Nahm

@Forestluv ?

Spot on that is.

@Dbass The chasing of beautiful woman isn’t so much the problem. It’s the chasing of feeling better, from a position of need - believing long term deeper better feeling will come from the woman, which is the suffering. Hat’s off to you for inspecting and inquiring. You are not bad with woman. That’s a self fulling prophecy. You’re holding that belief, and acting surprised when experience is in accordance with it. If that belief were true, it’d feel great. The suffering there is not in regard to a relationship between you and a woman, but rather between you & you / you & the source of you, we might say. That sheds light on this. Trying to stop feeling is resistance / tension / frustration, and it is senseless & futile. Do not try to stop feeling. Feel more so into feeling. The anxiety is continuing to hold the same perspectives about yourself, which don’t resonate, don’t feel good. It can be tricky, as one of those perspectives which does not feel good or resonate, is the perspective that the feeling is due to, or caused by anything other than your own beliefs & perspectives. We are very sneaky creatures. Awareness of this cures this. Do not look to ‘beat’ this, as that is the sneakiness, and would most likely be an under the radar attempt to stop feeling. This is just some guy’s opinion here, don’t give it any weight...but you’re apparently pretty attached to that belief. I suggest it is not true, and the difficulty lies in your recognition that it has never been true. If you sit quietly in a room alone, you very well might experience that your ‘problem’ is not in the room, can not be pointed to. Thus, there in actuality is not a problem. Again, the arising perspective is in discord with truth, with the heart of you, you might say. Letting it go, and understanding, would be the ideal approach...rather than continuing to believe it and continuing to attempt to resolve it by thinking about it more. Look to see the distinction, the difference, between letting go of a perspective, and entertaining new perspectives - vs - continuing to hold that belief and think through that same perspective. My perspective, is that you’re quite literally awesome. Infinitely mystically ineffably awesome. Wether this is true or not is of no concern for me. That it resounds in my being, that it feels great, is all that is relevant. We are creators of our reality, and it is made of love. Do not be a hard working vacuum that is not plugged in. Plug in first, and this reality is Self propelled. Your english is great. Notice in that last comment, this seems to be about woman, mom, dad, and childhood. In a way, it very much is. Yet from right now, it is second order to your health, well being, and happiness. Plug in, then clean this place up, if you get what I’m saying. Make this about no one but you, period. Read a book on each of the things you mentioned, choose to utilize resources (as you already are here) more so. Educate yourself on these matters. Understand yourself and what’s going on with you, and why you’re feeling the way you are, by learning from others who have experienced the same or similar...and also by feeling more and more ‘into’ yourself. I’m not sugar coating your past. It sucks. But the past is passed, and you’re here now, and you got a future, and it can be what you can dream. Feeling is the bottom line, getting plugged in. For you, from the very little I’ve to work with from this post...you’re connected feeling to woman, mom, dad, and past...and it’s not really working. Look to connect feeling to your interests, to what you like & want - for you - for your enjoyment (other than the honey’s, give that a minute); hobbies, preferences, activities, your gifts & talents, really literally anything you like. Like = feels good to you. Good feeling is what you want. The simplest, funnest, easiest, most efficient way I know of to do this is by making a dreamboard. “This place is a dream, only a sleeper considers it real. Then death comes like dawn and you wake up laughing at what you thought was your grief...... ...A man goes to sleep in the town where he has always lived, and he dreams he's living in another town. In the dream, he doesn't remember the town he's sleeping in his bed in. He believes the reality of the dream town... The world is that kind of sleep.” -Rumi The suffering has already arrived, that is not in question. This suffering is the calling of love. You must wake yourself up in it. You must see what it really is.

How exactly is what a rapist thinks known? Are there you’s, views, rapists, and epistemic positions in the absolute sense? How is what lots of men believe known? How is what is true known from someone else’s POV?

@Arzack One who claims enlightenment, is one who claims enlightenment.

@Breakingthewall ...and only surfaces.

By reducing that to two, and then not two. That’d include this one. ? By thinking this is real.

Relax the tension = feeling it fully. It’s a belief about yourself coming up and out...but hitting the wall of assumption the belief is true.

Consciousness / not a thing / infinite potentiality vibrates at a multitude of frequencies and thus infinite being is being ‘reality’ by vibrationally appearing to itself, as itself, by itself. Vibration / oscillation / appearance is experientially probabilistic, that there may be experience / creation. This place is your creativity. ‘Your” ‘substance’ is everythingness, you’re everything. Ideally, every time the word nothingness is used, it would be immediately followed by fullness, wholeness, or maybe completeness...to articulate absoluteness (not-two; empty & full), or more specifically, that absolute can’t be thought (thinking=twoness / appearance). Maybe...a mirage can’t think desert because the only reality of mirage is desert. Awareness can’t think awareness, because thought is the mirage, yet creation of awareness. (Minus relative linguistics) you are conscious you are nothing be default of having scrutinized and ruled out that you are something.

@StudentOfLeove Nailed it!

Mahāsamādhi

@Javfly33 No thing. Simply, profoundly simply, not two.

@Javfly33 What is actual can never be subjective.

Love, Enlightenment, vibration. 1,293 days without a single debate. Not even so much as a condition. ? ? Appreciating the expressing & sharing. ??

Authority Truth

Attachment.

@Javfly33 What is actual can never be objective. Thus here we are.

Fear = “Not me”. But you are you!

@Dodo Lol. Ok Shiva. If you say so.

@Dodo If ‘reality’ were neutral there’d be no experience of gravity.

@RedLine Very nice. ??

They make your brain shut up so love can teach & heal you.

@Danioover9000 When this occurs in a post or in a pm, click “Report post” and it is sent to mods to review.

There are no mechanics, and that is precisely how it works. Attached to thoughts, this seems to be problematic. Thought demands a how, to proceed in creating. Mechanics & causation are actually just beliefs. Unattached, there is no self, no problem, and only creation creating. Thought is also so sneaky, that it’ll imply there must first be self realization, or realization of no self, to then begin to create. But that is what is created. It’s more who we are, than what we do. But it’s very much what we do, which is who we are.

@Johnny5 ? ♥️??