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Question why you argue at all, with anyone. ‘What is it I really want out of this activity’? Question why you’re meditating, ‘what is it I really want out of this activity’? Feel the dots connect. One in the same. ?

Wise article. Sums up the mentality pretty accurately. RIP. Shame to lose such a talented mind to relious conjecture, emotional suppression, and collective shame. Imo, a rare categorical ‘throw the bath water and the baby out’ and start over in alignment opportunity for any willing to learn from his life. My heart goes out to those effected. “They promote coercive, deceptive and manipulative techniques, as well as pseudoscience of the female mind and behavior. As such, the pick-up community has drawn accusations of encouraging misogyny, harassment, emotional abuse, and sexual assault.” For anyone interested,

The spheres (thoughts about) are just like the rumination and the unicorn. To equate what is actual with delusion does not stand to clarify or bring about any understanding. It only misleads via thought attachment, followed by second and third person hearsay of conjecture, aiding in spreading it more deeply and broadly. To recognize anything in experiential terms, it is helpful to label yet not per se to believe the label is indicative of any individual. In that sense spiritual ego is spiritual ego. Misleading is misleading. Conjecture is conjecture. Thought attachment is thought attachment, and regardless of any arising thought, it will remain actual, and what is actual can always be denied. ‘Bubble(s)’ is inherently solipsistic spiritual ego, which is the result of thought attachment, and in the greater sense, identity. Words are utilized for pointing, and words have definitions. In the (identity-less) parallel sense, these definitions are utilized in an agreed upon fashion. Spiritual ego, the ‘devilry’ therein, can not utilize words in this agreed upon, parallel, defined manor, and must essentially conceptualize, contextualize, and twice over recontextualize, to make it, ‘it’s own’. Bubble, by definition is not sphere, by definition. “… and now here’s the weather”.

There is no actuality of nonexistence. Unicorns not existing isn’t a belief. Thoughts will not do, as there can be thoughts of what does and doesn’t exist. The point, what stands to be acknowledged, is the duality of thoughts, and the believing the thoughts, is not the path to truth, but is rumination. Change occurs in putting how you feel, well above what you think or believe. In regard to the truth, it is the same. One puts the path to the truth well above what one thinks & believes. But if you want to be heard, be heard. If you want to be understood, be understood. If you want to believe there are others, believe there are others. There is a season for everything. If interested in other than rumination, this video could be a very helpful pointing. If it’s too long, consider skipping to the two cartoonish illustrations.

The headache is kinda the teacher here. One doesn’t have to be calm all the time, to not argue. Allow everyone to think whatever they want, and you’re inherently allowing this for yourself, and then there’s no headache. Analogously, ‘I don’t like how my stomach feels’… ‘I’m not going to eat that again’.

Yes, totally. No, impossible. (Why take someone’s word over checking direct experience?) Aligned posture is not distractive, the body does it all on it’s own. The narrative of thought(s) is the distraction, given the traction is simply, gently, effortlessly, returning attention to feeling breathing from the stomach. To use an expression journal and write about the emotions you are experiencing, and be lovingly humbled with clarity in the willful recognition of aversion from spending some time doing so. To a large extent, allow the simple practical answer of ‘just sit up straight’ to suffice. Notice all else is aversion, and do not be judgemental of aversion, be insightful, by inspecting with more acuity what is actual, what you are actually experiencing. Notice self referential thoughts. Acknowledge meditation is the letting go of this habit, and acknowledge it is the habit which is the matrix. If any anger, blame, jealousy or hate arises, express it, don’t judge it. Express it at me if you want to, but try not to judge me / make it about me. So to speak, keep your eye on the bigger picture by recognizing aversion. Allow meditation to ‘wash yourself of yourself’, to free you from the matrix of the duality of thoughts. Order tissue by the case, ahead of time. Let go mentally, emotionally, and physiologically. Meditation is the break from thoughts, the great relief. Truly, appreciate that one minute of meditation feels better than a lifetime of thinking about meditation, and gathering more thoughts about it. Also, be resourceful rather than resourcing resourcefulness. Let striving for perfection go. When it is humbly acknowledge this striving is only the activity of thought, the orientation has changed toward the real perfection, which can not be thought regardless of any posture. Rumination, self referential thinking and conceptualizing are exhausting. The thought narrative of a separate self which makes conscious efforts, is exhausting. Allow simplicity. Allow resourcefulness. Allow utilization of tools in directly using them, vs thinking about. https://www.actualityofbeing.com/basic-meditation-posture-balance-relaxation-body-scan https://www.actualityofbeing.com/expressive-journaling https://www.actualityofbeing.com/the-emotional-scale This advice is likely not what you’re expecting. Neither is meditation. ?

Can be ‘found out’, directly experienced, but not thunk. That is the veil. Meditation. (Non-thinking). Allow the activity of thought to rest, and thought (assumptions) aren’t so readily believed. Assumption also tends to cease when willfully acknowledged. ‘Bubbles of others’ is a belief, assumption. It’s as if you are saying ‘Leo denies unicorns’. An alternative to projecting assumption is inspecting beliefs.

“Why Consciousness is One and can NOT be TWO?” Consciousness is one and can be two.

But if you accepted it then they aren’t having any effect on you. Boundary … of acceptance? It’s not uncommon to get some motivation in the energetic sense form these ‘affects others have on us’ and direct that energy into our drive and ambition. It can help fuel ‘changing my life’ or ‘changing the world’. Often, later, there is a discordant feeling in said situations with others which wasn’t noticed or thought much about before. As a reference, one of the worst things a spouse can endure is stilling being mad about an argument, and noticing the other isn’t at all.

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Desire & phenomena are phenomena in the sense they are thoughts.

Perhaps you’re taking a look at what fear actually is, and some dots are connecting as to when you first created it, as a means of seeing through it.

Lovely. ?? And so simply and eloquently said.

‘Burning through your desires’ is a conceptualization which actually, innocently & unknowingly, supports and perpetuates the aversion and suffering therein by the ego hijacking karma via recontextualizing it in place of addressing conditioning, and utilizing it manipulatively as the very justification to short term gratification, satisfying impulses with worldly pleasures, perpetuating self objectification, or the separate self, or in the this case of conjecture, a spiritual ego. In short, as it is conceptual and not based on direct experience it doesn’t work. Seems to at first, (who loves worldly pleasures) until one realizes they’ve only dug a deeper hole into thought attatchment and the suffering of bodymind identification. (The mind cannot serve two masters). ?? The attachment is to thoughts, and the reactionary uninspected, un-sat-through, unconscious patterns therein, which are playing out in behaviors and actions. What you’re aiming to do is actually suppressing with more intensity as a means of control, which is counter to manifestation. The orientation (imo) is actually at odds which source, vs in alignment with. It always just amounts to opinions, but I suggest feeling the impulses, and meditatively breathing and relaxing, inspecting directly into what the sensation is, ‘remaining in’ perception & feeling, not getting ‘caught up’ on thought narratives, to see that the impulses in fact come & go, and that the intensity diminishes as you do (‘sit through it’). This will free the finite mind of pattern driven (egoic as well as maniacal) behaviors, and indeed, manifestation will be effortless. Already is in truth, but it is this said thought attachment which obscures or veils truth. Having said all that, if that is what you want, Godspeed with it! ??

@StarStruck I was too one sided in my responses to you on this thread, sorry about that. This morning I was reminded jut how sleepy some, many, probably most therapists are.

Dependent origination is of no importance, and certainly isn’t advanced, and isn’t a / the teaching, that’s a fundamental misnomer. The teaching points. Mistaking this, dependent origination is believed to have importance and be advanced, but this is projection from the assumption, misunderstanding. That leads to the belief there is experience, a meditator & a meditator’s states, objectification, and solidifies thought attachment in regard to a material or relative reality. Cessation is actually to the contrary, as that is really the perpetuation of suffering. A mental ‘emperor’s new clothes’ situation, which is fundamentally aversion from the message of the very teaching. A reframing might be clarifying. Consider, dependent origination = cessation. Different terms, same pointing. In comparison, solipsism is an ideology of the ‘separate self’. You might say solipsism is the opposite of cessation. As in, the practice is discarded as the spiritual ego or ‘knower’ arose. Cessation, dependent origination, as a pointing to, is the absence of these ideas, identity, etc, and is not anything derived from any ideas.

@Consept Could kinda just stop and question, why do I want them to be different. You might surprisingly find you actually don’t, and that realization actually creates the change desired, but respectfully, that’s not really my business. Sometimes, ambition includes suppression, and one kicks ass, and later revisits.

How so?

@decentralized Great! I’ll send you a message.

You mentioned you’ve done this before to them as well. How did they react or respond to this? Were they upset, did they dwell? What specifically did they say, and if they did dwell and resent you, for how long?

How do you know that this is addiction vs what you want? And if this isn’t what you want, what is it that you do want? How do you know porn causes suffering? And if there is discord which arises when you attempt to think about what you do want, which emotion is felt?

@decentralized Still available and would love to help. If you’re interested just let me know. No cost.

No one has access to it. No one is separate from or not, it. Everyone & everything already is it. The “access” would be in recognizing and relinquishing the conjecture of “levels” & “highest levels” as, “access”. It’s a conceptualization heard and believed, the ‘fall out’ of which is the belief unconditional love is in a future or in the right experience, or combination of experiences, which lead to the right level. These are just ideas, beliefs. Admittedly, these would have to recognized for what they are and rightfully discarded... but it can not be said in truth, in honesty, in accordance with conscience, that there is anyone who is without and thus needs to get, “access”. There is no suggestion here to take what I’m saying as truth. You are what’s so beautiful. You are the love that is. This is realized in understanding what you’re already feeling & experiencing, which in large part is a letting go of those conceptualizations & conjecture. If interested, watch some videos on Schrödinger’s cat. In short, alive is a thought, and dead is a thought, and you are nondual. All thought is dual, twoness, this or that, up & down, yada yada. Reality or experience, is nondual. Contrary to popular belief, thought appears in, as, reality, and can never define reality. Alive & dead are thoughts, and are no exception. But again, even that suggestion to look into Schrödinger’s cat is oriented to the conceptual. I suggest inspecting & understanding the emotions you are experiencing is the direct route. I’m available if you do take interest and have any questions. One relief of inspecting direct experience is the discovering there is no experience of inflicting suffering & death. Kind of a bold statement, but suffering is directly experienced in the ‘yours’ sense, and never on behalf of any other thing, person, animal or entity, and is directly related to thoughts, beliefs, and misinterpretations. Again, ‘living beings’ is an oxymoron, a concept, a thought believed. Also again, there is no implication here that love is ‘gotten to’ at a ‘level’, but is just prior to the beliefs (conceptualizations). Love is fallen into, allowed to arise within, and is not an achievement or attainment in a future. Even subtle judgement like ‘ugly’ can veil the truth, love. Such a thought can be believed such that it seems objectively true, when it is subjective & private, and basically opinion. That which is being thought to be ‘ugly’, very literally is the beauty and love that you are. Again, it’s allowing. Not figuring out, not the right experience, etc. Though it is relieving, it is indeed most humbling, but that there are humans, any separate individuals or selves in any real way, is only a belief, and is not true. That is conditioning, and that holding of that belief is how the conditioning is handed down and perpetuated. I hope you deduce, if not in what’s said here, in the vibe, that this is not meant personally. The primary belief is that you are a human. The secondary belief is that there are multiple humans. The third belief is that some are good and some are evil. The conclusion is to be alive is to be evil. But the conclusion is founded on beliefs which can be inspected and realized to be, beliefs. Nothing is unconditional love, you. No implication here this must be realized or accessed in a future. To be clear, I am saying this is what already is, and is felt as such, without exception. Nothing is appearing as reality, as in everything. Nothing is neither random or determined, as these are once again, conceptualizations of unconditional love. Random is only a thought, determined is only a thought. While the actuality is ineffable, and can not be thought, as in thunk. My suggestion is inspecting conceptualizations, conjecture & beliefs and dispelling them, falling into & receiving, actuality. The ‘good news’ is that all there is, is, our infinite self, which is good and is perfect… and beliefs to the contrary. Without exception, the discord is felt when these beliefs to the contrary arise, and again, I’m suggestion inspection of that via utilization of the emotional scale. It does work, but only as direct experience. It’s utilization does not require any effort. When it is said ‘I need to honor what I see now’, it can also be noticed beautiful and horrible, in this usage, are thoughts, judgements, conceptualizations of perception, and thus are not ‘what I see now’. It is what I think now, and it is discordant, and it is suffering, and there is cessation from this suffering, and it is letting go of these misinterpretations & misunderstandings. Which is to say, letting go of discord and suffering. Also for clarity sake, there is no implication here that there aren’t beliefs and concepts to let go of ‘to see reality as it is’. Only that there is no ‘work’ to do, no effort required, no thing in need of being attained or achieved, no means of special access. It’s only a matter of inspection, emotional understanding, and letting go of every belief that doesn’t even feel good, to you. It is entirely possible (see scale if interested) that you experience the emotions of blame, hate, rage and or anger, very rightfully so - but confuse the experience of these emotions, with the thought that you are separate.

This whole apparent alive situation is made of the unconditional love you are. It is not evil to be alive, it is simply impossible. People do some horrific stuff for sure, no question. But it boils down to conditioning, and essentially wether we perpetuate it or self realize and don’t. But it’s also perfect if we don’t.

Love where you’re coming from. Is this possible in an authoritarian platform?