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Sounds like a pretty loose guess… doesn’t sound like you both desired that, sounds like she desires that. Might be assumption on my part, having just the thread to go on. I’d share that with her. You might be pleasantly surprised. Also, you might have experienced what you wanted (being with her) and might walk away more aware of what you now know you want more specifically… and you’ll attract that, just as you attracted this. If you can see it, you’re in a no lose situation. That ‘it’ might be the faith, or understanding of loa, such that you know you’ll inevitably attract someone who is more adjacent to what you’re wanting. I’ve found that to be deeply true. Also, nothing wrong with sleeping around. The beauty of it is it’s up to you, what you want. The more you realize what you want with acuity, the more you are deepening the relationship with source, which is being that which you want. Again, no lose scenario here.

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@kinesin Great info, so well said and clearly explained. @RMQualtrough You can also ‘go a level more subtle’. That ‘I am not but my brain is’, and ‘I’m enjoying my night… but it sucks my brain isn’t comfy’, are subtle beliefs that you are two, which is discordant, given no actuality or direct experience of you ‘being two’ (me & my brain). Same for ‘the condition my finite brain is afflicted with’. You could think of that condition as a belief, feeling for subtle discord each time it is repeated. Likewise, ‘scumbag brain’… source might not be able to join you on that one, so it might feel off… or, Truth might not be able to join in on a thought which isn’t true about you / source. It’s possible no accounting of anything else causing it is needed, though there is a lot to be said for momentum and that vagus nerve. Spotting beliefs & seeing through them can take time, but the better feeling for choosing a better thought is always instant and readily available. That ‘my brain’ could be instead thought of as really, downright miraculous. Imo it’s the most interesting ‘thing’ in all of existence. Thoughts of appreciation, of wonder, might resonate. You might consider an old paradigm / new paradigm framing. Old paradigm, you’ve experienced this for twelve years. New paradigm, there is only now, you are the space all arises within, and the focus on the thought / belief is the recreating of the same emotional & physiological experience. You might also reconsider feeling being illusory. Could very well be a belief / misunderstanding. I can see where this would lead to much confusion. I agree with ‘accepting the way I act & feel and carrying on with that in place without viewing it as a reflection of my self’, in the ‘don’t beat up on yourself’ regard. Yet also, changing what thoughts one focuses on doesn’t require any judgement of any previous thoughts, beliefs, or of oneself. That is, we don’t have to suffer or entertain any guilt or shame to change our interpretation and understanding of our experience, feeling, and emotions. If we let it, it can be as easy as ‘this thought just doesn’t resonate’, such as the thoughts about my brain, etc. That might be the cause, which is to say, there is no cause… some thoughts just aren’t in accord with the true nature.

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Accept that there is no condition you could or couldn’t accept.

@Vagos Life is already the teacher. The debating, the suffering, the tension, the reactivity & anger, all are the teacher-teaching you’re looking for yet not finding in the conceptualizing of yourself (or any other), as a teacher. The attaching in the this & thating of thought, the identifying in the left & righting, the comparative lenses in the me vs theming, all are the teaching.

@Blackhawk This could change your life my man.

Meditation.

@Gabith Right on. Have / be fun, vs overthinking.

The duality of the liver of lifetimes.

Welcome, and thanks, and also, not trying to ‘call’ or single ‘anyone out’ per se.

200k house, monthly mortgage, insurance & taxes, approx. 1,200, rents (depending on area) for around 2,000 a month… net of approx 800 a month, 10k a year while the renter is essentially paying off the mortgage. 2 houses, 1,600 a month / 20k a year. 10 houses, 8k a month, 96k a year… after mortgages are paid off, approx 16k a month, 192k per year. From this perspective it seems odd people want to rent (imo), but as this thread shows and as I’ve learned, people have very different desires depending on where they’re at in life. A new roof at 10k might eat the profit of a year, so a new roof & furnace, or a buffer fund incase, is pretty much needed going in, but a roof lasts around 30 years, which is 29 years of not paying for a roof (and or furnace, etc), or 290k income. For no maintenance, property management companies cost approx 10%.

Rape is a crime. This is not a grey matter. The rapist is at fault, not the victim of the crime. This is also not a grey matter. Your perspective on this is what’s referred to as victim shaming. There’s no ‘unpacking’ happening here. You are literally saying “it’s your fault”. Imagine someone robbing your home, and the police telling you it’s your fault because you should’ve had an alarm system. Are you able to see how the crime is not your fault, but the burglar’s? Even if at the same time an alarm system might be a good idea? Can you see the difference between saying there are unfortunately rapists, and it could be advisable to be aware of this, and even think proactively & defensively, perhaps by carrying mace, pepper spray, or the likes… vs saying it is the victim’s fault the crime occurred? Essentially, that a woman ‘asked for it’ by dressing or applying make up in some way?

You are responsible for not raping people. There is no shared responsibility here. This is as clear cut as victim shaming & the justification of criminal activity could be. You are implying a woman who is raped is not the victim of a crime, but that the crime is somehow warranted, justifiable, understandable or excusable, or that it is the result of a lack of adherence to some shared responsibility. Woman are free to wear clothes & make up however they choose, and do not need to have any regard for your consent or interpretations to do so. You are implying rape is justifiable because you can’t control yourself / your urges, and that women bear some responsibility to cater to your lack of impulse control. It isn’t ‘male POV’, it’s your pov, and it isn’t a matter of denial, it’s illegal and morally abominable. I’m not assigning points or banning you so that you have an opportunity to express this ignorance (which has already transpired), and an opportunity to hear from others, and to choose to expand & learn, and to realize & employ some empathy & compassion by putting yourself in other’s shoes. If you persist in supporting this view however, you’ll be banned. If that is the direction you choose, I do hope you seek out some counseling to come to this realization & understanding. @integral You’re coming from the same place, and in jeopardy of being banned as well. ‘All men go through a phase like this’ is a deeply personal bias which is appalling as it implies rape could somehow be justified.

Insightful, but a pinch skeptical & nihilistic in the ‘there’s a bullet to bite’ philosophy, no? That the obtaining or actualizing of a goal will create happiness is indeed illusory, sans some fleeting pleasures, in the sense, veiled experiences of happiness for the separate self, or missing ‘who’ the happiness is which is appearing as experience, and indeed ‘chasing’. The goal (thought) is already ‘made of’ happiness / infinite being / love, as is the ‘physical manifestation’ or actualizing of the goal. The suffering is the belief I am separate (of happiness, being, love and therefore of the goal, creation, & manifestation of it), aka, “I am limited”, “I need x”, “I’m incapable of this manifesting”, or incomplete without x. The conscious purposeful creating of & focusing on of goals, via experience & preference, the feeling of the guidance, and the discovery of the true ease of allowing & receiving the manifestation - that ‘it’ (being) can be experienced ‘in the real’ as such, and ‘you’ are at the helm, is pure joy. Even more so perhaps, the realization and if you will, the parallel sharing of the realization of our being, is arguably an even greater joy. The ‘two’ so to speak, imo, can’t be beat. (I mean, it kinda can but how long to prostrate is kinda up to you. Soak up all the healin goodness ‘needed’, it’s unlimited .) Accepting there is nothing to do and nowhere to go can also be denial & as you say, a movement (as / of / in thought) away from that there is anything to do and everywhere to go for the creator… which can be anything and is being this. The perfection never ceases to be jaw dropping.

The average Joe see’s through this hypocrisy with little to no effort because they are not suppressing their emotions to “be right”… to “be the knower”. Do you see the people you talk with having huge problems with a conversation, judging others as below them and toxic, being trigged by a conversation, blaming others for getting triggered and ignoring & suppressing rage & anger, and even needing to refrain from causing harm to others? How is this so entirely missed? Seems preposterous.

The model does not account for the I which doesn’t like the model.

@Breakingthewall The definitions are thoughts, while there is no thinker of thoughts. The lips can not kiss the lips, the nose can not smell the nose, the eyes can not see the eyes, the mind can not control the mind, just as thoughts can not define awareness.

@BlackMaze A ‘better job’ then, is a job which is oriented toward no job, just as Job suffered only to realized there is no Job. To be conditional, is to be oriented to unconditional. To enjoy the journey is divine.

In meditation, there are thoughts which are translated into need for control. What is an Emmet and a Bricksburg without legos?

From a distance the water in a desert seems actual. With a lessening of distance, the water is realized to be a mirage. From a distance the desert in love seems actual. With a lessening of distance, the desert is realized to be a mirage. Love is never the cause of the desert, the water, or the mirage. There are not these things, but thought makes it so. There is not thought, but love makes it so.

If separate physical things fell apart, there’d then be more parts. If the belief in separate things falls apart… non-separation, or wholeness, Truth, already is.

@SageModeAustin Yes. What are some examples of what you’ve seen people doing, having or being, which you want?

It’s in the approach, outlook, attitude, perspective. It can never be found, because we’re always creating on the fly. It can always be changed, because we’re always creating on the fly. Old paradigm: New paradigm: Forcing. Allowing. Forcing myself. I am myself. I know it sounds dumb. I care how I feel, not what anyone thinks. My motives. Inspiration. Feeling great. I lost time. I am presence. I’m productive. I’m aware of focus; it’s always now. Pressure, frustration. Willingness, letting go, contentment.