ajasatya

i have an awesome job, i eat healthily, i workout everyday, i meditate everyday, i am living a perfect marriage. i don't have any enemies, i'm writing my own book, i don't struggle with thoughts and my mind works clearly.

you probably don't have a proper motivation to sleep and wake up early. i go to bed at 9pm. it's sunday, ~5:40am and i just finished my early meditation. there's no 9-to-5 work today so i'm gonna write some of my book for a while and then i'll be eating breakfast before i go to the gym.

good insight. always show who you truly are or you'll find a partner for someone else.

my biggest transformation happened when i started to meditate for 1h every monday at 8pm. nowadays i wake up at 4:40am everyday to meditate before i eat my breakfast and go to the gym before i go to work.

@kieranperez throw the towel then. an affordable and simple life is at your disposal right now. give up on your goals. give up on making an impact on the world. give up on your relationship with your parents. at the moment, you're probably the closest one on this forum from knowing what "letting go of the ego" truly means. a flower has nothing to prove... it just can't be something else.

it did work well because i had a crystal clear goal to ditch those crutches. they offered me a vision and it was my job to implement it without them. i quit alcohol in 2 months and weed in less than 3 months.

@brugluiz cry it all out

@VictorB02 you remind me of myself when i was younger and used to drink alcohol. i would get high and my shyness would disappear like magic. so i said to myself: i don't want to depend on alcohol to be relaxed and confident. then i worked towards that goal while sober on the following week. i repeated this loop until i finally had it down. my advice is always towards depending on very little to be happy. make happiness an easy thing, accessible anytime without the need of external substances/validations. living will be much easier and tasteful, i guarantee.

i think of them when i'm not eating. when i eat, i think of how i am going to spend that energy. i workout every morning. when i have dinner, i eat enough to give me energy for the morning. food that taste good are a vague sign that indicate the quality of the food. fast food taste very good but they have poor nutritional value.

@Manjushri we eat to feed our cells. stop eating to please your palate. if you feel weak, then you need to eat a little more. just don't give in to gluttony.

get real and deal with it. you're not mature enough to own your own place yet. either embrace rent or embrace living with your parents. anything else is just helpless moaning.

@Cocolove go to a place where they have a solid practice already. you're not mature enough to manage your own schedule. look for sesshins in zen centers and vipassana retreats at dhamma.org.

@NoSelfSelf that's what i did when i was where you are, but i didn't have a shitty job. i've always worked my ass of to get a decent job. but the place where i lived was very very simple and humble. anyways, i worked from 9 to 5 and i had lots of free time to live my real life (meditation, yoga etc). if you want your first step to be all comfy, just run to your mom and ask for a hug instead. that's why i said that you'd need to detach from comfort. it's funny. people want to thrive but they want to start from a winning spot

@d0ornokey i cured this with lonely walks everyday. learn to be happy all by yourself first, so you won't need any kind of external validation.

@NoSelfSelf you don't need to buy stuff. just rent an apartment.

@NoSelfSelf hard work and detachment from comfort. get a job and do the math. compute the lower-bound for your monthly costs and create your strategy. find a way to make enough money to cover that lower-bound + 15% and you should be fine.

@JediArron yes. read one chapter of zen mind, beginner's mind everyday after your meditation session. after you finish it, go for other zen books. the zen literature is full of practical instructions that will cover lots of common mistakes.

@JediArron you're failing because you're meditating for achievements. meditation is much more than a play of thoughts in and thoughts out. meditation is a movement towards humility and contentment RIGHT NOW.

documented experience about how to manage self-actualization meetings

@Elisabeth thanks for reporting! i am happy that it is working. i don't have much to add because i've never done something like this. keep it up! why don't you journal those meetings? i think it would be more useful for the forum members (me included)

@non_nothing yes, momentum and position can't be known with arbitrary precision. and i agree with you. we should not extrapolate the results of experiments to fit our expectations. if we want to show something through science, we should design a reproducible experiment with a specific goal. example: notice an intriguing phenomenon design the proper experiment to test a hypothesis i am still trying to design experiments to test metaphysical hypothesis about the nature of Reality. i think it has something to do with information theory. the act of observation seems to make a chaotic system (high potential to become something and high entropy) converge into a range of possibilities with a particular pattern. that is my hypothesis. edit: of course i am biased towards thinking of information theory. i am a computer scientist after all.

i am very impressed by your words. i am happy to feel some humbling vibes coming from you. great introspection!

then offer a treatment plan for those who just diagnose others as delusional. i'll keep on hitting the same key. if you want to grow, stop expecting others to do what you want to be done and do it yourself. it's the best thing that you can do to the world.

well, if the best thing someone can do is call others by a bunch of adjectives, it's our duty to show some compassion. those who are too judgmental are in deep suffering as well.

@ivankiss very interesting points, but you seem to be projecting your own way of thinking onto others. ridiculing is a highly effective method to make someone see his through his own illusions and it's been done for thousands of years by advanced yoga teachers. i myself have been shaken out of toxic patterns of thinking by jokes that made me see how petty i was. i am now grateful for my teachers. if you want to see more tenderness here, be the tender one. otherwise you're just being hypocrite. sorry but it's the truth. be the change that you wish to see in the world. there's no other way around.