ajasatya

@How to be wise True Nature is not something that prevents a flower from blooming. in the end, you're supposed to embrace the life of the character and live it fully. why not? the difference is that you don't depend on material achievements to be happy. being present is sufficient and everything else is a bonus. in other words: you're unable to confuse True Nature with ego. tenth picture: return to society

nah, those are things that impress most men. do those if you want to be good with them if you want to be good with women, work on emotional vulnerability, tenderness, authenticity and motivation towards hard work.

those things are "done for you" the same way that the sun rises and the flowers blossom. you can watch a wound heal your pupil contract and relax on a mirror. you can't see a star blow up nor atoms collide. our level of zoom in and zoom out are limited.

of course you can use in direct experience. how did you learn to read?

we can observe the behavior of a neuron but we can't observe the behavior of thousands of thousands of thousands of them. we've completely mapped the brain of an extremely simple worm (link). think of 'computational power' in the sentence that i said on the previous post as the capacity to observe and map the behavior of a certain nervous system.

not really... the brain does it very elegantly. the complexity of the process cannot be understood yet, though. but it's a matter of "computational power" because we can observe the fundamental process separately.

you can't improve yourself... that makes no sense. you can become better at doing something. the brain adapts and performs better after a while.

this is an extremely naive and egoistical approach because you're not taking the feelings of the close ones into consideration.

@Aaron p as adyashanti said... "it is very easy to smell ego", right?

this was just too good.

@ivory you don't need to say anything if there's nothing to say. instead, ask questions... be truly interested on the other person.

@ivory i don't know exactly what you mean by "developing social skills", but learning to open my heart, listen deeply and make eye contact were three fundamental aspects for my growth. feeling good around people is part of feeling good about Life in general.

@F A B ldrs suck unless both are very mature. good luck.

sure getting a haircut always hurts so bad

@emind do it first and see if it works... then you tell us. exercise the ability to trust your intuition.

beard and hair (pubic hair included) work as a mechanical protection if you allow them to grow without limits. it's an evolutionary remnant just like the intestinal appendix.

do you think you can own someone? nobody is giving anything to anybody. people enjoy spending time together with those they like. if you're in the company of a lady, be grateful. she doesn't owe you anything in the first place.

@Eric Tarpall what about the girls you've been with? does it make them less valuable? shouldn't it be otherwise? when i was a little younger i promised myself that i'd never date another girl that had never dated another guy before. they're so insecure and inexperienced. it's quite frustrating, actually.

Reality points to Itself.

@Consept have you ever seen a star explode? hell, that is messy!

drop all stories and be 100% skeptical. have you ever been to a retreat?

have you been abused on your childhood?

contradiction. you care because you think that they're thinking of attacking you. i think the truth is somewhere nearer "they don't give a damn about you"

@Eric Tarpall it's possible to heal from social anxiety simply by stopping to care about what others think about you. it doesn't really matter if others don't respect or fear me. i live my own mental state.

@Groundloosers hello. thank you for telling us your story. even though my parents weren't that toxic, i still had to leave them behind because i didn't feel i was growing up. so if i were in your situation i am 100% sure that i'd just gtfo and start my own life... my own journey to become a real grown up man. you need to understand what you are and what you aren't. think about your deathbed... it's a good exercise. think of the crappy life that you're living because of toxic attachments. hell, what kinds of regrets do you want to avoid? use your darkness as a fuel to build a wonderful life. if you need help with something specific, feel free to send me a pm. i'll be more than happy to help you grow out of the mud.