ajasatya

documented experience about how to manage self-actualization meetings

@Elisabeth thanks for reporting! i am happy that it is working. i don't have much to add because i've never done something like this. keep it up! why don't you journal those meetings? i think it would be more useful for the forum members (me included)

@non_nothing yes, momentum and position can't be known with arbitrary precision. and i agree with you. we should not extrapolate the results of experiments to fit our expectations. if we want to show something through science, we should design a reproducible experiment with a specific goal. example: notice an intriguing phenomenon design the proper experiment to test a hypothesis i am still trying to design experiments to test metaphysical hypothesis about the nature of Reality. i think it has something to do with information theory. the act of observation seems to make a chaotic system (high potential to become something and high entropy) converge into a range of possibilities with a particular pattern. that is my hypothesis. edit: of course i am biased towards thinking of information theory. i am a computer scientist after all.

i am very impressed by your words. i am happy to feel some humbling vibes coming from you. great introspection!

then offer a treatment plan for those who just diagnose others as delusional. i'll keep on hitting the same key. if you want to grow, stop expecting others to do what you want to be done and do it yourself. it's the best thing that you can do to the world.

well, if the best thing someone can do is call others by a bunch of adjectives, it's our duty to show some compassion. those who are too judgmental are in deep suffering as well.

@ivankiss very interesting points, but you seem to be projecting your own way of thinking onto others. ridiculing is a highly effective method to make someone see his through his own illusions and it's been done for thousands of years by advanced yoga teachers. i myself have been shaken out of toxic patterns of thinking by jokes that made me see how petty i was. i am now grateful for my teachers. if you want to see more tenderness here, be the tender one. otherwise you're just being hypocrite. sorry but it's the truth. be the change that you wish to see in the world. there's no other way around.

@How to be wise True Nature is not something that prevents a flower from blooming. in the end, you're supposed to embrace the life of the character and live it fully. why not? the difference is that you don't depend on material achievements to be happy. being present is sufficient and everything else is a bonus. in other words: you're unable to confuse True Nature with ego. tenth picture: return to society

nah, those are things that impress most men. do those if you want to be good with them if you want to be good with women, work on emotional vulnerability, tenderness, authenticity and motivation towards hard work.

those things are "done for you" the same way that the sun rises and the flowers blossom. you can watch a wound heal your pupil contract and relax on a mirror. you can't see a star blow up nor atoms collide. our level of zoom in and zoom out are limited.

of course you can use in direct experience. how did you learn to read?

we can observe the behavior of a neuron but we can't observe the behavior of thousands of thousands of thousands of them. we've completely mapped the brain of an extremely simple worm (link). think of 'computational power' in the sentence that i said on the previous post as the capacity to observe and map the behavior of a certain nervous system.

not really... the brain does it very elegantly. the complexity of the process cannot be understood yet, though. but it's a matter of "computational power" because we can observe the fundamental process separately.

you can't improve yourself... that makes no sense. you can become better at doing something. the brain adapts and performs better after a while.

this is an extremely naive and egoistical approach because you're not taking the feelings of the close ones into consideration.

@Aaron p as adyashanti said... "it is very easy to smell ego", right?

this was just too good.

@ivory you don't need to say anything if there's nothing to say. instead, ask questions... be truly interested on the other person.

@ivory i don't know exactly what you mean by "developing social skills", but learning to open my heart, listen deeply and make eye contact were three fundamental aspects for my growth. feeling good around people is part of feeling good about Life in general.

@F A B ldrs suck unless both are very mature. good luck.

sure getting a haircut always hurts so bad

@emind do it first and see if it works... then you tell us. exercise the ability to trust your intuition.

beard and hair (pubic hair included) work as a mechanical protection if you allow them to grow without limits. it's an evolutionary remnant just like the intestinal appendix.

do you think you can own someone? nobody is giving anything to anybody. people enjoy spending time together with those they like. if you're in the company of a lady, be grateful. she doesn't owe you anything in the first place.

@Eric Tarpall what about the girls you've been with? does it make them less valuable? shouldn't it be otherwise? when i was a little younger i promised myself that i'd never date another girl that had never dated another guy before. they're so insecure and inexperienced. it's quite frustrating, actually.