ajasatya

@8Ball this is not a complete analysis. i've never been a good player in the game of attraction. i'm too skinny and my looks aren't great. i barely have enough money to live well. i don't own a car. i don't even own a decent smartphone because they're too expensive for me. there's an interesting kind of woman that's interested in virtues. yes, they're pretty rare. but they're highly attracted to honesty and to your ability to work hard towards improving your life. this is the kind of woman that's worth marrying and spending the rest of your life with. the kind of woman that you'd want to grow and build a family with. emotional barriers? she will be with you as long as you're sincere. sex is not feeling good enough? she'll be open to talk and understand what's not feeling right. flaws? she'll open up about those and will be willing to improve herself. it can always grow deeper. it can always grow infinitely deeper.

you throw the spiral dynamics framework away.

@The Don if you face buddhism as a means to become an intellectual, then no. if you put it into actual practice, then yes. it happened to me and it's still happening. it works. take the 4 noble truths and implement them in your life.

these are the illusions i'm talking about

@Michael569 the best thing you can do is listen. it doesn't matter what stage the other person is at.

@Shin ask how he/she feels about life. and then listen and listen. listening is the best way to create empathy. then you listen some more. after listening for hours or days, you ask if he/she is willing to improve his/her life. humility is key here. don't do it to be praised. do it because you truly love the other person. also, don't be hypocrite. only say what you're capable of practicing yourself.

@Gerhard very cute but the animation kicks in even if i click on the textbox and not on the button, even though it doesn't feel "right" and the text is not copied to clipboard. another feedback: find a way to be extremely transparent (example).

i agree. what's your first practical measure? what's your real work?

if you're willing to work REALLY HARD, that's a call from your heart. if you're just complaining, blaming others or being impatient, that's wishful thinking.

@Hellspeed SoonHei's insights are aligned with mine. yes, it's a HUGE BODY. zoom in is as infinite as zoom out. Reality becomes conscious of Itself.

@billiesimon do it. and always ask yourself if you're feeling trully happy.

@Gerhard this looks WAY better

@BarkingTurtle notice how petty and poor one's life can become if there's no genuine experience of altruism.

then travel... leave your stuff behind and bring only what's necessary.

@RolandM plant your own food. https://www.ecosia.org/search?q=united+states+ecovillages

there's the phase of attachment to people and fear of loneliness. then there's the phase of attachment to solitude and aversion to people. then there's freedom from both.

sure... the "you're not so wise yet" argument. i've been there for 3+ years and contemplated all the way through, but buddhism has a way of kicking you out of buddhism. the teachings of buddhism have a huge hole when it comes down to existential matters. i'm sure you'll be able to notice it soon enough. the only thing that's left is the ability to focus: the sharp and present mind.

nothing can be done about it unless humans actually stop butchering pigs. exploding stars, rising suns, molten planets, peaceful monks, serial killers, fighting lions, colliding atoms. it's unstoppable. "uh, oh, the eternal ending of suffering!" grow up...

so there's not even a next life to talk about. why make use of such a word like "nibbana"? why walk on a path? is it even possible to step outside the path? physical death is real. existential death is the big lie. you're still holding the belief that enlightened beings are somewhat different in a fundamental level because they've escaped existence and suffering. but they're just like everyone else. whatever happens to them happens to everybody else. they may have cleansed their attachments on this life and learned to live a peaceful and blissful life. but that's it... after physical death, the same thing happens with enlightened beings and your pigs. they go nowhere. there's nobody to go anywhere...

alright, i see that you've gone through these insights yourself. but when you say that the experience of existence can be halted, you sound like a parrot. let's keep it up. i think we're getting closer. can ALL the causes of the next life be found and eliminated on this one that's being experienced right now?

so you're implying that there is something that goes from a body to another, which is against what buddha himself taught (anatta). then what's the difference between an enlightened being and a regular dude?

and what happens when the body-mind of a non-Arahant dies? was there anything that you could point at and say "this is what's leaving the system". was there anything at all that became enlightened in the first place?

so you're saying that something fundamentally different happens to enlightened beings when they die, as if they have changed the mechanics of existence for themselves? sorry, but i think you're just repeating what you've heard from the buddhist doctrine.