ajasatya

@Amun i see what you're saying and that's a very interesting point. humility of heart is the best indicator of integration of enlightenment and the persona. that's why some people are called masters... they don't see themselves as being above anyone else. they're just more experienced with the nuances of various sorts of sufferings thus they're actually able to feel compassion.

here's the thing... high quality social relationships are a heavy component of health.

@Amun it's not just about zen or even spirituality. hypocrisy is a very broad kind of toxic mental pattern.

@Ampresus short answer: refuse kindly.

@Nearfrest go ahead and create your own decentralized platform. you're entirely free to do that. and so is leo to create his own moderated platform. and so is everyone to participate on any platform they think is useful for their own lives. this place has a specific goal, which is allowing people to find the help they need to improve their lives. decentralized platforms become a huge mess QUICKLY and that purpose is completely degenerated. this forum is probably useless for you at the moment. i have no idea what you're doing here. if you want to ditch your vices and change your life for the better, then you're more than welcome. if you want to project your own mental mess onto others, then you're just wasting your time here.

it was when i realized the meaning of the prajna paramitha hridaya sutra during a satsang.

@Nearfrest you sound like a ideologically possessed demon https://youtu.be/IIeI5kByIpI?t=149

until 2015 my life was way too fucked up so i picked enlightenment first. best choice ever (for me).

this is complete BS you become confident when you let go of confidence. even though it sounds paradoxical, it's actually very simple. you gotta let go of your mental self-image and be present with the other person, be it a man or a woman. make eye contact, relax your body and pay attention to what they say. listening is an extremely rare skill.

@F A B you can actually be straightforwardly vulnerable and express it. i wouldn't say that's a feminine trait. it's actually an advanced masculine trait, achieved by very few men. that's how you get into the most deep relationships. everyone needs to completely embrace emotional vulnerability and work hard to heal it. everyone! men and women.

@Giulio Bevilacqua no academic course will ever get you closer to Truth because that's not the point of academia (even though many lunatics think that's exactly the point of academia). thus, if you want to go to university you better understand it first. this is what i did: i went for a practical master's degree, knowing that it has a very specific goal. i studied AI and machine learning. why don't you go for engineering, medicine or something like that? discard the courses focused on mental masturbation and put your hands on. elon musk is transforming the world of electric/autonomous vehicles and sustainable energy. there are several interesting practical courses that can get you to actually doing something interesting with your knowledge.

@Yog i agree with @NoSelfSelf if he's in love with a certain system of thoughts, then there's nothing you can do. to be more precise, nobody can do anything. live a great life and let go of him. if he ever misses you and ask why you're so distant, then you can open your heart and say something like "you've become too ideological and i can't feel you anymore". as long as you don't harm anyone, don't you ever deny your right to live an awesome life.

@Eric Tarpall would you ditch memory and imagination for 10 seconds?

@billiesimon all of my emotional wounds hurt A LOT upon healing. honesty is your best garrison on this kind of work.

@lmfao what do you eat? what is your idea of a perfect life and how far is it from your current state?

it always depends on the current struggle of the seeker. both A and ¬A can be valid teachings.

both are equally distant from Truth

what does "burning karma" mean?

congratulations. beware of the fact that it's easy to lose/gain weight in peaks. it's hard to maintain though.

i used to eat lots of trash food, drink alcohol and smoke weed. i didn't have a job and all my money came from a paid scholarship. i lived with my parents and was addicted to pornography and masturbation. i used to think of women as sexual toys and i suffered from serious low self-esteem issues. a typical crappy life

truthful. not lying to myself as if i didn't want to have sex while i actually did. pure intention is achieved by not living internal conflicts.

it is part of the problem. do you feel that you can be authentic and incite sexual attraction? you felt threatened. are you 100% sure that your intentions with those girls were completely pure?

@billiesimon thank you for your report and honesty. there is a huge component of sexual attraction which is the excitement towards the unknown. this is why the girls from your group were so attracted to the guys that approached them. excitement towards the unknown is great to start relationships but if that's all that matters, it's also a great relationship killer because everyone gets "boring" eventually.

@Hellspeed the awakened and the dormant. huh, you're so sensitive and so special! @ivankiss has already clarified my mistake. it's about the tuning of the instruments. one can tune his instrument using A as 432 Hz or 440 Hz and all the other notes will follow this adjustment by keeping the appropriate frequency ratios. so 432\440 Hz music is not about making music with only one note. it's about the placement of the reference note (A) in the spectrum of the audible frequencies. it's not about your sensitivity. the difference will be very clear even to untrained ears.

no harm is intended.