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@Tony 845 egoic enlightenment is learning how to use spiritual gibberish to find excuses for petty choices.

people get inspired by the quality of my Life and come ask me for advices. all i have to do is live well.

data scientist & artificial intelligence engineer

@Tearos a heartbreak is a rare chance for us to understand the difference between Love and attachment.

@XYZ my relationship is mostly led by my wife and it feels amazing. we do it because women have clearer visions of what would a better environment to rise their children. she's devoted to personal development and spiritual purification just like me and that's why i trust her so much.

direct experience of the nature of thoughts

@Viking source: https://www.conflictmediationcoach.com/category/anxiety

you didn't understand what i said. i assumed that what you said was true and "nothing should be said at all" was the output.

to indicate that this thread is off-track

nah, it's just uninteresting.

then nobody's choosing to blame. calling blaming delusional is delusional. but saying so is also hypocrite. thus, nothing should be said at all.

good luck to your pal

@2018 there will be confusion as long as there is attachment to any kind of individuality to define "you".

@Tony 845 the eight-fold path

i and my wife are very different. i am a scientist/mathematician and she's a painter/singer/composer. but we're very similar on what actually matters: honesty, dignity, affection, compassion etc. we like yoga/meditation. we eat healthily, even though it's very time consuming. we take part in ayahuasca cerimonies together and we talk a lot about spirituality. we talk about how we want to grow our future children and also about how we're going to use our money. everything must come from agreements. that's why it's important to be very similar on what matters. how to find someone like that? seriously, work really hard on yourself and be aware of all kinds of toxicities that you still need to clean up. if you're lazy, you'll be stuck on toxic cycles. keep in mind that healthy people look for healthy people. that's how we found each other.

strong spiritual practices, healthy habits, amazing sex and commitment to responsibilities with wisdom. embracing your humanity and building a loving and stable family can be a deep source of awe. it's a celebration of the mystery of existence. if you want to ask specific questions, go ahead. i'll answer them from experience and not from speculation. @Serotoninluv, @Shiva, @Nahm i think this thread should be under the relationships section.

pride/fear of failure. it's a matter of time. let him be.

@bejapuskas dude, the fact that you're not even 18 yet blows my mind. your maturity level makes me very happy. @Aquarius plan the kind of person that you want to be with and then put your plan into practice. change yourself in order to attract a different kind of friendship. when i was where you are, i imagined myself as being one of these.

@Max_V this is what i know: cancer cells feed from sugar and proliferate faster in acidic environments. this documentary shows, among other wonderful things, the story of a woman who healed herself from a rare and aggressive kind of breast cancer without chemo/radiotherapy. what did she do? a radical change in her diet.

i can program a robot that learns to respond according to a certain set of corpus (lots of texts). i bet it can pass the turing test for enlightenment-related conversations if i feed it with enough enlightenment gibberish. you either learn how to touch people's hearts or you're just wasting your time and intellectual energy. if you're sincere enough, you'll realize the huge amount of pride that you're holding. of course, you can always use the "there's no I holding anything" card. i rather be humble than smart though... don't know about you.

@Shadown it's his work. he puts his soul into it. and also he has to pay the bills and buy his food. are you against making money for living? i don't understand it.

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@beatlemantis there's no reason to be sorry for posting here. i just think that you're avoiding emotional pain and it's retarding your learning process. i remember your story. you engaged in threesomes and it made you feel insecure. the truth is that your boyfriend does want to have sex other girls and since you feel that you're not enough, your low self esteem issues make you suffer. it's a cycle. external validations won't heal your wounds.

@beatlemantis your way of dealing with your relationship is incredibly unhealthy. you need time alone to understand what you want and who you are. my recommendation is that you just break up. tell him that you don't know how to deal with your feelings yet. then allow yourself to feel all the pain you need to feel. alone.