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@Joshuar I'm curious. Can you describe what it is you intend to do once you are 'life coaching' someone? This might help with folks adding practices to your list.

@Paradigm You know what you want to do - what is fun to you. The conflict arises because you feel inclined to change the world. May I ask, why do you want to change the world?

@a e l i Assuming you're Caucasian...uh....haven't you noticed how all white people are not the same? Can you see this is true with all humans? Just for effect: You are just like all white people. You're all the same. See how silly that is? One love Offer random acts of kindness to them. Ask them how they're doing. Ask them how hard it's been. Ask more than a few. You will see how different they are. Something else that might help....whoever you are, wherever you are, you are you and you are there because your ancestors migrated there. You are the same as them.

Anyone of sound mind and body can self actualize. There's no finish line. It's not a degree. It's subjective self assessment. If you feel progress, there is progress. High consciousness is a relative term. Compare you to an ant, and then to the Dali Lama. It's all relative. The only reference point that matters is your own. Where you are, were, and want to be. An unconscious indivdual can not do anything, because they are unconscious.

@LRyan If you had intuition, you would already know the outcome and there would be no need for a choice. Meditate and contemplate on what you want, then there also will be no need to make a choice.

@ChimpBrain I probably am. Thanks. Could you give me an example what you mean by something that is unexplainable?

Thought happens first, emotions follow. If your emotions are not feeling good, it is because you are looking at something (thinking) from a lessor perspective than you could be. If you didn't know better, it would be impossible to feel bad. Put your focus on just what it is that you know better. From your examples: A break up: If you get dumped and fall into despair, realize you are the chooser of how your life unfolds. Stop thinking you need someone else to make you happy. Ironically, if you do this, you probably wouldn't get dumped. A relative dies: What are your thoughts on what they are experiencing now? What are your thoughts on how your life will be terrible now that they are not here? Choose better thoughts. Cry about it, pray if you are religion or if it helps, but pick better thoughts. To get rid of an emotional crisis, realize there is no crisis. You were not looking at the situation to the best of your abilities to begin with. Pick better thoughts. Self reliance, if at all possible, is most helpful preventitivly speaking. If someone is paying you money to tell them that ultimately it is their thinking causing their suffering, then I suppose you should not be so forthright as this, as it would offend them in that setting. If someone thinks it's a good idea to pay someone for this, they inherently don't accept that their own thinking is the root of the suffering. At the very least, the person getting paid, IMO, should suggest they look into Buddhism. Looking to the emotions brings more of those emotions. Realizing your thinking has been bringing your emotions, brings new thinking, and new emotions. A belief is nothing more than repeated thinking.

@Leo Gura ....if paranormal phenomena is true, then isn't it the same as natural phenomena? Wouldn't calling it paranormal be the same as saying it's not actually real? As in, again, if it were real, and not produced by technology, then it is natural. I must be missing something.

@Loreena No one is inherently anything but what they've been repeating (including environment and influences). The "wake up" is when one realizes this and makes changes to what they've been repeating both in their self talk and what is around them. No one is anything more than the experience of these repeated things. We are limited by the knowledge of what has been repeated in this life, vs knowing what may have been repeated before this life. It is a probabilistic universe. Not deterministic. We will likely do the most probable thing, but we always have the choice.

@BeginnerActualizer It's similar to the loa i think. Excercise, feel better. Feel better, attitude is better. Attitude is better, socialization is better. Socialization is better, opportunities are great. When opportunities are great, well, sky's the limit. That "low" motivator is a part of the "high" actualization. Or one could simply be tryin to get some. Always uncertainty in the end. Eye of the beholder.

I'll a little late adding to your post but....holy shit... I have done this several times and it feels great to hear someone having the same experience. First, I have to say, this particular post - one has either done this or not. It is not like other things. I've done long meditations, psychedelics, etc. This is not that at all. It's unique to itself. I have no advice for you, but you describe it exactly as I have experienced it. I'm very curious to hear back from you if you go further. I don't experience resistant thoughts anymore at all, I can non-think at will from twenty some years of meditation, I love boxing - the rougher the better, I meditate in the middle of the woods, in the middle of the night -- -- -- but I did the mirror thing for 5-10 minutes - and it's scared the fuck outta me! It's sort of like around 6 or 7 minutes you've just forced away or something...right? Saying it's fear is in the ballpark but it's something more than just fear. I have only experienced that from the mirror. PEOPLES - if you have not done this, alone, for 5-10 minutes, please please do it and comment back on your experience. I know this may sound silly, but I don't think a mirror is like other 'stuff'. Something is going on with mirrors and our'self' or 'higher self' or something. Is there a breakthrough, maybe if someone can get though like 30 minutes??? Ultimately, I have the same question as you - it's like some force is penetrating every fiber of your being, but is there a breakthrough to be had?

All the usage of the word infinite has a lovely ring to it, but, isn't all of that bitching? What are you going to do?

@BeginnerActualizer right on. I was tryin to be funny. But, ya, those motivations are very useful imo.

There is no "one's self". Who or what is that reference actually to? Just be you.

Don't pursue superficial challenges by focusing elsewhere... OR What are the real challenges behind the mask? Personally, I have found that those in the superficial challenges don't accelerate or make as much money as the people pursuing the challenges within. It's as simple as - which one would people naturally follow?

I use it in life. I own a company and I have delegated all the functions. I do the PD for the team. It's a been a wonderful symbiosis for many years.

@BeginnerActualizer Isn't any positive motivation useful? Also, I think if you look into the original intended writing of "survival of the "fittest"', you will be pleasantly surprised. Good luck with the sex.

@Kimasxi The pay off is, you get to be socially lazy. You don't have to do anything that involves other people - networking, sales, group study's, presentations, social events, etc. Another payoff is that when you are wrong, or someone else has a better idea, or when you stand to learn from someone else - you do the ego block / not worthy thing and feel superior. Another is that when you lie to someone and it later gets revealed, you can just play the same old 'I'm not worthy' card as a ploy for their sympathy so that you never have to address your underlying issue of self dishonesty.

@Shin I had some words to remind me engraved on the inside of my wedding ring. It works well.

Until I accept it, I hold resistant thought which hinders my progress.

@aryberry what are you eating, excercise, and meditation practices like? Most clarity, intuition and connection comes through these. Making it easier to see what you've been missing.

@Mrkvn8 it's more likely what you're eating.

@bazera If you read this whole thread, you might see that you are thinking what you're thinking because you're repeating it. Got to pick some new better feeling stuff to repeat. Life does suck sometimes. It's 90% attitude though IMO. Are there other things you could do for yourself? (Excercise, eat healthier, meditate, daily affirmations) I know this probably hurts to read, but, it's not subconscious, because you are aware of it. You need to stick to healthy habits and GIVE IT TIME. There is nothing permanent about your attitude. It's the result of your past. Start healthy habits now and over time, that will be your past, and you'll be a product of that. Continuing to rehash these issues, is repeating it. It's procrastination. All roads lead to you deciding, when you're ready. It is this way for all of us. I'm happy to support and help. Feel free to pm any time or continue the convo, but please, for your own good, steer it towards well being and you will eventually have what you want and feel how you want to feel. IT TAKES TIME AND REPITITION to change.

@bazera Affirmation could resolve this for you if you can see that you have been doing affirmations all along. For someone to be concerned with what other people think of them, requires that a person repeated think about what other people are thinking. Instead of continuing to do that, buy, print, or write out some affirmations and read them several times a day. After a while, that will become what you are thinking in general. You won't remember when you used to think the way you are now.

@egoeimai ?