ajasatya

@gherkin11 what do you mean by "normality"? and yes, it is possible to live a completely different life when the insights become embodied.

i am creating this thread because @Hello from Russia and @Aakash asked me very gently (the beginning of the conversation is here). another reason is because i think it's an important subject that demands ULTRA HIGH LEVELS of responsibility. what i am going to say will be said from personal experience. i don't intend to be dogmatic here. i've also spent several days investigating this subject under the effect of ayahuasca, which helped me immensely. i also would like to read @Nahm's POV because i know that he's married as well and has kids, which is something i don't have any practical experience with yet. marriage is a lifelong commitment to the embodiment of Truth now that the goal of human society has gone beyond survival, we're reaching extremely high levels of superficiality and toxicity. such patterns of thought are deeply programmed into the mind of the typical human being at very early stages of development. it's so severe that we see manifestations of selfishness everywhere. and when it comes down to intimate relationships, it's no different. when we start living with someone else, it's very easy to get triggered if we don't work hard on purifying ourselves. many egoic impulses arise on the typical couple, such as neediness, attachment to pleasure, competitions etc. there's a lot of work to do! i knew that i was ready to marry when i decided that i wanted to be free from selfish pathologies for the rest of my life. i just didn't know who i was going to marry at that time. all i knew is that it had to be with someone with the exact same goal: spiritual purification. we've been living together for 2 years and a half and it's been an amazing adventure. it becomes better everyday. we heal together. we celebrate together. we suffer together and then we overcome our pasts together. it's an intense training to be present. we have to learn patience, compassion and comprehension with each other. we have to let go of beliefs, which brings humility into the game. we want a good and healthy environment for our children, which opens room for hard work. we need to understand that there's no "my money" or "her money". all the money belongs to the family and serves the family. detachment from material possessions! and the hardest part: be truthful to your heart. the desire to grow has to be DEEP.

i just gave him a big promotion

no problem, but open relationships are not more advanced than monogamous ones. in fact, the most developed people i've ever seen were either in complete celibacy or fully committed to a monogamous relationship.

by "miraculous" i think he means wonderful... something that brings the feeling of awe and amazement. i doubt he's just drowning in concepts here.

i am writing this comment just to explicit that working out can do wonders.

superficial women are attracted by superficialities. superficial men are attracted by superficialities. those people correspond to the vast majority of humans at the moment and they struggle a lot trying to get along. virtuous women are attracted to virtues. virtuous men are atracted to virtues. these people are very rare, but they get along with ease. it's that simple, really.

@Patok it depends on how much responsibility you're willing to take (and capable of taking) for your own emotional state. if you don't feel ready yet, go back to palliative methods.

yes, pranayamas are breathing exercises that aim to calm and awaken the mind, enhance your lungs' capacity to retain oxygen, strengthen the muscles involved on breathing and elevate the pH of your blood. i've been practicing the wim hof method and breath of fire. they are both extremely powerful and i recommend practicing them on the morning. the results are amazing.

i watched that video and it's the kind of video that can trigger internal anguish and conflict. there are several fragile people who come here looking for help. that's certainly not the kind of content that can help those who need help the most.

there we go again!

@thematrixyz no. meditation can train your ability to ditch addictions. meditation itself will not do the work.

@John West i am controlling you. i wrote this message and you are reading it, just as i planned.

nah, i love partying, dancing and traveling. i just don't use it as an excuse for distractions, like drinking alcohol or getting high. i like parties where children are welcome. in fact, that's an interesting parameter for me. i like to be at places where children are as welcome as adults.

try first and see how it feels after a few weeks? i've been into ayurveda doshas in the past. in the end, the only thing that really made me feel different was the diets, because i was ditching meat. the pitta/vata/kapha division didn't catch up.

the breathing technique and gradative exposure to cold showers.

you cannot separate healthy intimacy/sexuality from emotions and true friendship. thinking of women as mere tools for your own satisfaction will harm you severely.

petty, shallow and egoist. sorry, i need those words to shake your beliefs. build a solid foundation grounded on virtues. the true beauty of men has nothing to do with looks. it's all about our power to live a healthy and virtuous life.

this is the main problem of the scientific mind when trying to grasp spiritual practices. it craves for results in advance. health is something you feel.

@Tistepiste it is painful no matter how you slice it. we, humans, usually crave for some kind of justice. sorry, can't be done. you can devote your life to serve and help, though. depending on your maturity level, it can be a blissful life.

@Tistepiste i can only speak for myself. "what about the blind people?" "what about thse who are raped?" "what about people who starve everyday?" "wait, what about those babies that are born without brains?" the list can become as big as you want. what are you going to do about it? does it make your life less worth living?

@Tistepiste nobody has a life purpose unless he/she chooses to. you can live the life of an aimless zen monk forever if you want.

there's no easy way out. you have to face it. find the proper dosage for you.

@KeenokF start very simple. find the thin zone between anxiety and boredoom. i'd start with 20 minutes of daily meditation. that should do it for now. be careful with loading your brain with too much information. we need a brain with spare mental energy.

@MTR i agree. although, some topics require several investigations from several different perspectives. that's how you master a subject.