Gabriel Antonio

Wait, what? Why would I watch a crappy soap opera? I’d rather change the channel. Earlier in my path, I got fixated on judgement. I would micromanage myself. “Omg, I’m judging. Wait I’m judging my judgement. Shit, I’m such a bad spiritual person. I shouldn’t judge! Fuck! I’m judging myself once again.” And so on, and so forth. What I’ve realized is that sometimes the best way to deal with a problem is to ignore it. I was never able to follow the typical Buddhist-like advice of “just observe it”. Whenever I tried to observe my thoughts, I’d actually produce more thoughts. Maybe my awareness muscle is weak. But anyway, since I started to connect more with people (or, in New Age terms, “open my heart chakra”), I naturally judge less. And when it does happen, I don’t freak out. I allow myself to feel that way and I do something relaxing, a stress-relief type of thing. Then, boom... the hyper-judging is gone.

And you need to take care of your grammar ?

I think this may be counterproductive in the case of the OP. As it was said above by @EvilAngel, the worst type of demonizing is meta-demonizing. That is, to demonize your own demonizing. Don't pay so much attention to those thoughts. One thing that can also help is having a strong bond with someone -- who you can cuddle, have a good time with. In my experience, judgement comes from lack of love. When my emotional bank account is positive, judgement simply doesn't come up. But remember: you can't stop judgement with more judgement. If you guilt yourself from doing it, you're only doubling the problem.

I agree with @ajasatya. You're right. We are social creatures. Connecting with others and physical touch are indeed human needs. There's a very good book about this subject, which helped me a lot. It's called Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable.

Right. Mind produces thoughts, just like the mouth salivates. The goal is to calm down the mind, not to kill it. Mind is like a puppy. No need to be aggressive. Just educate it. (Funny “enlightenment” marketing in your signature btw)

@Leo Gura What do you suggest he do? Meditate more? +1 And I'd also add go to psychotherapy, and have friends to chill with (and vent when you need).

No No What helps the most imo is a support network.

Do you have real-life friends?

Get your shit together, and let your story be an inspiration to others.

@SriBhagwanYogi @Tony 845 Maybe you could take a break from those practices for a while to see how you feel. I used to do Kundalini Yoga, and I also had all sorts of strange feelings in my body. I thought I was awakening, opening my third eye, or something. But actually I was on the verge of a mental breakdown.

Sometimes friendships can turn into romances... @ajasatya Any thoughts on this?

Hehe, just don't get lost in concept-land And always rely on your personal experience.

@SriBhagwanYogi @Tony 845 Any you doing any spiritual practice?

@Highest Spritual arrogance detected.

Insomnia can trigger psychotic episodes. The best natural medicine for that is shamanic snuff. It calms your mind down... If you can’t find that, I’d say check with a psychiatrist, and he’ll probably prescrive you an antipsychotic (like risperidon). It can really help!

@outlandish I just found this on reddit: https://www.reddit.com/r/skeptic/comments/1jki5e/saw_this_on_fb_today_seems_like_bs_to_me_any/

Looks like someone has been tripping balls ?

I think he has gone to deep into the rabbit hole ?

I don't know. But anyway, I find that the best way to tune into your emotions is through connecting with another person. It's really hard to do it by yourself.

The goal is not to get rid of the ego. The goal is to have a healthy ego. If you didn't have an ego, for example, you wouldn't feed yourself.

If you always do what's emotionally most difficult, you will burn out sooner or later.

I like his Understanding Ego Backlash one