Nahm

Sounds like you started actually living, which is awesome. Then mentally attached love-feeling, to a person. Thus, broke your own heart in the not having of that which you attached love to. It’s pretty much a right of passage, most people do this once or twice. Most don’t look into it like you are, good for you. The social anxiety is a similar experience. It’s not a disease you have, it’s dis-ease experienced, via how you you think about yourself. The experience likely includes how you think about how other people think about, you. Notice thoughts about yourself which don’t feel good - and keep it simple...don’t believe them or focus on them. Focus on a better feeling thought, notice feeling is ‘itself’ resonating or not with thought. You don’t need her, or your friends to be happiness. You get to self discover, be happiness, and experience (adventure) with whoever you want. In this same vein...just some guy’s advice here...Never believe there is “something wrong with you”. It will never be true, and it will never feel good. It acts as a veil, a cover up... “can’t possibly just be this thought / perspective I’m focused on...so...something must be ‘wrong’ with me”. You’re awesome. That’s the ‘problem’, lol. You can’t focus on garbage of the mind, because you’re infinitely awesome. Similar to how oil doesn’t mix with water.

@Javfly33 All you. ?

@EnlightenmentBlog Not two, is bliss.

Leo. You. God. Nonduality....not-two. There is the direct experience, self-awareness, ‘right now’, of one (not two).

@Javfly33 That is awesome. ??

Yep.

@EnlightenmentBlog ‘It’s’ Bliss.

@DevOcean You might say the psychological investigation reveals why I am being the way that I am being. While the meta-inspection of direct experience reveals what I actually am, and why all appears as all appears.

@James123 Nobody here to. ♥️ Imagination rocks.

@DevOcean Arguably, the most common way, is that of meditation-relaxation, what you might refer to as being the safe space, first thing every morning. As you go about your day, notice any why’s & what happened, in regards to ‘ending up not in that space’. What you will find, and it takes experience / trial & error...is that it is not what is perceived which ‘takes you out of the space’. By perceived, I mean it is not anything that happens, or anything anyone says, nor where you are or what environment you appear to be in. You’ll recognize it is the thought, the perspective, about perception. You might say, about what is perceived. Then you will see the effortless ‘power’ of simple focus on thought, on perspective. The true profundity of choice. Sensitivity is more known, more present, as more care is given to how you feel, in the focus of thought & perspective. Though it is quite unexplainable, you’ll experience that which ‘is perceived’, ‘reality itself’ aligning, with thought & perspective focused upon. Inevitably another ineffable “shift” occurs, a “shiftless shift”...in the realization there never was anything perceived. Simply the realization you have always been creating, effortlessly, and the “contrast” was always apparent, in the manor of, a parent. The guidance of the perceived world, becomes miraculously re-known in Truth - as feeling, sensation.

You’re not depressed, nor hating on them, nor jealous. You’re misunderstanding yourself. “I am still depressed and unable to do anything” is a thought which simply does not jive with who you are, and what you’re capable of - and that is what feels terrible. You’re vibrant, and you can do anything. If you’ve ‘wandered off to the “wrong” side of the tracks’...flip the script by writing down the opposite thought, when thought arises that doesn’t feel good to you. Inevitably, better and better feeling arises, along with insights, visions and ideas, because you are a creator. Write those on your dreamboard. This place is unconditional, and is always appearing as your conditions. Pick them.

@DevOcean That’s awesome man! Yes, that’s the ‘default’, so to speak. Notice the thinking at play in framing the ‘safe’ space of therapy, and the ‘other than the safe space’. You are the safe space. Perhaps the the ‘standing of contrast’ is that of thought / belief, rather than feeling, which is the safe space ‘itself’, and knows no contrast.

Not. Two. I doesn’t mean anything because I is a thought. What is not two can not think a thought, anymore than feel a feeling.

@Beginner Mind Enjoy your beauty & Godspeed. ??

@James123 A feeling can’t be felt. Love you.

@Marten Great to hear, and much appreciated! ?

@Amit I think the insights you might be looking for (op) are in noticing the usage of single & plural with the different facets you’re contemplating. That and you can’t have perception.

How’s that separate from desire?

@BipolarGrowth “...the most powerful method for reaching total enlightenment?” Daily morning meditation until you are no longer believing the content of arising thoughts. You’ll begin to see these things you’re talking about aren’t things at all. It initially seems like there are separate things, and meaning is a separate thing. There is less over activity of the mind via meditation, and the applying thoughts to perception is more readily seen, and seen through.

A third way would be to ask a lamp.

Don’t hold your breath waiting for nonexistence man. That can go on for lifetimes.

Pure genius. RIP.