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Insurance, rental houses, singing & playing guitar. Residual commission / rent income, - because I love it. Freedom Freedom Yes.The jobs made someone else a lot of money and a lot of freedom. Owning a company did those things for me. Since we have to eat, have shelter, etc - You are either building someone else's dream or building your dream. If you find you are building someone else's dream and want to change that, just relax and realize they are staying more focused on visioning their best life, their best outcomes, etc. It is only your stressful perspective that hold you back. See how no one is doing anything to stop you but you. Godspeed!

It does work. The only tricky part is doing it ALL THE TIME. It's easy to have a slight victim vision and think it doesn't work. Well, that's as far as somebody else got. Are you going further or just shooting for an average life? You are a magnet. Your practices determine your power, not how you assess or calculate or think.

We all feel that inspiration to change the world sometimes. You can change the world and help people with their lives no matter what work you're in. It will serve you well everywhere. Don't be preachy though. Be an example. Keep your focus on you. Do every practice you can to keep yourself feeling your best and you will find that the majority of the population is not doing the practices and will naturally look to you for help or guidence or instruction, simply because they sense and see how great you feel. We're all magnetic, drawing towards someone who feels better thus us, and away from those who feel worse. I don't think you need to solve any of what's on your mind. I say it's what on your mind and that the clarity is missing that should be your way of knowing you need to focus more on your practices.

Here's an example. Meditate and just use your imagination and play the game in your mind of seeing your company, your family, or anything going better and better and better. Imagine things falling into place and people coming out of the woodwork to assist you. Imagine growth and prosperity enveloping the whole topic or situation. The more you practice this, the better you will feel. The better you feel the more beneficial aspects you will notice about the topic. Then this compounds and soon becomes what you envisioned.

Knowing what you want to do is 99% of the puzzle. Good for you.

I say affirmations work well. I suggest not picking one, but always picking the best feeling one you can, while maintaining honesty. It's about feeling and stating to yourself where you are at on a subject (like money) and bridging that to a slightly higher perspective. Over time, this has made all the difference in the world for me. People love to say this type of thinking is crazy, and I get called lucky a lot by people who don't take the time to research, but it seems to me that science is telling us there is no objective reality. That everything is relative to the observer, even time itself. I think someone would have to be crazy to know that and not do anything with it.

@John Flores Isn't there a sort of paradigm at play with the philosophy of be happy no matter what? Takes a while to build momentum where it switches from choosing or reminding yourself or practicing being happy no matter what, - To it being your default state of mind. Once it is the default, progress in all directions happens easily without resistance. Not being mindful of being happy regardless of circumstances is holding resistant thought, which slows all progress. Being happy leads to being happy. Probably the most amazing thing I have seen or experienced is that reality itself is and always was filtered by me. There is nothing objective 'out there'.

@Life Coach You're not really sellin Germany there. Great advice though.

Do more for you. Like all the classics, exercise, dedicate, eat healthy, pursue things that you want, and I bet you will no longer have emotions about the attachment / detachment.

I've tried most positions but skipping sex? Millennials are crazy man.

Ya. Avoid a little. She'll pick up on the disconnection and you'll still be cool.

Codependency. Whenever a couple is struggling with codependency (depending on the other for their happiness) There is an 80/20 happening. Each person is focusing 80% on how they think about it, and 20% focusing on how their partner thinks about it. (Whatever the topic is) If either person switches to focusing 100% on how they think about it, the matter soon resolves for both people and then soon seems funny and ridiculous.

My buddy calls it "takin a 3"

@blacksapp I agree. Ask and listen. Ask open ended questions. Be a learner and really take an interest when someone talks about something you can't relate to. Find the agreements. Priming yourself is another option. Like watch a video about confidence, or making social situations easy, or talking to girls, or whatever. A simple 5 minute video can tune you and get you in a helpful state of mind. The depression stands out to me as the underlying cure though. Are you able to exercise? Talk to a dr maybe, and or a nutritionist. Watch Christmas Vacation again?

You've just over thought talking to girls - made a mountain out of a molehill. Try to let go of any pressure you may have put on yourself. Think about things you've overcome in your life. I doubt everything has been easy. Think about who you are. I bet you she feels just like you do. Sometimes she's comfortable socially and sometimes not. You can also try priming yourself for situations. Listen to something on YouTube, like Bill Nye's video on population control where he says the solution is educating the woman of the world. Then, you've primed your mind to be more relaxed, because you know you have woman friendly topic ready to go. Of course, that topic is a hypothetical example. Just a topic she might find pleasing to hear thus increasing her desire to respond back. Then the rest is easy. Except for the baby diapers and midnight feedings. But then it gets easy again. You can tell by Randy Quaid's face that this will most likely work, or at least seem to work out in the end.

I was dropping a movie quote in regard to your perspective, in hopes of lightening up your mood. I'm not sure what instruction you've been following, but you may want to increase your variety of sources. Please note my profile pic is updated to Randy Quiad. I think this is an appropriate and well timed call back. Allow the path to your enlightenment to guide you to your best, most actualized life. Whatever makes your life worth living is more of an entry point. I hope you experience everything you can dream of.

Let it go. It's already done. The easiest way is to get your focus on something you like that is really easy; a pet, music, whatever. From there, do some things you personally enjoy, rebuilding 1950's one way cb radios, take pie to one more digit, whatever you're into. Think of it as a life tax. You're obviously someone who tries things and isn't stuck in fear. It costs money to try things, it's a good thing. When you finish college that 10k won't seem like as big of a deal. When your old and scopin out your hospice nurse, you won't remember that money. But if you know you really lived, you tried things, you'll be happy. Good luck with that nurse bud.

@JustinS I read that book a while back. Loved it. It always come to mind as a possible wake up book for someone on the edge of looking into PD.

See a doctor. And start writing novels.

EVentually this type of work will go mainstream.

Maybe because you want to meet someone and have babies...? I did. It's all working out nicely.

There's a nice step by step for this on Wkihow.

It's when you breath out but maybe very seriously, or with an essence of love, or even like you are really mad at the breath.

You already had this bro