 27, 2021 saying how deeply saddened she is at the loss of her PhD advisor and LONG TERM FRIEND. Then the poor guy isn't even cold in the ground yet and she was signing her name to something denouncing him and distancing herself from him for the sake of her career. Fucking coward.

I think that the metaverse is inevitable, and that trying to fight it is like trying to fight cell phones or TVs. Soon everyone you know is going to have it. It will have some negative aspects but probably offer enough benefits and conveniences to outweigh that. Don't think of the metaverse like The Matrix. Think of it more like Internet 3.0. It's not going to be as flashy as you think it is, where we'll all be wearing VR goggles for 12 hours a day. The Metaverse is going to be on your desktop browser too. It'll be a new centralized identity that you can use to log in via blockchain instead of using your Facebook login, but you'll still be able to sign in with email or username instead if you want. The main aspect of the metaverse IMO is the ability to transfer stuff between different platforms seamlessly. It's also worth knowing that the concept of the metaverse is so new that right now nobody really knows what it will completely look like. Right now it's basically just video games and clunky/awkward remote meetings. I bought a VR headset and trust me, the technology isn't there yet. It's heavy and uncomfortable on your face and head. The battery life isn't great. Majority of people start to get motion sickness after a half hour or so. That's not where I foresee our new life realistically being. I don't see something that drastic isn't going to happen in the next 10 or 20 years, probably not in our lifetime if ever. Right now we CAN order food on our phones or computers, but we can also still go order stuff in person despite the technology being available for many years. I don't think we will live to see a day where you can't walk into a grocery store or restaurant and pick what you want physically. Technology gives you more options, but it almost never eliminates previous options. Aside from paperless billing, I can't think of many situations where you are punished or unable to access a service the traditional way. You won't need to actively resist, it'll just be a choice. It might be a difficult choice that makes your life seem inconvenient in comparison, like paying your bill with paper cheques every month and mailing them with stamps. Yes, I've noticed in my own life that I'm just resistant to new change. But I'm totally accepting of technology that already existed when I was a kid. To be honest, I don't know how old people who lived in the 1940s and 1950s are able to cope with all the new technology they've witnessed in their lifetime. In my 30 years on this planet it's already overwhelming and I'm already starting to lose my mind. I think it was Elon Musk who said we are basically already androids because of our phone. It's just that the technology isn't implanted into us in an invasive way, and the input is fairly slow right now as it's limited to us typing or speaking. Your phone is already an extension of yourself. Most people feel lost or anxious to leave the house without it, and can't even go to the bathroom without it. Your phone is already doing all of the bad stuff that the metaverse is going to do. If you're worried about privacy, that battle has already been lost.