ajasatya

it's not the speed. it's the subjects

why even bother? it just sounds intelligent and boring at the same time.

@Healingheart yes it's very interesting. if we don't learn how to feel our feelings, soon or later we just break down. our feelings are open invitations for growth. we better not be late for those!

@Stakres become the person you'd expect to meet. wanna meet driven/successful people? that requires a lot of hardwork.

@Lynnel this topic is too complex and i don't know how to answer all those questions at once. sorry. can you wrap it up in one question? i'm asking you this because it's as complex as important and i think it will be easier for you to get help that way.

@PretentiousHuman good insight. what is it that's being loved, exactly? what do you mean by "self"?

@Consept there is no way out. sit down and let go for real now. sit down, let go, be small, be smaller, be even smaller, be nothing. then, be content your presence is enough.

live an amazing life. the most amazing life a human can live.

@MsNobody quit sugar, dairy, red meat and chicken completely. practice pranayamas everyday.

@Paul92 hello brother, i hope you can find the healing you need.

there is certainly a gross fat layer of human suffering. even people who don't starve and don't need to sleep on the streets spend tons of energy on self-sabotaging mental patterns. am i going to suffer because of that? no! complaining about human suffering and suffering because of it would make me hypocrite. the only reasonable way out is getting completely out of the mud. anything else is either a sign of ignorance, insanity or hypocrisy. also, compassion is not suffering. that's why i'm on this forum.

@ElenaO i've been practing the wim hof method. it feels GREAT.

@Charlotte i'd try wim hof's method. in fact, i am doing exactly that.

@Hardkill a loser is someone who has a commitment to errors. you've already aknowledged your flaws. how come you're a loser? it just doesn't make sense to me. start facing your responsibility bit by bit. visit the discomfort zone gradually and eventualy you'll become able to handle all of it. it's a matter of practice. take your time. you have some decades to conquer it.

@ElenaO how are you emotionally?

@Bluebird if you don't seriously decide to let go of the part of you that enjoys suffering, nothing can be done. saying "i don't want unnecessary suffering anymore" to yourself should be the first step.

@Aakash embodiment = effortless practice of these principles, for instance if you get into the "who's practicing those?" line of thought, you're offtrack. that kind of question has a different purpose. if you know True Nature, that question should be useless by now.

yes, i see what you mean and i agree with you. - how to find a good partner? For instance; how can you know if someone is right for you? first, make sure that you want to build a family. building a family doesn't necessarily mean having kids. building a family means spending the rest of your life renouncing selfish patterns having an intimate partner as your best friend. then you need someone like that... someone that truly wants to build a family. and even that, which is very rare, is not enough. both need to dream of the same lifestyle. dreaming and actually working towards a healthy life (in ALL ASPECTS) is fundamental. living a fully healthy life requires a lot of hardwork, which leaves no open space for boredoom or anxiety. teamwork is required. - what attracts people and which of these factors are more/less authentic/pure there is only one thing that attracts high quality relationships: living at a high quality standard and sincerely aiming even higher. such people are so rare that when you see someone like that it will make your eyes shine. the same will happen for the other person. - to what degree is romantic love authentic or a distortion of reality? the romantic love that's being indoctrinated in our culture is full of pettiness, neediness and cravings. it's about demanding and expecting... NOBODY can live that and nothing is actually being built. wanna know what is the most romantic thing ever? your complete presence! in fact, there's nothing more valuable than your full attention. making eye contact and deeply listening is unimaginably powerful. - how active should one be in their search? not much. the most important part is about working on yourself. you gotta be ready to offer as much as you think a high quality partner would be ready to offer. - how to go deeper in to love without possessiveness/neediness? develop unconditional love towards everyone. be kind and gentle to everyone around you. listen way more than you speak. sympathize with those who suffer and be ready to listen to them just to help them. people can help themselves just by speaking about their problems... usually, you don't even have to say anything. don't manipulate the conversations to be about yourself. - what are your thoughts on masculine & feminine energy? everyone should develop the ability to be strong, gentle, honest, cheerful, silent, graceful, flexible and rigorous when needed.

as a matter of practice, that's exactly being "spiritually inclined". lots of people on this forum think they are spiritual, but when they're supposed to grow up and mature they go like "no, dont touch me!"

@Benoit Jazy the idea of abstract spiritual ascension is nothing new.

i like to do things slowly. as slow as possible. i find it a lot easier to enjoy life on slow pace.

"good job! keep it up!"

@izakooo i think you should start a journal! https://www.actualized.org/forum/forum/16-self-actualization-journals/ please do so

yes, exactly. and yes, calculus is mathematics

it's already been done for thousands of years. although, the thin bottleneck is on the next step, which is about actually finding out what we truly are. if you want to guide people, go through the entire path first.