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Move across the world to live with someone I had only visited for a week previously. Move back across the ocean with that person, get engaged to them, then break up with them basically on a whim to fuck/date a lesbian coworker.

Not more detail necessarily, just more specific. For your generalized purpose, "understanding life" is very vague, what does that mean to you? One way to rephrase it (if I'm interpreting right) could be something like: "To contribute the lessons I've learned about being human to the world through drawing and art" For the specialized purpose you need to cut a bunch out. I just timed myself reading it aloud and it took me nearly 30 seconds. Specialized purpose 1: To be an indie illustrator that reflects the natural world through comic storylines. Specialized purpose 2: To be a freelance comic book artist that creates cover art and storyboards I wouldn't necessarily worry about listing your ideal medium like pencil, ink, digital in your mission statement. I forget the difference between mission statement and life purpose. My LP from 2017 - 2021 was "Summarizing information in an easy-to-digest format and empowering people to pursue their dreams." (In practical terms, blogging and writing articles) This year I changed it to "Explaining unique topics to people to create a sense of awe and wonder" although it feels kind of vague and not fully aligned so I might tweak it a little next year. Each year I create a sort of general theme for my life as well... For 2020 it was "Live as though this is my last year alive". (Maybe a "be careful what you wish for" situation where I accidentally created covid through my intention, oops, sorry guys). I also tried to focus on the ideas of the Noble Eightfold Path (right view, right mindfulness, right intention, right speech, right action, etc...) In 2021 I had a few themes... Embrace suffering, Year of the body and mind, Commit, Become a Man. Another focus was the idea that to be happy, you need to align what you think, say, and do. 2022 is Stop doing things in life that don't make you happy, Be your true self, live up to your full potential My main goal for this year is to create a podcast with at least 52 episodes. I'm at 38 so far. Other goals (I have SMART paragraphs for each one. Shortened here for simplicity's sake): Make a synthwave or rap album inspired by my hometown in the 90s. (I know nothing about music composition at this point) Learn 3D modelling in Blender and Gravity Sketch Start creating my own metaverse in Horizon Worlds Earn X $ through writing Declutter my house of anything I don't need / regularly use (minimalism lite) Make new IRL friends? Achieve a healthy weight / BMI Meditate daily Spend more time with family Eat less sugar/carbs/wheat/dairy/corn/artificial chemicals/meat Be more self-sufficient with food by expanding my garden (just planted 42 potato plants in my yard, hoping to harvest a couple hundred pounds this fall, along with a bunch of other stuff) Start taking Muay Thai lessons Sensory deprivation tank (after I've meditated for at least 90 days in a row without missing a day, so I can make the most of it) Create a standup comedy routine and perform in front of a crowd, or record and post online Learn to sing Create and publish a video game Hit 100 comics published for my webcomic Start a "verboten thoughtcrime blog" to express my political ideologies and general thoughts about life (I think I'm changing this into writing a book instead) Do Sadhguru's Inner Engineering program (done) Miscellaneous habits: Go to bed and wake up at a reasonable time Drink 3L of water per day Start taking cold showers Floss daily consistently (maybe add water pik) Keep house more organized. Vacuum etc 2x a week instead of 1x. Transition to more natural deodorants, soaps, etc. Very long term goals: Create a freelance writing online course or content agency Spiritual enlightenment (2025) Buy a fully detached home on at least 5 acres (2025 - 2030) Form a Discord group or online community to help people achieve financial independence, fuel their inventions/dreams, mentorship program (2025+) Treasure hunting, panning for gold or searching for other rare gems/minerals (2030+) Create an entirely self-sufficient commune / community (2030+) Map the bottom of the entire ocean / discover new deep sea species / recover lost treasure from sunken ships (2030+, this project will be in the hundreds of millions of dollars if I ever get to it) TED talk (2030+) Take psychedelics (??? - Low priority for now after multiple bad THC experiences unless I get diagnosed with a terminal illness) My top 3 values: 1. Health/vigor/energy 2. Contribution/impact 3. Freedom/independence (covid lockdowns pushed this way up the list for me) My 3 signature strengths: 1. Perspective wisdom 2. Judgement, critical thinking, and open-mindedness 3. Love of learning / curiousity and interest in the world. High conciousness virtue to build my career around: Creativity (originality, ingenuity, expression) Ideal medium: Podcasts, Youtube/Alt-Tech videos, Blog posts I would say your domain of mastery is illustration/drawing and your ideal medium is pencil/ink/digital. It's like the main thing you do, and the tools you use to achieve it.

Just as an addendum I guess... free speech doesn't mean that you personally have to listen to anything you don't like. You're still individually free to delete friends off Facebook or posting conspiracy theories. Block feature is standard on all social media or messaging apps if anyone is throwing slurs at you. That stuff is all fine. I just oppose site-wide bans or algorithmic demotion, shadowbans, or things were people are effectively silenced or put into echo chambers even if they aren't officially banned. If you are for democracy, why do we need to silence people? Just let everyone speak and people can decide which ideas are popular and what they want. If 60% of your country voted in favor of racist policies and destroying the environment, isn't that how democracy is supposed to work? Will of the people? The only reason for censorship seems to be preventing specific ideas from becoming popular, which I find very undemocratic and manipulative.

You've got it pretty much correct according to your worldview. Conspiracy theories, misinformation, and people saying the N word aren't bugs of free speech, they're features. We don't have to whip up a culture war, we're already in the middle of one. The problem is that there are lots of value judgments and assumptions baked into what you're saying. I don't consider "you are censoring me" or "I have as much of a right to speech as you do" to be strawmans or non-sensical (let's talk about it) You can't deprogram by silencing, only by engaging and having a discussion. If you label an idea as misinformation or a conspiracy theory, it doesn't matter if it's true or not, you Streisand Effect it, it gets shared even more, and more people see it and start believing it. It's happened so much that you have probably at least 10% of the population that doesn't believe anything the government or mainstream media says now. You can't repair that by continuing to ignore them. I don't think turning away refugees is short-sighted. I think the things you've listed as "moral panics" are real threats to our society and way of life, not exaggerations or right-wing people playing it up. You're right that it's not sustainable. It's just a matter of which direction the dam is going to burst in at this point. Watch the coming midterms to see how much the Republicans struggle with the popular vote and how the tides are changing. It's just just "muh racists", Latinos and Blacks are turning to the Republican party en-masse. Be careful about calling things that have worked for hundreds or thousands of years "unsustainable". "The idea that the left is pushing an Orwellian ideology to destroy America seems completely overblown utterly ridiculous " - To you.

Yes but it'll take a generation or two. Progressive stuff is unpopular with the average American, even the average Democrat still. You gotta wait at least 20 years for boomers to die off. Think how long the ideas of women voting or ending slavery must've been around before they actually took root. Most of "The Squad" has only been in elected positions for like 3 years.

In terms of total hours - Minecraft and Stardew Valley Favorite co-op - PUBG or Dota 2 / League Favorite retro - Super Mario World or Donkey Kong Country (both for SNES) Favorite for speedrunning - Super Meat Boy Favorite online FPS - In recent time, Valorant or CS:GO. For 13 year old me, original Rainbow 6 or Star Wars: Jedi Knight Recent obsession - Gran Turismo 7 Honorable mentions - OG Runescape, Clicker Heroes / Adventure Capitalist, Trove, Rocket League, Terraria, and fuckin' Neopets.

Good for society, I'd lean more toward neutral or bad for the individual. 2 hours a week for 60 years... that's like 9 solid months of your life wasted sitting in church. Being religious makes you more happy and fulfilled according to studies, so it might have its benefits. But so does being married or having a dog apparently. I guess those things take up a lot of your time too

I bought Loop brand earplugs off Amazon. They're made of silicone and re-usable. I got a pair of both 18dB and 27dB ones. A bit expensive for what they are. 18 dB are more comfortable but don't block as much obviously. You can have a conversation with someone if you're looking at them. They let through some weird frequencies though. They block low noise well but I can hear high frequency noises like a clock ticking perfectly. 27 dB are good for sleeping and will block out most noise. I can't hear the fan in my bedroom when I have them in. They're a bit less comfortable though. I bought a container of 38 dB foam earplugs and they're by far the most comfortable for sleeping. Since they expand, they perfectly fit your ear canal and most effectively block out sound as well. I can't hear anything when they're in. The foam earplugs have an added benefit that they will remove any remaining wax from DEEP inside your ear, even right after cleaning your ears. After you wear them a couple times you will have no problems with wax buildup. First time I wore them I saw weird dark orangeish wax I've never seen before. TLDR: Foam are most comfortable and block the sound best. You can get 60 pairs for like $15. If you use each pair for 3 or 4 days, you can well over a year before they'll add up to the cost of 1 silicone pair. And I don't know how gross the silicone pair will be after a year, I'd rather constantly have fresh ones. I've been thinking about getting the big over-ear ones for comfort when wearing them hours at a time, but haven't tried them yet. One caveat I've noticed is that if you start wearing any kind of ear protection or noise cancelling a lot..... is that you kind of become dependent on it to a degree, and when you're not wearing it, the noise can be even more noticeable and annoying.

Embrace it and get it over with now. Being that guy with the receding hairline trying to comb it over is cringe and everyone spots it immediately. Watch some videos from BaldCafe for inspiration. A bunch of balding guys shaving their heads for the first time. Every video I've watched it's been an extremely positive reaction across the board. Most of them look 10x better after it's done, and you can tell it's like a weight has been lifted off of them. https://www.youtube.com/c/Baldcafe/videos

I think it's worth it just for the experience. If nothing else, you'll see how overrated sex is and how much society over-obsesses about it. It depends how un-attracted you are and if there's anything she can do to help with that. Not worth it if you actually feel repulsion or disgust. If it's more neutral.... maybe. I assume you told her that you're a virgin, or else I'd mention that and see if it changes anything. Your first time is probably gonna be pretty awkward, so if you plan on having sex again in the future it might be worth getting that awkward first time out of the way now. I question why she would approach you. Is she super unattractive, is she a single mom or widow and desperate or something? Is she potentially using you to get her pregnant? It's at least a little sketchy and I would bring your own condoms and not leave them behind at her place. Some women are crazy and will poke holes through condoms, all kinds of stuff. Drake's in legal trouble right now for putting hot sauce in a used condom to kill the sperm, and then the woman fished it out of the garbage and tried to use it to impregnate herself LOL. I don't think men usually think about their virginity as some virtuous thing to be protected and conserved like women do. The majority of men probably don't care who they have their first time with.

I have a friend who has done it. It was pretty minor, like a 20 minute procedure with only localized freezing. Basically on the same tier of procedure as getting a wart removed or something. Just sore for a couple days after. I'm considering it in the next few years. My wife wants me to so we don't have to use any other form of birth control. I have some concerns from a spiritual perspective and I'm pretty averse to any kind of surgery, but I'll probably end up going ahead with it. If you're in your early 20s I would be more hesitant to do it. You might break up with your fiancé and your next partner might want kids and convince you. Although I think technically they can undo it. If you're in your late 20s or later it's less risk. You can tell your family that neither of you want kids and that's enough details. You don't have to tell them you had a procedure done. That's getting past just inquiring about grandchildren and into discussions about your sex life.

Life purpose is very personal so take this with a grain of salt, but here's my opinion.... I think your generalized purpose is too vague and needs to be more specific. Your specialized purpose is far too wordy. How many pages of your graphic novel have you completed so far? We're 38% through the year, so if you haven't already completed 190 pages then it's time to re-strategize on how you'll achieve it, before it gets too late to be attainable. Personally I would break it down into X pages per day. For your year end resolutions, you need to set SMART goals. Right now they are too vague. How will you master your sexuality and self inquire? How will you build focus/concentration skills? What does mastering your sexuality mean? What are you creating the website for? Creating a piece of art is redundant since it's already included in your main goal. To study what about personal development? What body fat % is lean to you and how will you achieve it? How will you increase your communication and humor skills? You need SMART goals so you have a concrete way of achieving these things. Otherwise how do you know if you're working toward them? I have a lot of goals as well. What I've personally found is to put them into categories. First you want ideally 1, maximum 3 of your must-complete goals. This is your main focus for the year. Your 500 page graphic novel is the no-brainer for here. Then if you have any unfinished goals from last year that you still want to work toward, I'd put them separately. If you have like 20 goals, I think it's totally fine to only be achieving like 10 - 20% of your goals per year. Then you can make a separate category for lower-priority stuff, things you've had on your list for multiple years but never managed to complete, or things that are just in the back of your mind. Then I make a category for things that are 5, 10, or more years out. Lifetime stuff I want to accomplish before I die basically, but not at all a priority this year. Habit stuff like the time you wake up and exercise I put as a separate must-complete list of goals. Make a daily checklist and check them off until they become automatic.

If you're able to watch regular Actualized.org Youtube videos without suspicion from your family then you already have everything you need. Have a credit card in your name to buy the course, keep your bank login details confidential so they can't see the purchase. Watch the course material on a phone with headphones or a personal computer in a room where the rest of your family isn't. Don't print out any course material. Only do the exercises in password-protected digital documents or have a password on your entire computer. Only watch 1 or 2 videos a day so they don't wonder why you're disappearing for hours at a time and what you're doing. EZ

Ethically, I would hope that people with debilitating diseases or mental illnesses wouldn't be so selfish that they'd risk passing it on to their kids just to have children. If they really want kids, then I think they should adopt instead. Lots of healthy kids out there who already need homes. There are mental disabilities that are severe enough that I think it should preclude people from having kids. Many people with Down Syndrome for example are infertile, but a minority are able to reproduce. So it's a risk. I don't think they have the mental requirements to practice safe sex, let alone safely raise a child. I also consider them so mentally handicapped that they're incapable of consenting. But even if a down syndrome person is dating another down syndrome person, nature is likely to take over and they'll do sexual stuff together at some point. So I don't think they should be allowed to reproduce. Do we sterilize them though, or parents just make sure their disabled kids aren't doing it? Or just wait for the rare cases it does happen and then use abortion? Personally I'd go a lot further than that though. My eyesight is bad enough that I wouldn't hold it against someone if they thought I shouldn't be able to reproduce. Without glasses, I don't think I'd be able to hunt and survive in a primitive tribe or alone in the wild. I think we should move back more toward a model where only people that could survive in primitive conditions should be allowed to reproduce. Because the opposite of a eugenic society is a dysgenic one where everyone just keeps getting more sick and genetically weaker over time. It's a "needs of the many outweigh the needs of the few" situation for me. I want the best quality of life for the most people possible on a long-term scale. Like 5,000, 10,000 years from now. That might mean some cruel decisions for the current or next generation to prevent many more miserable lives in their descendants down the line. People who were never born never get a chance to mourn what they missed.

When I told my dad I was going to Italy, he just told me it sucks and not to go because my uncle went, and said they make you pay just to sit down at restaurants and cafes. (!!!!) He wanted me to base my decision on visiting a country or not on whether you have to pay a fee at restaurants, which probably added up to like $20 out of thousands for the entire trip . People are dumb and get hung up on the most myopic things. I told him: You're not the one going, so don't worry about it. I would've said the same thing to your coworker. When people say shit like "If I were you" I just instantly cut them off now and say something like "Good thing you're not me then" Figure out what you're afraid of happening if you stand up for yourself... Is someone going to punch you in the workplace for standing up for yourself? Probably not. Will they report you to HR? More likely if you go too extreme but still probably no. I would try to go hard in the other direction. You could probably straight up just say "Shut the fuck up" and all your coworkers would laugh because it's so uncharacteristic of you. It'd make the point and you'd totally get away with it, and the dude insulting your vacation would've slid back in his chair like "oh shit she's actually serious about this." Allow yourself permission to just snap a couple of times and you'll see that nothing bad happens.

Okay we've already walked back the entire title. So was the point of this just to provoke, or what?

If you're talking about in the club or while drinking, it's a survival mechanism to prevent each other from getting raped. If you're a guy, going home with a strange girl you just met has very little risk to it. If you're a girl, it's extremely risky. Also a way to curb people from making impulsive/foolish choices or to reinforce societal norms (not being slutty.) If your friend has a bf and they're getting tempted to cheat you want to hold them back to maintain cohesion in your social circle. If they just broke up and they're emotionally raw, you want to prevent them from making a rash decision. A girlfriend is like the polar opposite of a wingman, there to prevent you from getting laid if you get too drunk or start having too much fun. If they're cockblocking a woman they don't know, then most likely jealousy and you're encroaching on someone they want for themselves.

Love and kindness, putting yourself in their shoes, instead of censorship and ostracization. Very few people are total psychopaths that inflict pain or hate just for the fun of it. When you get to a large group they never do. Terrorists, white supremacists, communists, antifa, mgtow. They're all acting out of love. Love for their culture and society, their people, their kids, their gender, their race, something that means the world to them. They're trying to preserve and propagate the things they love the only way they know how. It's a very misguided form of love, but it's still love. The Buffalo shooter killed people because he doesn't want to see the people and culture he loves go extinct. [Daryl Davis](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Daryl_Davis) approach is the only way to go. You need to put yourself in a terrorist or racist's shoes and sincerely say to them "I understand why you think and act like you do" and genuinely forgive them instead of wanting to hate and destroy them back. It's a burden and it's unfair. But if everybody takes the "it's not my job to educate you" approach, everything is permanently fucked and will only continue to go downhill until something huge like a civil war happens. If you're a teacher and a kid in your class hits another kid, you can: Slap the kid back, make them sit in the corner all alone for hours, or have them empathize with their victim and understand why their behavior was wrong (hopefully culminating in an apology and hug.) When you do one of the first two options, the kid gets even more angry and violent. Same thing happens if you punch a nazi or deplatform them from social media. We're all just big kids inside. You have to do the compassionate but harder option.

We can't even stop people from buying and selling illegal drugs online. How are you going to eliminate entire ideas and political philosophies? All the alt-right leaders have already been doxxed and fired from their jobs, and put on ACLU/SPLC hate group watchlists so they can't get hired again. This just makes them have no choice but to go all-in on producing extremist content as their full-time jobs to continue to survive. They've had their bank accounts and credit card processing removed. Banned from all social media. Domains and hosting shut down. But somehow they keep going. How do you stop a movement that dedicated? Some of these people are as serious about their ideology as Al-Qaeda. Willing to fight and die for it. If you try to break up their groups, they just make another one that's more secret and harder for authorities to track and prevent stuff like above. You can force the alt-right to only the darkweb and shut down their darkweb sites periodically but more will just pop up. It's cult-like in nature. If you put more hardship on them or jail/kill their leader you just create martyrs and more violence. The whole reason the Buffalo shooter decided to act now is because he felt the threat was too imminent to wait. If we can't shut down Alex Jones and covid conspiracies, how do you think we'll shut down people willing to die for their cause? IMO these people need a pressure release valve, a place to spew their own hatred to each other, it reduces the chances of actual violence occurring. Ideally we'd let them back on Twitter into the marketplace of ideas and just debunk all their statistics and talking points and make them look stupid. But the problem is too many conspiracy theorists would buy into anything the government or big tech was against.

Okay this is going to look VERY different than most other forms of coaching, I think you're gonna want a much more flashy "gamer" looking website compared to a more sterile / academic feel coaches in most other niches. I'm sure you're familiar with healthygamer.gg already, that's what I'd try to model the look and feel of my brand after instead of trying to totally recreate the wheel. I recommend checking out some old videos from Devin Nash as well. He used to be the CEO of a gaming team and now he runs a talent agency for gamers called Novo.tv so he has a lot of industry insights. Both for business/marketing and general industry insights. Totally different approach here given the context. Try approaching teams like Faze, Team Liquid, Cloud9, 100 Thieves, etc etc. You are right that they have a TON of money behind them right now, and they are looking into the exact type of stuff you are offering. The big names could be hard although you mention network connections. Maybe start with smaller teams as a case study and build up from there. Be sure to do polls to try and capture stuff like player happiness and energy levels before and after your coaching. If you offer to do a seminar for an entire team or organization, that's already going to be thousands of dollars a pop instead of $100 coaching sessions. Of course you can do both, but try to go for scale if you can. If you can get a couple of teams to pay you a retainer of a couple thousand dollars per month to be on-call and basically provide coaching advice whenever they need it at 24 hours notice, you'll be in a really good spot.

Can you explain the difference between a pure and impure sound? How is the tuning fork any more pure than hitting a note on an in-tune piano? What is particularly healing about vibrational energy? What's the mechanism of action by which vibrations can heal the human body? How do you know if a particular healing fork is producing a healing or harmful sound?

Hopefully I'm not just saying obvious stuff you're already aware of, as you're the expert in this field, but some ideas that come to mind... Consider keeping the sourcing business, but trimming a lot of the fat to make room to start transitioning into coaching. Look back through all your records and try to identify the 20% of kinds of items that make up the bulk of your sales (both # of sales and dollar value.) If you track how long stuff is in your inventory, I'd focus on quick flip items and drop stuff that you end up having to store for months before they sell. What do you know you can consistently source lots of, that sells quickly, with a good margin. That's your holy grail. You should have a pretty good eye for now for when something is going to be more trouble than it's worth. Maybe take the time to really specialize on being an expert in one thing, like antique plates or something. Ideally something most other resellers will overlook... so probably not stuff like baseball cards, books, video games, etc. Things you really need an eye to spot the hidden gems from the trash, but which pay big dividends. Find a way to make more money with less work. Sounds too good to be true, but there's probably a way. After you move, you don't have to be done with reselling forever. You can do your coaching for a few months in the off-season. Then if you want to add a bit more cushion to your savings, you can pick up reselling in any extra time next season if you're getting less clients than you'd like. ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- For coaching, don't sell yourself short. It'll be harder to sell a $500 coaching session than a $20 one. But probably not 25x harder. Resist the urge to start off with offering low prices, or you might anchor yourself to those prices and have a hard time raising rates. If you do offer introductory discounts to people so you can gather testimonials or something, try to keep it private. Create bundles and packages with discounts to get a higher spend per customer. If your sessions are $100 each, don't even offer individual sessions. Do a 4-week minimum commitment so you're always getting at least $400 per sale. You can give some reason like needing to work with someone for multiple sessions to start getting them progress and results, which is probably true anyway. Then you only need to sell 3 - 5 packages a month to hit your goal. I don't know if you're keeping it intentionally vague for this post, but make sure you've really nailed down something specific you're coaching about. Don't just be a life coach, you need to really specialize and set yourself apart. I can only speak to the writing world... you'll command a much higher rate if your entire website and business is around being a legal writer or medical writer, vs just a generic freelance writer. Try to phrase it in terms of what you do and offer to your client, as opposed to a more bland genetic title like "Health Coach". ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Something you may or may not have considered, or maybe it's too big of a risk to spend the time on without knowing what the potential payoff could be... But if you have all this knowledge about reselling and the stats to back up that you've actually made a decent living doing it... then why not create your own course around it? If you're going to be going out and sourcing this summer anyway, strap on a GoPro and record yourself doing the work you'll be doing anyway. Walk through the process and explain what you're buying and what you're passing on, and why. Then go through the whole process... bring the stuff home, do a step-by-step on how to list on eBay. How to handle shipping, tips to cut down costs or speed up the process, organizing your inventory, handling complaints or refunds. Heck, I'd probably pay $200 for that just out of curiosity to see how it's all done. I watched a couple videos of Gary Vee going to garage sales and it was fascinating. Add an upsell where you offer 1-on-1 coaching sessions on reselling when people buy your course.

Too short, very close to being what Google would consider thin content, which puts it at risk of getting deranked. I would aim for at least 500 words on each blog post. Multiple grammar and punctuation issues, awkward phrasing. Very all over the place. I wouldn't consider it a blog post on finance. You mention less about finance than heaven, hell, and heroin. Not SEO-friendly, no keywords, so it's going to be hard to get organic views from search engines to monetize it. Mixing English and Finnish isn't good for your brand. If you want to write and do TikToks/Instagram posts in both, make two separate accounts on each platform and two websites (or at least have separate sections of your site for English and Finnish.)

Don't go to biased sources for info. Instead of asking the hospital, ask people coming out of the hospital how much they paid. Or do an AskReddit for people to share what they had done at the hospital and how much they got charged. (Do it in your city or state's subreddit if you want more specific.) Instead of asking your doctor about heavy metals and microplastics, go directly to the scientific studies. If you want, bring a stack of scientific studies proving your point with the most valid parts highlighted and then ask him to reconsider his position. If he won't, get a new doctor. And dear god, don't tell your doctor you're taking psychedelics to prove the existence of God haha.

Health (vigor/energy), contribution (impact), and freedom (independence) -- based on my top values from the LP course. If I'm not ruling out toxic values -- then probably 60% money 40% fame.