YaNanNallari

Do self-inquiry to better understand what a distraction is.

You remember how creativity and enlightenment go hand in hand a lot? This would make it logical that forcing your muse is exactly what makes it die. Being detached and open allows ideas to flow in freely. Of course it's still not always the time for writing a lot of stuff. It has to be aligned with your higher self if you want to write a lot of high quality things.

Would you accept yourself if you were using those words right now? Probably not. I'd assume you've heard something about not judging or not holding things as right or wrong in a black and white sense. I'd recommend having a more compassionate and loving approach to not react in such a negative sense. Once you accept the phenomenon you can actually gain motivation from seeing these people. Because you will see that you can do things to help them or if not especially them you will be able to at least help people with this in the future. It might still look very painful, but at least you can help them although it might mean improving yourself first of all.

I would ask for notifications for receiving reputation to not be a default setting. It can be distracting. I would rather have reputation removed at least. Too much monkey stuff comes from it.

Maybe read a book about spiral dynamics. I'm quite sure they talk about how to evolve past the steps there. But in general any self-help will help you advance.

While yes technology easily affects us negatively I've also noticed a positive phenomenon regarding this with parenting. When children receive all the instant satisfaction they could ever want for years and still after some time end up being unhappy they start noticing something is wrong. What I've seen plenty of parents do is to just blame the smartphones when instead they should help the children realize what has come more obvious to them. They should help realize that being happy with what is now is in the end the answer. But since parents are usually are addicted to different things and their worldview would shatter a bit if they would be happy just now it is not happening. Nonetheless the conflict between children and parents does expose people more and more to how limited the parent's view is here. This does make people more interested in how to fix this issue and that promotes change which is what we need.

In arguments or overall thinking your mind creates a specific scenario with certain rules that are sort of absolute in order to think about the solution more effectively. Seeing these things as more relative (especially with smaller things) or recognizing that this is just a scenario can help you. You can still argue seriously, but at least afterwards try to remember that it's not absolute in case you're feeling very upset about it. You could also try to think of arguments as something where you don't try to prove yourself or the other person right or wrong. Instead you're together trying to get to a good solution beneficial for the both of you or then you both learn something from it. Now this might be hard if the other person isn't on the same level with you, so this could be something to discuss with them if arguing becomes a big issue.

Loving kindness meditation, reading to understand what's the journey like better, sticking to habits.

As your awareness grows you will also find more clarity in which habits end up being important.

There's also the full circle thing with things like anxiety or frustration. You might try really hard to do something and you keep at it until you reach a point of positive surrender.

Even if Aleks had said some stuff wrong I don't really see these posts as a distraction. For me they've helped me keep my mind open about these things and I've also gained so much useful information from his posts. I haven't seen him say "this is the truth" all that much and I doubt he is stubborn often. In this post not once. Usually when someone goes after him it's some triggered "skeptic" anyway. A ton of other people can't be bothered to say they aren't 100% sure about something either and this happens all the time. "False information spreading" might also not be so false. Leo has confirmed aliens in this video anyway. It's not like Aleks is trying to manically convince everyone of aliens. That's really your projection of what's going on here. He has just shared his perspective and I'm sure he has way more convincing proof than the things you've seen on this specific post and I don't know how the stuff he sent was somehow really bad evidence. They don't have to "prove" anything anyway. There are plenty of video recordings of aliens here. If you think you're going to need scientific proof for everything (that's also in some of the documents for example) what are you doing even doing here. Actualized.org is related to mysticism and supernatural phenomena. Besides Leo tries to convince us of all kinds of things all the time and I don't think this ufo thing is too different.

Then your crush does think that. Being weird is totally fine, just own it. Of course the idea isn't to be weird in any special way, it's just about letting yourself be yourself and authentic freely. If you feel like you can talk about it confidently, you can discuss this with your crush in a relaxed way, but it should be something that comes up more naturally than a forced serious conversation.

To put it in a more accurate way past, now nor future exists, but what has happened before won't direct what should or will happen in the future. See that it will end up being selfish to hold onto the shame. It will hinder your ability to help other people. So you actually want to accept yourself and it's not something bad to do. The exercise in these videos helped me a bit, although it takes a while and some interest to go through them:

Self love takes a while to really build up but you can try to accept your needs. If you're fine with them being there they won't bother you.

Nono authentic should be the real you. It shouldn't be any image of you, although being authentic could mean following your set values. So if you're doing affirmations, they're something that helps you to discover who you really are. That's not who you really are in the end. They can still be great though. Being yourself isn't a quick process overall and it will take time, effort and different approaches. I would say that it's not something you need to directly work at that much apart from maybe asking what roles you have or what you're trying to be and if that's a good idea. Watch Leo's video about roles.

You might have been "spiritually bypassing" or in "observer trap". So the fall might be a bit tough but hey you'll get through this. It's only temporary and you'll find your way through. Just try to stick to basic stuff and don't care too much about what's going on. It's hard to find a perfect answer anyway.

If you have beliefs that affect your life "negatively" your life is going to be affected "negatively". Now what you do is work on yourself with meditation and other self-help techniques and theory. Don't worry so much about getting quick results regarding sexuality right now. Try to see a bigger picture, a relationship isn't absolutely necessary at all and in fact it can be very hard to find a relationship while self-actualizing a lot of the time.

Seems legit

Start challenging yourself and seeking for ways to improve.

@Privet @Petar I'm sure you can find some advice from these (randomly found) videos and googling around third eye or crown chakra headache

It has to do with your head chakras. As to how to deal with this, I'm not so sure. I'm very new to all that stuff.

When you're enlightened it becomes exactly a lot easier to put your focus on a certain topic at a time. You will have more control over what you will focus on and what you will learn, since life purpose won't be something that annoys your mind. You won't have to spend time thinking about what is "real", because you intuitively know nothing can be. Then it comes easier to do exactly what a 2-year-old does and navigate more efficiently with more simplicity. What enlightened people tend to choose is going by the feelings that come naturally in an enlightened state. Following the "goodness", unconditional love and their life experiences to create goals they see as beneficial. If you ask why change as an adult, the answer for me is that not optimizing yourself for the sake of everyone could be seen as selfish and therefore a less "true" perspective than the perspective of oneness. My notes for high quality consciousness from Leo's video a good while back:

The enlightened nature and anything close to it makes progress go faster in general as I know.

When it comes to basis for reality, even if there is a basis, how could we know it's the ultimate basis? If something were to change, we also wouldn't know on what level it ultimately changed. As I've understood it different times exist in different vibrations. But they exist at the same time. What is time? I don't know. But if you threw an apple, would that mean it would take infinite amounts of time? If it takes an infinite amount of time, it's not necessarily an issue, for how do we know anything is happening? What is "to happen"? You're just facing a wall of you don't know, which is one thing infinity and enlightenment is about. Admitting that you don't know. Now you can either stay debating and stuck or realize this debating is not something very good for realizing your "true nature" because of the infinite nature that has no answers. So instead go on this exciting adventure of discovering what it is like to be enlightened When someone says god is changeless I suppose they're describing only an aspect of god or how it seems to be. Not to be mean but the person is religious anyway. They probably have no clue whatsoever.

For it to be a distraction it has to be a distraction from something. From what would it be? From your goals. So if you set reaching enlightenment, it might even be that every thought is a distraction, so you just need to choose wisely how you'll spend your time distracting yourself from it. You can have other goals as well of course. But yeah you just can't see that the enlightened state is a more efficient and superior way to live. You will end up achieving more if you get enlightened compared to the time it actually takes to get enlightened.