ajasatya

@IVONNE can't you see any form of growth other than intellectual/academic? life has many facets...

@IVONNE i was not pointing to a typo, but i guess you did mean to write "waste". you said you're concerned about wasting 1 year. what do you mean when you say "waste"?

wow, i actually cracked laughing hahahahahahaha

@IVONNE ok let's go deeper. what do you mean by "waste"?

My ego is the size of jupiter lol that's exactly what i meant It's already too late for that. A healthy long term relationship has to start when you're in your early teens. what the fudge?! i am 29 y/o (i'll be 30 in less than 1 month) and i met my wife in 2016. clearly not on my early teens. where does this dogma of yours come from?

oh jeez, you've completely misunderstood jordan peterson. he's against sjw's, mgtow's and lack of responsibility.

i was expecting some funny way out. i was not disappointed.

i only see how small you think of yourself!

allah!

source!

from perceptions to memory from memory to organized letters how wonderful!

ah, here's a good one: rain and then snow, what's there to know? i want to laugh and read bashō!

i know i can't lift 200kg but it doesn't trigger my interest. be honest with yourself. i smell ego and self-deception from thousands of miles away.

the sun rises and the birds sing. what is there to know? i want to cook a good rice.

no questions and no answers...

that's it? won't you try for real?

yes, it's possible. in fact, it's very likely. but you'll notice that you'll be trying to fool yourself. most people fall back to old toxic patterns, like drinking alcohol or consuming pornography. but fortunately, they quickly notice how unfulfilling those are and have an easier time to get back on track.

@gherkin11 what do you mean by "normality"? and yes, it is possible to live a completely different life when the insights become embodied.

i am creating this thread because @Hello from Russia and @Aakash asked me very gently (the beginning of the conversation is here). another reason is because i think it's an important subject that demands ULTRA HIGH LEVELS of responsibility. what i am going to say will be said from personal experience. i don't intend to be dogmatic here. i've also spent several days investigating this subject under the effect of ayahuasca, which helped me immensely. i also would like to read @Nahm's POV because i know that he's married as well and has kids, which is something i don't have any practical experience with yet. marriage is a lifelong commitment to the embodiment of Truth now that the goal of human society has gone beyond survival, we're reaching extremely high levels of superficiality and toxicity. such patterns of thought are deeply programmed into the mind of the typical human being at very early stages of development. it's so severe that we see manifestations of selfishness everywhere. and when it comes down to intimate relationships, it's no different. when we start living with someone else, it's very easy to get triggered if we don't work hard on purifying ourselves. many egoic impulses arise on the typical couple, such as neediness, attachment to pleasure, competitions etc. there's a lot of work to do! i knew that i was ready to marry when i decided that i wanted to be free from selfish pathologies for the rest of my life. i just didn't know who i was going to marry at that time. all i knew is that it had to be with someone with the exact same goal: spiritual purification. we've been living together for 2 years and a half and it's been an amazing adventure. it becomes better everyday. we heal together. we celebrate together. we suffer together and then we overcome our pasts together. it's an intense training to be present. we have to learn patience, compassion and comprehension with each other. we have to let go of beliefs, which brings humility into the game. we want a good and healthy environment for our children, which opens room for hard work. we need to understand that there's no "my money" or "her money". all the money belongs to the family and serves the family. detachment from material possessions! and the hardest part: be truthful to your heart. the desire to grow has to be DEEP.

i just gave him a big promotion

no problem, but open relationships are not more advanced than monogamous ones. in fact, the most developed people i've ever seen were either in complete celibacy or fully committed to a monogamous relationship.

by "miraculous" i think he means wonderful... something that brings the feeling of awe and amazement. i doubt he's just drowning in concepts here.

i am writing this comment just to explicit that working out can do wonders.

superficial women are attracted by superficialities. superficial men are attracted by superficialities. those people correspond to the vast majority of humans at the moment and they struggle a lot trying to get along. virtuous women are attracted to virtues. virtuous men are atracted to virtues. these people are very rare, but they get along with ease. it's that simple, really.

@Patok it depends on how much responsibility you're willing to take (and capable of taking) for your own emotional state. if you don't feel ready yet, go back to palliative methods.