Nahm

If it’s about how you arrive to an end, it’s a mental narrative, as there is neither. What you’re talking about isn’t scientific in actuality. It is the room, the body mind, etc, the whole or oneness of experience. What you’re referring to scientifically is literally you, “collapsing” (if you must), being experience. At it’s best, quantum mechanics serves as a pointer to a dreamboard, to realize and consciously play in, as, the actuality. A day, a hundred, a million years of scientific what answering, it doesn’t matter. ‘What’ is already a self referential thought.

@Thought Art So great to hear!! Good for you! ??

You could add concrete to a brownie recipe and then ask why it’s baked in. The answer would be it isn’t ‘baked in’ per se, you add it. (Or not) It isn’t. The belief in you and a universe is resistant. The belief seems so concrete, but is the resistance. Reunification is only a belief contingent upon the belief of separation.

No, in the more personal & intimate sense if you will.

Attraction is relative. Ugly is self judgment. It feels terrible because it isn’t true. You are more beautiful that you have yet imagined or allowed yourself to be. ‘I got ghosted’ is a narrative, a self referential story. If you meet someone and there is attraction & chemistry, it is relative, it is experience. Evidenced by, if you meet someone and there is not attraction or chemistry. It is polite not to ‘ghost someone’. It’s arguably kinder to explain a bit. But, if you hold that expectation over someone else, you’re holding a conditional happiness upon yourself. Be fine with ‘getting ghosted’, by not expecting anything of anyone. We’re all much easier to enjoy without your expectations. Happiness, like beauty, is intrinsic, not the result of what you or anyone thinks, or of an experience. Understanding self referential thoughts. What is a self referential thought. Meditation.

Dance like an unabashed teenager.

Don’t cope, understand the emotions you’re experiencing. “Loser” is not an emotion, is not a feeling, it’s judgement. Feeling can not ‘go there with you’, which is why the discord & suffering. You have to let judgement go, and you ‘fall into’, ‘end up in’, already are ‘in’, feeling. There is a phase of sorts, in which everyone is the reason, at fault, even ‘ourself’, for how we feel. It runs it’s course, plays itself out, is realized inevitably to be fruitless, as it doesn’t produce any change. It’s usually followed by acceptance, forgiveness, letting go, and then understanding & compassion, aka healing, presence, ‘now’, or actuality. Ultimately, that is the realization of the power of focus. “Be the change you wish to see in the world”. - Gandhi Meditation is focusing on breathing & feeling, instead of thoughts. This allows the thought activity to settle. Without this thought activity, the world is experienced without this lens, and it is good. Nothing must be done, much must be let go.

Go more often. Multiple times a week. Have exercises of expression & communication (and whatever also the therapist recommends) lined up for in between sessions too, and review how it went with the therapist. Engage in a transmutative activity. Anything creative & expressive. Writing, drawing, carving, painting, sculpting, singing, playing an instrument, acting classes, gardening, anything creative & expressive. I wouldn’t try to compare the therapeutic relationship with a friend relationship & expect them to be similar. Therapy can get intimate in inspection & expression, but a therapist remaining more objective is to your benefit, to help you see things in different & new ways. Very generally speaking, friends are unaware of deflection, projection, transference, transmutation, etc, and inadvertently feed into codependency, enablement, etc. That’s not ‘odd’, it’s cause you’re sincere & you’re a truly an awesome person. You actually care. That is the rarest ‘thing’ on this planet. Never belittle or degrade it. Be careful who you compare yourself with, you never know what there inner world is really like. Best not to entertain comparative thoughts at all really. You are feeling… just, a lot of what’s coming up & out doesn’t feel so great. Keep letting it out, keep letting go of what does not resonate with you now. You’ll find as you go that you are less ‘in the past’, and more present… less suffering & more happiness. Therapy, expression, etc. It’ll all help the emptying out of all which doesn’t resonate or serve you. What remains is the beautiful, loving, joyful, you. I so that you, and only that you, right now. There are others who do as well, and you will to, and you will feel much more of ‘it’, and it is Good. You are not your thoughts, you are not your problems. You will heal, this too will pass. Stay strong, have faith. Sites like Meetup.com are an easy way. Friendship is easiest with common interests. Keep the therapy with the therapist, look to friendships & activities for simple purposeless fun. For outlet, engagement, etc. Wishing you the best! ? ♥️

@Endangered-EGO Are you open to more probing, specific personal questions?

Right. That’s the assumption…the ‘separate selves’, ‘separate physical bodies’, which are ‘limited’. That I share your belief is another assumption.

Yes.

@wildflower The whole point of quantum mechanics, to the extent there is a point, is you telling yourself there is no each other, there is no quantum mechanics. There is no right or wrong you or me, no understander or understanding.

@wildflower You just basically have to allow quantum mechanics to debunk quantum mechanics. Similarly, spirituality wise, the hearing of the message is that there is no hearer of a message.

There is no ‘abstract object’, if anything it’s an abstract thought about an abstract object. If QM reveals anything at all, it’s that there are no separate objects. Think of the wave function as a pointing rather than a verifiable (scientifically) truth (direct experience instead). Even if it is verifiable, see the opposite view is equally true (that it is not verifiable). Likewise, things never actually ‘come into existence’. This implies separation where QM reveals there is not. (Nobody’s saying an elephant is existing in a superposition as an ant.) There is no beginning of a universe. There is the apparent theory that there is, but there isn’t. Point to it, literally, to notice it’s a thought, without any actuality to actually reference. There is not a material world, with things in it. This is the revelation of QM’s. Form is a thought, a belief, which QM’s debunks.

Investigate more. Until you are ultimately satisfied.

The wave function appears, or manifests as an appearance. The ‘exponentially inversely related to the size of the mass’ is contingent on ‘size’ of ‘mass’, while ‘size’ is a thought, only relative to another mass, which there is not, which is what e=mc2 reveals. Think of that equation as having been widely misunderstood to be about light, while the insight is really about no mass, or the illusory nature of mass. Applying QM to ‘large mass’ in this context is of course perfectly correct. QM reveals there is no “mass” at all. Don’t forget to include “yourself” as non-mass / not-a-separate thing or observer… subject to - really… manifest via. He, and me, and you, are as ‘alive’ as Schrödinger's cat. Approaching a black hole, there’s inevitably not he, me, you & a cat, but a singularity. What’s forgotten, is the reverse of that has already transpired, more specifically, is already apparent. That a you must die for anything or situation to be, is as incorrect as saying Schrödinger's cat must die (or be dead, or be alive) for some contingent situation to be, or not be. (* there is no opposite which is correct).

@Someone here Why are we limited? Interest seems to go to the ‘limited’, but the revelation lies in the ‘we’.

@Blackhawk I always had a reason, as in justification for everything too. When I was five or six my mom thought for sure I’d be a lawyer. But I didn’t have a story about enlightenment at all. And I didn’t have a sour attitude. I was open minded, trying things before believing I knew what they were.

With respect, that is, in it’s entirety, the paradigm previously referred to. As an event if you will, that is only a story which takes place in the mind. Upon inspection there is no actuality of any of it found.

Be cause there is no suffering, others, choice, or world. It is better to remain tucked away in the cave, better to not know, than to prematurely lie of the truth.

The mind always wins, bends creation to itself; mere movie of freedom, and truth remains shelved.

Motivation is a mental paradigm. It’s living & doing for how you will feel. It is the plight, the judgement, the prison & the sentencing, of the stubborn & reluctant non-creator, non-practitioner. It serves you well.

What’s the it? What’s the I, the thinker thinking? If something was appearing as if you’re thinking, you’d think it be worth looking into.

You might say it’s revealed as the most obvious ‘thing’ ever via meditation. That there even is a thing called thinking is as pure ego as is any how it is, or isn’t, ‘true’. ”We'll begin with a spin, traveling in the world of my creation. What we'll see will defy explanation.”